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| feb14th1981 | Posted
on 18-Jan-04 01:18 PM
This thread is for all the guys/gals who've been in US for a few years tryin' to complete their education but at the same time, passin' thru an important timeline of life. In an orthodox nepali society, the approximate age for guys to commit for a relationship or get married ranges from 20-25, where as, for gals it ranges from 17-24 (I guess). I'm sure that most of the nepali students here in US lie somewhere around same age-range, if not may be few years older than that and we all know that had we been in Nepal today, chances are that our parents would have been, at least, trying to get us married to someone they know OR we would be somewhere in that process by ourselves. But since we're here, we're not quite sure about the right time for any kind of commitment as we've got so many other things to take care of........do we really need to think about this??? ummm...i donno!!!!! |
| luckydude | Posted
on 18-Jan-04 04:43 PM
hmmmm, good question?? What do we do now? How do we know we are ready to marry someone? How do we know we are ready to take responsibility? The answer is "listen to your heart". Sometimes in your life, we have to do what our heart says, not our brain that is totally messed up trying to figure out why in the hell doesn't my "JavaScript" code work?. Sorry, my bad (because my damn code is not working)Gosh, what am I saying??? Never mind, back to your question,"do we really need to think about this???" Yes, absolutely. You do need to think about you are gonna marry with, when, and how. If you are gonna live in the US for the rest of your life, you don't have to (wonder why?? Because most marriages end up getting divorced in the US, it's more like 50-50, so don't worry) But if you are gonna live in Nepal, you definitely need to use your heart and brain, both...... peace in Nepal luckydude |
| SITARA | Posted
on 18-Jan-04 04:45 PM
You will know when you are ready. Goodluck to you! |
| bugaboo | Posted
on 18-Jan-04 11:09 PM
I agree with Sitara...when the time is right, you will just know. I guess I still believe in that prince riding in to sweep me off my feet...marriage or not....just a happily ever after. |
| hansy420 | Posted
on 19-Jan-04 07:10 AM
you can never b ready....you have to force yourself to b ready or else you will never be ready :) |
| Biruwa | Posted
on 19-Jan-04 08:38 AM
the link |
| Biruwa | Posted
on 19-Jan-04 08:38 AM
4 signs you're ready for the real deal hehe...he http://msn.match.com/msn/article.aspx?articleid=1791&TrackingID=516165&BannerID=541888 |
| luckydude | Posted
on 19-Jan-04 08:44 AM
Biruwa, you are talking about "Westerners life style'. It ain't happening in Nepal. Besides, dating doesn't happen in Nepal. I don't like the whole idea of dating. Anybody has a different idea???? peace in Nepal luckydude |
| Revival | Posted
on 19-Jan-04 12:05 PM
I would say that responsiblity adds commitment and a sense of doing something in one's life. If you feel you can do better being in some kind of commitment, I say you go for it as you will not regret it in the future. But if you have zeal to do some thing alone better and want to enjoy your freedom of being single for some more years you can go for that too. But really the right time is when you decide it is the right time for you not anyone else. You should be the one to take control of your own life. Regards Revival Waiting For a New Beginning. |
| ugly duckling | Posted
on 19-Jan-04 02:09 PM
It all depends on where your priority lies. One needs to put a balance between their career and the family life. I am not trying say to put your school or your work aside to have a family. I have been married for over a year and working on my graduate school. And I have seen innumerable couples who have got married during their school years and have been living happily. |
| Biswo | Posted
on 21-Jan-04 05:19 PM
Here's a very cold calculation, suggested by a statistician named Dykin long ago.I am giving my words to his solution. While reading this please forget subjective things like i)first love ii)fidelity iii)crush and consider that they exist only in Mars and that we eartheans here are all material girls/boys. Marriage is all about finding the best partner you can get. But you really don't know who is the best. However, when you see two possible prospect, you can compare who is the better, and that's all you can do. It may be that today you see a girl(boy), you like her(him), and you marry her(him). Tomorrow,you figure out that you actually settled for something less. Then, you may want to give up on the first partner leading to the instability in marriage. So, all bachelors face with this problem of how to find the best partner. Dynkin said that the highest probability of landing 'the best' marriage partner is about one third way from your search. Actually it is after 1/e where e is the famous exponential number. The procedure is like this: you notice but reject all first 1/3rd of the prospects.(Notice that you can't go back and ask them again. Once you reject, you reject.) Then accept the first prospect who is better than all the first 1/3rd . For a man, assuming his 'marriageable age' is from 20-50 years. So, he got 30 years. According to Dynkin's solution, he should marry after 10 years of his search, i.e. around when he is 30, and gets the best prospect that he has ever gotten. For women, this 'marriageable age' is 18-35, so she would be better off when she marries the best boy after she is 24. [Note: the years given here are mine and chosen arbitrarily.] |
| Logical Sense | Posted
on 22-Jan-04 04:29 PM
Feb14th1981, there is a old Sajha Column written long time back. It should give you some of the answers for this age old question: "Biha Ta Garne Ho Tara Ko Sanga Ra Kasari" (/a> -iti |