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| dangggg |
Posted
on 05-Apr-04 07:58 PM
white lies, black lies, colorlessblind lies..... WHy? Why? Why?
Why do we lie to each other, to the people we know and the nes we don't ???
What might be a motive to lie to a stranger?
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| meera |
Posted
on 05-Apr-04 09:28 PM
Why do people lie????????
Methinks people lie coz:
the sky is high
you marry in June-July
your don't know how to multiply
and your husband is a butterfly
Hehe, remember my pre-school poems.
Who lied to you buddy?????????
Why do people lie:- don't know :( :(
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| babaal |
Posted
on 05-Apr-04 09:36 PM
so is this another case where the hopeful finally discovers that his chat-mate lied about her ASL after chatting with her online for x months?
Quite a few people I know have started to question why people lie... ;) ;)
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| dangggg |
Posted
on 05-Apr-04 09:53 PM
babaal! I ain't talking about a chat-mate.
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| meera |
Posted
on 05-Apr-04 10:00 PM
Dangu buddy,why didn't u tell me that you are talking about HER bhanera.
Kasto timi pani.
Oh well, I don't know what to say.
Life never turns out to be the way you want it to be.
But try to look at the brighter side of things.
And after all tomorrow is another day.
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| dangggg |
Posted
on 05-Apr-04 10:16 PM
tomorrow is another day re
Common, girl! I'm senitie but not that sensititive.
cheers:)
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| Rekha |
Posted
on 05-Apr-04 10:34 PM
Dangggggggggggggg, Langggggggggggggggg, Fangggggggggggggggg, Sangggggggggggggg, Rangggggggggggggggg, Hangggggggggggggggg
Why do people lie ??? That's something we'll never know.
People some lie because they don't want to hurt other's feeling by telling the truth. Or may be coz one little lie won't hurt anything. Or may be just for fun, who knows. Different people have different reason to lie.
Peace out..........
ReKhA aka. ReZ
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| Zen_Kundan |
Posted
on 05-Apr-04 10:50 PM
As a parent, the most important message you can send your children about lying is that you always — always — want them to come clean with you. No matter how big a whopper they have told, remind them that you would always rather hear the truth, no matter how bad it is, than be deceived. Tell them there is really nothing more sacred in your relationship than your trust of each other.
Of course, all this presupposes that we have discovered an untruth — some people are so expert at deception that it often takes a long time to find out that we have been lied to.
How, then, can we best detect whether we are being misled? There is no foolproof way, but there are often clues you can see in behavior that should make you suspicious:
Avoidance of eye contact: Usually someone makes eye contact at least half the time they are talking to you. If you notice them avoiding eye contact or looking down during a specific part of a conversation, they may well be lying.
Change of voice: A variation in pitch of voice or rate of speech can be a sign of lying. So can lots of umms and ahhs.
Body language. Turning your body away, covering your face or mouth, a lot of fidgeting of hands or legs can indicate deception.
Contradicting yourself:. Making statements that just don’t hold together should make you suspicious.
If you lie all the time, even about unimportant things, you are likely to have a problem that will eventually -- if it hasn’t already -- cause you real relationship, financial or legal troubles. Figuring out what is driving you to lie in the first place will help heal this self-destructive behavior. This may mean going into treatment with a therapist to discover why you feel the need to deceive.
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| Zen_Kundan |
Posted
on 05-Apr-04 10:50 PM
Danggg,
Some reasons to lie:
For the money.
To get away from a mean boss.
To escape embarrassment.
For a good laugh.
To stay out of jail.
Everybody lies. It may only be “white” lies, but everyone tells lies or “omits the truth” sometimes.
We start lying at around age 4 to 5 when children gain an awareness of the use and power of language. This first lying is not malicious, but rather to find out, or test, what can manipulated in a child’s environment. Eventually children begin to use lying to get out of trouble or get something they want.
White lies, those concocted to protect someone’s feelings, are not a big deal at all. The person, however, who seems to feel compelled to lie about both the small and large stuff has a problem.
We often call these folks pathological liars (which is a description, not a diagnosis). They lie to protect themselves, look good, gain financially or socially and avoid punishment. Quite often the person who has been deceived knows that this type of liar has to a certain extent deluded him or herself and is therefore to be somewhat pitied.
A much more troubling group is those who lie a lot — and knowingly — for personal gain. These people may have a diagnosis called antisocial personality disorder, also known as being a sociopath, and often get into scrapes with the law.
Lying often gets worse with the passage of time. When you get away with a lie it often impels you to continue your deceptions. Also, liars often find themselves perpetrating more untruths to cover themselves.
We hold different people to different standards when it comes to telling the truth. We expect, for example, less honesty from politicians than from scientists. We have a vision of purity about those who are doing research, while we imagine that politicians will at least shade the truth about themselves in order to get elected.
Why do we dislike liars, especially sociopaths, so much? It’s a matter of trust. When a person lies, they have broken a bond – an unspoken agreement to treat others as we would like to be treated. Serious deception often makes it impossible for us to trust another person again.
