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| SimpleGal |
Posted
on 14-Oct-03 11:30 AM
Dear friends,
Love is perennially in the sajhapur air, be it from a heart thumping with delight, or a heart throbbing with despair. Many of us have written, in innumerable ways, our versions on the immortal topic of love. And I must say, the avenues to expressing this basic human emotion are neverending!
A conversation with a close friend of mine led to the following form of disclosure:
The most tender man/woman I have ever met...
Tender, in this case, has a romantic hue or qualification in it. How would you all go about describing this "tender" person in your life?
Alright, I will initiate with my disclosure, sort of to break the ice :)
The most tender man I have met is a person who walked into my life most unexpectedly. Most of the time, especially if you are single, you end up "looking". Single and looking is a deadly combination, often resulting in major disappointments. Someone once told me that you find your mr/ms right when you're NOT looking. Yeah right, I thought when this person suggested that to me. You have to look, but be subtle about it, I often advised myself. But in the back of my mind, I knew that this person had struck upon the right outlook for a single person. So, I laid my advice aside and did not look. :)
So, mr. Tender, as he will be named henceforth, was mr. Tender from the very beginning. Well-behaved to the point that it irritated me initially.
"Don't you have any bad habits? Like smoking, drinking?" I asked.
"Smoking is not healthy," he replied in his enchantingly soothing voice, and proceed to give me daunting statistics and its correlations with mortality. A dash of biology and anatomy was added to the mix. I rolled my eyes, half in boredom (i've never been a fan or math and statistics), and half in a sort of paradoxical disbelief. I chuckled to myself. But there was an air of sincerity in his voice that I couldn't dispel with all my sarcasm.
"Keti fasauna timi ketaharu le je pani bhanchhan ni. Once you've sunk your hooks in them with your charm, then you show your true color," I smiled.
"Hola, tara I don't smoke because I don't like to. That's a fact. Timi napatyaune bhae thikai chha. You're entitled to your belief." I liked that answer. There were no calculated pauses between his answers. It was a solid rejoinder. I could sense that it came straight from the heart without any premeditation. And it gave me room to think and evaluate for myself.
What? How is this tender? You may be asking yourselves now as you read. Wait, I'm getting there. Be patient!
Next installment coming up laterz....
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| mickthesick |
Posted
on 14-Oct-03 11:44 AM
..,&(>. -A . +H
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| KaLaNkIsThAn |
Posted
on 14-Oct-03 12:28 PM
Simppuuuuu ooohooh!!
Simpu in luvvv?? (dayummmm, my badddd eh!! I smoke!) Natra hamle ni makkkha parna jaanya thyemmm!! :D
Losin' my patience!! Baaki bhaag jaawosh!@!!
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| Deep |
Posted
on 14-Oct-03 12:40 PM
Simpy,
lau na hajur yo kalanki bro lai taransfarmar ko tel lina pathaidina paryo Ilam tira ---ekdam eksited bhayo ke yaha---- kurai bujhdainabro--aba bhag dui ma "Deep" aaudaichha ke---maile ni jad, rausi, chyang, tongba, parsad jammai chhodisake---aba bhag dui ma mero nam aayena bhane ta mahabaudhha ko momo ko kasam suru gardinchhu feri---
kalankibro, aatttera yassai "hatfell" hola jasto nagaram na--- bhadkinchhan ke manchhe...
oota la tya heram ta kalankibro---kata herya?---tyata ke---dekhyaho? sauniki chhori ta kalanki ko pani tyanki mathi chadera dharmendra style ma "kalanki walon.....bhandai chhe" .... tyai sanga ni hola ali ali tel ta! kassam!
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| czar |
Posted
on 14-Oct-03 01:27 PM
Excellent maiden venture ! Well done !
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| czar |
Posted
on 14-Oct-03 01:31 PM
Maaf paun Simple hajur, my previous comment was comment was directed at another thread.
On tenderness, might I say, its a touching and solicitious topic? And it is with impatience one waits for the remainder of the story..
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| Logical Sense |
Posted
on 14-Oct-03 01:34 PM
Nothing logical yet,
but, I am have my patience.....
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| SimpleGal |
Posted
on 14-Oct-03 03:17 PM
In my first installment, there were many typos and grammatical mistakes. Bhul sudhar garera pardnu hola sabai jana.
"Yeah right. Guffai ta ho," I continued taunting his honest reply. He merely smiled.
"I saw your ex-girlfriend at the party where you saw me. She's pretty," I remarked.
"I have an ex-girlfriend and I didn't know about it? How could that be?" was his response. He laughed a little before adding emphatically,"No, I've never had a girlfriend before. I'm not that type."
