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| Nepali Kanchi |
Posted
on 15-Apr-03 10:09 PM
How does a Nepali bachelor/ bachelorette "of bihe garne age" tell thier eager parents awaiting to get her married off in the near future , that they dont wanna get married? And how does one do so without making them worry about you? Just wanted to hear some good excuses if any one had some.
Not for me , of course.... :)
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| isolated freak |
Posted
on 15-Apr-03 10:38 PM
hmmm
1. "I am still studying.. I need to finish my studies first before I get married"
2. Ahile bihe nagarnu nai thik hola..
3. Garne, bihe garne.. arko barsa pakka garnme.. yo barsa chahi nagarne.. marey ni nagarne.
4. khoi keti chittai bujhena..
5. maobadi samsaya shanti bhaye pachi bihe garne
heeh try these.. one might just work for you.
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| MainBatti |
Posted
on 15-Apr-03 10:43 PM
>>5. maobadi samsaya shanti bhaye pachi bihe garne
Hahaha...
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| rajunpl |
Posted
on 16-Apr-03 04:39 AM
ani,
1 . logical sense ko column herne ( some good point there)
BIHA TA GARNE KO SANGA RA KASARI.
2.AFNO khutta ma ubiye pachi.
3.Babu ama sanga eti chito tadha hunna ( fakaune ramrari)
4.padhne bhaye,padhai sake pachi ani ramro afu laik ko keta/keti paepachi.(biha garyo bhane ma padhai ma concentrate huna sakdina bhanne)
5. Ma jasto napadhne harulai yo chahi, : haaa dherai garnu cha ajai( kehi nagarne kaamchor bhaye pani). Ani tyo dherai garne samaya kahile pani audaina, ani you can stop for as long as you like.TYO SAMAYA KAHILE AUDAINA :)
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| mountainmama |
Posted
on 16-Apr-03 05:40 AM
Also depends on how strong your parents are to ignore society's nagging.
My simple statement/ not excuse has been, " let me give myself a chance first, to explore and identify myself for who I am and what I am capable of". I want to stand alone and be recognized for who I am instead of somebody's daughter, wife or mother.
Nothing against being a complete woman, which is being wife, mother, bhauju, maiju etc but its just not the time yet.... :) When I feel like I found a companion to spend my better half, You guys will be the first one to know!
Hope that was helpful. *smile*
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| Deep |
Posted
on 16-Apr-03 05:52 AM
1. Khai kahile bihe gardine hun afno....afulai ta paye aajjai garna hunthyo....taruni haru ni chhyap chhyapti chhan....kasto euti nabhidaideka holan malai ba-amale....
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| Harris |
Posted
on 16-Apr-03 07:55 AM
Deep bro, I remembered Gunaraj's story. "Phalanale pani yespali bihe garechha" Testai bhaeko cha ki?
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| khimu |
Posted
on 16-Apr-03 08:29 AM
afu ta bihe garau bhane ni , bihe gareko matlabai hudaina kinaki maile bihe garyo bhane US ma lyauna paudaina teskaran 5 varsa kurnu parya chha, K-T chahi tayar chha hai.
Afno chahi asto problem , "HATTERIKA" tara chadai bihe garne ni ramro haina "bhanchhan chasai bihe garyo bhane tauko ma bhari parchha re"! Ani "nepali kanchhi" bihe garna nikai maan lageko chha kya ho, K-T haru lai chadai chahinchha re bhanchhan is that true? le' me know hai feri mero K-T arka sanga jalin bhanya dar kya, teskaran hosiyar hunu pareko chha mali
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| Rekha |
Posted
on 16-Apr-03 09:46 AM
1. Bihey gare pachi budha/budoi le pityo bhane?
2. Bharkharai padhai ma maan lageko chha kay bihey garnu ? Pachi garchu
3. Ghar ma basera aru ko lagi khana pakaune, ghar safa garne time chiana malai padhnu parcha aahile
4. Bihey garyo pachi mero buda/budhi PSYCHO ho bhane ra taha payo bhane?
5. Tapai ko pyaro chora/chori lie tapai jasto dherai maya diyena bhane ?
6. Kay ma tapai ko lagi ghado ho? tyesai le bihey garnu ko lagi bhannu bhayeko
he he he he j/k
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| Logical Sense |
Posted
on 16-Apr-03 10:31 AM
Nepali Kanchi, Sachai Bhanu? Rajunpl Le Bhane Jastai more on my COLUMN 'Biha Ta Garne Ho...'.
