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| Bramha | Posted
on 27-Feb-04 09:49 PM
I heard that most of Nepali girls in US prefer to marry white men in USA or colored (meaning many colors here) men from Mitra Rastras...Is it true? If so why? I expect honest answers from ladies and all. This is very important survey carried out by "Bramha" and based on the results, Bramha will take necessary measures to remodel his creation strategy. Peace. Bramha |
| patali | Posted
on 27-Feb-04 10:27 PM
LOL...BRAMHA PRABHO...... YO BHAKTINI BATA DARSHAN GARE PRABHO.....HAJUR KO DARSHAN PAUNA BARHA BARSA TAPASYA GARE PRABHO....AKHIR YO SAJHA MA PO DARSHAN HUNA LEKHEKO RAHICHHA PRABHO....YASO YO PATALI TIRA DAYA KO NAJAR LAGAI DINA PARYO PRABHO......NA MOTAI PO HALCHHU KI..... KHOI PRABHO AAFULAI TA COLOR HOSH YA BLACK AND WHITE, KEHI MAATLAB NAI CHHAINA....ABA BLACK AND WHITE OUT-DATED BHAISAKYO BHANCHHAN....COLOR BHAYE ALIK BESH NAI HUNTHYO MA PATALI MATHI CHHAIN AWASYA DAYA KO NAJAR RAKHIBAKSELA PRABHO.....DHOG GARE PRABHO.. OOHI BHAKTINI PATALI |
| u_day | Posted
on 27-Feb-04 11:03 PM
Bramha, I got only two words for you. That is: WHO CARES ?? (I could have made that three by adding another word between them but choose not to do that:p) |
| Poonte | Posted
on 28-Feb-04 03:20 AM
Aayushmati bhayesh, PATALI!!!!!!!! Rangi-changi, nautanki puttra-wati bhayesh! Indreni jasti puttri paayesh! Risaunda raato, sancho nahunda pahenlo, nissasinda neelo, lajaunda gulaabi, daha laagda hareeyo, lop parda kaalo, tarsera saato janda suntala, ra marda khwarlappai seto hune santaan le daanda kaanda dhaakun!!! ** PRABHO BRAHMA KO HUKUM BAMOJIM YO AASHIRBAAD PESH GAREKO CHHU, MAHARANI PATALI...RISAANI BHAYE YO TUCCHYA PRAANI POONTE LAI MAAFI JAHER HOS! Hajur ko paau ko bhakta sewak, BRAHMA moro ko ta jhan goda kai mayal, Poonte. |
| vishnu_ | Posted
on 28-Feb-04 07:22 AM
Hey Bramhajyu... I'm Vishnu...you're interferring in my job. Please be aware of that... |
| nepali_angel | Posted
on 28-Feb-04 08:21 AM
I as a typical Nepali woman hired in a MAJOR corporation to lick envelopes can tell you that if it's white, then it feels right, if it is brown, you flush it down, if it's yellow, it's too mellow, if it's black, then you better go back. Happy with my answer Brahma? |
| sankaa | Posted
on 28-Feb-04 12:25 PM
... lick it good, lick it nice, lickkkk my .... opps, got lil' carried away by the word" lick", okie okie back to the track.... well, white makes you feel right ? thats tight... what can i say, but we nepali guys ain't no bad either ni Nepali Angel....might be that you haven't tried out the good ones yet... i would say , definately give it a shot... . but to tell you the truth, i feel the same way about Nepali girls.. No offense to the good looking Nepali girls , but after living in da USA for 6 yrs, i've only seen 2 good looking Nepali girls. And those girls were on sajha -Ana 2003 pics..And i'm not too sure if they are full Nepali or not, cuz they looked very less Nepali. .. I don't know, this is real weird.. when i was back i n Nepal, i used to see lots of cute Nepali girls.. is something wrong with me lately? or, only the not- cute ones ( i don't wanna say ugly) make it to the USA? .. what's happuuenning?? Worse thang is the attitude in Nepali girls living in daaa usa.. I know , i Know, there are lots of nice nice nepali ladies with out attitude , but most nepail girls i've met so far think they are ummmm super hotie...but the matter of fact is, they are not..do they not see a mirror? Again, not all , but most Nepali girls i've met in the usa are bery bery moooney minded, i would say.. If you have a green card, green dollars , then who cares you're black or white- you gonan get a Nepali girl tonight.... so i think , Nepali girls like green Color guys.. dyamnn, what a soul searching.. i found the Answer.. dyammm you all , here's the answer for ya all : Nepali girls like "GREEN" guys.. Also, Nepali girls are bery bery lonely.. Nepali guys are bery bery lonely too in America.. but we both have big big dreams , i guess. we're so spoiled by the porns and Hollywood crap , that we wish to have a white girl friends and Nepali girls wish to have white boyfriends like seen them white white ppl on the TV.. and when we have options, at least to see them around, so who likes to get stuck with a "ghar ki murgi" ..i think , it only happens if a) you're really really in love with a nepali guy or a girl b) if you can't find anyone else... no offence to the good Nepali girls out there.. it's not meant for you... |
| Zzed | Posted
on 28-Feb-04 12:31 PM
Nepali girls in the States lack hot bod. No curve man. |
| casey00 | Posted
on 28-Feb-04 05:53 PM
Sankaa: I totally second what u wrote...very well said!!!...ya man...we expect too much..but who cares...gotta with the flow...wherever it takes us..Plus for me..looks count like 40%...rest is attitude man..if u have good one...I think it makes up for lots of things.. ZZed..man its not always abt the curves..plus these days..if U have some MO..u can easily get those curves..so its alright dawg. :) |
| Trixy | Posted
on 28-Feb-04 06:51 PM
I think nepalis shud stick wiv nepalis n whites shud stick wiv whites.. i dont like mixing up deze things ya knw, cz if that hapnz then the nepali cultures gona go downhill, i dnt knw if my view here is tainted for som people but i certainly hope those Yankee nepali gals aint gona insult our nepali guys by getn wiv a whitey.. cours nepal has produced some fine smart guys who can keep a gal happy, although soon as gals hit da bucks n live da high life they wana be like doze goris.. dats wrong n very bad i reckon, even though im british born nepali chick, i wud only choose nepaliz without a doubt.. cmon those gurls, dnt put us down!! Trixy |
| Lokman | Posted
on 28-Feb-04 07:42 PM
I say whatever floats your boat. I couldn't care less who these gals went out with. In any case, I am not a big fan of nep girls. |
| Rosie | Posted
on 28-Feb-04 08:05 PM
Frankly, I am not surprised that the majority of Nepali girls wanna marry Americans. Why not? Most American guys are in general a lot better looking than most Nepali guys. Honestly speaking, in my 23 years of being a Nepali girl, I have never seen a Nepali guy that I can actually call hot, except for one, who grew up in the US. Most Nepali guys are obnoxious, have zero personality and have no idea how to please women (not just physically, but also to make her feel loved, respected and desired). Actually, I think the Nepali guys in Nepal are a little better than the Nepali guys in the US. The Nepali guys in the US are sooooo fake...they try too hard to look and speak American and fail miserably. Just so y'all know, baggy pants in an invisible butt looks ridiculous...lol. Most Nepali guys have such big egoes...not with white girls, for whom they can wag their tails and be ready to nail even the most supersized one...but with Nepali girsl, they are malicious. If they see a girl having a good time and not being the same shy little thing as in Nepal, she's immediately termed a "bigreko keti." So, I applaud those girls who have been able to see beyond Nepali guys and find their partner (white, brown, or black) that love her and treat her well. |
| acharya | Posted
on 28-Feb-04 08:19 PM
Rosie...I knew you're made for me! ;) |
| sankaa | Posted
on 28-Feb-04 08:39 PM
hahah Rosie, your 23 yrs of life is a waste of time in reards to romantic relationship, i would say, if you just met 1 hot nepali guy.. btw, how do you look like? are you an albino Nepali or something??I don't know what kinda ego trip you're gettin' here by saying all Nepali guy besides that America born Nepali guy are not hot.. haha.. i think , deep down you're just lying to yourself.. and trying to convience yourself that Nepal guys are not good looking. but the matter of fact is you're not good looking enough to get attention of a good looking Nepali guy..Accept the fact and it will make your life easier... As far as being fake goes, Nepali girls (not all, but most ) in the usa go way beyond Nepali guys. Serious, those fake color they put in thier hair, and that fake accent they put while they try to sound like a blonde in thier class or at work.., hahahah it's a joke haha.... but what surprises me the most is , they still think they are the hoties.. and they never fall behind on bashing Nepali guys.. what do they think ? .. are they not " made in Nepal" like Nepali guys? They are born by white ppl..in Nepal or something??? Most Nepali girls, don't get white boys anyway.. haha they just dream about one.. and if they do get one.. they either get one night stay at a bar, or an oldie or a chubby one.. and when they get tired in thier quest of finding a "dude" they finally settle down with a "deshi".. the shift between "dude" to "deshi" is painful .. but they live with it.. one thing is for sure.. they will still have that attitude.. like i said earlier.. this does not apply to all the Nepali girls in the USA.. if you're a good Nepali girl then.. don't worry.. it's not meant for you... later... |
| Rastafariya | Posted
on 28-Feb-04 09:31 PM
Yo peopal! Why them you is makin so much noise? All them Nepali ladies who them think that nepali guys not hot and hansome is not meet him Rasta yet. That is all. Why them you peopal make so many noise and complicasion. All them ladies who them say Nepali birader is not hot is not been burn by him Rasta. That is all. If them complain too many just send them to Rasta and let them know how them will get burned. |
| sankaa | Posted
on 28-Feb-04 09:34 PM