I tried to keep a straight face. "Puh-leeez!! Give me a break, will you? What do you think I am? Born yesterday? That is what EVERY guy says "Oh, I'm not that type." I thought you could do better than that. Kasto cheezy, corny answer."
"Yeah, it's funny haina? People say truth is bitter. But it seems truth can also be very funny."
"Of course it can. Especially if it's such an obvious and unoriginal answer like yours."
"Thanks for the compliments. But I never found a girl like you to consider any feelings for." That was the last straw. I was in peals of hysterical laughter.
"Atti bho! Kasto predictable statement. "My world revolves around you" mentality. The sure thing to grab a woman's heart huh?"
"You think so?" came his inquisitive reply.
I stared with an impish grin on my face at those smallish but beaming eyes on his calm face. He seemed amused at my amusement with his unamusingly amusing responses. Our eyes caught each other's gaze and brought a queer smile on both of us. His honesty vexed me and I looked away. How could anyone have such sincere eyes? Like a little boy looking anxiously around in a world that is entirely new for him and full of secret adventures unfolding stealthily to his delight! A pair of perfectly innocent boyish eyes in the face of a man well above my level of eye-contact.
"Funny you should be asking me that!" I retorted.
"Why?" he asked again.
"What do you mean why? What are you? A little bachcha who doesn't know anything?" I was getting annoyed.
"I know what I need to know in life. I never needed to know about how to win a girl's heart kina ki I was not interested in those things so I didn't know that it was a heart-wining kind of line. I said it because that's what is real."
"How long have you been in America?"
"Nine years. Kina?"
"In nine years, you've never dated?"
"No."
"And you expect me to believe that?"
"You don't have a choice NOT to believe that!"
More laterz....... :)
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| czar |
Posted
on 14-Oct-03 03:21 PM
The plot thickens....
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| oys_chill |
Posted
on 14-Oct-03 03:39 PM
Ukus mukus bhai sakyo!!...ani ani ani ??
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| SimpleGal |
Posted
on 14-Oct-03 03:59 PM
The nerve of the guy! I thought to myself. I was preparing a good come back line when he said, "Who told you that being in America for 9 years means we have to be Americans?"
"Well, you're a guy, plus...." he cut me short by saying,"I know what you're trying to say. But you must give me a chance and see that it's not always true."
"What's not always true?"
"Well, what you were going to say."
"How do you know what I was going to say. I didn't get to say it yet."
"Oh," he looked apologetic. "Sorry, then. Go on."
"Well, you're a guy, plus you've been here 9 years, and guys often don't stay single once they get the freedom in the US. Not even in Nepal anymore. Lots of couples date."
There was a silence between us for a few moments. "I gave you the answer to your assumption." He took my hand in his and repeated, "You must give me a chance and see that it's not always true what you thought." I looked again into his innocent eyes and knew he was saying the truth all along. There was a tenderness in them, like the soft skin of a newborn baby.
The end.
And the beginning to other people's responses to "the most tender man/woman in my life," now that the ice's been broken. :)
Happy Tihar to all, in advance! :)
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| thugged out |
Posted
on 14-Oct-03 04:06 PM
Holy smoke yo! That guy sounds just like me.
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| oys_chill |
Posted
on 14-Oct-03 04:10 PM
BTW,
yetro conversation ma ek choti ni NEpali ma BOLYO ki BOlena? ;) re kya ajha!!
Enjoyed it immensely Simpu dizzu! Tenderness ko k kura garai bho ra ? ma jatti ko tender Keti bhetya bhe po..yeso ice breaking dina hunthyo! Tulu tulu herdai deen bitcha, ice break garne kaile kaile :(
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| eminem8 |
Posted
on 14-Oct-03 04:46 PM
Khoi............
Ice ta break bhayoo simple didi, k garnu tara.........
testo manai siringa hune gari ms. tender nai bhettya hoina....k garnu.
Baru tyo k ta le ta sabai mero line chore cha yaar............maile barsau dekhi jamma garera rakheko lines haru.....mero MS. Perfect, mero sapana ki rani, meri bhunte ki ama, lai bhete pachi bhanchhu bhanera.............
Sattya nash nai garecha ni ta...........
aastinai copy right banayera rakhnu parne recha.............
hehe
jiskya hai, simple didi..........very good expression of a, dare i say, perfect moment for you.
-Shady
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| Rusty |
Posted
on 15-Oct-03 08:54 AM
Simpuu, excellent piece there:) Keep up with your good work..
