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| Kirsten |
Posted
on 08-Aug-03 01:39 PM
Hello everyone,
Me and my husband and our 2 year old son have recently received permanent resident visas to the US and are planning to migrate to the US in a few months. We are thinking of leaving our son back in Nepal for about a year, mainly because we believe that settling down initially in the US will be easier without him. If we do decide to leave him behind for a year, how difficult will it be to bring him to the US after a year or so? After a years time, we will have received our permanent resident cards(green cards) in USA, but our son's immigrat visa will have expired ( our visa expires in December 2003). Can we apply(sponser) for our son's permanent visa again? How long will we have to wait for this visa?
Does any of you have any idea on this? Or could you suggest whom we could contact to find our answers?
Thanks for your help!
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| peda |
Posted
on 08-Aug-03 02:49 PM
Hi,
your position is not unique. A lot of people choose to leave their kids behind to facilitate their career. It really depends on how you view your life as.
If I were you, I would not leave behind my child and would rather struggle with my day-to-day life.At least the child is in touch with you all the time. The other factor to consider is the psychological trauma you would be causing to your child. Imagine that the child would have to learn to live without you for a year and then as he is used to his new carers (whoever it may be), he will have to again learn to know you. All these things will ultimately shape his future behavioural pattern. Added to this, there is the future uncertainity about the visa and immigration issues.
But, you could be a different person.You could be a very materialistic person who would put the convenience first and other issues second. Or you could be a mahatma who has other thoughts about life, or could be anything in between .
You will have to make your own decisions and learn to live with it whatever the consequences.
All the best in your future pursuits!
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| goondruk |
Posted
on 08-Aug-03 03:36 PM
Hello Kirsten,
Check out this website and see if it helps :
http://www.bcis.gov/graphics/howdoi/childproc.htm#lprfather
Go to the " Following-to-join Benefits " section and see if it is relevant to your situation.
Hope that helps
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| dogz |
Posted
on 08-Aug-03 03:47 PM
I'll go with peda. He is definetly right. The possible situation he described might not necessarily have to be true in your case but hey, think about the later expenses and all those craps you'd have to go through all over again to bring your son abroad. It would cut down a lot of future stress for you guys if you did decide to bring your son along. Granted it would be a pain in your ass to look after your 2yrs old son while you're tryin to adjust in a different world but think about this, in the meantime you won't have to worry about how he is being taken care of back home.
Well, its just a suggestion whatever you guys think is right. Also even if you decide to leave him back, I don't think it would matter much if his visa expires since you guys would already have your permanent residency card by then. You should be easily able to bring him here.
By the way well-come abroad and best of luck.
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| yogi |
Posted
on 08-Aug-03 08:32 PM
Hi Kirsten:
Once you come here without your children, then you may need to file the petition to bring your child which is Form 130 - Petition for Alien Relative, and it might take good three years. If I were you, I would not do that.
It's a good idea to bring your kid with you and adjust acccordingly. I hope your hubie will also help you if he has not done that already. How can you function with your kid with somebody else? thousands of miles apart.................
I would not take a chance in matter like Immigration especially after 911. I have heard stories.
yogi
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| Bond-007 |
Posted
on 08-Aug-03 10:24 PM
Kristen,
Congratulations! I live in California and have worked with a lot of non profit organizations and government entities, my experience says that you will be better off bringing your son with you. Sister, there are so many programs in this state (country) which will be helpful to your family and son. Don't leave your child behind, his destiny has selected him to be in the land of opportunity. If you are thinking about migrating to California just let me know you know where to find me.
See you soon!
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| realist |
Posted
on 08-Aug-03 11:12 PM
Well Kristen let me tell you from first hand experience. Do not leave your child behind. My parents were in similar position when they recieved their DV lottery. They left 3 of their children behind and took only one. For us to finally get to united states it took 4 full years and more to recieve the visas to come to united states. If you do want to leave your child behind first bring your child to the united states get the green card for the child (which takes approximately about 2 months max) and then send then back to their grand parents this way you could bring your child anytime you want without having to deal with paperwork. You could leave your child in Nepal for even more than a year if you like if you fill out some forms and send it to INS. I clearly think this is the better way to go.
Well good luck Kristen
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| Sagun |
Posted
on 09-Aug-03 11:51 AM
Kristen,
If you live your son at back home then it will be a big mistake from your side. All your well wisher suggest you to bring him with you and i think that is 100 % right from my view too. Yes, Realist is right.......he or she suggest you to bring him with you and if you like you can send him after 2-3 month coz that time he will have PR card. You know same time you can save money coz if you wants to process his immigration in later then it will take processing fee plus, lawyer fee and mental and other different kinds of trouble. I strongly suggest you to bring him with you. Thanks........
Good luck and have a winderful time.
Well-wisher,
Sagun
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