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| acharya |
Posted
on 26-Apr-04 12:32 AM
So in a few months I am planning to meet up with a great girl I've been talking to via the net for about 2 years. We have exchanged photos etc. and she assures me that she finds me beautiful, but I'm a bit skeptical because I need to lose about 10-20 lbs. and be more slim which might not be finished come the meeting. On top of that pressure, she is beyond beautiful. I guess my question to guys is, have you been in a similar situation of not feeling 100% confident about your body with a girl who is very attractive and what was the outcome? And to women, have you dated guys who are not as slim as you "imagine you could get" so to speak, and did it cause problems?
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| acharya |
Posted
on 26-Apr-04 12:34 AM
I meant 'handsome' in the second line above.
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| dyamn |
Posted
on 26-Apr-04 12:50 AM
Bro, the most important thing is your confidence. .. dyamn that girl, what important here is you.. .. so you got to feel good to meet that girl. If you can't be what you are with that girl, than that girl is certainly not good for you.. think about it.. ho ki hoina timi aafai bhana ta , huh huh huh? if that girl is not understanding about your 10- 20 extra lbs ,how can you expect that girl to be understanding in ohter aspects of your life where you might lack some desired expectation of hers. Myan, i wouldn't mind a chubby girl if she's nice, and i don't think most girls mind little chubby guys either...
So i would like to say that at this point don't stress yourself too much about losing that 10-20 pounds and try to relax and also prepare for unexpected things. that doesn't mean think of the worse and panic , but think that this is a big world with weird people, and that girl might turn out to be a weird or uncompatable too.. so just go there and see if she's compatable or not, if she's not compatable then forget about her. If you're not compatable for her than try your key in some other door.. ;)
take it easy bro..
hajur ko bhakta,
Dyamn Bahadru..
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| Neural |
Posted
on 26-Apr-04 02:47 AM
.Acharya ji,
no need to lose some pounds. Since it was the relation for the last 2 yrs, certainly there is smth that might ve attracted you both APART FROM THE LOOK. I agree with Dyamn. If she gives emphasis to the look only, i won't say she is quite understanding one for u. Please, keep in your mind that U MAY OR MAY NOT like her too if u just NOT concentrate on her look (have u thought abt this???)
Anyway, gud luck!!!!
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| u_day |
Posted
on 26-Apr-04 01:01 PM
aacharya dude! Thanks for the correction.. for a second I was like whatt??????????????????????
Anyway bro, good luck. I hope you both will like each other
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| Casey00 |
Posted
on 26-Apr-04 01:09 PM
Acharya bro:
It is never too bad to lose those unwanted pounds..or is it? But again if u lost 10-20 pounds and meet up with that girl and she finds u skinny then..it would suck right?
Anyway man...my point is change if you feel like you have to change..dont do it for some girl or anybody like that..do it for urself!! Go out be confident..I know its hard to do that sometimes...but again try ur best and be honest..
btw 2 years is long time talking on the net..so go out and have some fun.
Good luck
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| honeybuzz |
Posted
on 26-Apr-04 03:33 PM
acharya,
when it comes to me i only like physically attractive guy.I agree with Casey00.
If you really want to loose extra pounds it won't be hard.You can do it in few months.
It is true main thing is confidence and if u try and still can't do it it's okay. Someday u will find the one who loves you the way u are.I don't know where u r but i think most guys here in usa have beer belly(i don't mean everyone).I wish u all the best.
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| Biswo |
Posted
on 26-Apr-04 03:44 PM
You seem pretty nervous to meet the girl. I guess you really like her more than what is appropriate for a girl never seen, never talked. Hey, don't be emotional, be confident, take it easy, and it will be fine:-)
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| Rastafariya |
Posted
on 26-Apr-04 04:11 PM
Yo birader Acharya, congrajulasion.
As I is been workin with CIA for many years now. I is helped many guys like yourself workin with the department. I highly recommend you to get services from CIA personnel like I. We do da full detail work with strict confidensiality.
I is be more than happy to assist you. we da CIA (checkin in advance) do through check up >
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| nsshrestha |
Posted
on 26-Apr-04 04:14 PM
1. Did you exchange photoshop altered pictures? :) Slowly start sending
your ugly pictures with title - "Maiya kya jhare phot ayechha yo malai nai laj lagne"
2. She is beyond beautiful? Every one says so. I have heard many saying
so, have yet to see one. Keep in mind she is no better than you.
3. Start dating even more beautiful one. That lessens her beauty by the time you meet her.
4. Buy a floor mirror from wal-mart which makes you look slim. Do not look
anyother mirror till you meet her.
5. Every morning look at the mirror and say - I look good, no one looks better than me.
6. Hang out with your ugliest friends.
Need more ideas? :00)))))))
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| luckydude |
Posted
on 26-Apr-04 04:34 PM
nsshrestha, I think acharya ji had enough. Leave him alone for a while.
Acharya ji, how much do you weigh? If you live in America, being fat is not a probelm (as most people are). Besides, it's not that big problem. You can lose weight easily. So , be kool bro.
Just a thought
Luckydude
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| ScreamNation |
Posted
on 04-May-04 09:31 PM
Acharya Ji!!! Go as you are, if she doesn't like ,, FAWK IT.....
If you are not good for her then she is not good for you....
Shitty looks going chicks
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| ProudNepali |
Posted
on 07-May-04 02:18 AM
Welll.... people have there own wishes about how their partners should look like. Not that one has to go through surgeries or yogas or gyms or diets or whatever to look like what the other partner wants him/her to look like but in today's society it makes sense that you have a good body to go along with beautiful mind.
It might not be universally true but people do expect attractive bodies amongst few/many other things. it is as simple as this truth: first a human wants a job... then he wants a car... then a beautiful house.. then a business of his own and etc. etc..... this is a just one example. See, how people wants compliments. That holds true for many humans also. Who doesn't want a partner with real nice body. Of course everybody wants intelligent-educated, caring etc. etc.. partner. But external beauty is a complementary.
So, Acharya ji from one brother to another, I liked your idea of having a better body when meeting the gal you love and care about so much. I am not sure about your size...there might be many reasons as of why you wanted to lose that 20-30 lbs. Maybe you told her that you weigh that 20-30 lbs less than your actual weigh. OR maybe something else. However, getting yourself in a great physical shape is always a good idea. As of time running out, care less about it. You guys should do well since you guys have been exchanging each others pictures and possibly had talked over the phones. Amongst those pictures might be the recent ones.... so I guess you guys should be comfortable with each other. iF she appears to be disappointed... then just tell her that you have been working on it. You know girls are also humans. they understand it. So, just be positive and start dreaming of the first date. Due, it's very exciting. Good luck on that.
As of gettting in good shape for the partner.... I have friends who had bellies like those of MAdwaris.... and now they are on their ways to replace them with six pacs. I also have friends who are doing really good with whatever they have/had. As of myself, I am trying to get some cuts on my body before ANA. ...........hmmm maybe some of you would like to do the same. if so good luck. See, Acharya bro,, there's nothing to worry a lot about.
Jai Nepal
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