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| Bonjour |
Posted
on 26-Jul-01 05:00 PM
-----I got to this site on a friend's recommendation and what do i see here? Bitterness and intolerance. Is that what you nepalese people are to each other. With others you seem fine, like you kiss American or any foreign ass any day. But when it comes to other Nepalese, you just cannot tolerate anything can you?
-----There's hatred in you for your own race. You call your self patriots and all you are patriotic about is that you love the name of your country and maybe MoMos.
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| Hahu |
Posted
on 26-Jul-01 05:07 PM
Welcome the reality my friend.
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| Karal |
Posted
on 27-Jul-01 11:02 AM
Nepalis are not bitter. They are sweet people who are eager to please. Tolerance and forgiveness are national characteristics as much as patriotism. Nepalis are innocent and naive to a fault.
They are trusting and trustworthy until they sense that they are being deceived. At that point they become revengefull, but it takes a long time to reach that point. You will not find a more pleasant nationality anywhere in the world. You will find a great difference between Nepalis who have never left Nepal and Nepalis who have immigrated or traveled widely. Travel it seems takes some of the sweetness out of them because they develop many western and other eastern ways of behaving. You will not find a better friend than a Nepali who are loyal and loving and it seems always at a disadvantage because of their heritage.
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| momocha |
Posted
on 27-Jul-01 11:18 AM
"...Travel it seems takes some of the sweetness out of them because they develop many western and other eastern ways of behaving. "
Karal that's not right. You go to any forums or chatrooms based in Nepal with just people from Nepal and they are just all bitter people. You find top-backbiters in Nepal. Top jealousy and top hatred. All they can do is bitch about this is wrong and this is wrong, noone can come forward to set it right.
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| mytuppence |
Posted
on 27-Jul-01 11:36 AM
and since when is intolerance and bitterness western and eastern way of behaving and completely non-nepalese? or is it just that the nepalese culture has evolved so much to be much more superior than any other humanity in the world and i was sleeping while it was happenning?
why do people have to bitch about "other" people while trying to find excuses for their faults? and why do people have extremely polarized pro-nepal and anti-nepal thoughts? how about leaving the national boundaries aside for a while and support your argument without any prejudice?
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| sally |
Posted
on 27-Jul-01 11:52 AM
This site is certainly a microcosm, isn't it! I've been an observer for 5 or 6 months and a participant for maybe 3 months, and here's what I've seen:
There are a number of people who are thoughtful, candid, and willing to put themselves and their ideas on the line--under their own names or established pseudonyms. They seem to care about Nepal and its future, and whether or not they are actively engaged in its development on an individual basis, they certainly don't seem to hate their own people. These particular posters also, undoubtedly, have a variety of human failings.
Then there are an unknown number of folks who prefer to backbite, throw around racist comments, and address the human failings (rather than the ideas) of other posters.
So what's the best metaphor for GBNC? Parliament? Beavis and Butthead Meet the College Debate Club? An ordinary (OK, not ordinary, probably upper-class) street in Nepal, with some households full of gossips and bickerers, and others full of thoughtful if imperfect human beings?
I wonder how many sociologists, South Asian Studies folks, and so on log on occasionally to observe the sometimes stimulating and sometimes silly action. Even people who are miffed at a stranger for writing that he's in Geneva reveal something about certain aspects of Nepali culture, don't they?!?
That's why I like the site, and also why I think it's great that San doesn't filter out the flamers, bokos, and anonymous jokers. True, they could kill off the site eventually. But in the meantime it's an interesting experiment in genuinely open Web discussion.
OK, only SOMETIMES interesting. But still.
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| mytuppence |
Posted
on 27-Jul-01 01:54 PM
Few things I have seen so far in this site- narrow-mindedness and prejudice. Everybody has a right to disagree and freedom to express his/her opinions. If someone doesn't agree to what you are saying doesn't mean that person resents you or you should. And responses made to the comments should not be taken personally.
If I feel what I have to say is the absolute truth and anyone who contests it validity is committing a sacrilege, I don't think I would put it in the discussion board. Because I already know the truth and I don't need to discuss it. Unless its my moral (pedantic?) responsibility to enlighten everyone.
And then you run the risk of offending someone because you're trying to show off when, actually, in all sincerety you were just
sharing your thought. If I tell you about something I did or I know, it doesn't necessarily mean I am trying to show off I know/do something more than you. It can also mean " I tried this and it was fun and may be you should give it a shot."
Repeating my thought from last mail, it's about time we stopped looking at ourselves as Nepali. We are Nepalis and there is no denying it and we don't have prove the fact nor is anyone trying to disprove it. You're a Nepali doesn't mean you have to act/feel/behave in a different manner than 3 billion people in this world on any issues. And if somebody asks about our glorious culture we are trying to save, to them I ask which culture? Isn't that an on-going process that should change with and adapt to time? So stop asking me "As a nepali what do you think of this?" (Did I hear someone say what makes you think we're asking you?
:-)) I appreciate Nepalese perspective on political issues, I can't understand it (or why do we even need one?) on social and moral issues.
I remember a line from S. King's Different Seasons (Excellent book!) that goes "... that's the hardes I think, when the secret remains locked within, not for want of a teller, but for want of an understanding ear..." (my apologies to the author for any error). That's the plight of lot of people here.
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| mytuppence |
Posted
on 27-Jul-01 02:00 PM
and I may have been guilty of all of the above...
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| mytuppence |
Posted
on 27-Jul-01 02:08 PM
and I am off by couple of billion on world population...
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