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| xena |
Posted
on 07-Mar-02 09:09 AM
What my experience says about love is______________>
never fall in love....all it gives is pain and nothing more then that
have you ever seen one single person who hadn't had pain in love...
well..truth is love is nothing more than pain...
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| Nepe |
Posted
on 07-Mar-02 09:43 AM
Love does not hurt. Lack of love hurts. If it hurts, it is not love. Just wanting somebody's favor is not love.
Nepe
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| Xena |
Posted
on 07-Mar-02 09:46 AM
okay....may be you are an exception but in almost all cases I've known ..love is soimethins that comes always with tons of pain
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| - |
Posted
on 07-Mar-02 09:58 AM
All I got to say is, "love" is not worth spending time on. I am talking about "love" between a guy and a girl. of course, there are other types of love which is between family members and friends. those are completely worth.
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| xxx |
Posted
on 07-Mar-02 10:52 AM
Love is way to get sex. enjoy it when you can....
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| Me |
Posted
on 07-Mar-02 10:55 AM
:O(
What you experienced probably was not love then. It was pain. Simple as that. Love is love. To care for someone expecting nothing in return is love, and if someone you care for cares for you too, expecting nothing in return.. hmm... that's good! :O).. but it's love even if that someone doesn't even know you exist. It's no pain and it's no joy either.
Whoever
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| Ratatata... |
Posted
on 07-Mar-02 11:01 AM
Ya, love really hurts. Especially if you're still in Nepal. I love a girl really madly and now she seems to be getting married to some Nepali guy in the United States. At least he's proposed and it's all upto her...
This is the latest trend. Previously, girls were after doctors and engineers. These days, they want to parachute to the United States after marrying a guy. Congrats Nepalis guys in the United States!!!
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| sevendust |
Posted
on 07-Mar-02 11:18 AM
love hurts. but this hurt is always brought upon men by women, except, ofcourse ,if a women ( better yet a girl) is spreading her leg for the first time ... naked..... to a man, and if you call that a love ,then men bring this hurt upon a girl.
rebelious sevendust
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| XENA |
Posted
on 07-Mar-02 11:59 AM
ME
I agree that love is something that is done without expecting anything. It is done without even letting the next person know that you exist. But what about that person?..When she comes to know that you had loved her and now you are gone...without leaving any trace but love for her...away...far away...that even if she tries to call you she can't?...Isn't Love painful then?
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| love |
Posted
on 07-Mar-02 12:00 PM
Hello xena,
You are 100% right.
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| Parag |
Posted
on 07-Mar-02 12:03 PM
All i have to say is " It is Better to have loved and lost, then never to have loved at all".....shakespeare - kool eh!
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| Me |
Posted
on 07-Mar-02 01:09 PM
Xena!
For such a .. how do I say it??.. 'strong name'.. you really write sweet stuff. I don't mean to say that I follow what I preach either. I love and expect to be loved in return :O( I guess everyone expects to be loved in return and .... not to be loved, well I guess that'd be painful.. yes... but that's not all there is to love. All I am trying to tell you is it's not just pain as you say it is. You could be angry at a person like you've never been angry before and you'd still be in love with the person. The person could hurt you so that you want to die and still you'd be in love with the person. You might say you never want to see the person again and totally mean it and you'd still be in love with the person. You'd want to be with the person forever and be able to make a call and you'd still be in love with the person. You'd want to do nothing but cry and you'd still be in love, but still love is not just pain cause being in love can can make you believe in good things you never knew existed.. or ever believed in, it can elevate you and take you high like no drug or meditation can. It can be anything, you know, anything, just don't think it's just pain. Jeez! I dont' know why am I even writing this. You can't explain love.. or any other feeling for that matter, you can't. You have to feel it. One day you'll know it's not just pain.
