| SimpleGal |
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on 02-Aug-03 07:48 AM
Lately, a number of threads on marriage and love have emerged. I thought of adding to the roaring ocean.
It's heartening to hear and see women progress in many arenas that were previously inaccessible to them. Let's take for example, the academic field. More women are entering into higher level education and advancing in careers than in the past. However, while the doors of academia have been opened to women, the marriage altar seems to have somehow sprung legs and moved farther away from such women. A growing number of women who have advanced degrees and high profile careers complain that men are apprehensive about approaching or proposing to them for marriage. Many of them have relinquished their hopes and desires to pursue their long-cherished ambitions for various compromises....e.g., it is too masculine to be career oriented; khabardaar, you dare not exceed your man in education or else he reserves the right to dump you at his disposal.
And still this is only a small fraction of the actual dilemma that a woman faces if she dares to dream or be different....
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| lonely |
Posted
on 02-Aug-03 10:17 AM
Simplegal,
I agree with you that most men, don't want a more career oriented wife/partner that values her career more important than him. I am not saying that I fall into that catagory, but I have seen alot of men who have said that, and practised that in ther life.
I think they still are of the opinion that women are still fully responsible for all the household stuffs. I still know a lot of husbands, who donot help even when the wife works as much as the husband in thier office. I am not sure, how to see this, but our usual Nepal trend is that " men don't do usual household, they are meant for wifes".
I do not agree with this but this is the general trend.
I will write something which I was told by my friend, I would say her experience:
As we were talking about different types of marriages and their benefits, she recalled her past. She said her's was a love marraige. But the problem with most love marraige, according to her is that: the boys/men are very romantic and understanding and helpful before marraige only. As soon as they are married, the man completely turns out to be a typical husband, no more the type he used to be. Starts expecting tea when is awake early in the bed, and what not everything a wife should do. On top of that, he is not as loving and caring as he used to be. He thinks its the wife's duty to do all this.
I am still confused on whether the BF turned husand should change or if he does, by how much. As he is no longer a BF but a husband now, he may be more responsible, so he needs to change, or by how??
Simple jiu, the main question is still unanswered, and I don't know what to say, I am still confused....
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