hahaha.. exactly birader, that is what i is say to them seucy nepali ladies....them should meet you birader, before them say nepali biraders and not hansome... |
| HairyPotter | Posted
on 28-Feb-04 10:24 PM
I remember while I was in grade 10 back in Kathmandu, one of the teacher , a very beautiful lady, got into affair with a volunteer teacher from USA. In 2 months she decided he was the one for her and they got married, went back to states and started their family. After a year or so , he started drinking heavily , abusing her, and even started hitting her physically. The few times I went to her place here (her brother was my very good friend), I always found her parents worrying about her, and even cried in front of me once. Its been years now I haven’t been in touch with them, don’t know how she must be doing now. I am not generalizing all white men as abusive in a relationship but what needs to be understood here is that not all of them will make you feel loved, respected and desired just as, not all Nepali men are obnoxious, have zero personality and have no idea how to please women(as you put it). As about being HOT, leave it to the beholder to decide. You can only so much speak for yourself and your choices. |
| nepali_angel | Posted
on 29-Feb-04 07:35 AM
"Frankly, I am not surprised that the majority of Nepali girls wanna marry Americans" Absolutely true, but only for Asian Americans. Most Nepali women don't even go out on a date, much less want to marry an American man. Furthermore, interracial dating is usually between a WHITE man and an Asian woman, not White woman and Asian man. The reasons are obvious. Nepali guys on average are only about 5'6" tall, which is considered to be midget height in the good ol' US of A. As Steve from Isteve points out: "What's fascinating, however, is that in recent years a startling number of nonwhites -- especially Asian men and black women -- have become bitterly opposed to intermarriage. " http://www.isteve.com/IsLoveColorblind.htm Note that 72% of interracial black-white relationships is between a black man and a white woman. Which reminds me, back in my college days, I was sharing my apartment with a white male (his dad was a millionaire, so I figured I could squeeze some dough outta his pocket) and his girlfriend who was my friend, and whenever the guy saw interracial dating on TV between a white woman and a black man, he would scream, "traitor!". Always found it funny, still do. Only 28% of White men on the other hand, are dating black women, while the reverse is true for White-Asian relationships. That is, 72% of asian-white relationships is between a white man and an Asian woman. Note that natural discrimination has precipitated in this anomaly that we're seeing between the two couples in question. "American guys are in general a lot better looking than most Nepali guys" Whites are indeed the epitome of beauty, no doubt about it, but only for those raised in the US of A, or have received over-exposure of White beauty ideal on tv. But please remember that it's the culture one is raised up in that shapes up one's perception of beauty. For instance, in a Romanian village, a woman with moustache is highly coveted and desired. In Nepal, women who are short and voluptuous are more desirable than skinny tall women. Of course, here in the US, every guy wants skinny-tall women. The unlucky guys are probably short, pathetic and undesirable themselves, like most Asian men, the types that would date anybody(and probably anything, lol) due to their frustration. "Most Nepali guys have such big egoes...not with white girls, for whom they can wag their tails and be ready to nail even the most supersized one" Asian men don't have much chance with white women. Read above. It's also very true for South Asians ...South Asian women have a greater chance to land a White spouse than South Asian men, who are usually short and ugly. |
| Casey00 | Posted
on 29-Feb-04 08:34 AM
Thanks for your info nepaliangel...I have been reading ur posts here and there for a while now..and I have realised that you talk more like a guy than a girl...very ironic to your user name..Oh well...have fun disguising yourself.... |
| nepali_angel | Posted
on 29-Feb-04 09:15 AM
Oh? Girls talk a certain way and guys talk a different way? That's rubbish. There was a site I came across once that was based on a function developed by some scientist to figure out male vs female communication differences. I copied and pasted many different articles from the washington post, ny times, etc to see whether it would truly separate the male from the female. It didn't work. Casey, this is the second time you have tried to rile me up. Please, next time just ignore me. I certainly will ignore you if you have nothing productive to say. |
| casey00 | Posted
on 29-Feb-04 09:39 AM
woa...I don't know man..I believe that there will some differences between male and fem communications skills...anyway it was gut feelings and I think I am right!!!!.. But if you really what I think you are then why don't you be who you are? Enuff said..Just a thought. P.S the score is casey 3, nepaliangel 0.lol |
| south | Posted
on 29-Feb-04 09:48 AM
I agree with nepali angel. it is always easier for girl to find a date than for a boy in any caste or race. i agree avg nepali guys are about 5'6. i am also 5'8 which is quite short as compared to avg white here. but what is the avg ht of nepali girls?? ok i agree avg nepali guys do nt have very good physique, how about avg nepali girls?? i think your data is right as i hardly see white male dating black women, but i can see quite a few black guys dating white women. as far as nepali girl/guys are concerned, they changed after coming here in usa. i dont think we will find more than 5% nepali who are interested in marrying white male/female in nepal but this perventage might be more than 50% in case of those who are staying in usa. i am not sure how successful are these relationship will be as we nepali people are not in big number here so may be we do nt have statistics about this. if you have please post here. they( nepali guy/girl) might get attarcted |
| eNigma_too | Posted
on 29-Feb-04 11:50 AM
nepali_angel, you are totally anti-immigrant, you think nepali men are inferior to their white counterpart, you have the notion that bahuns are superior to others in nepal...I don't understand why do you take the trouble to come to this site at all. After all, you only find short, pathetic, ugly and undesirable nepali men here, don't you ? I am sure you will have a much better time in yahoo/msn messenger, turning on your webcam and watching tall, handsome, and smart white men jerking off, or more better, go to white supremacist site and post your suggestion and comments. For the whitewashed brain you have, they will surely love to have you amongst them. If white men are more desired by asian women( as you say), I think its because of the notion that you develop watching too much Hollywood movies, where they are glorified to a preposterous extent. Media has a strong part in it, and the presumption that you build up based on such predisposed exposure. It is a know fact how media plays an important part in building up opinion. Black makes us think of violence, Chinese people, we automatically assume they know kung-fu, Jews, we assume he must be a millionaire, Arabs and we treat him as a terrorist. Make no mistake, this is also partly human nature’s doing. If all the western tv / radio station, magazine and news paper are shut down and the western public are bombarded continuously with asian soap opera, talk show, reality shows, fashion, music and movies, I won’t be surprised if nepali_AW / WM statistic goes the other way round. As about physical traits, you can see it for yourself that Asian men born and raised here are at par with other American, due to the quality nutrition, good health care and darwin’s theory that human body adapt to their environment for their survival (sounds funny though) nepali_angel, do not at all think that I am suggesting that you stop coming to this site (I know I cannot make you do that). We will really miss the amusement that you provide,if you do.. ;-) |
| swabhiman | Posted
on 29-Feb-04 12:04 PM
Hey Bramha, I strongly support that Nepali girls wanna get married with American guy. There are certain reasons: The first reason is that they wanna get GREEN CARD getting married with them. The second reason is American guys are rich so when they get married with them they can have more fun. I have seen in USA that when the Nepali girl come to US to study then they change their world and they wanna be super moderned. They drink, smoke, dance in club(Disco) with venga boys and more......... Also I have seen that most of the nepali girl don't wanna talk to Nepali guy in USA. They feel that they are more advance but Nepali guys are not suitable for them. Tesaile ta bhaninchha: "GREEN CARDKO CHAKKAR LE PACHHAN THAKKAR" |
| mickthesick | Posted
on 29-Feb-04 01:18 PM
.Well so far I've read and understood from whatever has been written above....I get a hint that the South Asians(particularly including Nepalese) are considered just a bunch of nerds or geeks and not even Nepali girls like to date them... You guys should come to Minnesota....lots of Nepali girls dating Pakistani guys...yup...it's true. |
| aakash | Posted
on 29-Feb-04 01:25 PM
I guess nepalese girls who r in state havent met the real nepali guys yet!!! THE REAL ONE!!! |
| porcelina | Posted
on 29-Feb-04 02:03 PM