Whoever
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| Xena |
Posted
on 07-Mar-02 01:30 PM
ME.....For sure...what you wrote about love is most amazing....I have no anger for love...nor do I have any thing to say about the pain love gives....All I am saying is that Love is something that everone believes in..it's pure and divine...it's like a blue ocean beneath the clear and blue sky...the way I think now is all because of love....love that changed my whole life....it's love that made me cry...its all in love...I believe in love...and I guess I'll have to say that I still look at the sky at night and talk to the twinkling stars wishing that it is him...It's all in love...The pain...the sorrow..yet...the happiness...the power..magic...everything...everyone has to fall in love to know what it's like to be in love...it is a great experience...yet..a painful one. It's love that makes you smile but with hidden tears in your eyes.
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| Me |
Posted
on 07-Mar-02 01:50 PM
Xena! Wow!! I'm speechless!.. I am sorry for you 'cause it seems you had a very bad experience, but be assured... it's not just you... everyone passes through that experience in life, but you can let go of it thinking it was just a phase or make it an addiction and drown in your own sorrow. Whatever you may have passed through.. or is passing through it is good. It's what makes the world go round. Hey! maybe your special someone is talking to the very star you are wishing upon too. :O)... . I wish that you find love soon.. real love!.. and maybe when you smile with hidded tears in you eyes, it'd be tears of joy!
Me
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| g |
Posted
on 07-Mar-02 02:13 PM
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| Xena |
Posted
on 07-Mar-02 02:55 PM
ME...
Thankx for granting the wish about the star....and thankx for saying that I write sweet stuffs inspite of having a strong name "Xena". I think you are also a very good writer..what about poems...do u write poems too?..
here is one....
It seems as if it was yesterday..
But no we've come a long way..
To go back is not possible ..
And to go on is painful..
Now you tell me what I should do...
Coz I'm left with no one
But sorrow deep down my heart..
you tell him where I should go
It's As Usual
XENA
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| Me |
Posted
on 07-Mar-02 03:54 PM
That was a real nice poem. I write poems too, but I don't know why.. it always comes out morose and so very negative. Scares me at times :O). Sometimes it doesn't even make sense at all. I hate sad poems, yours was a sad too, but I liked it. It was good. It's funny, isn't it? I mean how always the sad part of you leaps and takes precedence when you sit down to write a poem?
Me
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| Xena |
Posted
on 08-Mar-02 11:55 AM
Well....seems like you were making fun of me ...anyways...liked the way you expresss yourself here...guess u visit this site very often much more then I do..and u write good too...we need people like u in here to speak and say things that we nepali need at times...thankx
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| Me |
Posted
on 08-Mar-02 01:27 PM
:O)
That is so funny!... Now why would you think I was making fun of you?? Must be the smileys huh?? :O).. No! Actually you really do write good. I really did like your postings. As for me.. well I don't think I am much of a writer at all.. never did write much.. but hey!.. if you think I can express myself well.... thanks!!.. You know what. It was the first time I visited the site yesterday... and of all postings that I saw, I liked yours the most. I don't mean it was literally great or anything... it was good, but I liked your honesty I guess. The poem was great though!
Take care!
Me
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| xena |
Posted
on 08-Mar-02 01:32 PM
Me..
It is certainly very nice of you to say that you liked my posting. Thankyou so much. ANd I really really appreciate your honesty as well as your thoughts too. I guess of all those who visit this site...you are truely the one who thinks nepal is our country and we should be proud of who we are and not follow the trend of being modern just for the sake of being like the usual norms. And certainly..you do write great and impressive things...at least it does impress me.
:) Xena
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| Me |
Posted
on 08-Mar-02 02:09 PM
Xena,
The feeling is mutual... so so very mutual.
Me
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| maya |
Posted
on 08-Mar-02 02:33 PM
Xena and Me,
Both of you seem so kind, gentle and loving. It makes me feel good to see both of you write good things about love. After reading what Xena wrote, I felt like that that was exactly how i was feeling about 5 years ago with this special someone. THough it did not last long, the fond memories have lasted so far.
I do want to hear more poems from Xena if you have time.
How is see this love is that it flows like a little stream, slowly becomes a river and then reaches the ocean. Once you are there you never have to worry if you are not getting enough love. There's love al around you. Plenty of it. Even if the person you love is not with you, you still know that he cannot stop loving you because you both have reacched the ocean and there's no coming back.
