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| Dominatrix |
Posted
on 03-Apr-04 06:51 PM
What do u think u should do if say hypothetically now, ur parents dont fulfill their roles to you, meaning the idea we all have parents as doing what they can to make their childrens lives comfortable, teach their children the right ways to becoming a good person, show their love to children not through slaps, insults and threats, but to encourage, to forgive mistakes, to give freedom child to make their own decisions, to reward their child for the smallest things, making that bond like no other, even when the child has grown into an adult. What if they didnt do all that and u feel unhappy at home..would u still obey them in everything they say and respect their ways or rebel and get the hell out of there...?
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| monika |
Posted
on 03-Apr-04 10:40 PM
Dont think what your parents have done for u....think what u have done for your parents !!!:-)
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| patali |
Posted
on 03-Apr-04 11:27 PM
...HMMMM.... depends on the degree of negligence of parents and also on self tolerancy power, and the realistic scenario, Not all of us are fortunate to have so called *** perfect ** parents....decide based on your judgemental power...
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| u_day |
Posted
on 05-Apr-04 04:19 PM
Dominatrix!
How can you be sure if your parents did the right thing or not?
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| ProudNepali |
Posted
on 05-Apr-04 06:08 PM
MOniak Miss did you copy the other saying "Don't ask what your country had given you. Ask what you have given to your country?"
and in Nepali version "NAsodha deshle timilai ke diyo. Sodha timile deslai ke diyo?"
Domi... Bro try your best to satisfy them. I guess what you are facing is a general problem. Lots of kids face that problem if not all. Sometimes even though you do not appreciate their AcTions at the time around it happened you will appreciate them ......years after. I guess all of us wanted to beat the hell out of one or more of the teachers who we thought were wrong in punishing us.. but as the time goes we realize that they were correct on most part. Yes, they and other seniors including parents can be wrong sometimes but we do have to excuse them for we also get excuse quiet a lot.
THat was just an OBSERVATION
jai NEPAL
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| Dominatrix |
Posted
on 05-Apr-04 06:59 PM
U_day..well u can say parents should treat u with care and some degree of love .. those are basic human necessaties right? But it does matter what kind of way they are showing it.. whether its trying to lock u indoors only for school or college or its hearing harsh hostile words to keep u from doing something wrong. I mean under some negligent conditions wouldnt it be normal to rebel for what u want, whether its freedom or u think u might just go crazy under such living conditions.
Monika sis...yeh think what u have done for your parents, but what if u feel like you have done all u could to obey and be meek, you missed out on many things than consists of a childhood rather, and what if they dont appreciate what ur sacrificing in order to keep them happy, how long can u last doing things for them to make them happy which doesnt make you yourself happy?
ProudNepali.. "bro" hee hee.. im a girl.. anyways, yes i know these are signs of harsh upbringing and the benefits u will only taste later, but at the time what if the way u had no control of your life whatsoever, all your decisions were made by parents and everything iv mentioned above, this could easily bring out suicidal tendenacies and despair, which can continue into adulthood. The scars that can never be healed and the past haunting like ghosts so to say. What do you say.
Appreciating your replys though.Many thanks.
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| Rekha |
Posted
on 05-Apr-04 10:47 PM
I would say most of the Parents try their best to give their KIDS a good Childhood. Sometime it works and sometime it doesn't. It depends on both the kids and the parents.
Everyone had domestic problems. Getting through it together makes a better family. Parents try to make decision and try to take control of your life because they think they know what's best for you and most of the time they do but few times they could be wrong too. No matter what parents do you'll have to give them respect because they are the ones who gave you birth. If it's too much and it's getting out of control then it's better to confront them, sit down and talk to them about it. Tell them what's bothering you and what you think they should do and what you should do to make it better.
I don't know what else to tell you.
Wish I could help you out SIS, Good Luck anyway.
ReKhA aka. ReZ
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| OU812 |
Posted
on 06-Apr-04 05:33 AM
"Being a parent is hard" - Tony Blair.
This was when his eldest son was caught dunk and legless in Soho, London. The irony was, he had proposed to penalise drunks on the spot fine of £100.00 to counter high level of drunkardness and related public disorder. On general, people were symphethetic.
Generally speaking, most parents try their best at being good parents, but they are mere humans and not perfect. I would say stable parents who provide nuturing environment raise healthy children. Proactive parenting, rather then reactive parenting.
Strictly my view on parenting. Outside looking in.
So far as child abuse (physical/mental) is concerned, it should be reported to the authorities and proper actions taken. However, would you justify slap on the wrist if a child is being impossible? Too many grey areas. We all know formative years goes a long way into making of an adult. We definately don't need another monster Huntley/Carr, Son of Sam etc roaming our streets.
As responsible adults, we need to be maintain a healthy outlook and strive to be decent human being. (i.e after endless couch session ;o)
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| Dominatrix |
Posted
on 06-Apr-04 02:41 PM
Good response from u all, Ou812 and Rez..
yes there are many grey areas and too many things to take into consideration, but iv not experienced as bad as what iv described, i know few others who have had bad childhoods, thought it'd be interesting to get other opinions u know.
I guess going through bad phases with parents only makes us stronger and carry on the generation to our kids a better set of principles and nurturing.
Much thanks.
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