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| pizzaguy |
Posted
on 26-Mar-04 06:51 AM
this might be an old topic.. but i need to get your opinion...
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| pizzaguy |
Posted
on 26-Mar-04 06:53 AM
Hey guys n gals, i need to know your opinion coz i have this girl and i'm not sure if i'm in love with her or i just have a crush on her........
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| Zombie |
Posted
on 26-Mar-04 07:32 AM
Dude. Crush is having H-1 Visa- You never know when you will be over it
Love is having green card - its always there. Permanent.
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| Poonte |
Posted
on 26-Mar-04 07:38 AM
If you just have a crush, then you'd feel CRUSSSSSSSSSSSHED; on the other hand, if you were in love, then you'd feel LLLLLLLLLLLLOVED. :p
Some things in life aren't meant to be questioned, for they cannot be answered by anyone. Just go with the flow...try not to think too hard...and before you know it, you'd have acquired answers to your questions that are unique to yourself.
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| Rusty |
Posted
on 26-Mar-04 07:42 AM
Zombie........hahaha!!! Sarai ramro example.
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| pizzaguy |
Posted
on 26-Mar-04 09:11 AM
hehe .. zombie,, that was a really smart answer....
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| pizzaguy |
Posted
on 26-Mar-04 09:48 AM
okay guys i 've got one more problem over here now. There is this girl on whom i think i got a crush on but she's got a boyfriend. Well, we get along with each other so nicely and she's very nice to me. What do u think, should i tell her that i have a crush on her and i keep thinking about her?
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| monika |
Posted
on 26-Mar-04 10:53 AM
well pizza guy....tell her only if u want to get crushed!!!!stop messing up her love life...why dont u look for a girlfriend elsewhere??????
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| pizzaguy |
Posted
on 26-Mar-04 11:00 AM
thanks for your comment monika, i thought the same way to. Thats why i havent told her anything yet............. Anyway thank you for your suggestion
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| patali |
Posted
on 26-Mar-04 11:03 AM
lol @ Zombie.....hmmm...INS analogy on love and crush huh....
Pizza ji.....maan ko kura lai bandhi narakha...gantho pari jala chatta chinadeu....[ khoi birsiye..it goes something like this]....It''s always better to get things off your chest....as long as it is not hurtful for others...
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| pizzaguy |
Posted
on 26-Mar-04 01:09 PM
that was a nice one patali, but i'm still confused...... cant say whats the right thing to do......???
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| jaya_nepal |
Posted
on 26-Mar-04 05:16 PM
Pizzaguy, greetings again. I came to Sajha after a long time.
Well, I would define crush as love at first sight without even knowing the person's name - forget others. Love doesnt happen in one go. It takes time to get the feeling, may be years after knowing each other very well. Crush comes and goes, love remains until the second of your life.
The girl you referred, if shes your good friend, I would say you should go ahead and tell her. She wouldnt mind coz you are her good friend.
Best Wishes..
jaya_nepal..!!!
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| u_day |
Posted
on 26-Mar-04 09:53 PM
आकाशको फल, आखा तरि मर। .....लोल
PD (Pizza Delivery) dude,
You can deliver a pizza at her apaprtment wearing nothing at all but a trench coat. And when she opens the door, tadaaa......... unveil yourself. She gotta love you after that if she doesn't hits with her sandal.... hahahaha
No, no seriously dude.
Just wait for her hoping that she will dump that guy or gets dumped.
Good luck with your crush.
I hope you won't get crushed that badly.
u_day
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| monika |
Posted
on 27-Mar-04 06:46 AM
areeee ....pizzaboy i think u r just infatuated by her beauty and charm,u r her best friend and u spend lots of time with her.....so its but natural to get attracted....my advice to u would be to go out meet new people and make new friends too....who knows u might meet someone lovely,attractive and UNATTACHED !!!
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| pizzaguy |
Posted
on 27-Mar-04 07:33 AM
u_day,
pizza delivery.. hehe.... good idea..... LOL......
monika,
thanks for your suggestion...... well yeah meeting new ppl would be a good idea too. but isnt it hard and nearly impossible to find a lonely , attractive and UNATTACHED ppl...??????
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| hansy420 |
Posted
on 27-Mar-04 08:07 AM
;)
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| hansy420 |
Posted
on 27-Mar-04 08:07 AM
ya lonely and atrractive don't go together...correct me if I'm wrong(ladies)....