nepali girls dance with venga boys re?? now thats the worst form of insult... lols!!! its sad most nepali girls would want to be with non-nepali guys, but hey, in the end of the day, its our choice who we want to be with!! |
| thugged out | Posted
on 29-Feb-04 02:18 PM
Someone said, Just so y'all know, baggy pants in an invisible butt looks ridiculous...lol. Uh, you make as much sense as a dog riding a donkey. Fact is baggy pants don't stick with one's skin. Even those with big a$$e$ will have invisible butt when wearing baggy pants. Someone else said, South Asian men, who are usually short and ugly. Uh, I am 6'3" but you aint' gonna be gettin' a piece of me aight. You probably are 4'10", short dark and ugly like most Nepali chics...ughh you so nasty, woman. |
| Zzed | Posted
on 29-Feb-04 03:08 PM
Nepali angel same goes to you. You must be so short , round, fat and ugly. I bet you want to console your ugliness giving yourself angel nick. |
| Rastafariya | Posted
on 29-Feb-04 05:14 PM
Wow! biraders and sisters. You peopal is both telling true true things. I is totally agrees with you peopal. It them true all them Ok Ok looking Nepali girls with Ok Ok brains not wants to hook up with them Ok Ok Looking Nepali boys with Ok Ok brains and them Vice versa. All them nice nice looking Nepali Girls and them very nice nice American girls only wants him Nepali Rasta. |
| hidden_butterfly | Posted
on 29-Feb-04 05:25 PM
hey thats not true..i dont want no rasta |
| p'UNK_316 | Posted
on 29-Feb-04 05:33 PM
Its ironically hilarious!!!!! Born n raised in Ktm, NEPAL, I'm 5'11" and 168 lbs....Its weird but I don't think Americans are exclusively taller than us - some are but they're usually atheletes.......I'm kinda surprised how these pathetic lil' b****es are making every effort to humiliate NEPALI guys...I wonder why??....Yes, there are short guys, but there are short gals too........For all those concerned, U think all nepali guys are short n ugly...., hey!!!! look @ u or ur any nepali gal fren', God!! U're so tall with curves in your body n o'course, bootylicious!!!?? (BullS**t) Nepali_(ANGEL)(??at least u think u are), U must be tall, slim and hot and dating all the hot white guys (or U wish u were!!!!), Telluwat???? Who gives a Damn???? We got BETTER options.....Later!!! PEACE ~~"where the circle ends - "Thursday" " |
| mEEra | Posted
on 29-Feb-04 05:49 PM
So Hari Bahadur has come to the US, he has become Harry. Harry went to community college and could not study and is now working in a gas station. Harry has the all important "green card". Harry has done all the right things, he has the paper, has a job that he works 12 hours per day @6 dollar per hour but does not understand why he does not get Nepali girls to marry. After all he has the paper for god's sake; and he considers himself "cool". Those damn nepali chicks all bigreko (spoilt rotten). Why????? Because they go to the clubs. How did he know that, well he goes to the club everynight and sees them there. Of course its ok for him to go to the clubs, he is a MAN, they are girls that too NEPALI. Hence all "bigreko". Of course he had asked them out but no one had agreed so suddenly the nice girls of yesterday has become "bigreko" today. He does not understand why Hira has many girls running after him. After all, he is no better. He has a job in a computer industry but earns only a bit more than Hari. Hira is a "lata", why? because whenever he goes to anyone's house he offers to help them cut the vegetables or clean up. "Kasto Mula" thinks Harry, we are MEN, we don't help in household. Those are WOMEN's job. Girls should do ALL the housework, our mothers did, so why can't these woman do. Harry has decided to go to Neapl flap his "Green Card" around and claim he is a doctor. He will have mothers begging him to marry their dayghter. He has decided to marry a girl who will fast in his name and touch his feet every morning. Of course if he beats her up, she will consider it her duty and bow her head down. He can't do that to the girls who has gone to college here. Usually men who treat their female friends with consideration get PLENTY of girls. Its only people like Harry who do not get ANY girls, much less a nepali. And they will be the one to complain that Nepali girls do NOT look at us. What I don't understand is what is the BIG thing of marrying a Nepali girl or a Nepali guy. Someone might say to "preserve the culture". What exactly is preserving the culture? Could someone define it. On yes I do have this NEPALI friend who has so far always maiintained a 4.00 GPA (wonder how she does that), is active in the college and also in the community. She has made the Nepalis proud. Did I add that she loves to go clubbing!!! I would much rather to be like her and be called "bigreko" than some chick who stays at home and has no potential in the job market. Did someone add that Nepali girls want to marry Americans because they are rich. As far as I remember most of my friends are taking loans and going to college. For marrige people should definitely look at other factors besides height, weight, skin color, nationality, race, ethnicity, caste, blah blah. I have noticed from direct observation that people who talk bash Nepali girls/ guys are the ones who do not get any, hence resort to bashing. My two cents worth of advice :-) |
| sankaa | Posted
on 29-Feb-04 06:07 PM
Nepali Angel ji, looks liek your "envelope licking" job is going really slow lately.Thats why you have so much time to look bullshit researches in the web. And of course, as being a Nepali and an anti immigration Nepali, licking/living in the USA you have all the privillages and you have a detail knowledge on everything in the world, you're a smartee... and that give you the privillage to bash on Nepali guys, you think so , don't you??? .. well, wat do you and other Nepali girl who desires tall hollywood guys think of yourself? do you think you were given birth by white Americans in Nepal while we were given birth by Nepalies parents.. ? thats whyt you are so tall, slim, pretty, and what not.. and we all are ugly and short.. haha.. well, i personally am not so good looking and tall,i'm only 5'9" but i do get a lot of white chix...and tell you what.. they are lot better than most nepali girls in the usa..to be honest i find them more trustable than a nepai girl, and of course they are much much more desirable.. meera.... looks like you have become mary yourself?? so go marry harry.. wow it kinda rhymes.. 'mary" go marry harry'...and i say why not... Harry has papers.. and you do need papers.. today us companies don't give a dyammmm even if you have 4.0 gpa.. they want permanent resident - most preferably us citizens.. I'm sure, Harry will get lots of girls.. and that story is a big b.s ....and if the story is real then why don't you put his phone number in here.. some ugly ass Nepali might get lucky by him....that would make her life easier than finding a deshi... bottom line: most Nepai girls in the usa are ugly.. and not only that but big nast fake attitude that makes them look even worse.... |
| mEEra | Posted
on 29-Feb-04 06:31 PM
Harry I changed your name and posted your story, you said I could (remember!!!!!!!!) If you do want to argue then I am more than ready to do so, but in a LOGICAL manner, pleaseeeeeeeeeee!!!!!!!! For all those interested, I have NOT changed my name to anything. I am PROUD to be Meera Thapa. And yes I do have the necessary papers, no I did not get them by marrying anybody!!!!!! Even had I done that, its none of your business. I repeat again no people are ugly physically, UGLY is as UGLY does or says!!!!!!!!!! Next time I am not going to reply politely, Mr. Sankaa you bore the hell outtta me, YYYYYAAAAWWWWWWNNNNNNNN !!!!!! |
| sankaa | Posted
on 29-Feb-04 06:46 PM
hahahah meera, you're acting like jeeera ,but thats ok.. i love spicy stuff... and meera, you married me; Harry, to get those papers in the first place, remember?? sorry, you told me to not tell anyone but since you disclosed my secrets .... ahhhhh.. i thought i might as well tool.... So meera , next time you're not going to be nice to me.. huh?/ what are you gonna do? bomb on me?? haha.hhahaha you said my post was boring, so what is yours.. a pathetic -piece of wothless story that you created in your mind; an example of perfect patheticness as a result of your attitude which makes you think that a Typical Nepali guy in the USA works in a gasstation and can't find a girl to get married with.. meera thapa... bring you're dumb.. you know that?? or is it simply that time of the month for you baby? |
| sankaa | Posted
on 29-Feb-04 06:47 PM
logical manner?? hahah my asss.. like your story was of any logic anyway.. Anyway, if youw ant logical , i'm all up for it.. bring it on meera rana, oppsss. mira thapa.... |
| oys_chill | Posted
on 29-Feb-04 08:17 PM
"Preserving the culture" ******************* "You look familiar. Where are you from originally?" "Oh! My parents are Nepalis. I am from here" :). AMEN! "You used to walk with your male friends with arms around????????" AMEN! "..I was like asking him, and he was like I don't understand you. So I was like FK YOU..and he was like SORRY. So I was like LOSER! and he hung up. What a jerk. So I broke up. Can't stay with such insensitive person." AMEN! "...Myan this is life. Booze, sex and rock n roll..OOPS! I mean, booze, sex and HIP HOP. So come on over and shake some booty!! AMEN! and my sentimental favourite, "I don't wan to hurt you in the long run...." Meera jyu, of course there are many other ways to preserve our culture too :) As for me, josle jata sukai, jo sukai bihe garos....i can't say who's wrong or who's rite, nor can i make anyone convice what's the right choice. Afno ta eutai bichar cha...sunkoshi ko bagar ma suntali sanga settle down garne...macha marne, kheti pati garne, dukha sukha badne tyo angrezi ma k bhancha ni..OLD OLD FASHIONED! STuck clock ...but even the stuck clock is rite twice a day :) |