Tara, let me try here few of my wisdom.
Depends on your parents, yourself and circumstances, but, you should never go totally against it, and say Ek Gardina Dui Gardina, Tin Gardina. But, be diplomat, stay in course and you will get best for yourself (like French did in Iraq war, but, be dipolomat like British and get most out from US).
1) You need to show enough interest to let the parents know that you are interested and it all depends on where is the relationship coming from. After all you do want to get married with Tall Dark Handsome one day, right? So, let all these relations coming, but, be strong in putting it off 'for the time being' by saying 'bhai halyo, herdai jaun'. They will understand in that case you are not interested in this particular case. This will lead you to get the best of the both worlds.
2) Make sure you keep the communication channel open with your parents, let them know that you understand their concern. This way you guarantee that they will not move ahead without your full cooperation.
3) Also, divide and conquer works most of the time. Depending upon situation at your home, you can bring some of your family members to your confidense and make them your spokesperson/confidant when needed.
4) So, enough assertiveness in your talk and don't be shy when you talk about these things with your parents. If you can't talk with your parents like this talk to most influential persion in your family whom your parents listen to.
List goes on...... GTG and work....
-iti
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| Nepali Kanchi |
Posted
on 16-Apr-03 02:23 PM
Isolated ji, your column is good , I just read the whole thing, you know , it tells the story of many people who are currently in the "market".
Khimu ji, ke bhaneko tapaile , I said mero lagi hoina bhanera... :)
You're right, it totally depends on the parents and thier strenght to diss social pressures.
hmmm. I'm sure one of these excuses above ought to work, they are quite funny, although, pretty cliche', no offense. My cousin tried it all, and they parents are now havign a near nervous brekdown situation, b/c they think thier son may have already found the one without consulting the family pandit.
Oh yeah, it depends on families, Bahun jat ma matrai there are 3 sub castes re feri, kyaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa.
Whoever started this caste propoganda ...
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| south |
Posted
on 16-Apr-03 03:39 PM
at least padai ta sakaunu paryo ni. hyaa ahile ke bihe ko kura gari rahanu bhako? malai matlab caina ahile, please koi sanga pani kura gari nahalnu hai, this is not good for me and to his/her family as well. ahile dekhi kura garyo bekaar ma pachi ke huncha ke. mero job nai chhaina malai kasle dincha usko chhora/ chhori ahile. i will thaink abut it after getting job.
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| dallikanchi |
Posted
on 16-Apr-03 04:10 PM
So the person we are talking about is a guy huh? Well then, it's very simple, really. Ask him to try these:
1. I am impotent....my doctor is fixing me up, and it will take a while. Got to be in perfect shape before tying the knot. (This will work no doubt, in my mind, because his parents wouldn't be expecting something so....revealing, hehe).
2. I have AIDS (warning! He shouldn't use this excuse if the parents are weak-hearted!!)
3. I have to come out of the closet. I am gay (and when he's ready to get married, all he needs to say is, "I went to Sai Baba. He opened my eyes. I am not gay...I only went astray for a while..)
4. Suicide for me if you coerce me any more (hmm, might work...nobody wants their children to come to harm)
5. I just converted to Christianity....want to lead a chaste life..
6. Stop pressuring me, or I am running away.
7. I will only marry a khairini
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| Nepali Kanchi |
Posted
on 16-Apr-03 07:33 PM
ehh sorry hai, i meant Logical Sense ji, your column was good not Isolated ji...oops
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