You can move the world with love.... love you guys!!
maya
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| ontario |
Posted
on 08-Mar-02 03:20 PM
LOVE - well i guess no one can hit the bull's-eye on this one.
nevertheless i ponder at times - when you are in it you are never aware of its web of illusion that surrounds you and you may never know if you make it to that ocean ( as maya stated) - yet if that stream dries up or some dam changes the course of the river --- the illusion my friend becomes so crisp and obvious!!!!!
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| FOR MY LOST LOVE |
Posted
on 08-Mar-02 04:33 PM
`Not even a fire place to burns
This cold freezing winters night
Not even a warm sweet body to hug
Nothing but the coldness of the night
Getting ready for sleep Pulling covers up to my head
Body is shaking, trembling, crying
I Grab two more blankets
Add them to the bed, trying to stay warm without you
I Wonder where you are
This night, are you staying warm or
just as cold as I last winters night
Thoughts turn to you How I wish you were here
Lying close to me In the nude to Your body for me
To feel Lying close we do Your arms around me Mine around you
Your leg tossed over mine Your thighs I feel Warm , tender, softness
Mmm ohhh little girl Just what my heart ordered
You lying next to me Your love you give to me
All snuggly tight
Uh huh now we can toss covers
I am so warm by the heat
The heat from your body
Warms my skin too melt
Your touch I feel
I have all the love
All the warmth
I need this night
For I have you with me
Tonight till dawns early light
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| Xena |
Posted
on 08-Mar-02 08:51 PM
Whoever you are Mr...For my lost love....you seem so much unsure and immature about what real love is all about. Love isn't one percent of what you've described here...Love is pure and has no meanings of what you call sexuality in it. Love is just love...it is care and kindness and unexplainable feeling of closeness towards another person. Love is life that you can sacrifice for someone without gaining anything in return. Love is a symbol of sanity..being in it makes you believe in dreams and teaches you to hope for nothing but good things for everyone around you. Love is different ..very different then what your poem represents it to be...I feel so sorry that I even cared to raise this topic of love in here...I wish you'd undersatnd the true meaning of love and be sorry for posting such an explicit...such a censored poem in here...I wish you'd feel and change...
Xena
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| ID |
Posted
on 08-Mar-02 09:31 PM
Hi Xena,
If you feel love has no touch of sexuality in it then either you have been brainwashed by middleclass modesty or are too carried away by uptight hindi movies. I agree love is not just a plea for sex, but I have to emphasize that love and sex are inextricable.
Note that I am only talking about romantic love here.
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| for my lust love |
Posted
on 09-Mar-02 08:55 AM
MISS XENA are u talking about love for your mother or family or your opposite sex? the poems is not an explicit one, this is true feelings of mine.
Anyway
I support ID's comment about XENA being carried away with hindi cinemas.
You have to have it to feel it,
then you will know how close u feel with
someone u love someone u wanna be with.
Sex between two lover is most beautiful thing.
Love without a sex is empty experience.
loving someone is a social engagement with
the threat of sex at its conclusion.
I think it is the most pleasure
i had without laughing.
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| voice |
Posted
on 09-Mar-02 01:24 PM
love is something that is inseparable from our life.
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| vodka2 |
Posted
on 11-Mar-02 09:04 AM
BEER IS BETTER THAN LOVE
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| Ontario |
Posted
on 11-Mar-02 10:16 AM
I shake hands with Vodka2 on his above comment.
Say why dont we mix some weed with that for a perfect analogy of love and sex.
Again on second thought i rather stick with beer and sex....maybe i will go with all three beer, weed and sex - daam this is just too good and perfect - forget LOVE.
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| vodka2 |
Posted
on 11-Mar-02 01:47 PM
Hey ontario, let me put it this way,
LOVE IS A VODKA
DRINK AS MUCH YOU CAN STAND
LOVE IS A WEED
SMOKE TILL YOU LAUGH
LOVE IS A SEX
HAVE AS MUCH AS YOU WANT
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| NK |
Posted
on 11-Mar-02 01:57 PM
Vodka2, that's lame! I am sure you can do better than that.
