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on 29-May-03 02:43 AM
recently i got engaged to a gal,it was arranged by my family.i got engaged in my third meeting with this gal, first: i met her in a family get together, except 'hello' i didnt say anything nor did she say.
second meeting: our family and hers , met in a restaurant,. i and she talked for 15 mins alone and both of us liked each other and we both agreed to get married..
third meeting with her was on our engagement day.(these all happened within a week,my distant relative is her first cousin,he was our mediator).On the day i got engaged we talked alone for 3 hrs(i mean no one was listening us) ,this gal was so frank, she talked about my good and bad habits,and set few rules and regulatons for me, she was too keen to know about my past relationships which i never had.(i did my schooling from ktm local school,and bbs from min bhawan campus).i told her in shortcut about my friends,gals and guys of school,high school and college but she refused to accept it and was in doubt.i sweared upon god,sweared upon my parents but there was no way i could convince her.most of the time i was speechless becos this was an unexpected question.she kept repeating this same question after every 15-20 mins.she wanted me to confess somthing i donno what..i was irritated,lost my temper and my mood was off but i didnt show becos this was only 2nd time i was talking to her.wheni asked her the same question she said na baba na i never had any relationship and was depressed.it took her sometime to come back to normal.
i dont know what was going throught my mind, i asked her to switch on the computer(as engagement took place in her house) ,just to change topic.she checked her email account ,then i checked my account.at the same time one elder lady came to greet us ,she went towards the door,rightthen i clicked on her browser,clciked on her messages(two messages) and forwarded it to my account without her knowledege.
when i checked that email from home i was shocked,she was having an affair with another guy,at the bottom i read her email sent to that guy too.She'd written,"i've loved you al my life..blah blah blah...lets meet at 5:45pm....and so on.".it was a typical love letter.
i'm stranded at this point.......what should i do? i cant say i'm not gettin married at this stage, becos its family prestige now,my parents(both) are in early 60's,nepali culture..i cant tell my parents all this nonsense,they'll think i'm nuts,friends or relatives cant be trusted ,they might spread rumours in a negative way.even if i tell my best friends,i'm scared they might blackmail me in future or whatever..i dont want to break this relationship becos after meeting her twice,i'm attracted to her.shes not that bad, people can change,cant they?i cant ask this gal about the guy,how to say that i read her email.i've to clear all these things before marriage, but how????????? all positive negative suggestions or even long sentences or dialogues are appreciated.has this ever happened to anyone before.??????????????
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