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| kirsten |
Posted
on 16-Nov-03 12:03 PM
Hello people, Me and my husband need a suggestion from you all. We recently migrated to USA (as permanent residents) with our 2 year old son. While we are still hunting for jobs in our profession, we have started out with temporary jobs in the mall to survive. The problem that we are facing now is with babysitter's expenses for the kid. There is no way we can afford the heavy daycare expenses while working at the mall. As far as we know, we can't school him in the US until he is 5.
Considering all this, we are wondering if we can send him to Nepal for about a year or two (or until he is 5 or until we get settled in our own profession). I know there is a need to fill out a re-entry form (I-131) if one plans to stay abroad for more than year. The problem is that he doesn't have a Nepalese passport of his own (He doesn't have any form of Nepalese ID other than his birth certificate).
What are our options? What is the legal process and requirement for the re-entry form? Do they issue a separate passport in Nepal for a child that young? Has anyone done this before? Any suggestions will be appreciated.
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| Harris |
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on 16-Nov-03 12:56 PM
You can get a separate passport for a child. I had a seperate passport for my 18 months old child when we came to US. You may talk with the people in Nepalese embassy in DC/NY.
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| ruck |
Posted
on 16-Nov-03 01:39 PM
Hi Kristen,
How old is your child? I think Head Start is a program geard for children 3 years of age. You might want to check with the public schools and look out for all options before you really consider on sending your kid back to Nepal. I know it's difficult with a child around and both of you working but again the pain of being away from your kid might be much more than what you're both facing right now. Again, if he's 3+ , head start might be the best option.
Good Luck !
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| ruck |
Posted
on 16-Nov-03 01:44 PM
Opps I am sorry, you did mention 2 year old.
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| sishir42 |
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on 16-Nov-03 03:11 PM
Kristen-sending your 2 yr.old child to Nepal is not a good idea.you will be spending more money calling Nepal to know about your child and if he gets sick, just imagine about the situation....what will happen.
You can always get different working shifts and it is always difficult for few years, so be patient!
I think Headstart is available too. Where are you located now?
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| VincentBodega |
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on 16-Nov-03 03:11 PM
Seems like you all are thinking from the adult perspective. Think about the child. What kind of psychological effects will he have if he was to grow up away from his parents for whatever time you guys are considering. Think about his life too. I know its hard for youn two, but whats his fault in it? Why should he be deprived of his rights - the rights of a normal childhood.
Hope you come up with the best decision. My wishes with you two.
--BV
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| dautari |
Posted
on 16-Nov-03 03:26 PM
I am not an authority on this .. but what I agree with Vincent Bodega. A child needs "both" his/her parents with him if he has to have a proper childhood. I am here in the USA for the past few months. My wife and my son are in Nepal. I am trying my level best to get them here and I will go to any extremes to get my wife and my son here with me. My wife and I will have to sacrifice some of our personal needs in order to do that but I am ready to that. My son is 4 years old and he will not be able to go to school here for a few years. But since my wife will be on F-2 visa she will not be able to work. That will give her enough time for our son.
Once again, my situation is way different from kirsten's. And I am not an authority of child psychology. However, if I had my way, I would never be away from my child. I am already regretting leaving my child and my wife back home when I came here.
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| Ashera |
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on 16-Nov-03 10:15 PM
Kristen....you can start a daycare at your place or else you can work in a daycare center where you can take your child with you. That way you can earn as well as be with your baby. You just got here...be patient and things will evetually fall into place.
Its not in my place to tell you what to do and what not to do but I have to say that it is not a good idea to be seperated from your child. You will be missing out on the best years of your child's life. That can never be replaced.
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