(today i have decided to comment on others comment/postings since i seem to run out of ideas)
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| boston_dude |
Posted
on 11-Mar-02 02:38 PM
Wow… “Xena” and “Me”. You girls really are great. Especially you “Me”. I am afraid I might know you actually, coz I know someone who shares and lives by your understanding and idea of love. And, Xena, don’t be sorry you brought up this topic here. I had not bothered reading this thread for a long time as I’d thought it would be like reading some “high-school” idea of love with nothing but cliches.
I think love means different things to different people. Actually, to go one step further, I think it means different things to even the same person at different times in his/her life. Also, in general, I think guys perceive love differently than girls do.
To me, love is an addiction. You know you might get hurt, that it might leave you in agony, but still you pursue it, sometimes without knowing, sometimes with no logic, no reason behind it. And, no I dont think your ideas have been fouled by Hindi movies because when you are in love, it is just like that. It is ecstacy. It makes you feel complete, it makes you feel like you belong “there”.
To comment on your is love a pain question, here is what Lean Womack had to say, “Loving might be a mistake, but it’s worth making”. BTW, she is only a country singer and I don’t like Hindi movies.
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| ontario |
Posted
on 11-Mar-02 02:40 PM
Vodka2 - i did agree with you the first time itself - maybe i sounded sarcastic but those were just the words in play and the interpretation -
and your poem has the credentials to recieve this statement " wa ustadji wa"
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| xena |
Posted
on 12-Mar-02 09:44 AM
Boston_dude...
Have a question....are you rehan? by anychance?
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| VODKA2 |
Posted
on 12-Mar-02 11:06 AM
Love cannot grow without a passion.If passion drives let reason holds the reins.
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| Boston_dude |
Posted
on 12-Mar-02 12:17 PM
Xena,
No, I am not rehan. Who/What is that? BTW, I don't know if this name: Boston_Dude has been used before. It probably has been. And, that aint me either.
Speaking of love hurts, I was in love with a woman (well, she was a girl back then). We were high school sweethearts. We were together for the longest time (5+ years) and we were madly in love. We both knew it was not meant to be (social taboos!!) but I was fully prepared to face the world and go ahead with it. Unfortunately, one day she woke up to her senses (I can laugh about it now) and decided to call it quits. (Ha!... now, you know I do know the painful side of love.) It took me a while (a few years) to recoop and pick up the pieces of life together. Now we are good friends. And I mean that. Good friends. So, I guess even if love is painful at times, there is light at the end of the tunnel.
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| i know u |
Posted
on 12-Mar-02 01:21 PM
i know u boston dude.............hah haha haha
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| Me |
Posted
on 13-Mar-02 10:28 AM
Boston Dude!
:O).. that was so funny... I am sorry, but I am sure that you don't know me... Ok! Tell me.. who do you think I am, cause even if you are wrong, I am so eager to know this girl who lives with the same philosophy in life as I do. I think it's be grand.
I did like what you said too, like how love means different things to different people and how it could mean different things to the same person at differnt times.. that is so true. I am sure a lot of people believe that, but I think it is also ture that eventually when you do fine true love, it'll be like something you never experienced before and that's when you realise that there never was any other kind of love like the one you found, for there is only one true love.
By the way!.. check out the other posting by Xena called "IT'S JUST A LITTLE POEM FROM MY HEART" that is so good too, if you alredy haven't done so that is.
And Xena. We'd definitely love to hear more of your poems!
Me
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| Boston_Dude |
Posted
on 13-Mar-02 11:01 AM
Hey "I know U". I got one thing to say to you. :) That's all. Hope you keep it to yourself so I can go on expressing myself freely.
And, "Me".... what can I say? I really dont want to put any names here. Just like I am asking "I know u" not to. Anyway, I read Xena's poem and some of her and your postings. I guess you gals visit this site often. I do too, but just now I am starting to post stuff here. Let's see how it goes.
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| JDV |
Posted
on 13-Mar-02 11:18 AM
hahahahahhaha
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| Nepali keti |
Posted
on 13-Mar-02 11:27 AM
Hi Xena and Me...