Oys, aba tyo Mr. Tender kuire thiyo hola ni ta, so there was no Nepali words pronouced throughout the conversation:P
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| patali |
Posted
on 15-Oct-03 09:27 AM
oho...manai chorne lekh rahichha ni ta yasto......aha..kasto hola tyo tender raja....ani ke ho yo sajha ma pani mero lagi kohi Mr. tender chhainan bhanya..lau na rusty daju, sitara dijju...khojidinu paryo...yo patali le kahile simpal gal ko jastai Mr. Tender bhetne ho kunni. ani kahile aankha ma aankha judayera...haat chati ko dhuk dhuki ma rakhera" give me a chance" bhanera bhanne hola kunni....lau na chhaihyo help....!!!...chhaina kohi yaso malai milne yo sajha ko aangani ma......ke ho kundali nai dekhaunu parla jasto chha hamro trikal darshi baje sanga.......katai bhetihalchha ki mero MR. TENFDER:)
Nevertheless, nice lekh....good job...tihar ko subhakamana.....
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| Logical Sense |
Posted
on 15-Oct-03 12:45 PM
SimpleGal, so love is in the air...
So, did that lucky guy really stole your heart (still stolen)? Congratulations! We should be all proud of one successful match in Bidesh!!!!
To concur what you have written, I know many of my friends who never dated, smoked or drank (still don't do) even though they are in US for long-long time. Really it is not co-related that much. It is mindset. Some of my friends when they came to US, they had in their mind to date, drink and have fun that way. Most others came out to be matured and were not after these things right away.
But, paradoxically, most who were dating and were outgoing happened to have arrange marriage from back home and those who stayed away for long time happened to have good love marriage. Kina hola? I have my thoughts on it, but, Arko Bela.... (most of them are happy in their own way though....)
- iti
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| prativa |
Posted
on 15-Oct-03 12:50 PM
That Feeling
Do you ever get that feeling
That feeling of true love
That one that makes you cry and cry
Until you've had enough...
Do you ever wonder why
You can't be the one he loves
The one he holds so close to him
And never lets you go...
Do you cry yourself to sleep
Each and every night
Wishing he was there with you
Holding you, oh, so tight...
Well, have you ever told him
Just what he means to you
Just open up and let love soar
Your dreams just may come true...
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| SimpleGal |
Posted
on 15-Oct-03 02:47 PM
The lucky one :) has a firm grip on my heart so far. Let's see where the wind blows!
Oys,
We spoke in what is now called Ninglish. :)
LS ji -- you do bring up some very interesting issues. Why is the young generation (in particular) so keen on coming to the US? It would be nice to have a separate thread to address this question.
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| sankaa |
Posted
on 15-Oct-03 03:56 PM
hurry simpu, go ahead and give the guy a chance... before he finds another one ....then you will be like opsssssssssssssssssssssssssss.
Also, i'm not trying to be rude but be careful , cuz he is right, just being in amerika for 9 yrs doesn't make anyone an amerikan; need to have that blue passport. So ,make sure his sole purpose of apporaching you is not just chanign the color of his passport (green to blue) but he actually lopes you and is eligible to be a good hubby ;).
aru aba k bhannu hoina, timi aafai paday ko janay ko manchay....
what else i can say.. i try to be as tendery as that guy too but it never works out for me... looks like all the gallable girls are in the east.. dyammmnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn
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| sankaa |
Posted
on 15-Oct-03 03:57 PM
gullible*
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| Biruwa |
Posted
on 15-Oct-03 04:01 PM
Simps,
Nicely written account of your wonderful moment. Thanks for sharing it with sajhabasis.
I have a single suggestion :-)
Next time speak in Nepangrezi and then next next time in Nepali. Hai!
That account would then be :
Sunne lai sun ko mala bhanne lai ful ko mala. Yo katha baikuntha jala.
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| Poonte |
Posted
on 15-Oct-03 04:04 PM
Dhet! Amrika ma 9 yrs basdaima...well, sansaar ma jata sukai basos...GF hune nahune sanga le matlab, haina? Hune ko Nepal mai pani 12 wota hunchha...nahune ko Amrika aawos ki tesko baje ko Mars nai pugos...euta ni hunna! Rod dai le kya snaga jaanda khaako soor ma bhannu bhaa thyo ke ek choti...some guys have all thluck re! :P
Well thei Mr Tender, who never seemed to have luck pani ta lucky raichha ni ta...waiting for someone like haamrai Simpuu? Bhanya hiana, Simpuu? doorbin-soorbin...telecope selescope thankyaunu bhanera? aakhiri timraio haatai samayera anajar judhauna aai pugechha layak ko bar...