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| Poonte |
Posted
on 27-Mar-04 09:36 AM
Hyaaaaaaa...PIZZA kaanchha...maile bhaneko manne ho bhane...jaabo euta jindagi chha gaanthe...mari laanu ke nai chha ra? tadpera basera ke nai paunu chha ra?Bhandeu...gayera, pwakkai bhandeu...aaye aam, gaye jhattaro! [ajha, aaye "duitai aam" bhandim ki kya ho, maa thyaasni ;)]
Look, I think you've gotta make sure that what you are feeling is not just momentary, in which case, as some people have already pointed out, you might ruin three lives, including yours, for nothing. However, if you have given the feeling a thorough and relentless thoughts, and you still believe you are attracted to her for real, I think you should let it out. You must be ready, though, for POSSIBLE unpleasant consequences -- she might reject you, or you might lose your friendship with her present boyfriend. Be daring, and be courageous, to let your true feelings out; but be prepared to confront the consequences with equally brave and open mind.
As for the girl, I think she should understand that anyone is capable of attracting more than one person. There is truly no harm in ANYONE getting attracted to people who are already "attached." If she prefers PG as a friend only, it's easy: Just let the guy know that she cherishes his friendship and likes him as a friend only, and would like to stick to her BF for romance for now. However, in the event that she also finds herself attracted to PG, then she will obviously find herself in a rather difficult position. The decision is hers, and hers alone, which, eventually when it is made, must be respected by everyone involved.
The present BF? If I were him, I would first and foremost accept the fact that my GF might attract other men every now and then -- after all, I would not have been in this relationship right now had she not attracted me at one time in the past anyway. Moreover, I would take a lot of pride in the fact that I am with a woman that many/some other men can only dream of -- it sure would give a feeling of sheer pleasure to know that I am the subject of envy of other men! Therefore, understanding that other men have the rights to feel the way they feel, and equal rights to let those feeling out, I would not hold any grudges against my friend who might be attracted to my GF. Most importantly, though, respecting and trusting the woman I love, I would let HER make the decision that she deems right for herself.
The bottom line is, PIZZAGUY, everyone involved should have a lot of courage and strength to be RESPECTFUL of each other's feelings, and make the decision based solely on what each one of them deem fit for themselves. On your part, I think it is truly damaging NOT to act due to some worries that MAY or MAY NOT materialize in the future, and miss out on living happily for the moment. If you are sincerely hurt by not letting your feelings out, and you've confirmed that your feelings are genuine, then you must seek to be happy for now by letting your feelings out.
I know not everyone can be the way I have potrayed the girl and her present BF to be, therefore, you must also prepare yourself for the worst. Even then, I am sure years, if not months, from now, all of you would have moved on and have had your own lives thriving with or without eachother.
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| monika |
Posted
on 27-Mar-04 11:17 AM
phewwww...Poonte ...u can really be a very great agony uncle !!!hats off to you for giving such a wonderful advice to him.And dear pizzaguy i wrote lovely not lonely.
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| kathman01 |
Posted
on 27-Mar-04 01:10 PM
well good suggestions from people here. I really liked those but what I couldnt understand was that pizzaboy u r saying that she is ur close frien n u r acting as if she doesnt even speak closely to u. otherwise i hope u might have already got the answer from herself rather than from here. what I mean is since u talk to her that lot, i think if that girl would not love her bf then probably she would have already started complainig to her close frien n since u r her close frien u might have already got the clue to go ahead n express ur feeling. dont u think so. if she seems happy n contompt with what she has right now or if it seems so by her talks to u then it would be best of u to think that EK HAAT LE KAHILE PANI TAALI BAJDAINA and just let the whole things go.
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| czar |
Posted
on 27-Mar-04 01:21 PM
Pizzaguy,
Thous shalt not covet someone spoken for. A natural possibility, but bad form.
She is already involved in a relationship, therefore, as a Friend, would you not care to Respect that? Is this not implicit in the terms of friendship that you respect each another? What if she is seriously involved with the other chap? Would you really want to do Confessions of a Confused Heart to her?
Put yourself in the girl’s BF’s shoes and then consider what your reaction may be. Some of those thoughts may include reaching for a lead pipe to rearrange the anatomy of her so-called friend.
If you have Feelings for her, then examine them honestly. Since you are having trouble differentiating between Love and Crush, I infer that she is not THE ONE. Therefore, do you really want to complicate the lives of 3 people for what may be an infatuation arising from your loneliness and fuelled by the time she spends with you?
Lets assume she responds to your overtures and breaks it off with the other fellow. Yeehah? If theirs was not a deep relationship, fair enough. But what if she is flitting from him to you, then she is likely to move on at another opportune moment. If that works for you, then all I can say is a votre sante.
Now lets assume you hold your peace and she breaks it off with her present bloke. If theirs was an intense relationship she needs time work that out of her system. She doesn’t need the complications of another relationship immediately. Rush her, and you end up being the fellow she uses to sort out her over wrought emotions. Then she moves on. Women rarely romance the chap they run to for solace and cry their eyes out when things go askew in their romances. You’d likely end up being her transitional guy.
Leaving your options open and widening your social circle, as someone said earlier in the thread, may be the best. Cheers!
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| LadyBug |
Posted
on 19-Apr-04 08:39 AM
hansy420,
you got that right, for Once!
hehee......LOL
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