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| SimpleGal |
Posted
on 24-Oct-03 04:45 PM
I don't mean to incite the age old gender debate---but this really bugs me....
I was having a conversation with my best friend about the male/female tendencies toward relationships with the opposite sex. What emerged from our discussion is that it seems like most men are just looking for "friendship" with "no strings attached," which they blurt out to gals as soon as the "commitment" issue is brought up (invariably by the gal, of course) . Prior to the forbidden topic (i.e., commitment), everything is fine and dandy. The guy showers her with avowals of affection. At the very first sign of a gal's hazy look, the guy begins to stagger. And god forbid, if the gal asks "Hum apke hain kaun?" or "where is this relationship going?" then he becomes utterly incoherent. "Uh, i thought we are just friends, aren't we?" may be the common response. This seems to be a consistent pattern across cultures, btw!!
It would be interesting to hear what speculations sajha folks have to offer...
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| Rastafariya |
Posted
on 24-Oct-03 04:56 PM
Yo simpal gal. I is always commitment. Them nice nice ladies always not commitment to I. What with them ladies? Them nice and loving but as soon as I is send them my picchur them say we is can become best friend.
You see them ladies always blaming them biraders for not commitments but them ladies not commitment many times too. Peopal not looka at that. Some ladies even them go with other hansome hansome rich rich biraders when them gets chance.
Them it is equal in them both sides. Only things is them ladies talk about it and tells their friens and them word spreads. But them biraders never tell no peopal because them biraders fear that peopal might think of them as lesser of a man if him tell that them lady not wants to commit.
Them there has never been them study of how many times them ladies no commitment. But if them birader not make commitments the lady pick up da phone right away and start calling all da peopal she know and tell that this birader not commitment. Her will even tell da mailman, hairdresser,taxidriver and every walkin being that she know.
You see what I means?
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| dautari |
Posted
on 24-Oct-03 07:12 PM
Well, even I was "friends" with the girl who is now my wife before I made the commitments. So, what you say, Simple Gal, is true. Men, in general, try to stay away from commitment.
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| L-a-x |
Posted
on 24-Oct-03 07:17 PM
Hum aap k hai kaun....hmm...it all depends on who askes that......If I was in that place....I would not say what most boys have said,,,maybe I am not the common type..
just a friend re...give me a break...malai ta ahile samma keti haru le....matrai....bhau khojya thaha chha...u know what one of my friends gf told...keti bhaye si nakhara nagera ta ke keti re??? Oh my god....ke bhaka keti haru....she likes and still...no response dine..aani bhau khojne....thats too much...
maybe simplegal your friend and my friend need to meet one another and see what good guys and gals can be? ki kaso?
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| ru |
Posted
on 25-Oct-03 10:31 PM
assuming that each guy/girl wants the best he/she can get, then both the absolute level of domain size and the magnitude of the ratio of 'guys seeking girls/girls seeking guys' will be crucial in the degree of confidence, in addition to the internal confidence of the person involved....commitment as a measure of nearness to the expected zenith, thus is dependent upon various societal constraints as well.
Thus the answer to the general trait discussed above is, in my opinion, case-specific. Notwithstanding this rationality argument, however, the irony that rasta "birader" mentions remains, favoring the odds against males.
my 2 cents.
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| paramendra |
Posted
on 28-Oct-03 08:11 AM
I believe the topic might be more specific.
Who is seeking commitment from whom?
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| SITARA |
Posted
on 28-Oct-03 08:29 AM
Define "Commitment"....
A marriage certificate has no life-time guarantees of a commitment and yet, two lovers can be "committed" in every sense of the world without actually giving it a defined label or relationship tag. Also, many don't want to be married or be labelled.
As usual, S. Gal, you bring in intriguing topics! :)
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| L-a-x |
Posted
on 28-Oct-03 08:37 AM
Sitara jiu,
then what is this discussion about? I thought it this lack of commitment guys have...as Simpalgal mentioned above...if I understand things correctly.
But I do agree that marriage certificate is not a proof for a commintment, but I should say it does help. If I am a married person, then my marketability to sell to other girls decreases.....until I am telling all lies which I don't...re kya...this is what I think and it doesnot have to be same with other people.
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| SITARA |
Posted
on 28-Oct-03 08:50 AM
L-a-x ji:
All I was saying was, maybe the guy is just as committed in every sense of the word but just does not want to be married...yet, or at the time the pressure is increased, hoina?
As far as "marketability", where there is demand, supply will find a way. You may be married and less "marketable" to those who want to get married but may not seem "off-limits" to those who just want a relationship and not a marriage. In such a case if you gravitate towards such a proposition, your marriage certificate does not guarantee your faithfulness to your wife. However, it may not diminish your commitments toward her, your children or your household. Hence, the need for a definition of "commitment".
Just musing hajur!
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| Rastafariya |
Posted
on 28-Oct-03 09:00 AM
Yo them Sitara You is needs to tell me da name of them place where them there is Demands?
I is been looka all over for them demands but I is never find no demands for Rasta.
Maybe I is not knowing.
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