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| sankaa |
Posted
on 15-Oct-03 04:09 PM
pakkai pani simpu lay nepal huda teej ko barta basayra mahadev jastai poi paau bhanay ra brata basayko hunu parcha hai poonte dai?
ani hami boke bhai haru layee k suggestion cha ni dai?
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| DHANANJAYA |
Posted
on 15-Oct-03 04:25 PM
Very intersting SimpleGal Jyu,
Logical Sense has already written what I want to write. Nine year is nothing, you will find someguys who won't date in their whole life. They want to get married and enjoy happy married life. I am one of them.
My story is famous but I will summarize it in this related thread. I came across a girl and fell in love with her, I was so shy but could somehow manage to express it, but could not find the solution. I am sure she loves me, but she leaves no solid proof so that i will be convinced. I openly loves her under the sun, in the presence of sun and she loves me under the sun but in the absence of sun.
She thinks I am great person with great values and principles of life, she put me in the sky. Poor her, does not know that good principles and values are only for welfare of all. Good principles and values know only to help not to harm, otherwise they are mere principles or values, not good principles and values. I think, she thinks she is not good for me, but she does not know I can not find someone better than her, she has occupoid my mind. She is so rigid, I can not convince her that she is the best for me.
She has cheated me many times, which make me skeptical of myself, now-a-days I doubt on myself. I always scare to make mistake, now I am planing to move forward causiously and slowly. I am positive she will be mine one day. I am sure she will also be feeling my absence. And, I think, she will also be paying for her lies and mistrust.
This story made me one of the Mr. Tenders. May your good wishes help me to find my solution.
Dhananjaya
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| SimpleGal |
Posted
on 15-Oct-03 04:36 PM
Wow! Dhananjaya ji --- you take my breath away with your last statement! I do hope your lady love unravels and reciprocates the tenderness that resides in you! Of course, you have my best wishes! :)
After all, as Flannery O' Connor's famous short story title suggests, "A good man is hard to find."
Here's to you, the many Mr. Tenders silently reading this thread....And to all who appreciated my Mr. Tender :)
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| SimpleGal |
Posted
on 15-Oct-03 04:38 PM
Here's to you, the many Mr. Tenders silently reading this thread....And to all who appreciated my Mr. Tender :) ---- You guys are the good ones that are hard to find.
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| lonely |
Posted
on 15-Oct-03 04:52 PM
simplu,
aati ramro lagyo....most of the things in the sroty/incident are similar to my life..
I never dated...I ignored so many people...jani and anjan mai.....kasaiai pani purpose garya chaina and garne ni bivhar aa chaina hal samma..maybe I yet to find the Ms Perfect for me ....re kya
This remined of my friend who said after we watched the movie "Rangila"...sunta ...hamro life in rangila jastai ho...thkaai aamir khan tara last scene bahek re.....
khai aafno ta last scene matrai haina first scene nai bha chaina re kya....but I am hopeful like Mr Tender that..someone somehwere is made for me and she will definitely be with me when the right time will come....j hos upper wala le aauta ta kaso nabana holan ra mero lagi....
Simpu.....badhai chha hai...for finding the Mr perfect....
J hos padna bado galab ko lagyo...keep writing la....no matter what....
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| mr tender |
Posted
on 15-Oct-03 05:35 PM
Dear Simplegal,
This is your Mr Tender. My simple mind couldn't even have fathomed that a girl like you--so convivial and jovial--would fall for someone like yours truly, a pessimist at heart, but , to be humble, with a soul so pure that even the devil would revert to his original angel self when touched by my chastity. Oh Simplegal, aeons have passed since last I was engrossed into your beautiful eyes, yet I reminisce it like it was only yesterday(err, or was it really? Sorry, I am so absent minded). When I looked into your eyes, I saw heaven--heaven so close...... yet..... so distant. How could it be, really?
Look what you have done to me! What is this watery substance flowing from my eyes when I think of you? For before you came to my life, my eyes could cry not, nor could they blink. Oh cupid! Now I want to reach the unattainable and unreach the attainable. At last there is something for which this life is worth living. That's right Simplegal, you !
I got my grade back for a course I am taking at my university. I got a big fat F and I was depressed. But fret not! Even the F transmogrified into your svelte body, and I felt better. God!! Am I schizophrenic or am I in love? What's the difference? Can they both not obstruct ones thought processes and leave one virtually high and dry? I feel like a vacuum without you.
To be born again, you have to die first, they say. This is what it took for me to truly understand the meaning of it. I feel reborn once I saw you, and I am truly changed-- changed not physically or emotionally but organically, as if the molecules within me rearranged to fit the patterns that would be deemed perfect by you. And I hope it is for good.
