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| anonymous |
Posted
on 04-Jul-01 02:06 AM
I am the author of the personal e-mail message sent to Ashu that was posted on the web by someone who hacked into Ashu's site. Ashu and the hackers know who I am. For the rest of the world, I request to remain anonymous.
I am caught in a difficult situation. As a longtime Boston Nepali, I have known both Ashu, and his former friends in Somerville since long before they had any dispute. I consider them all to be my friends, and I have high respect for all. So it was with sadness that I saw a dispute flare up (a dispute that did not involve me), and have tried to keep a middle ground: a difficult position, listening to and empathising with legitimate concerns of both sides, while not approving the mudslinging and slander that had happened in the past. Until this morning I thought I was managing... engaging in exciting joint activities with my friends in Somerville... while also getting back in touch with my long-time friend Ashu, giving him the encouragement that I believe he deserves, given how he has been treated on this bulletin board in recent weeks. Whether personally you like him or not, intellectually, he has been the strongest contributor on this bulletin board. Please, let us contain our envy and appreciate his contributions.
Meanwhile, to the person(s) who hacked into his e-mail, and posted my PERSONAL message to this site: I think your act was disgusting, and I would like an apology. You may post it anonymously here, or you may send me a personal e-mail (you know my address). And never hack into other people's e-mail again!
But, after that, let us forget about it and move on. We have come a long way since we first met in the early 90s. We have all made mistakes, and we all have lots to be proud of. And we all have a long way ahead... let us keep in mind that together we can be stronger.
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| ashu |
Posted
on 04-Jul-01 05:01 AM
Dear Anonymous (who is known to both the hackers and me),
If this one act of some hacker's pulling your
personal email out of my inbox and posting it here in
my name makes you feel this disgusted, then imagine, how I
must feel to know for sure that my accounts (hotmail and yahoo)
have been hacked into AT LEAST four times in the
last two years . . .
Not to mention, to see even otherwise sensible people
like Namita, our poet, going on and on with against
me on account of these lies and lies and lies . . .
though, admittedly, it was instructive see what Namita
really thinks of me at the slighest provocation, despite
her occasional "how are you" emails :-)
At least, Anonymous, you know me well enough to maintain
a "middle ground" in the dispute, as it were. And I admire
your NOT making a judgment either way.
But I know quite some people who were LED to believe, with
lies and half-truths, the other side so that they too
(who up till then had NOTHING against me) ended up
speaking against me . . . and when I confronted them,
they could point to no evidence . . . and it was easy to
see that they were led emotionally ashtray . . but
I've learnt to live happily with all that too.
I think I can go on record to say that all these
have happened and has been festering NOT because of
Rajesh Babu Shrestha or Ashutosh Tiwari but because of
one OTHER guy's:
a) inability to deal with his own emotions,
b) inability to resolve a conflict by learning to sit down face to face and talk things over calmly;
c) ability to pit friends against friends by rousing one side against the another.
d) ability to poison everyone's mood with his own long-festering anger.
After all, what has that guy achieved so far?
He has turned good friends into enemies.
Even if mistakes have been made by both parties, he has shown
himself to be unable to accept people as they are.
He has left no room for a dialogue so that a 'closure'
could come up.
And he has contributed nothing original to this board or to SCN.
Whatever happens against me, he is the guy behind it all,
and my coping mechanism is to analyze his genotype
and phenotype and learn to accept him as he is . . .
something that, with reasons, drives him crazy.
Finally, I think the hackers owe me an apology too -- not
in private but right here in public. But I doubt whether
any would be forthcoming.
Live and let live; yes, let's move ahead . . .
oohi
ashu
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| ashu |
Posted
on 05-Jul-01 12:33 AM
Dear Anonymous,
I look forward to meeting you for a meal in Kathmandu soon.
Meantime, please don't send me any emails as all my accounts
have been hacked into . . . normally I get a number of emails
a day; today, I received none, despite some friends' telling
me that they sent emails last night.
Oh well.
oohi
ashu
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