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| cool_keta |
Posted
on 13-Mar-04 06:15 PM
I came to america last year and am currently living in columbia, missuori. My question is why was i born in the 3rd poorest country in the world, why not in america or some other developed country. Why does my teachers give me shit about they are lucky they aren;t born in Nepal because it is so rural country, that people dont even have their basic needs. I know this is true to some extent, but not totally true. This is especally not true in cities like kathamandu, where i used to live. Why people here act raciest towards me. Why is it that i find it too hard to make frineds. Is it because i cant afford good clothes to wear like them. I cant afford hip-hop pants, adidas shoes, honda civic cars, heck i dont even own a car and i am 19. my parents drive a mazda 323 from 94 model i think. Why do our neighbor country , indian people have so many communities here. Everywhere I go there are indians, so they hang around with their own indian folks. Who am i suppose to hang around with? There are no nepalis my age here. Actually one 3 nepali families here. Sometimes I wanna cry when i go to bed. I remember good old times from my childhoodplaying looka mari, chingi, hwagra with my frens. Going to bhailo at tihar and blow up malta bara. I remember my frens who dropped me off airport. I didnt even felt that I was gonna miss them so much here. I guess I was feeling proud that I am going to america. Why is it so that our country;s education system is so bad that all of us want to study aboard. Why cant be just go back to our own country, study with my real frens who actually care about me, unlike people over here who are just after your money. Every time i go to internet and log into msn, why do i get so exited to see my frens from nepal come online, that I would just ignore any other messeges sent by my american "fake" frens.
Today I went to columbia collge for a preview day. I was surprised to see that there were no internaitonal students there. Will I have to be loner in my college life too?? I was so popular in nepak among my frens. They would call me to go play cricket with them. If I wouldt go then they wouldnt either. I still want to write a lot about how i feel but i am afraid that my parents gonna see this and feel sorry for me. Even as I write it I can feel my nose getting watary. Why am i not born in america? Why did our country go so bad that we all have to suffer here. Am I just the onnly one feeling this way?
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| Nanii_kanchi |
Posted
on 13-Mar-04 06:43 PM
Cool keta its same with every new nepali students after landing here. It takes some time to realise that you have to accept it and move on. yeah we are unlucky to have our country's situation all messed up but it will not be same always. You can come here and get in touch with many nepalese like you who find themselves loner.
Cheer up . and dont loose your heart.
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| cool_keta |
Posted
on 13-Mar-04 06:52 PM
thanks for your warmth. I just wish we had our own community here like indians, you know. why are we at bottom of the food chain..
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| south |
Posted
on 13-Mar-04 07:34 PM
cool_keta, i also had similar experiences. we do not realize al this till we land here, we thought like we are going to great nation and there is eveything there, but there are so many small things we can nt understand and can nt identify with. we are from different part of the world so i think we should nt assume we will be treated,loved like we used to be in our homeland and our home. this is not our country. may be you have noticed that nepali people do nt like indian people so much in nepal right?? i think this thing is not only in usa, it happens al over the world. as far as why we are so less in number as compared to indians, you can simplycompare the population of nepal about 23 million to indian populaton more than 1 billion. each year around 70,000 indian students come here for studies compared to about 1500 nepali students. so there is big difference there. the trend of going abroad(usa, aus, uk) has started in 90's and this has increased a lot in few years in nepal, while in india they started in 70's. so dont be get depressed. take everythign easy and do good at your studies. make feel proud to your parents back in home. we all struggle here, so dont think like you are the only one. well i also do nt have close frens here, my closed friends are those who used to study with me in school, college in nepal, so we talk to each other here on phone, and those whom i made after coming here as just selfish kind, they talk to you only when they need help and its kidna fake. just hi, hello and nothing intimate, so i learn to treat them as they treat us . so its all right now.