Hope to see you again soon.
With love,
Mr Tender.
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| Bhunte |
Posted
on 15-Oct-03 06:06 PM
Mr. Tender, she won't buy any less than Dr.Tender....lol
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| thugged out |
Posted
on 16-Oct-03 07:43 AM
Will she settle for a certain Dr. Pepper Bhunte?
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| SimpleGal |
Posted
on 16-Oct-03 10:26 AM
Your love letter is nice, mr tender :) thanks for those lovely sentiments :P
Harey, this thread was supposed to be for everyone to share his/her meeting with the most tender person in their lives....and it has transformed into something else...hahaha....come one everyone, i'm sure there are more of us who have treasure chests filled with golden moments of tenderness! ;) Let's have it out, if you please!
bhunte, you are mistaken! :) and thugged out, i never liked dr. pepper....yucky taste. hehe...i prefer the plain old Coca Cola!!
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| bella |
Posted
on 16-Oct-03 10:59 AM
Wow!!! SimpleGal,
Intersting.. Loved it :)
Did this song "Kya yehi pyar hai?......" cross your mind when you were lost in Mr.. Tender's ummmmmm so innocent looking eyes....
curious,
bella
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| bella |
Posted
on 16-Oct-03 11:05 AM
interesting**
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| KALANKISTHaN |
Posted
on 16-Oct-03 12:23 PM
bellllllllllllllllu, aaanch aaanch!!
Katti dinnn pachi hazur lai bhetya hau!
Koslai samjhadai basi bakshincha hau?
Aba how can simpuuu think of any song when she is lost in mr. Tender's eyes? Kyaa -- guff dine bhanya? Baru simpu, did that song "kyaa yahi pyaar hai" crossed your while you were lost in Mr. Tender's eyes?? eh...
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| KALANKISTHaN |
Posted
on 16-Oct-03 12:24 PM
*crossed your mind
(jaad khaa sharki ko taal bhaa cha) ;)
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| Biruwa |
Posted
on 16-Oct-03 01:26 PM
"Another Love Story" ma movie jayoos na hou!
Koi director chaina yo sajha maidan ma re kya ajha lasta ma ehhe.
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| Poonte |
Posted
on 16-Oct-03 01:36 PM
[Kalanki holding Simpu's hands]
"You must give me a chance and see that it's not always..."
[director notices he's looking at bella]
"CUT!!!!"
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| dream_girl |
Posted
on 16-Oct-03 05:24 PM
simplegal,
that was great.....u the so lucky....
khai hamlai ni kasai le yeso teso bahen ni hunthiyo ni....aakha ma aakha judhayera aile ni mutu mutu satdinthe ni...
but aafu le man paraune jasto bhetya haina...ke ho khai...but i know my Mr. tender will definetely come for me..I am just waiting for the right man....
with lub to all in sajha....
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| najar |
Posted
on 17-Oct-03 05:28 AM
Ammaaaiiii Simpu, beautiful narration. Had seen the topic but did not venture to open until today only to discover simpy's passionate lop story.
Kaun hey wo jisne haamari simpy ka dil churaaya? :) sunam na sunam aru pani..
waiting for the baanki bhaag of the story, or/and its development.
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| Bhunte |
Posted
on 17-Oct-03 07:31 AM
UNFADED TRADITION
Gaun ghar ma aasal keto khojnu parda oosko aani-bani pahila sodhne bujhne garinchha. ani pahilo prasna nai "keto kasto chha? Churos rausi piunchha ki piundaina?" bhanera sodhne garchhan kyare. Yedi Umrica jasto bidesh bhraman gareko yogge bar chha bhane ta gharko dailo mai chhori takraune chhalan hamro des ko katti gaun ghar ma ajhai pani chha...khayer yo internet ko jamana ma testo nahola. tara hamro Simplu le ghumai firai kasari ni churos raksi ko prasna bhaggewan hobby lai sodheko ni ta.
