| yatri |
Posted
on 10-Oct-03 07:40 AM
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Alot of people have encouraged it, and equally amount have discouraged it. What you say?
Why do we want to go home after work? We feel that we belong there; we talk to our family, we eat dinner together, we do a little chit-chat, and laugh and have a good time. It so happens that college life could be little overwhelming at times; studying and eating can take a toll on you, and there are so many days you just don't know what to do on weekends. Oh well, you know what to do, but you would not find a good group of quality people to hang around with you, and it could be sometimes monotonous. Being alone is sometimes a greatest punishment that you are bestowing upon yourself, and other repercussions follow.
When you pledge a sorority, and eventually get the Greek letter :), you belong to the XYZ sorority. This is like your home, you make a bond with your sisters, and you start to do things together with them. Unlike the dorm friends, most of the time, all the girls from the house are your friends; you associate with them, and you do the regular 'fun-things' with them, and those things will eventually extend to the fraternity - a great conduit to meet boys. I don't think sorority life is limited only to the crazy parties that are so much instilled on many people's head. It is more than fun. I have seen many sororities collecting exam papers from the past five years, so that the new members will benefit from them. I have also seen many sororities who reward girls with a perfect GPA, and have encouraged diligent and not-so-diligent students to work harder. I have seen them doing so many group study sessions together so that some sisters ( who are not smarty pants) catch up with other students. When you do all these things, socializing and studying, these activities make you feel that you belong there ,and you end up thinking sisters as your own; you build trust and good rapport with them, and have a tremendous personal growth.
However, you have to be very careful while selecting a sorority. Try to first know who you are, what your expectations and limitations are. If you felt that you belong to the wrong sorority, that could be a bitter experience. I would say talk to the girls from the sorority and find out what activities they have done in the past, and ask them how happy they are by joining a sorority. Or better yet, ask them, how happy they would have been if they were GDI ( God Damn Independent:)). Ask them how much time they usually have to spend every week for the sorority life. Ask them how much help they could get after they graduate from college. Are the alums still active? How is the networking? I know these are very basic questions, but I have come to realize that these fundamental questions are the ones that really help make a life-altering ( I think so) decision.
Whatever you do, do not let other people belittle you, never give up your beliefs. If you have the gut-feeling, then perhaps you are right. Follow your instincts, and you will have a great life by being Greek.
P.S. I am sure you are so ready to get pampered with all those hazings:). Baby, it is a great way to know other people's weakness:), you would know when and how they break down. Trust me, you will be end by doing great if you just follow pledgemaster's directions, but that should not make you feel less of a person; this is a steping stone to be a full-fledged woman.
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| ruby |
Posted
on 10-Oct-03 10:00 AM
DWI and Rausty thanks much , for your advice. You are right there is alot of partying involved! And grades are inportant to me! I guesss Yatri ji had the counter argument in his piece.
Yatri, thanks alot for the long message. Alumni and Networking issue is very important to me. I am completely prepared for hazing, c'mon I lived in KAthmandu. You know how much women are verbally tormented on the streets! If I can handle rowdy gundas, on the streets, I can definately handle a bunch of girls , my age, height, weight etc. That dont indimidate me at all.
I'm gonna look into some of these things more carefully.
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