| mEEra | Posted
on 29-Feb-04 08:38 PM
Oys pal that was some humor there!!! That brightened my day!!!!!!!! I was explaining to the whole world that Harry is a true character. If people do not believe it, I don't care, not anymore at least. A certain somebody pointed out that I am stereotyping Harry. Maybe I did that unconsciously, someone even said I am "proud". hehe! Proud of what??????????? I do have tons of friends who work in gas station. It was just that Harry's was a true story and that came to my mind automatically because he happens to be my close friend. If I was offered a job in a gas station, I would gladly work there. The POINT I want to make here is STOP hating Nepali people be it guy or a girl. How come not one people in the chat room mention HIRA. The moral of my story was if u want a Nepali girl, treat each female with consideration. People can take the story anyway they want to. |
| ladybug | Posted
on 29-Feb-04 08:41 PM
The picture of Father Watrin in dhaka topi - credit to ashu dai's post, can be refered to when talking about being American and Nepali. what is being American? What makes you think you are better because you are a nepali? what does it mean to be a nepali? are you true to your words? i see mEEra has some bitter truth in her thread and some ppl got bitterly offended by her, why? |
| casey00 | Posted
on 29-Feb-04 08:44 PM
I like your story Meera...totally agree with what you are trying to say..all you haters could so is be jealous..go Meera..u rock!!...LUV YA GIRL. |
| u_day | Posted
on 29-Feb-04 09:27 PM
mEEra and oys! I highly doubt if anybody else will get what I am gonna say now, but I'm pretty sure that you guys will get it. WHO CARESSS ???? WHO F** ING CARESSSSS?????????? WHO CARES IF HARI BECOMES HARRY OR JYOTI BECOMES JO. I'm sure harry or jo would not have guts to ask you out for date. Even if they did, you wouldn't go out with ABCN like them, would you? |
| sajha sathi | Posted
on 29-Feb-04 09:55 PM
good discussion but kudos to meera, couldn't have agreed more |
| Gunnda | Posted
on 29-Feb-04 10:20 PM
Haina tan-man mile pachi khairi na kaali. What is so big deal about it? All nepali girls are not good looking like all white girls are not too. And same thing with Nepali guys. We nepalis love to kneel down when it comes to bashing . Ma ta gaye ba. Peace out |
| south | Posted
on 29-Feb-04 10:57 PM
i agree with meera, but do we nepali guys think like we need girl who always work in kitchen? are we still in that age?? these days i guess every nepali guy wants workign girl not in kitchen but in some profession. i think we should nt always think like nepali guys likes girls who are (lajayera khutta dhogne, kitchen ma jaane khale), at least i do nt beleive this and i want a girl who is equally capable like me. i dont like one thing about nepali girl, they never try to believe if we say so, why they can nt change their thinking like, ok now time has changed so these new generation guys are not like we used to heard from our grandparents. nepali girls should nt compare the situation of about 50 yrs ago to now. and nepali guys/girls both should think that since we both are educated enough and know about how the world is changing, we should nt think like only i have changed but this guy /girl is same and he/she does nt kknow about this and that. for me i like nepali girl most. |
| divdude | Posted
on 29-Feb-04 11:49 PM
If the girls want to marry some white blokes or blacks , it is just the matter of their preference and no one can take anything away from them. But there is something we should not forget, out roots. We should not forget that we are from the country with the dreadest of the situation. We all suffer common disadvantages just because we are Nepalese. Just remember how hard you tried to go abroad to have a better life for yourself. And you should feel proud for what you achieved being from an underpreviliged nation such as Nepal. Also take pains to remember what you were when back home and what were your dreams and try to realise whether you made the mess of the dream or you are really living it. I really do not think that your dreams before you came here was to bash each other like this. Of course man has to change with time and circumstances but at the end of day you are the same Nepalese who loves curry, knows the family values, and thinks deeply about the country and its people. There has been lot of talk about the physical stuffs here. Physical thing is something which you cant have control over, nature decides it. The thing that makes up the real character in the human is what he aquires after he comes to earth. And it is the character that you aquire after you come to earth that makes you realise the importance of relations and social values. And to build up a character the prevailing social structure has lot to do. As our culture suggests men are made for some particular tasks and women for some. This is extremely deep rooted thing and only a Nepali can understand it. Of course all are allowed to have discontentment over it but this is only going to change with time, but be assured it will change because symmetery is the rule of nature and symmetery leads to stability so things will undergo rapid changes unitl the final state of equililbirium is attained. We being Nepalese are in best place to understand this, so lets give a shot at it. I know that I am really sounding like an old Nepali professer but couldn't help it. We are the people who suffer from the hazards of racism. And if we keep this racism for each other we can imagine where our country is heading towards, you all being supposedly elites of Nepal.Personally these things really hurt me. It doesn't matter who marries who or who dates who but lets not loose the respect for our own fellow Nepalese. Cheers Div |
| ProudNepali | Posted
on 01-Mar-04 12:22 AM
Hey Meera! I agree your story (in your language a Biography) was a thoughtful one. But "PLEASEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE" not all the Nepali Guys work in Gas stations?? Not all of us CHANGE our NAMES. NOt all of us go to CLUBS (every-single-night). not all of us prefers girls who are totallly somuch like traditional Nepali woman. Not all of us like over-fashioned 21st century women either. NOT all of us marry for G.C. Not all of us run after white girls or pretty girls? Not all of us charm about the Beautiful ones (there's more than the physical appearance). So not all of us (not in majority) are ill minded-arrogant-illiterate-lowpayed-Loosers?? Similarly NOT all the Nep-girls are good-literate-classy-highpros-honest-decents. And miss I know plenty of Nep-girls/women who also work in Gas stations. Who also changed their nicks. Who do not go to schools/colleges. Who also run after non-nep folks for the sake of MONEY$$/GC. Who goes to clubs by themselves (not saying they are BIRGREGO but just telling the fact ). Who are lowly payed. ................. BUT that doesn't meant All the girls/women are like that. One single/individual or few individuals cannot be a representative of mass. Similarly that Hari/Harry of yours cannot be the Representative of all the Nep-guys out here. So DO NOT --Never assume-- assume that Your story (biography) will be Universally accepted. NO wonder WHY SANkA will get mad at you. It's fairly clear. If you take those kind of issues to be the moral of all the Nep-folks yOU will definitely face criticisms along the way with some appreciations. NO big deal. And as U_DAY BRO says who CARES?? What's wrong with working anywhere?? If he/she works his ass off to earn his $$$$S he is the sole authority figure to spend his money in his/her own will. Whatever he/she likes? why the hell should it be a problem OR EVen A mATTER oF CONCERN/DIScuSsion to anyone else?? None has right to judge anyone Unless he/she had done any harm. Everyone here makes his/her onw fortune/destiny. So none should be talking about him/her. Not all the Nepali cultures are so good. Neither are the Western. We do not have to follow Nepali Cultures just because we were born NEpali. Nor do we have to follow the Western ones just because we are in the foreign lands. Whatever fits good we act accordingly. yeah I do agree that we have to make an effort to preserve our cultures. But if our cultures are that good (most of them are... at least to me) they will of course be followed. We need not to force ourselves or anyone else for/against anything. This much for now. JAI NEpal :P.S. (Meera please do not take it personally-- I see what you are trying to say but you gotta agree with me too. Let me know if there is any confusion) |
| sankaa | Posted
on 01-Mar-04 01:11 AM