ani arko ghat lagne prasna 'umrica ma nau barsa basda pani gf nabhako ta?'...tei ta bhanya tyo Ychat ma ta sappai le tei prasna sodhchhan bhanya....eheheh
It suggests that a guy to be a nice must not drink, smoke, or be gfless. They are the common question in our society which has not yet faded whereever we are or how much one is educated....where i m mistaken then?....lol
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| SimpleGal |
Posted
on 17-Oct-03 08:17 AM
Bhunte,
You bring up an interesting cultural artifact. Indeed, when I was quering the guy about his "bad habits," I must confess that those questions were unconsciously culturally bound. For me, it was more of a naive way of "flirting" with this person who was equally naive (sojho ketas are highly "cute" and "charming" ni! contrary to the popular belief that most gals like the "bad boys"!! hehe) . "Bhaggewan hobby" as you referred to him, was the remotest thing on my mind though!! :) Freud and Jung, the two major proponents of the unconscious motives in human behavior, would have been immensely gratified to read this excerpt of an interaction, particularly in light of your unwittingly psychoanalytic interpretation a la Jung!! :)
Interestingly, Mr. Tender told me that one of his close friends clicked his tongue at him reproachfully. "Ta ta bar sar club slub jadainas. Teta tira gae po keti haru sanga kasari interact garne bhanera thaha painchha ta. Talai ta tero budhi le pani chhodera janchhe hola. You don't know how to win a girl's heart, man!"
There's another cross-cultural artifact for those who are interested!
Najar,
Hehe, no major developments yet....hoping to hear excerpts from other sajhaites' encounters!
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| Rosie |
Posted
on 17-Oct-03 04:31 PM
Wow...the guy never had a girlfriend, never went to bars or drank a glass of wine...sounds like a raja harish chandra...lol
Personally, I prefer guys with a little edgier side...I always fall for the bad boys. Obviously, this does not mean a ganster or an alcoholic jerk but someone who has a little rough side to him...plain tenderness is kinda boring, I feel....of course, it might not be a bed of roses all the time, but it sure is a fun ride. Sojho ketas are fine as friends or as brothers, but there's nothing mysterious or fun or challenging about them. Anyway, that's just my taste...
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| thugged out |
Posted
on 17-Oct-03 05:53 PM
I prefer gals who have either a hariyo patta or American Citizenship, with virtually no accent, or, if the accent is there, very slight,that only Americans can discern, nahmean? She should be well aware of the Monica Lewinsky scandal and its innards, sotospeak,and be willing to experiment with cigars and lighters and gasoline.
If anybody meets my criteria, please holla aight.
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| Rosie |
Posted
on 17-Oct-03 09:36 PM
Thugged out, your words remind me of the term "mental slavery." I guess you are going to retaliate to my statement with foul language that you are adept at using, but oh well...
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| thugged out |
Posted
on 18-Oct-03 04:47 AM
Oh nyoooooo, no, no and no! I am very very polite with chicks, you dig? What would your ideal badass date have to be to be a badass? I don't drink, I don't hit bars, but I loove porno. Would watching porno constitute being a badass? Please let me know, my dear Rosie.
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| Rosie |
Posted
on 18-Oct-03 08:54 AM
Yes, watchng pornography is the baddest of all bad asses...except that its not the kind that I "dig." I said I like guys with an edgier side, not a loser side...
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| Dilasha |
Posted
on 18-Oct-03 03:40 PM
Wow Simplu great to know that you have found Mr. Right or Mr. "Tender" as you wanna call him. It seems like he is a shy type of person, tender at heart. What more could you ask for haina? A song comes to my mind.
Hosh na khabar hai yeh kaisa asar hai
Dard hain chubhan hai kya diwanapan hai
Tumse milne ke baad DILBAR DILBAR
Tu mera khwaab hain tu mere dil ka karaar
Dekhle Jaaneman dekhle bus ek baar
chain khogaya hai kuch to khogaya hai
Tumse milne k baad Dilbar!!
Wish you all the BEST!! :-)
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| thugged out |
Posted
on 18-Oct-03 06:55 PM
Lol@Rosie. I guess 90% guys would be undateable to you. Porn is a guy thing, almost everybody watches it. By your logic, I guess you would only date 10% of the remaining, who, btw, don't know what they're missing. How about a combo-- porn + loves hittin' clubs/bars?
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| SimpleGal |
Posted
on 18-Oct-03 07:20 PM
Dilasha,
Thanks for that beautiful song dear! :)
Thugged out and Rosie---keep going....Here's a REAL war of the sexes! hehe....A "conversation" of some sort is being formed in your postings which is fun to read :)
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| Rosie |
Posted
on 18-Oct-03 10:28 PM
Glad to have entertained you simple gal...
To Thugged out:
Yes, everyone has seen porn...I mean everyone likes to try out stuff at least once. My problem is not with them, but with those horny geek boys that jerk off in front of their computer every night. I recently watched a show on CNN, Anderson Cooper 360, about how pornography is destroying the family structure and relationships in America and it totally resonated with my point of view.
