| ashu |
Posted
on 25-Jun-01 12:13 AM
Our second collective trait seems to be:
Our inability to take joy PUBLICLY in a fellow Nepali's success/achievements, no matter how small or big.
Often, we seem to think that a fellow-Nepali's success
diminishes/lessens our own worth -- and we are therefore
perhaps hesitant to PUBLICLY congratulate that successful
Nepali.
Or we may think (quite mistakenly) that success comes easily
to all, and that it's not worth making a fuss. But we are
wrong.
Anyway, whatever we think, I have observed that while we are
quick to praise non-Nepalis on their success (even
with, say, phrases like, "Nice haircut, Jack!"), we
are misers when it comes to celebrating successes of
our own Nepali brothers and sisters, and that's sad.
(On another note, I have noticed that our newspapers carry a
lot of sad, condolence ads, but not many about about, what
I would call, 'success ads'.)
Anyway, I have learnt NOT to depend on fellow-Nepalis for words of encouragement or even words of congratulations. If some of
them take PUBLIC joy in, say, my whatever success, then, fine
and good and a pleasant surprise. I have learnt that one's
drive to achieve must come from within onself, and one's
greatest competition for excellence is often with one's
one self.
Still, I agree with Ravi, when he indicates that it would have been nice to have been recognized by one's own.
oohi
ashu
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