"ME" I loved everythign you wrote. You are a good inspiration to all who have been Heart Broken. I really Admire you.
First of all let me tell you all something about my self. I am also a Nepali girl living here In the States. Since i came to the States i faced a lot of hardships that i had had never every imagined I would have too. But i Guess thats why we Nepali girls came here right..to experience things we would never experience if we were in NEpal. Well i was in Love with a guy, Love meaning truly, deeply and Madly and he was my first love. I had imagined every sigle moment of my life with him. He loved me to death and so did I. We had wedding plans and everything but UNFORTUNATELY Everything was over, Lots of personal reasons. Aftere we had broken up i felt like the world had crashed upon me and i would never be able to move on without his love. But today its been 4 years since we broke up and i look back and think how i survied each and every moment with out his love. So today all i have to say to all the heart broken people out there is dont' worry be happy becoz after every dark cloud there is a Sunshine...Smiel and be happy life is too short to worry :)
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| aviyentaa |
Posted
on 13-Mar-02 01:13 PM
Hello whoever,
It's easy to preach others about love and shit that it brings with.When u personally go through the agonising pain it reigns upon u then u realise what it is to be heart-broken.Nepali girls in the United states have soared up expectations, that's the fact, and men are more caring and spiritually motivated when they fall in love. Love just a lust for girls here.......selfish opportunist and materialistic nepali girls will never realise the true spirit of being loved for no returns.........Damn u all.............horny creatures!!!!
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| xena |
Posted
on 19-Mar-02 10:18 AM
Well...Avi
It seems like you had a bad experience before...But believe me...nepali girls aren't the typical type that you think they are. NEpali girls if you happen to meet them ever in US are also nice nad seeking for true love...but they feel that they need the right guy...and even you?..don't you have some expectations for what your gf should be like...everyone does but when it comes to love..they give up all thier thinkings and get lost in love..
Xena
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| Boston_Dude |
Posted
on 19-Mar-02 10:49 AM
Xena,
True. I think we all say we want this and want that in our partner when we dont have one. When we do meet someone we like, we like them for one thing or the other - whatever that maybe. Typically for us guys, it is something about the look of a girl that draws us close to her. Once we get to know the person, and if we still like her, then all the expectations dissappear. Nature is good in the sense that it makes you focus on the goodness of the person and you overlook the bad ones. This is how love starts. I think.
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| Cold Heart |
Posted
on 19-Mar-02 10:49 AM
Well frens,
I have some experience to share and some questions too. I was deeply in love with this girl, I loved her more than anything else. But she betrayed me and went out with my own friend. Just imagine how much I was hurt. It took me a really long time to recover but I ended up being a totally different man.
I already went out with two different girls after her but I feel like nothing for them. I have become a really cold person. Despite being in relationship with the girl I go out with now, I feel like nothing more than a friend for her. I get attracted to a women and soon it goes away after I go out with her for a while coz I feel nothing for them.
where are all my feelings for deep love gone? how did I become such a cold person.....
drop me few lines if you have any comments to make.
thanks
Cold Heart
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| Boston_Dude |
Posted
on 19-Mar-02 10:59 AM
Cold Heart,
Hmmm... I think I know exactly what you mean. I guess that is what they call being jaded. I have been thru that stage too my friend. Good news is that it is only a phase. Though it could be a long one. sorry about that part.
I think you have done the right thing by going out with other people after your "good one" ended. It sort of helps you get over the pain. (I hope you did not leave broken hearts along the way though.) However, giving yourself some time to yourself and letting your emotions heal might be in order for you. Some day you will find yourself incredibly attracted to someone and realize that you can love again :) Trust me, that day will come.
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| xena |
Posted
on 19-Mar-02 11:35 AM
Cold Heart
I surely feel sad for you. You must have been truely in love with this girl and I can imagine what you might be feeling now. Indeed when you love someone truely and if the person betrayes, then you can never come up from the pain love gives.
