| experiencer |
Posted
on 14-Jul-01 05:36 PM
I am watching this message board for couple days. People are so impatient to judge. Some are judging just for judgment, and some are doing over judgment. Before judging, and commenting on someone else, it will be better if you can wait a little.
Why?
Here is why:
It happened once, one woman wrote a letter to an American author, Dale Carnegie. Dale Carnegie had delivered a lecture on the radio on Abraham Lincoln, and he had mentioned many wrong dates in it. The woman was a lover of Abraham Lincoln, so she wrote a very angry letter saying, ‘If you don’t know the A B C of Abraham Lincoln’s life, you should not go on radio. And this is insulting. If you are not well informed, then first get informed and then start lecturing.’
Dale Carnegie was the man of fame, had written many best- sellers; he got offended, he was very angry. So he wrote a letter immediately, in the same tone, the same anger, the same irritation. But it was late and his servant had already gone to home, so he left the letter on the table. In the morning he would post it.
In the morning, when he was putting it in the envelope, he just looked once more at it. He felt, ‘ This is too much. The woman has not written like this. She does not deserve so much anger from me.’ And, in a way, he felt she was right also. So tore up the letter and wrote another which was totally different. There was no anger, no irritation in it, rather, the attitude of thanking her for making him aware of some mistakes and he felt obliged. But then he thought, ‘If in twelve hours so much can change, there is no hurry. I can wait for a few days more.’
So he tried one more experiment. He left the letter again on the table. By the evening he again read it and he wanted to change a few words again. For seven days he continued to change the words on every last change. On the seventh day, it became a love letter. And Dale Carnegie relates that, that woman proved the best, one of the best friend that he had ever had in his life.
What would have happened if his servant had not gone to home on that day and the first version of letter had been posted? Certainly, he would have created an enemy.
JUDGE A NOT!
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