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| Sonam Lungey |
Posted
on 05-Dec-01 05:06 PM
I was a student of the STX. between 1965 to 1970. I was a border there. Suddenly, I became favourite of Father Moran. All the students started calling me Moran's Maruni Bhote. He used to sexual suck my penis till it bled. He used to take me inside his room, when he was using his ham radio called "Mickey Mouse." I left the school, when it became too much unbearable. However, Father Moran organised me to migrate in Alaska to another American Indian business man. He was kind and helpful to start with. Then he became violent and sexually abusive towards me. I ran away from there and ever since, I am based in Vancover. I work as a homsexual prostitute for a living. I have tried psychoanalysis with Doctor Wolfgang Howithzer for many years, and he tells me that I have become a homosexual as the direct result of Father Moran's sexual abuse. He says that I became sexually disorientated. I also suffer from paranoid schizophrenia as a result of the sexual abuse over many years. I have contact with other former students, who were Tibetean refugees and Father Moran took them in to please his moranic sexual appetite etc. They also shared with me that their lives have not been adjusted and they still suffer bad nightmares.
Now, that is my story.
However, I am horrified to see the typical reactions of the people, who do not believe that Father Moran did not do it. There are lot of arrogant STX students, who wanna protect his name, as that hurts their superficial ego.
I raised the issue with Godavari Alumini Association, and it threatened me with violence and a legal writ.
Most of the voices in this forum seem to be from that Alu organisation, and do not wanna talk about the truth. This is the sad saga.
I am horrified to see Nepal Merchantile Communications under Sanjib Rajbhandari paying to write the history of Father Moran as a "pious man". When in fact this man needed to be called a waiting sex "Bagula Bhagat."
This forum suks, as it does not wanna know the truth.
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| dude |
Posted
on 05-Dec-01 05:40 PM
WOW !!!!!!!!!
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| nepali |
Posted
on 05-Dec-01 06:07 PM
why did you not reveal this earlier?
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| Xavier Graduate |
Posted
on 05-Dec-01 06:28 PM
Sonam Bro you are just some sick person who is trying to defame Fr. Moran. Anyway i will check to confirm that if you did attend Xavier(1065-1970).It is not that difficult to verify this. Since you said that you attended Xavier from 1965-1970 i assume you are in you late 30s now. I have some relatives who attended xavier at that time.Personally I think you are just trying to start a war here for nothing.
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| xavier graduate |
Posted
on 05-Dec-01 06:29 PM
sorry that 1065 should have been 1965
:-)
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| _BP |
Posted
on 05-Dec-01 09:13 PM
The GAA threatened you with violence? Which goons are they hiring these days?
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| anepalikt |
Posted
on 06-Dec-01 09:52 PM
Sonam:
I am apalled and horrified by your story and am so sorry that you wentthrough that. I hope you will find peace and healing and that you will find the kind of closure that you need to make that happen. There are many resources in most American/Canadian communities and I would really encourage you to seek those resources and support to move on.
My first recommendation to you is that you find a different therapist, Sonam. From the sound of it, your current therapist leaves much to be desired in terms of giving you the kind of non-judgemental support you might need to work through some of the issues you are dealing with. Secondly, I suggest maybe to look for support from a sex-worker support group or organization that provides assistance and support to people in your situation. Also, thirdly, maybe also look for a Gay Lesbian and bisexual support group, community center for support.
However, I realize that one of the most important element in healing is often having the validation and belief from your community for what you are saying. I am sorry and thoroughly ashamed at other Nepalis have treated you with such disrespect and distrust. Please please have faith and don't give up.
I belive you and what you have gone through and what you are saying. Wish you the best.
Peace.
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| anepalikt |
Posted
on 06-Dec-01 09:57 PM
Xavier Graduate:
Please ask yourself, what does Sonam have to gain in making up a story like that? Why do you think someone would make up a story about sexual abuse and prostitution and pain and such horror when there is such stigma and shame attached to beign a victim of sexual abuse and rape?
I admire Sonam for his courage and his having survived such horrific expeirence. I appeal to you and others to look at your humanity and the wrongs of our societies and our own denial, to examine your response to this man who is in obvious pain and yes, apologise for your callousness and insensitivity.
His was not the first story I have heard, only the saddest. So please, be kind, considerate and genuine.
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| dariwal |
Posted
on 06-Dec-01 11:15 PM
wow, i'm shocked and stunned by this story. He should be hanged. Sorry bro, that happened to you.