Because the issue of trust is on the line, coming clean about the lie as soon as possible is the best way to mend fences. If the truth only comes out once it is forced, repair of trust is far less likely.
Conted..
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| monika |
Posted
on 06-Apr-04 04:21 AM
phewww....that was quite a lecture zen_kundan.Great.
dangggg......ask this question to yourself.....ur also logged into sajha with a false name.Is dangggg ur real name???LIARRRR !!!;-) ;-)
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| redstone |
Posted
on 06-Apr-04 04:47 AM
danggg,
remember you took Rs. 50 out of your dad's pocket and when he asked you if you had taken the money, you said no!! you lied. why? ask yourself!
:-D
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| Hellbound |
Posted
on 06-Apr-04 06:05 AM
This issue might be very different, but I am writing something about black lie:
Black lie is what I hate. I think, for some people, lying is obsessive/compulsive syndrome that seriously needs some kind of treatments; I’ve noticed some people just can’t live without lying in daily routine. Why do they have to lie amongst friends when it is not necessary? Does lying or big talk make them feel great in society? They lie so much that they almost think their phony world is genuine. They speak 10s of lies to cover up 1 lie, and they think that they are tricking us as if we don’t understand things. Phewwwwwww… it’s good that you don’t have to make 10s of lies to cover up one lie.
No pun intended:-)
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| SITARA |
Posted
on 06-Apr-04 06:58 AM
It is logical, my dear...
When a person can't sit down or stand up by/for himself/herself, he/she lies!!!!
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| dallipokchi |
Posted
on 06-Apr-04 07:30 AM
dannnggggg.....r u who i think u r?if u r...r u talking about the "person" who i think u r talking about? is that "person" who i think is "dumb" and who u don't like ever as a person anymore??..oh yeh...call me after 3:00pm today....or i'll call u
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| Rekha |
Posted
on 06-Apr-04 09:12 AM
Dallipokchi let me just say one thing WHATTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTT ???
SO mysterious, he he he
I agree with you Sitara ji
Dangggggggg dear now you tell us WHY PEOPLE LIE ???
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| hansy420 |
Posted
on 06-Apr-04 12:05 PM
ppl lie just to make long unfavorable conversation/argument short....
well most of the times ...:-O
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| dallipokchi |
Posted
on 06-Apr-04 12:06 PM
ever = even
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| confused |
Posted
on 06-Apr-04 01:34 PM
we lie because we want our stand..
we dont want to be Get EMBRACEMENTS IN society..
We lie ourselves..to show off..
We liee becauseee of societyyy..and everybody is sacreed of society's consequences
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| Dominatrix |
Posted
on 06-Apr-04 03:13 PM
Hey Hellbound...i agree with what u said, i detest black lies, i unfortunatly know a few people (not by choice) who are avid liars. They seem to feel inadequate if they dont lie at least 10 times a day. They lie for no reason, no one is after them yet they lie about where they been, no one will care what they have done yet they make some bogus story up, they even lie about how much they bought their cell phone for!! Then they get labelled as the 'bullsh***ers.. hee hee.
I think these decieving compulsive behaviours are connected with something dysfunctional in their mind, that part of them has not fully developed and matured.
Aaahh well, 'the truth is out there' as Mulder says..and 'the truth will set u free' as..ermm...whats-his-face says...i know iv lied about my user name but its one big lie that we all share so thats ok aint it folks. ;)
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| hyaterica |
Posted
on 08-Apr-04 09:44 AM
Ask this person:
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| lll_lll |
Posted
on 08-Apr-04 10:59 AM
People lie to prove themselves better than other people around them.
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| Hellbound |
Posted
on 08-Apr-04 01:51 PM
Dominatrix,
I agree with you too. I hope you are not talking about the same person I am concerned...LOL
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| Dominatrix |
Posted
on 08-Apr-04 05:49 PM
Merci Beacoup Hellbound, its a small world
here in Sajha, maybe we are talkin about the
same liar! But i think we'll leave it to that
just to create the aura of mystery eh..oooo..
hee hee!
Domi ;)
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| SimpleGal |
Posted
on 08-Apr-04 06:31 PM
Hyaterica, that was funny!! ;)
I think people lie because they can't tell the truth...simple!
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| Dominatrix |
Posted
on 08-Apr-04 06:45 PM
Short and sweet Simpu gyal. Nice!
Domi
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| babaal |
Posted
on 09-Apr-04 04:13 PM
I too, thought that people who lie always have a sense of fear...
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| babaal |
Posted
on 10-Apr-04 10:56 PM
Yeah, what's with her killer expressions ? ! I do not understand !
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| kalabati |
Posted
on 11-Apr-04 07:01 AM
IN poltics lie is essential factor for election
In society lie saves prestige
In young age lie can make love
In family you can control kids
Some have habit and some have..........?
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