Oh thanks Proud Nepali, I’m glad that at least one Nepali knows what's going on in here, and he can think with his cool mind without getting carried away from meera's crocodile tears from her latest post. Meera, now i understand you better too. I think you were trying to say something else with your story, which I still don’t know what. Sorry to say, but your story was so bogus and irreverent to the subject mater that it totally represented stereotyping and degradation to the hard working Nepali guys in the USA. It gives an idea that you think most Nepali guys(if not all) are gas station working, community college going, pathetic – losers who gets green card some how and can’t find a Nepali chic to get married with – kind of people. Good thing you posted another message and made clear that you do not think like that. Although i still think somewhere in my mind that you actually wrote that post to make fun of Harry and hard working Nepali ppl but since lots of ppl got mad , i think you're trying to twist the idea and make it seem different that what it was meant for in the first place. However, since i can only judge you by what you write here and since you sound like you didn't mean to offend Nepai brothers , from reading your latest message, i give you a benifit of doubt. But if you're right, what are we supposed to understand if you post a stupid story like that? Now we can’t just read your mind… I found the story very offending. A Nepali working in a gestation, and did you say 12 hours everyday, for $6 an hour?? It’s a sad story. And I think the guy is real hard working if that is right. you said, he is your friend? You should be proud of Harry meera. BTW, as you clamed up there in you first post, has he officially changed his first name or in order to make your post little zesty you made that up? Anyway, I think a nice Nepali girl should like a hard working guy like Harry rather than a bad Hollywood representation white-frat punk in her University. While trying to make it sound interesting and sophisticated, I think, it got out of your reach and became a stereotypical and a disturbing post. I’m glad that you posted your latest message clarified that you actually don’t mean like that. I hope in future you will at least try to be responsible for what you write. I’m very sorry if I sound harsh, please do not take it personally. I didn't like your idea but i like you..I hope you can take it as a mature -educated lady who can take straight out comments... take care Your Nepali brother, Sankaa |
| mEEra | Posted
on 01-Mar-04 08:31 AM
Hey hey hey, you guys are getting toooooo serious. Cheer up. Life is too beautiful, yesterday many people were nasty must be the leap year fever. I just stated some fact and made people really mad, "Truth hurts!!!!" No I ain't gonna apologise, at least no more. I am just in toooooooo happy a mood to argue with anyone further. Must be those happy genes acting up again. ProudNepali, I read what u wrote and yes I got what you are trying to say, I agree with you. I know all KINDS of Nepali people and no I am not stereotyping. If anyone thinks I am then I don't care. Just wrote what I saw. U_Day, I am half in love with you pal :-) Sankaa bro, shake hands. hehe!!!!!! Its been some time since I last shed CROCODILE tears, hehe, but if you don't shake hands I will shed them. Maybe I should officially change my name to Mary, lol, and marry Harry, hehe, this is really cracking me up, lol, that would set an example. Ok its just too beautiful outside, I am going for a walk. Peace. Copying your dilogue Brahma, Om Shanti Shanti. |
| SITARA | Posted
on 01-Mar-04 09:36 AM
So.... What's wrong with marrying a foreigner? What's wrong with going/not going to clubs? What's wrong with being a housewife? What's wrong with desiring to remain single? What's wrong with not having a college education? What's wrong with working at a gas station/restaurant or even a public bathroom? Has anyone heard of "dignity of honest labour"? NOTHING!!!! In the final analysis you are your own keeper and accountable to only yourself(morally)! To make a disparaging comment on another's lifestyle is nothing short of delusional. |
| pushplay1 | Posted
on 01-Mar-04 11:59 AM
Boys are whackin’ gals and gals are whackin’ boys. Amazin’, you guys love doin’ that, don’t u? BTW, who started this thread? “Gals in US prefer foreigners.” Hahahahaha lemme ask somethin’ to whoever started this thread, is this Ur desperate complaint? I am usually not a customer of this sajha but every once in a while I check this site to see if I can find some humorous postings and lmao yo people deliver it. Last time I read, somebody was givin’ facts about % of Asian gals datin’ white males is greater than Asian males datin’ white females. Hmmmmmmmm… I believe it was NepaliAngel, pay heed to wot I write naw. In that category of Asian gals, Nepalese don’t even account 0.000000000000001%. Although % of Asian males datin’ white females is comparably less, the numbers of males are almost equally distributed from different parts of Asian countries. (i.e.; China, India, Nepal, Sri lanka, Bangladesh…) However, when you say Asian gals it mostly accounts from China, Vietnam, India, Japan etc. Chinese-Americas are stereotyped as Asians by these Americans followed by Vietnamese-Americans, Japanese-Americans, Indian-Americans … Lastly, NepaliAngel you did the research but forgot to scrutinize. |
| nepali_angel | Posted
on 01-Mar-04 02:27 PM
Pushplay, did I forget to scrutinize, or did other people forget to scrutinize me? Now think about it. Indian Americans are stereotyped as asians? No, most people don't even think of Indian Americans as Asians even though it is in South Asia. When people say something to the effect of "Asians are hot" they don't mean Indians, but rather Chinese or Japanese women. When they want to point out that they think Indians are hot, they would say, "I think Indians are hot". Now Nepali is one of them hot spots where people can look like either, so to me it appears to be a moot issue. Some would be stereotyped as Asians, whereas some others won't be. A smart guy would have said that the statistics were only true for East Asians, not for South Asians. However, a teeny fact to keep in mind is that interracial marriage among Indian Americans is about 30%. The points made in the article would actually be true for South Asian Americans also because of the fact that south asian men are usually meek, nerdy and not muscular. I never implied that the article was about Nepalis, now did I?? What I said was, "Most Nepali women don't even go out on a date, much less want to marry an American man" However, if you don't think Nepali Americans have a higher rate of interracial marriage than those raised in Nepal, then I don't know what you've been smoking. Furthermore, I extended the points in the article and applied it to Nepali interracial relationships, among Nepali Americans. I don't think I missed by a long shot either. Like my spin? |
| aakash | Posted
on 01-Mar-04 03:55 PM
kids! fighting over nothing! |
| ProudNepali | Posted
on 01-Mar-04 07:29 PM
Pushplay brother and Nepali-Angel Sis/friend.... Both of you stop it guys. Let's not argue on that issue again. You guys have some misunderstanding here. If you guys Resolve it out of sajha it might be a smart idea to do so. If not possible say good things to each other or do not write offensively againt each other and anyone. That will certainly help. Hell there might be people who might enjoy people fighting here in Sajha. But that will make this beautiful a hell for sure. So, try to make friends if you can. IF not do not develope enmity at the least. I have nothing to do with either of you guys but I judged it won't hurt to Jot down few good words here. We are all Nepali and it's sad that we are divided at times even in this little community (little.....i might be wrong Sajha is BiGGGG) Jai Nepal and god blesses us all |
| HairyPotter | Posted
on 01-Mar-04 11:02 PM
Here is what I propose ! Lets have a get together party which all the participants of this discussion will attend. Let it also be a medium to resolve our grudges and clear any misconception we have of each other. Who knows we might end up with few couples !! I personally would love to meet nepali_angel....muuuuuahhh \|||/ (o o) ooO-(_)-Ooo-------- |
| pushplay1 | Posted
on 02-Mar-04 12:10 AM
Holy shit your writin’ is so fragmented that I say boooooooooooooooooooo… Conclusions are on top and facts and body at the bottom and btw you are lost in interpreting those research of yours. Or may be after reading your posting ma English got worse hahahhah. "Frankly, I am not surprised that the majority of Nepali girls wanna marry Americans" Absolutely true, but only for Asian Americans. Most Nepali women don't even go out on a date, much less want to marry an American man. Furthermore, interracial dating is usually between a WHITE man and an Asian woman, not White woman and Asian man. The reasons are obvious. Nepali guys on average are only about 5'6" tall, which is considered to be midget height in the good ol' US of A. As Steve from Isteve points out: The above whole thing shadowed is by you nepaliangel, what do you wanna point out with it, truthfully it doesnot make any sense at all. You are just throwing sentences out of nowhere. "American guys are in general a lot better looking than most Nepali guys" What bout Americans gals are lot better looking than most Nepali gals? Whats up with that most Nepali guys have egoes and Asian guys don’t stand a chance with white women? Furthermore, I cant believe you are throwing such a futile words in order to win this pathetic argument. You implying nepali guys as ugly and short really depicts how dim witted you are. Its no big deal for any asian male or female to get a white female or male. Its about how hot white male or female he/she can get? |
| bhanja | Posted
on 02-Mar-04 12:39 AM
Sometime truth hurts but if you keep the truth then you are not being fair to people.Wel, here it goes.I have often seen lots of White man with Asian gals and only about 1/10 of them looks pleasing to eyes.So my friend you be the judge and keep a look out for Asian ladies with White man in future. 