I guess a lot of guys today are addicted to porn. If that leaves me with sllim pickings w/ guys, so be it...I do have high standards and horny jerks, clowns, and thugs don't qualify, nahmean? lol lol lol@Thugged_Out
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| lonely |
Posted
on 18-Oct-03 10:53 PM
simplegal ko kura dekhera ta malai ni lop po garna man lagyo....man bhetra bhetai kaukuti lagna lagyo....bibhinnna kura samjhera...kaaas..testo hudo ho ta..
always lonely,
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| Rosie |
Posted
on 18-Oct-03 11:02 PM
Lonely, what are you talking about? hahaah
You crack me up, dude....lol
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| rajunpl |
Posted
on 19-Oct-03 12:47 AM
Then again when you say, " Okay go after your Mr. right when you get".
Most possible answer is " I am confuse"." I dunno myself". But it's strange. May be they will say I...IIIIIII....IIIIIIIIIII...... LOVE YOU . I know that
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| thugged out |
Posted
on 19-Oct-03 05:40 AM
I think you're letting your ignorance doing the talking by painting all porn viewers with a broad brush, because the fallacy inherent in your argument is that those watching porn are innately geeks or not in touch with society. But that's far from the truth, because if you can watch it for even a couple hours, then you're from more than a robust stock, lol.
Or if your assertion is that porn basically twists people's views about what an ideal woman should look like, due to incessant subjection to silicone boobs and unnaturally perfect body, then that is so lame. I don't watch Anderson Cooper, as CNN is what I'd like to call yellow journalism, but I bet the person he brought was the feminist who writes for New York Magazine, am I correct?
How about couples who get it on watching porn? I used to do that with my ex-gf. I have a 2 yr old son with her, btw.
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| Rosie |
Posted
on 19-Oct-03 09:17 AM
So, your son was conceived while you and your ex were watching porn? I feel sad for your boy
A child born to single parents: Voila, the destruction of the family structure
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| thugged out |
Posted
on 19-Oct-03 09:32 AM
No, porn was how we would spend some of our leisure time. That doesn't mean we'd always make love while watching porn.
To tell you the truth, I didn't want the child, neither did my ex. My condom broke when we were having sex, but neither of us noticed the tear. And it's all so sad. The entire judicial system in the US is oriented towards women, and against men. So she slapped me a child support that has really been a burden to me. I am appealing the decision. It's her child, not mine, since she gave birth. I only planted the seed. That's how I see it.
Why are you feeling sad for me? It's been predicted that singles are gonna outnumber marrieds in a few years. The society, as of now, actually promotes married couples, and provides concessions to them. This will change soon.
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| lonely |
Posted
on 19-Oct-03 09:41 AM
thugged out,
you wrote "It's her child, not mine, since she gave birth. I only planted the seed. That's how I see it."
Does that make sense??? Then you are your mum's son only not your dad's...am I right? Name ni mum's family name is there??? What are you trying to prove??? What the hell is this thinking....sorry to say but do you not make any sense to me....atleast me...
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| SimpleGal |
Posted
on 19-Oct-03 10:35 AM
Rajunpl,
You bring up very interesting psychological questions. Impressive!
First of all, naive is not equivalent to stupid!! Let me assure you of that. Then, being not-naive is not being smart either! Therefore, wanting to have a naive person in your life does not mean you are clever or that the other is stupid. It's a matter of taste rather than a question of intellect.
I like your comment that women, when they are with one man, are also with the "everyman" by way of comparison! LOL
Nice collage, btw. :)
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| tender rose |
Posted
on 19-Oct-03 10:49 AM
wow! kya story! kya plot! what a climax! love blossoming in the harsh winter. snow melting everywhere! mamla garam hai!
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| Rosie |
Posted
on 19-Oct-03 03:00 PM
I can understand how child support costs can be a burden, however its not right for you to say that its not your baby and that you just "planted the seed." If you look at it, all human beings are basically born out of seeds being planted or rather a male fertilizing the seed inside a woman. Does that mean that nobody takes responsiblity of the child that's born as a result? Somebody has to be accountable for the consequences even if it wasn't planned for in advance. After all, it wasn't the child's decision to come to this earth, right?
And about having sex while watching porn, I'm not down with that idea...I prefer having soft candle lights with Sade or Bach playing in the background rather than some porn star screaming...
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| ru |
Posted
on 19-Oct-03 04:11 PM
"I can understand how child support costs can be a burden, however its not right for you to say that its not your baby and that you just "planted the seed."
..damn right you are rosie.
if seed's not important then why don't apple seeds germinate into oranges...if one drops the seed, he is responsible for many things, qualitative and quantitive...so he is responsible.
on the other hand, ifone still believes that he just planted the seed...and the woman did the rest..., why don't he make up for it by taking care of the seed ex post cause he did not do so ex ante.
naivety is a pathetic coverup for chauvinism..I would go search elsewhere.