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| honeybuzz |
Posted
on 13-Mar-04 09:56 PM
well cool keta i wish i was born in nepal than here.So be proud what u r
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| dada |
Posted
on 13-Mar-04 10:04 PM
cool keta u feel that way coz u are in missouri. Lots of places here have BIG nepali communities, especially students like the big cities in the East coast for example
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| gorkhali09 |
Posted
on 13-Mar-04 11:11 PM
Cool keta.. just a suggestion from a guy who was here 8 yrs before you and haven't been to nepal yet...:)... Grow up.. Think if ur parents or grand parents coming to kathmandu from hills and work their rear off during day just to study and earn education during evenings just with a hope to make a life better for the future generations child or grand child.We were born in a most beautiful country in the world and wonderful soceity, and yeah we need to open up lil bit on the most important things that matters youth . night life that you see too much on NYC and education system...(that's why i am here in US:)).. But this is a life time experience u chose.. to come to arguably the greatest country in the world... Now adjust to the new life.. make frens.. indians are not aliens..:).. neither are americans.. they are just brought up that way.. like they say if u are in Rome do as the Romans do... you are in USA. you will learn the life time experience i bet you would never get back in Nepal. Just cherish the moment and never regret what u are going through.. It's nothing new you are going through. It's just a step towards to become a real man. Just accept the fact and take it as your frens back home wouldn't know if they stay back home. Yeahd on't forget one thing.. the dream that you would go back to our lovely Nepal and then try to do the better things you learn in america (like being independent and the law systems).. I will be there u can count on that:).. Just cherish the moment. It's just a part of ur lifetime experience.. I bet you won't regret.. Home sickness is not just with you... learn to live with whatever u have and make the most out of it.. that's what i have been telling a lots of youths coming to america.. just be glad u are not the only one. We live with same emotions.. at least make the most of it.. You might use it some day:)... We are the future of Nepal not present:). Yeah learn to love than hate.. indians are way ahead of us.. they are not as bad.. just their system.. i wish our country's system was as good as theirs... it's getting too long.. Just be as you are Cool dude and learn to educate yourself from the time u spend here, it's just life:) Take it easy bro.. we all nepalis are there for you in america if u need help.. trust me we are lots of here:) Cool down bro;)
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| gorkhali09 |
Posted
on 13-Mar-04 11:12 PM
Cool keta.. just a suggestion from a guy who was here 8 yrs before you and haven't been to nepal yet...:)... Grow up.. Think if ur parents or grand parents coming to kathmandu from hills and work their rear off during day just to study and earn education during evenings just with a hope to make a life better for the future generations child or grand child.We were born in a most beautiful country in the world and wonderful soceity, and yeah we need to open up lil bit on the most important things that matters youth . night life that you see too much on NYC and education system...(that's why i am here in US:)).. But this is a life time experience u chose.. to come to arguably the greatest country in the world... Now adjust to the new life.. make frens.. indians are not aliens..:).. neither are americans.. they are just brought up that way.. like they say if u are in Rome do as the Romans do... you are in USA. you will learn the life time experience i bet you would never get back in Nepal. Just cherish the moment and never regret what u are going through.. It's nothing new you are going through. It's just a step towards to become a real man. Just accept the fact and take it as your frens back home wouldn't know if they stay back home. Yeahd on't forget one thing.. the dream that you would go back to our lovely Nepal and then try to do the better things you learn in america (like being independent and the law systems).. I will be there u can count on that:).. Just cherish the moment. It's just a part of ur lifetime experience.. I bet you won't regret.. Home sickness is not just with you... learn to live with whatever u have and make the most out of it.. that's what i have been telling a lots of youths coming to america.. just be glad u are not the only one. We live with same emotions.. at least make the most of it.. You might use it some day:)... We are the future of Nepal not present:). Yeah learn to love than hate.. indians are way ahead of us.. they are not as bad.. just their system.. i wish our country's system was as good as theirs... it's getting too long.. Just be as you are Cool dude and learn to educate yourself from the time u spend here, it's just life:) Take it easy bro.. we all nepalis are there for you in america if u need help.. trust me we are lots of here:) Cool down bro;)
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| kalabati |
Posted
on 14-Mar-04 04:20 AM
DON"T go on otherways,time is money , if you labour hard and if you have determination you can do more and more than other fellow . you are lucky because you are here. good luck
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| timefly |
Posted
on 14-Mar-04 06:06 AM
Cool_keta,
Don't wander too much in thought. With my personal experience, I think you are going on the first phase of acceptance. Accept the reality that you are now in US of A and you went there with some dream, the only dream which you know.
I was into your scenario couple of years ago. I learned how to see the culture, community with their prospective. Be Nepali when you are in NEPAL, Be English when you are in ENGLAND, and Be ROMAN when you are in ROME.
We all do miss our home, family, friends. There are hardship in life to end up with the fruitful outcome. You are just starting it mate. Like the Domino effect, things might look connected and you might look down on yourself but don't worry, you will know in time on how to raise up.
Do good and be good. Life is not that hard as you expressed in the thread. Talking about racism, it's everywhere. Even in nepal it's there, out there, we can't feel it since we were part of it. The clear seperation between caste, in the job, from the place where you hailed to KTM dah.. dah..dah.. Don't let your sentiment destroy your DREAM.
Cheers
TF
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| bhanja |
Posted
on 14-Mar-04 07:17 AM
Images of yesterday flashes through my mind;
The familiar places and faces
Gone are the places and faces to memory lane;
Places I explored
Faces I once adored
Haaaa Haaa
Reminded me of you as I just posted this into one of the nepali forum
I understand how you feel.But i don't agree with you that you are unlucky because you are born in Nepal.Anyway u seem to be son of a rich man.