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| mildseven | Posted
on 02-Mar-04 08:23 AM
I like white women more than Nepali girls. Not because nepali girls are uglier in general but because I am too used to seeing nepali women. all my life, everyday, nepali women all around, in the day, at night, dreams and now nightmares, everywhere man, same old nepali girls. scary. now i am in the US, the girls are DIFFERENT here so I like them, and the same must be true for the white boys. they must be bored of the same old white chiks. so they see some nepali girls and like them, the same girls I wouldnt give a second look to. so in the US, the nepali girls see that nepali guys dont give a sh*t about them, instead they run after white girls, while the white boys absolutely love them, thats why they are pissed off with us and act snobby, and put the blame on us to justify it. and also act as White as they can (which is quite funny at times) so they can keep atracting white guys and feel good about themselves. its all natural. |
| MadMax | Posted
on 02-Mar-04 11:34 AM
In my humble opinion, Nepali dating/marrying American (mostly White) could be of the following 3 reasons: 1. Marriage of convenience: a. Green card b. Financial security - American are already well-settled here (but not implying all white are rich). c. Social status 2. Opposite poles attract each other: a. Nep Girls find White boys (usally taller, muscular, light skinned) more attractive. b. Nep boys find White girls attractive for more-or-less same reason (tall, slender, light skinned, etc). 3. Zenophobia: Nep guy/gals, after living in the U.S. for several years, might associate themselves to the mainstream American Society (usually White). Thus they prefer to living among the white and/or marry whites. They may perceive other Nepalis as "Fresh off the boat" and thus shun their own people. Please shoot your comments. |
| MadMax | Posted
on 02-Mar-04 11:35 AM
Correction: Zenophobia should be XENOPHOBIA. |
| nepali_angel | Posted
on 02-Mar-04 11:52 AM
Madmax, those are some good reasons, IMHO. Pushplay, I am not writing an essay, but only venting out my opinion. Someone who sounds so fresh off the boat should not try to nitpick someone else's English. Let me tell you why: "The above whole thing shadowed is by you nepaliangel, what do you wanna point out with it, truthfully it doesnot make any sense at all Firstly, "The above whole thing" sounds so fresh off the boat.Secondly, you don't fuse a question and a statement. Thirdly, you're so stupid that even a 2 year old kid would have understood that my post pertained to male competition for females( and vice versa, if applicable) in the United States, taking into account the effects of interracial relationships, and my ruminations on how it would apply to Nepalis, specifically Nepali Americans. Fourth, stop nitpicking my post like I am writing a paper, for that was not my objective. You have failed deeply because you seem to have horrendous English yourself. Learn to read the whole thing before you start yapping like a chimp. I repeat: READ THE WHOLE THING. Are you the type of retard who would enter a "no entry zone" because you only happened to read "Enter", instead of the whole "Do not Enter" warning? Oh, and I would like to congratulate you. Henceforth, you will be known as Sajha's Retard. "Furthermore, I cant believe you are throwing such a futile words in order to win this pathetic argument" "Such a futile words", hahaha. I am sorry pushplay, but you are not worth my time. You're too dumb. I don't correct someone's English unless (s)he really asks for it. Hope you learned your lesson, fool. |
| ProudNepali | Posted
on 02-Mar-04 12:01 PM
BRO Pushplay Don't PUSH it any further. NEpali-Angel 'shower' him with the Angelical' wisdoms. YOu GUys gotta cHill OUT. I agree with YOU MADmAX bro... you got it right. THere might be some exceptions (I am one of them he he) but the THEORY REmains the same. I give you High TEN mAN. Jai Nepal. (gora haru ni ketai hO, Gori hau ni KEti. KE Ko Jaat Vaat/ranga/barna/aakar ko kura garne? Jasali je manparchha.. parooss) |
| ProudNepali | Posted
on 02-Mar-04 12:05 PM
BHANjA KO SIC pacs rahechha ni. LA aba NEpali/American/African/european/latino........... ko kera gura garnu timi lai ta outerspace ka harule pani maan parauchha. You got high TEN TOO. ( I am working out to get those pacs too) |
| Nepali_hoina | Posted
on 02-Mar-04 02:47 PM
MadMax and others: Be careful about oversimplifying anything that deals with relationships between people. Not everything is black and white (or green or blue etc.). To give only 3 reasons that any Nepali woman would marry someone... Is this how you think of Nepali women? Are they so easily classified that you can fit all of them into one of those groups? What about those Nepali women marrying Nepali men? How many reasons are there for that? I guess my point is that by saying Nepali women (or white, black, etc) marry for your reasons, you are placing them into categories. Btw, none of those categories are very flattering: (1) Convenience: Money-minded -- a user. (2) Opposites attract: Maybe. But opposites often divorce, too. (3) Xenophobia: Not all Nepali women want to be American. Some love the Nepali culture, too. It is not good to categorize people. I've known Nepali women, I've known white women. If you don't look at their color, they are the same. |
| u_day | Posted
on 02-Mar-04 02:55 PM
People !!! Why are we even discussing about who dates/mates/marries who? This is a free country. Anybody can marry anybody (as long as they are of different sex). So, why are you guys still steriotyping people based on their decisions? Why? Why? Why? ( Now guys, don't say,"beccause I am a boy" aight) |
| sankaa | Posted
on 02-Mar-04 04:20 PM
U_day, it's not about who wants to marry who, it's about Nepali guys in the USA getting degraded for thier physical and economical status by no one else but from the girls who are also born and raised in Nepal from Nepali parents.If you haven't been reading the earlier messages in the thread ,please do that. bTw, in certain states , same sex ppl can get married too, no? for eg: HI and MA?? Ya, Nepali, American, chiness , mexi.. whatever -whoever can marry whoever .. don' t give a dyammnnn but ppl should not generalize an entire race because of thier bad lucks... okie,, later tata |
| mEEra | Posted
on 02-Mar-04 05:22 PM
Hehe, this thread is still going strong! lol I still want to convey the same message that I wanted to do in my first post : Nepalis do NOT have to marry a Nepali and if Nepalis men/women complain that Nepalis do not look at them and instead marry people from other country then the fault solely lies with the one who complain no the one who marry people from another country! And last but not the least, no people is ugly, ugly is as ugly does. Hope I have not started another 3rd World War, the last one was fun but kinda exhausting :-) |
| south | Posted
on 02-Mar-04 06:31 PM
Marriage is big step in anyone's life. So if nepali girls/boys prefer marrying foreigners then they must have thought about it well. some likes to marry nepali guys or girls and some wants to marry with foreigner. there can be many factors in his /her part. I do nt think all americans are rich and have very good life. america is a rich country, no doubt, but what i heard is that about 10% of richest american earn same amount of money that of other 90% of americans. so here too, we have same problem like back in nepal, it is really difficult to survive for middle class/ lower middle class people with good life standards comparing american standards. i do nt know the current per capita income of americans, it might be around 26-30 thousands dollars per year, which i believe is really low to have good life in usa. think about rent, utilities bills, insurances, and all. i have nt talked about tuition fee of thier kids. I was talking with my american friend last week about how you guys pay your tuiton bill and how much parents support you and all. he said, the area i live is metropolitan area, and according to him only 50% kids go to high school in this whole county because of drug and all, kids are so much into drugs. he said his parents are paying for him, i foudn out he was from rich family as he talked about his family business, but that guy know very well about many other students who take loans to study and accordint to him the loan go up to $50,000 when tehy graduate. and another incident, i was talking with one american who had visited nepal before and he was surprised to hear that i go to this school ( i go to one reputed private school where students have to pay more than 30,000 dollars per year if they want to stay in dorm and have meal plan excluding scholorships). he was like you are from such a por country and you are studying in suich a expensive school, and he added it is even very difficult to send my kids in taht school. the point i wanted to mention here is, even average americans ca nt send their kids to very expensive and top schools so we can nt assume al americans are rich. suppose one guy earn 50 k per year, and after tax how much he wil get, about 36k i guess ( i am not sure i am assuming 30% as one guy told me) so from 36 k he has to maange his living and food, insurances and other bills, so how can he send kids to school whose fee is about 30000 per year, it is very very difficult for them too. i do nt believe in marrying a girl/ guy just for the sake of green card and i am never gonna do that. as i mentioned earlier marraige is very big step and this decision can nt be made frequently. so it is very necessary to choose right person to get married. that person could be nepali or foreigner, if one think like he /she is good for him /her then fine. we are nepali so sometime we might think like he /she is