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| rajunpl |
Posted
on 20-Oct-03 04:56 AM
I will not go for sex here, I had a sex 8 months after fallin in love, in a safety way,ridiculously safety way, the things i and my Mrs. lover did was
a) took contraceptive bloody f****** pills.
b) extra deluxe durex condoms
Then again, There was a constant worry in Mrs. lover that there are no 100 %.conraceptive metod, best time to have sex bfore and after period. blah...blah...and ..bullshit.So the best things for man in this time is to say that save your f****** things for someone else. I am not for you. I will not wonder when you do the same to you Mr. no 2 right( after me). ....Believe me they will come and give you a frencher straight way.
So tell me girls, If I am wrong.
Girls,How can you say that you are in love..?
a) If some guys like you. You will show your careless attitude. often say that you have someone to look after. You are not interested to talk much. But behind the scene you ill talk about it with every friend that falana is after me. You subject of pride.
b) You need security. You need security of life, living, and society . Your Mr. right should be better enough to look after you. He oughtta hold good job. He should be busy doing his job.In the same time you will complain If you don't get enough time to spend with us.
c) Listneng you, think about you and,be trustful to you and 24/7 in your monitor.Here Man needs a liberation from women/girls.How can all this things possible at once. Then the living life will be hell.
d) surprise.I hate myself while giving surprise to girls. Candle light dinners Oooops.Cinema NOW THE LATEST DOWN UNDER LOVE buy tickets as a surprise Ooops!, Next weekends in national park Oooops! ,So what girls care about is better life.If They don't get wnat they want then they would probably say "May be there are someone else who is made for me in this world".
Where are thou love..? For man If girl only smile,touch his heart he is ready to anything,anytime, Aren't man somekinda foolish naive?
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| rajunpl |
Posted
on 20-Oct-03 05:19 AM
simple gal jyu :First of all, naive is not equivalent to stupid!! Let me assure you of that. Then, being not-naive is not being smart either! Therefore, wanting to have a naive person in your life does not mean you are clever or that the other is stupid. It's a matter of taste rather than a question of intellect.
Simple jyu again this is the answer of the metropolitan girls. You are right wanting to have naive person doesn't mean clever.Loving him for his innocence,confidence,optimist,patience is not clever either right?
Then what is that you are so much fascinated with him ? Is that love ? nope.That is all the contrast different behaviour he hold than others, tell me if not. The confidence he got to grab ya hand.What if he turn around and stuck with you question saying "I do not have answer" huh
would you love him. Nope, cos he aint got no confidence.
This is why girls are blind and unsure. Who lied you he will win you cos you will have momentary happiness at that time
amen
-saturated survivour
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| SimpleGal |
Posted
on 20-Oct-03 07:52 AM
Rajunpl,
It looks like some gal has deeply wounded your heart. Hence the anguish in your words.
Let me assure you once again that not all girls are the same. You just haven't found the right one! As I said in my first portion of the story, you find the right one when you're *not looking* because your myths about the opposite sex meet with quite the contrary when you find the one you're NOT looking for!
You are absolutely right---many girls MAY (I stress again, MAY) think along the lines that you've so meticulously outlined. The notions of security, protection, provision, and so forth have been attributed to evolutionary trends among women. So, in essence, those are qualities a woman looking for commitment and marriage (which by definition requires the above mentioned qualifications) would vye for in a man. However, if sex and physical pleasures alone are the end goal to her needs, then the aforementioned qualities will take a back seat (WAYYYY back seat) among her priorities. I am not a love guru, nor do I aspire to be one. Relationships are works in progress so there are different needs in every one of them.
You asked me what I would have done had this person not shown the confidence in holding my hand and giving me the answer that he did. I never said that the answer he provided me was the most clever, sophisticated, or of any other grand kind. It was the simplicity with which it was delivered that touched my heart. I agree with you on some level that there was some contrast behavior that translated into my affinity for his innocence. But I am not claiming that he is ONE of a kind. I am perfectly aware, and several sajha guys have attested to this fact, that more than one person meets the criteria that Mr. Tender possessed. He is certainly not a wonderkind. Far from it. And it cannot be explained in words either. It's a feeling that you go through, and something you will comprehend when the time is right for you.
And who said that loving innocence, confidence, optimism, patience in a person (any person for that matter) is not clever? In the rush for rationalism, we seem to denounce the very essence and beauty of humanity!
In peace.
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