After reading through what you wrote, I come to conclusion that you have not done much travelling away from your family and friends.I would not be surprise if you tell me that u r the only son in the family.
The kind of feeling that you are experiencing is normal.When you are home away,alone nin a foreign land it is natural to feel this way.Especially if you have never been independent and done lots of travlling away from the wartm of your parents as I mentoin b4.
But my friend believe me what I have to say 2 u next.
U will emerge as a better person once you have gathered yourself and focus on achieving your goal.No matter what are adversity you have to face don't give up !!! Be yourself and don't ape just to accepted in a group.Earn the respect by being what you are.
Wishing you well.
Regards,
bhanja (SIngapore)
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| sense |
Posted
on 14-Mar-04 08:36 AM
Thanks guys those were helpful for me too...But one thing is sure I never regreted that I was born in Nepal...
Lets see what this westerely wind has to offer to a guy back from the slumps of KATH.
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| redstone |
Posted
on 14-Mar-04 09:43 AM
AAH...you'll be better in a month or so.
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| Gal_EastCoast |
Posted
on 14-Mar-04 12:02 PM
aww... its ok, don't worry after a few months you will feel better!
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| MEera |
Posted
on 14-Mar-04 12:49 PM
Cool_Keta, I can but sympathize with you, for I never did experience what you are going through. I came to this country two years ago but adjusted very quickly. But then I lived in hostel most of my life, so that maybe be the reason why I wasn't much homesick. Oh well however, I wrote to tell you that one of my closest friend (a Nepali) lives 20 minutes from your college, so just in case you do want to meet some Nepali people or eat Nepali food then I will give you her name and number. She was the first Nepali in her college but now there are 5 others. Mind you she lives with a White American and I read above that you call them "fake friends". Oh well this friend of mine, is friends with people from all country so I will let her know right inthe beginning that you want to meet only "Nepali people" and if she has time I will tell her to take you to St. Louis which has some 20 to 30 Nepali college students. Do let me know if you want to meet her, she is interested in meeting you after she read your stories, and like you she does not have a car, no expensive shoes or clothes but she is HAPPY the way she is.
Ok gotta go, its the mid-terms week.
And cheer up buddy, life ain't that bad!!!!!!!!!
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| sense |
Posted
on 14-Mar-04 03:44 PM
Wish I was as lucky as cool keta...:-(:-( damn life sucks in Europe first of all Language n then isolated coz of few students back frm Nepal, as a matter of fact I am the only one Nepali In the whole Univ....shit....momo pani chaina...mamu pani chaina....;girlfren pani chaina.....fren haru ko ta kurai bhayena....atleast Nepal ma eeuta RX bike ta thiyo...yaha ta tyo hawa nikleko cycle le malai tanla bhanda uuslai maile tannu parcha..hey Jindagi...lau na meera malai pani tyestai sathi haru ko add deu na...dhanya hune thiye.
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| cool_keta |
Posted
on 14-Mar-04 04:02 PM
Thanks guys so much for your comfort and sympathy. At least we have our own nepali community here. )
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| kathman01 |
Posted
on 15-Mar-04 11:40 AM
well friend, i read through ur writing and i felt that we lack something in us. that is we try to show we are friendly, easy going, easy to make friends and social to the tourists who come to Nepal but why cant we show the same thing to the americans here. you know what ghar ko baag ban ko syaal ta jo pani huna sakcha. kina hami nepali baan koo baag nahune. think of it. also as about forming the nepali community that is a nice thing but i think we dont wanna form community like indians have all they do is eat PAAN and spit whereever they wanna. in the name of forming the community we dont wanna do something which make us selfcentered.
also i would never say why i wasnt born in America. i was born in Nepal to show these fu..ers that Nepal is the coolest country of the world though is lacking behind in its development.
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| arryan |
Posted
on 15-Mar-04 12:35 PM
Columbia is a small crap town.. move to Springfield, Stlouis, or KC.. where there are more Nepalese. And colleges are better or as good as Mizzu. U being in there... SMS, springfield would be better choice. Its small but got more lots more goin on... affordable college, n got jobs. Best of Luck!
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| cool_keta |
Posted
on 15-Mar-04 04:58 PM
dont take offense to me when i say why i wasnt born in america. I was just being sarcastic.
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| cool_keta |
Posted
on 16-Mar-04 04:02 PM
RATO RA CHANDRA SURYA JUNGI NISHAN HAAMRO
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| cool_keta |
Posted
on 17-Mar-04 10:29 AM
thanks for filling in. jai nepal
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