accepted to our parents or not, for me that also matters. and meera wrote somethign like nepali guys work in gas station 12 hrs a day and all. i can nt understand one thing, well nepali girls are also from nepal so they also work here to make some money and pay bills. if nepali guys work so hard to pay bills and all, then definitely nepali girls also do the same. i do nt think here all nepali girls get scholorship and all nepali boys get nothing in the name of scholorships. we nepali do work hard during summer, as you said may be even 12 hrs a day , but this is nto true all year around. nepali guys are in all types of schools from ivy league to community colleges, youi name it, stanford, mit, harvard, upenn, cornell, to top tier, 2nd tier, 3rd tier, 4th tier, community colleges, liberal art colleges in all tiers. and i am sure nepali girls are also in almost all kinda colleges. if nepali guys are not good looking or physically not so strong as comapred to whites then same goes to nepali girls too. well i have noticed one thing, new generation of nepali are taller than old generation ( our parents generation). about partying and all, i think it is still difficult for nepali girls to hangout in late night in nepal because of family restriction but it is not so much for boys, so girls might nt have done such kinda fun in nepal and wanted to have such experinces here so thats all. partying and having fun with friends is good, but we should control ourself or we should be confident about what we do. if we are confident abotu what we do then its all right. |
| sankaa | Posted
on 02-Mar-04 07:03 PM
Good points South.. couldn't agree with you more. Well no offense to anyone but looks like ppl here are not gettin' what was the main argument here and and how it started. This thread is not about Nepali men getting jelouse or mad because Nepali girls are not looking for them. Majority of the earlier messages written here by the guys are in response to some of the rude steriotyping messages by some of the Nepali sisters. Sadly but truly some of the sisters here think that brown ppl worth nothing more than to be flushed, or Nepali ppl are short and ugly and midget catagories, not to fire that controversal "hari" to "harry" story of a struggling- poor Nepali guy woking in a gasstation again. For the convienience of the people who are too busy or too lazy to look at the whole thread but not too lazy or -not too buzy to write an essay about thier ideas of thier open and liberal ideas.. here are some of the message that would probably give you idea why Nepali brothers got mad, enjoy: Posted on 02-28-04 8:21 AM Reply Nepali Angel ji: Ias a typical Nepali woman hired in a MAJOR corporation to lick envelopes can tell you that if it's white, then it feels right, if it is brown, you flush it down, if it's yellow, it's too mellow, if it's black, then you better go back. Happy with my answer Brahma? ********************************************************* Rose ji: rankly, I am not surprised that the majority of Nepali girls wanna marry Americans. Why not? Most American guys are in general a lot better looking than most Nepali guys. Honestly speaking, in my 23 years of being a Nepali girl, I have never seen a Nepali guy that I can actually call hot, except for one, who grew up in the US. Most Nepali guys are obnoxious, have zero personality and have no idea how to please women (not just physically, but also to make her feel loved, respected and desired). Actually, I think the Nepali guys in Nepal are a little better than the Nepali guys in the US. The Nepali guys in the US are sooooo fake...they try too hard to look and speak American and fail miserably. Just so y'all know, baggy pants in an invisible butt looks ridiculous...lol. ******************************************************** Nepali Angel ji says more: Asian men don't have much chance with white women. Read above. It's also very true for South Asians ...South Asian women have a greater chance to land a White spouse than South Asian men, who are usually short and ugly. ***************************************************** Good Observation here by Nepali Angel ji: Whites are indeed the epitome of beauty, no doubt about it, but only for those raised in the US of A, or have received over-exposure of White beauty ideal on tv. But please remember that it's the culture one is raised up in that shapes up one's perception of beauty. For instance, in a Romanian village, a woman with moustache is highly coveted and desired. In Nepal, women who are short and voluptuous are more desirable than skinny tall women. Of course, here in the US, every guy wants skinny-tall women. The unlucky guys are probably short, pathetic and undesirable themselves, like most Asian men, the types that would date anybody(and probably anything, lol) due to their frustration. ****************** Like i said earlier, the point of mad guys in this thread is not to bash on the physical appreance of Nepali girls but to let them realize that we come from same race, same people, same country and in general we can fall into one catagoriesl; Nepali. If you are exceptanally good looking or desirable , then good for you, however, do not make fun your own race. I personally don't think any Nepali dude is ugly. Hell i don't think anyone in this world is ugly. Even the uglyness is a beauty if looked with good eyes; but it's just me. I never hear any hispanic girl saying white dudes are better looking than beans picking hispanics. I never hear any black lady saying.. white males are so good looking than a "n*****". Everyone loves his/her race. If we think we are ugly than what are others going to say about us? whether he/she is a girl or a girl, he/she is a Nepali. Don't say a Nepali is ugly.. thats all for this thread.. take care my brothers and sisters... Sankaa |
| sankaa | Posted
on 02-Mar-04 07:07 PM
** catagory ** girl or a guy... ... too many freaking mistakes.. i need to go back to 9th grade again...dyamnnn |
| south | Posted
on 02-Mar-04 07:31 PM
i just talked with my classmate (white) about this thing. he was telling me like there are about 40 hot girls in the first floor all whites. they just came here, looks like there is some meeting going on, and i asked him are they all americans?? he said i guess so, they are white. then i thought i should ask this guy whose name is nick about this dating thing and i did. hey nick , i have noticed one thing and curious about this, can you give me the reason why? and he said what is your question. i asked him, i have hardly seen white male dating anyother girl than white (i would say about 90% dont do in my area as i live in one of the most segregated city of usa, where white lives in cetain area, blacks in different area and hispanic lives in different area, very much segregated ) but the number in case of white women dating or just hanging around with non white is higher than white males, why is that? he told me, you are right, but i dont know the answer, but that what it is. may be we are more comfortable with white girls, and all. he was feeling litle bit uncomfortable because he might be thinking like i might say him racist so to make him more comfortable i also told him like i also like nepali girl may be it is because same language and culture, and he agreed. he added, well there are hot girls from outside too, but i dont know i still like white, he went to guatemala last year and he said he found some good lookign and hot girls there. and we all talk abotu nepali are like this racist, well this will slowly convert into non racial system. usa was not like this 40 yrs ago, still there is racial discrimination here, discrimination between white male and white female and discrimination between white and blacks. lot of big companies have sister company whose owner will be monority( white female, blacks, native ameircan) but actual owner wil be the white male, they are doing all this becaue they want to get all kinda work that goes to minority as quota system and get more profit with more and more works. and one more thing , like when i was talkign with fellow classmates, they said till 60's white do nt used to shake hands with blacks and till 70's there used to be different fountain for white and blacks to drink water and different bathrooms for black and whites. is not that amazing? can we believe that? |
| BMW | Posted
on 02-Mar-04 07:33 PM
In addition to Madmax list, how about sex? White males do come bigger than the south asian men, and esp. if you're living in the US, u know the size matters. |
| oys_chill | Posted
on 02-Mar-04 07:37 PM
विनाशकाले, विपरीत बुद्धि!!!!!! यसो गरम न बोरू, यो धागोलाई आ-आफ्नो आमा बुवालाई पठाम ! मलाई अति खल्दुली भो, उहांहरूले के भन्नुहुन्छ :)। अब, "अमेरीकी स्वतन्त्रता" पाउनुभाको छ भनेत मेरो भन्नु केही छैन् त्यो एउता गीत याद आयो "हरीयो डलरले, बिगार्यो कलर" खोई, सुन्तलीलाई धोका दिनु मिलेन, गोरीको मोह मा फसेर । आ-आफ्नो विचारहरू |
| SITARA | Posted
on 02-Mar-04 08:02 PM
Oysko haath ma nariwal : badaar ko hath ma Devnagari!!!! :P Said with lots of lop hai Oys!!! |
| Nepali Kanchi | Posted
on 02-Mar-04 08:56 PM
to add to what Sitara said. what's wrong in being dark? (Naomi Campbell?) what's wrong in being chubby? (take a look at the gorgeous women painted by Rubens) what's wrong with being short? (at 5/2 , even Hollywood consideres Salma Hayek one of the hottest girls out there/ Tom Cruise is 5/6) I dont mean to be giving exceptions to the rule, but still , Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder. there are 20 million nepalis and 6 billion people in the world, mixing is innate, isnt it? |
| oys_chill | Posted
on 02-Mar-04 09:20 PM
सितारा ज्यू! हामी सबै भन्ने हो बने, बांदरकै सन्तान होइनौं र? :) त्यो हरिवंशको लण्डन एरपोर्ट याद आयो "आफैं खैरे छ, मलाई बांदर भन्छ" :) |
| czar | Posted
on 02-Mar-04 09:25 PM