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| Ke.combhaire |
Posted
on 06-Dec-01 11:36 PM
it is indeed a shocking story which deserves a healthy discussion in this forum. One thing for sure is that there is no smoke without fire. If these issues are raised just for the sake of character assasination, then why only father moran, why not others? I am preety sure there are tens of such missionary workers in Nepal. This is not the first time that a wolf in a lamb,s cloth has been unvieled.
I feel very sorry to see the attitude of some of this kurakani kasr who insted of showing concern to the victim start being protective in an undignified way. I know the limit of this forum we certainly can not be an investigative body . However we can raise this issue and encourage those voices to come up which are buried beneath the social stigma, prejudiece and frustration.
Rest omen to nepalikt.
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| _BP |
Posted
on 07-Dec-01 04:49 AM
ANepaliKT:
You are a kind person indeed. But do you really not find anything strange about this message? Father Moran did enough weird things to arouse suspicion. The people he may have affected negatively deserve sympathy. I don't think the people here have any problem with that concept...it is the credibility of the person above.
Then again, perhaps you are right. Who the heck knows? But I think some people are reserving judgment.
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| sunakhari |
Posted
on 07-Dec-01 10:26 AM
Sonam (if that is your name)
I am very sorry to learn of your horrible experiences and think you as a brave person to come out in the open and discuss this. I truely admire that. As anepalikt has pointed out, this country has various resources and centres that could help you. I, personally, know of some people in Canada who can help, and if I can be of any help, please let me know.
As for the rest of us, it is time to wake up and see that sexual abuse is very much prevalent in our community as well and accept it. Apart from Sonam here, I have spoken to several women who feel they were abused (in different ways of course) and was borderline sexual abuse.
I think, as a community, we should explore different avenues in which we could help victims and not shun and say, oh this never happens in my country or you must have done something wrong to be a victim.
I don't know Father Moran and therefore, I cannot make any call on this, but I do know that this Sonam needs our support if he went through all that as well as be more conscious of "things" progessing - Nepali homosexuals, bisexuals etc. We need to be more supportive!! Thats all!
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| chupacabra |
Posted
on 07-Dec-01 11:26 AM
I hate to say this, but I think Fr. Moran was like that. There was a rumor all over the school that a classmate of mine was always in that "ham radio" room.
chupacabra
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| Tired |
Posted
on 07-Dec-01 12:08 PM
I feel sorry for Sonam and everyone else who may have been sexually abused but I am a little tired of this issue - maybe this should be discussed in the GAA website or some place other than GBNC - why are we discussing issues related to one now dead Jesuit priest from a school in Nepal on a forum that caters do a much wider audience?
Also, this Ranjit Rana - Dipak Dhalke Topi Bista, thing is getting a litle annoying. I do understand this website is not exculsively for people from Boston, and neither should it be, but I think this forum in not the appropriate plce to discuss high schools issues or personal issues in the case od Mr Rana.
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| SIWALIK |
Posted
on 07-Dec-01 02:32 PM
Sonam: I am saddened by your story. I hope it can be corroborated, and you can help further in that regard. The larger issue is that we Nepalese tend to be in denial about the so called "westerners" involved in Nepal, in one way or other, to have any negative tendencies. Well, it is okay to be courteous to be good to foreigners and guests. That is our cultural trait. But if someone takes undue advantage of our hospitality and goodness, then they should face the consequence. I think it is high time that we develop legal framework and relevant institution or means to protect our citizens from those who are predators. I do not believe in giving them "privileged" position and defending them when they have harmed our citizens. We should make it clear to them that if they misuse our hospitality and naivete, it will have consequences.
Once again, I feel saddned by Sonam's story. But if it is true, there are bound to be others who can etstify to its veracity. Let's hope there are others brave enough to come out and let the truth be out. I hope you find peace in your heart Sonam (if that is your true name) and always know that there are people who are concerned about you. And, we will fight for legal and others means to protect our fellow citizens from "evil" eyes of those who want to take us for a ride.
PEACE
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| Mike Binaju |
Posted
on 07-Dec-01 06:35 PM
Folks - I've heard about the perverted acts of the Jesuit priests at this school in Nepal from numersous friends and relatives.
I am still shocked to hear the news from new sources.
I am even more shocked to see other school graduates denial. Every single graduate of Godavari that I have spoken with has confirmed their understanding of the priests sexual interest in boys.
I find it very strange that a graduate assoication would seek harm to one individual for seeking resolution. Possibly this is representation of an individual and not the allumni assoication as a whole?
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