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     Nick Name....this is really a toughest o 23-Apr-03 sneharika


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Nickname Posted on 23-Apr-03 12:12 PM

I know this is not a relationship forum, but I wanted to know the point of view from all the sajhalites as to when in a relationship are you holding on too tight to the point of suffocation and not just being caring.. and when are you just letting someone be what they want to be and not be totally indifferent either. How do you balance in between that?
sneharika Posted on 23-Apr-03 08:02 PM

Nick Name....this is really a toughest of question to answer. One cannot judge how two people are going on in their relationship......what was the thigs which made u click with each other.....what made u laugh together.....what made u cry. The best answer to ur question will be the one of the poem posted in sajha "loosing my religion".....
Read it and u'll come to know that this is a point in a relationship when u r holding on too tight to the point of suffocation and not just being caring. umm aru ta malai thaha bhayena..euta arko poem hai ta..

with all faith shaken

You make me feel in ways I can feel,
but have no way to truly explain.
Ways that are uncontrollable by reason and logic.
My heart stands like a lonely sentinel
looking through the windows of my soul
waiting for end of this long unanticipated pain;
An event which beckons on the horizon
with the inexorable slowness
of the earth turning coal to diamonds.
I feel like a solitary firefly flittering around aimlessly,
hoping to find peace like a beacon in the night.
Has it only been a few days
since u make me feel so?
The weight of our relationship
has woven the web of my time
into years bereft of heartfelt suffocation.
I'm consumed by emptiness and longing
as big as the night;
Only a void can fill it.
At worst, (I imagine) each day without you
is canvas of my dreams
painted with the brightly colored brushes of
the sound of my laughter,
the music of my song,
and the enveloping warmth of wonderful summer.
At best, each day with you
is a dark, fog blanketed night
that has no sunrise to look forward to.

My only solace
is I can already sense some of the
overwhelming joy I'll feel
when you free me
Just the hint of it
makes my heart start to swell.
This must be how a rainbow feels
as it arches toward sunshine and heaven.

Unfortunately..
when i try to re-live the moments for rainbow
no matter where u've been,
you were always the song
of the music which died sweet.
I am damaged and broken beyond repair
when u died with all faith shaken.

Nick ji......don't let this happen to ur beloved. majjale kura gare bhai halyo ni k problem chha bhanera. relationship ma trust hunu parchha k....faith hunu parchha...ani love ta sabai bhanda important bhai halyo...ani communication ta topmost. Aruko bichar nasodha....timro beloved lai nai sodha gayera hai.
cheers,
:O)
P.S. poem copy paste ho.....poet ko naam sajha ma lekhna milena ;O)