Nepali Kanchi, If you're a dark and Rubenesque 5' 2", there's loads of lads willing to provide you with driving directions to their front door! Cheers ! |
| u_day | Posted
on 03-Mar-04 08:17 AM
Sankaa! Youo wrote >> it's not about who wants to marry who, it's about Nepali guys in the USA getting >> degraded for thier physical and economical status by no one else but from the girls >> who are also born and raised in Nepal from Nepali parents. Dude, I repeat myself again WHY DO YOU CARE? Why do you care what girls think about you (including but not limited to fellow nepali girls with Nepali decendent). Dude, if you try to change yourself in the way they want and make yourself suitable to them, wouldn't that be a lie? You would be lieing to yourself. You are what you are -- luto bhaye pani, moto bhaye pani. If they don't appreciate you then hell with them. There are more fish in the pond. If you still can't find a fish that likes you then go BI and expand your horizon .... hehehe Nepali Kanchi! Why do you have to compare everything to hollywood?? Actually that goes to most of the people in here. Why do we compare ourselves to what we see in screen? Damn! I sound like madmax or mickthestick...:| |
| sankaa | Posted
on 03-Mar-04 09:15 AM
uday, "Dude" why do i care?whats the matter bro, you cant' read or something? at least three messages posted by me has the info: why do i care. well just for you Uday, one more time, i care cuz it's a direct insult to my hard working brothers in the usa. and no one should be insulting hard working Nepali brothers for thier physical appreance or enonomical condition. It's worse when a some Nepali girls who come from same cultural and economical backround like the brothers themselves make fun of them. it's painful to hear what kinda view they have for thier own people. That is why i'm concerned. you said, " Dude, if you try to change yourself in the way they want and make yourself suitable to them, wouldn't that be a lie? You would be lieing to yourself. You are what you are -- luto bhaye pani, moto bhaye pani. If they don't appreciate you then hell with them. There are more fish in the pond. If you still can't find a fish that likes you then go BI and expand your horizon .... hehehe " ---> Now what's this crap. I'm not even talking about myself here. I was just expressing my idea here and opposing the idea that i didn't like. I wasn't gettin any personal to anyone. But you lil' prick had to go down and dirty, don't you? you have to get to the point where you claim me to be a gay or bi or whatever.. "dude" my horizon is expanded already just being a heterosexual. thanks for you suggestion, maybe you can use it yourself so you dont' have to come in here and bash on ppl to ease your frustrations. |
| Nepali Kanchi | Posted
on 03-Mar-04 10:31 AM
u daay, "Nepali Kanchi! Why do you have to compare everything to hollywood?? Actually that goes to most of the people in here.Why do we compare ourselves to what we see in screen?"" U daay ji, I only mentioned hollywood names , b/c most people consider the media(hollywood/bollywood) image of beauty to be the model and basis for comparision. However, Rubens is from Flanders (modern day Benelux) and lived around 1600 AD! Why do we compare ourselves to what we see on screen? Probably b/c medis ia so persuasive in in feeding us fear, consumption, aesthetic values etc. The cosmetic/fashion/movie industry alone is a multi-billion, if not multi-trillion dollar industry! |
| SITARA | Posted
on 03-Mar-04 10:37 AM
Nepali Kanchi: Do you recall the hyped up heros of Mills & Boons being "Tall, dark and handsome"? I used to chuckle whenever a friend discribed a guy as being such. Yes, surely, such hypes are magnified by the media. U_day thank god you are not one of those who looks for Hollywood Goddesses...but what about Bollywood Divas?! :)) |
| SITARA | Posted
on 03-Mar-04 10:40 AM
describes* |
| ProudNepali | Posted
on 03-Mar-04 12:09 PM
Aishwarya Rai Is my height!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You Sanka Bro CALM DOWN man. Go get some water with Ice on it. Bro calm down. MY bro U-Day didn't mean to offend you by any means. MAn he is A GOD DAMN cool Man on earth. He is a very very cool man. Sanka Bro you gotta relax on that. YOu cannot take His points in the other direction. Yes, I do see what your point was and what makes you disappointed. And I had already written on it ONCE before. I see no points to repeat myself here. MEERA's generalization isn't univeral and she had acknowlledged that fact. U-day is saying DON't Care about other's business. LIke who wants to marry whom and why?? OF coure this bro of ours will not tolerate anyone insulting our Nepali brothers or sisters. SO GOT the point. CHILL OUT Bro. THe weather is nice out here. |
| ProudNepali | Posted
on 03-Mar-04 12:12 PM
SOUTh MY hats off to you BRO. I managed to read your first posting. IT was very insightful and very lively. The second one I will read sometime later. Still yoU got that RIGHT man. |
| sankaa | Posted
on 03-Mar-04 12:24 PM
Proud bro...???? i am clamed down :0) |
| u_day | Posted
on 04-Mar-04 04:56 AM
Sitara Jyu, Hollywood ho ya bollywood, duitai wood nai ho. Does it really matter? Raat bhari bale pachi bholi palta kharani huncha. Sankaa, Chill out bro! I didn't mean to call you bi or whatever..... I was just adding some humor in your discussion. I apologize if I offended you in anyway. I just don't know, and don't even wanna know, why yuou feel insulted just because certain nepali girls find white men attractive. (Maybe they don't know that white men can't jump.) Proud bro, Thanks for your support. I am proud of you dude. It's nice to kow that you are proud of me too....lol. Nepali_kanchi, I'm glad you know the value/devalue of media. As for me, I try to stay away from media so that it cannot influence me. good day now. |
| u_day | Posted
on 04-Mar-04 05:10 AM
Gas station ma kaam garera paisa kamau Ya, khairini lai date garera paisa lutau, Tara, yaha aayera mero tauko nakhau. |
| kalabati | Posted
on 04-Mar-04 08:29 AM
Dubai paato ustai dekhin chha haie nepali keta nepali keti khojchhan ani nepali keti(swarch na gasiyeko bhaye) nepali ketai nai khoji ra chhan |
| bhole_babaji | Posted
on 04-Mar-04 10:10 AM
Lots of Nepali girls in India prefer playing around with Indian guys. But they will come back to Nepal to marry a nepali boy. They think if they play around with nepali boys in India later it can be a problem when they want to get married to a decent nepali boy in Nepal |
| dallipokchi | Posted
on 04-Mar-04 03:30 PM
"You would be lieing to yourself" baby it's "lying" and i love you:p....."white boys can't jump".....that's stereotyping.... |
| confused | Posted
on 04-Mar-04 05:57 PM
Ram ram ram hahahah..uday bro le hasaiierra marryo yo post ma.....bro keep it up man..and agree on all the thingss you said..specailly abt that pond thing.. (cant stop laughing dude) "I try to stay away from media so that it cannot influence me" bro you already look like tom cruise..dont matter..;) |
| casey00 | Posted
on 04-Mar-04 08:34 PM
The original question: What do nep girls in US prefer? I think this topic has been hugely misinterpreted..cuz I think the answer is simple... NEP GIRLS IN US PREFER A GUY WHOM THEY THINK THEy CAN BE HAPPY WITH FOR REST OF THEIR LIFE. Now the key word there is HAPPY which can be synonym to so many different desires and materials...such as MONEY, SEX, ..LOOKS etc...I think its for a individual girl to priortize these things and act accordingly...Cuz we all know girls are smart when it comes things like these.. IF the girl was in NEp...things could have been differnet though... Having said that..WHICH GIRL DOESNT WANNA MARRY A SUGAR DADDY WITH ...LOOKS ..AND ALL THAT? ENUFF SAID ;) |
| Brook | Posted
on 05-Mar-04 01:41 AM
This discussion could benefit from the 40 point Declaration of Independence for women proclaimed by the Charitraheen Chelis in the latest issue of Nepalitimes. |
| u_day | Posted
on 05-Mar-04 06:41 AM
Brook! Thanks for your info. It would be great if you can put a link to that proclamation or simply use the same ol' cut 'n paste tool to put the highlights of the declaration in here. That would give us a chance to laugh and scratch out head at the same time ....hehehhehehe....:|...hehehehehe....hummm...:|:|:|...hahahahaha...... |
| ProudNepali | Posted
on 06-Mar-04 09:53 AM
I agree with mY man U_DaY bro. Brook give us the www. site. I can't wait to laught out loud. |
| CRUSADER | Posted
on 06-Mar-04 06:32 PM
What a waste of time, energy and web space! |
| acharya | Posted
on 06-Mar-04 06:49 PM
Agreed! >>What a waste of time, energy and web space! |
| geordie | Posted
on 06-Mar-04 09:22 PM
bore bhayoooooo, kasto non-sense topic |
| u_day | Posted
on 09-Mar-04 11:55 PM
Thank you guys!!! |
| jacko | Posted
on 11-Mar-04 10:07 PM
This thread never seems to end! Anyone that has been in any relationship ought to know true happiness in relationship in the long run has very little to do with nationality, skin color, prestige, security & penis size (opps.., bigger is better )... Relationships based on superficial matter like these collapse over time. There is no doubt in my mind, Nepali girl wants what every other girl wants!! Besides every Nepali girls over whelming willingness to please their man, in my view Nepali girls aren’t so different. The fundamental biological reasons, security, procreation and continuous satisfactory enjoyment are still the main reason for a girl to pick a guy and depending on one’s surrounding, white or Nepali just doesn’t come in play. |
| MEera | Posted
on 11-Mar-04 10:14 PM
sooooooooooo true Jacko! Nepali girl wants what every girls want. What I want is for you to be less serious. Maybe we will tie you to a tree and tickle u (hehe). Kidding kidding kidding. You are suppsoed to laugh. Man i can see his anger hehe :-) |