But...don't you think that it is wrong to hurt someone who is in love? Love ?..How do you perceive it? DO you believe in true love at all? ANd if you do...you should always respect others love towards you. Nomatter how the person looks or who the person is, the feelings she has for you counts. As you said that you were in relation with two girls and then you felt you were wasting time and so you left them. But don't you think that these two girls may also be feeling the same pain , the same anxiety that you are suffering with now?
So cold heart, please take me as your sister and listen to what I have to say. Love is a wonderful thing. We should never play with it. The former girlfriend who loved your friend wasn't your true love...there is some one out in the world waiting for you..perhaps near you...
you just need to go and seek for her
All the best...
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| Xena |
Posted
on 19-Mar-02 11:44 AM
Boston_Dude
Whatever you said about love was beautiful...I must say that I like your postings...at least all those i have read from you so far...I would like to hear from you more....And yes Thankyou for reading my poem and commenting on it...
all the best :)
Xena
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| Cold Heart |
Posted
on 19-Mar-02 12:33 PM
Dear all,
thanks for your suggestions. Xena, may be you're that my former gf. wasn't my true love and I also do believe that someday I will find someone whom I'll truly love. May be coz I havent had a chance to go out with a Nepalese girl yet, coz lately I realize that its much easier to accommodate things between each other if you come from the same culture.......... may be I am wrong but I do feel so ....
anyway, Xena I take your suggestions, thanks
Cold Heart
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| Cold Heart |
Posted
on 19-Mar-02 12:34 PM
oops typo:
>Xena, may be you're that my former gf.
I mean may be you're right......................
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| BDM |
Posted
on 19-Mar-02 06:30 PM
There is no such thing called love. I find no distinction between love and infatuation. Trust me, love( which is synonymous to infatuation) is transient, and it will indeed go away after a while, once u get tired of smelling your "lover's" pheromones. It's useless to contemplate about an abstract, non-existent feeling. How many Romeos and Juliets have u met in real life, hmm??
Better go for arranged marriage.
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| LOST LOVE OF SUNDARI |
Posted
on 20-Mar-02 09:29 AM
i don't know about the arranged marriege but i agree with u BDM.THERE IS NO SUCH A THING CALLED TRUE LOVE FOREVER
When we first met I made you promise you would never leave,
I made you promise crazy things,but your words were not enough.
I couldn't believe you loved me I thought to love me was too tough.
When I cry about my past and say that I'm ashamed
I know I am the only one who is to be blamed.
Then you crawl in bed beside me and say that it's ok-
so I cry for my loss of innocenceand the things I gave away.
When I can't sleep through the night,when I toss and turn in bed,
you wrap your arms around me and chase the demons from my head.
You say don't talk about the past you tell me that it's gone,
you say since we're together now t's time that I move on,
you say that I'm your angel but if you only knew
the kind of thoughts I think and what I used to do.
You tell me it doesn't matter and that you love me anyway-
so I cry for my loss of innocence and the things I gave away.
They said that's how they liked it when I dragged my nails across their backs,
but now you hold my hand in yours and tell me to relax,
you say that this is making love and this is the better way-
so I cry for my loss of innocence and the things I gave away.
I never felt a thing before you touched my heart
and when you touched my body,I thought I'd fall apart.
When you kiss my lips,I feel you deep within my soul
then you wrap your arms around me and say you'll never let me go.
When I tremble at your tenderness and melt in your arms,
I know you really love me, and you'll keep me safe from harm
you know I've never loved or been loved in any kind of way-
so I cry for my loss of innocence and the things I gave away.
BY LOVED AND LOST
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| Boston_Dude |
Posted
on 20-Mar-02 09:51 AM
BDM,
I have met many Romeos and Juliets. MANY!! And, not all of them have ended tragically like Shakespeare's version of lovebirds.
And, "Lost Love..." what you and BDM are saying are 2 different things. You are saying it does not last forever. Well, that maybe true. But still, to be truely loved and to truely love someone even for a brief moment is worth all the pain and agony it might bring when and if it does end. WIthout love, without emotions and feelings, what are we? Robots? Machines going about our daily business of feeding this laboring body? To me, life aint much without love.
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