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| stranger |
Posted
on 15-Mar-02 05:52 AM
how u socialize....how u spend ur free time.........com on guys help !!!!!!!!!!!!!
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| NK |
Posted
on 15-Mar-02 08:36 AM
Ok, You seem to be genuine.
Allow me... (I dont' know your age, but I assume your are 20-25)
First no dirty jokes infront of new acquaintances to get some cheap laugh.
Learn to cook. I am not talking about Dal Bhat and chicken. I know that is what Nepali students learn to cook and they cook day in day out, every time when they think of cooking. Learn something else to cook, could be very simple pasta dish or fish (they are easy to cook). Know basics about wine. you don't need to be a connoisseur, just basics. Then invite a handful of friends and don't exclude girls. And don't act cassanova with them when you know you are not. Don't make a fool yourself.
Be moderate when you drink.
Ask your friends to meet in a decent bar and make a plan to got see movies in Brattle Theater or even Nickolodeon.
Go to openings of museums.
Have a video party. Rent some good movies and have some beer. invite your friends and ask them to bring their friends - no not the boring ones, but interesting ones.
Read. Not only fiction, though. (Right now I am reading The Correction. See? I not only preach I do too)Believe me it helps. Not to show off and quote right and left who said what on what occasion but to expand your horizon. It helps you to think and in turn speak well. New York's best seller would be a good starting poing. Try to finish one book a month. If you are laughing at this suggestion then ok, in two months. You could do it.
Write letter (yes long handed ones) to your family. Set aside some designated nights for this. This time could turn into a meditative hour. A reflection. That is important.
Believe me after you do all this excerise you will be such a hot ticket, you don't have to come to this board asking "how to socialize" People will seek you and beg you to be in their circle . :)
Good Luck!
(keep us posted how you are faring)
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| Great Advice |
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on 15-Mar-02 08:44 AM
Good Advice NK....Liked that....I guess I need to follow your advice too.. I am doing some of it already. I guess I need to start reading books...I have been thinking about it but didn't know where to start so NY Best Seller sounds like a good starting point.
Thanks for your suggesstion. Keep it coming
Great Advice.
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| 13-thum |
Posted
on 15-Mar-02 02:38 PM
I tried to read books many times. But i need a dictionary in front of me if i want to completely understand the book. After a while it gets irritating. Then i continue without referring to the dictionary and it will become boring because i don't really understand it.
For a while i thought i am not made for books or books are not made for me. Then i read some of the Nepali books and i finished them within days not weeks or months and i really enjoyed them.
Any suggestions?
13-thum
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| NK |
Posted
on 15-Mar-02 02:41 PM
Hi!
I just thought I should clarify something. I know my writings are sloppy but this one could be confusing for somebody who is starting afresh. When I said "New York's Best Seller" I meant New York Time's Best seller list. If you knew what I meant then great.... and be careful all the books on NY Time's best seller lists are not great. Joan Collins and others climb up the chart. Read the review and decide if that is what you are interested in...
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| NK |
Posted
on 15-Mar-02 08:16 PM
13-thum, I feel funny, but hey! what the heck.
One of the first real pop novels I read were God Father and Blood Line. I guess raging hormones of my brother made him get the Blood line. I read it, just kept on read ing it and I did not understand half of the stuff. But I knew Blood line was one heck of a racy novel. I would go back and read it and finally get it! :) Anyway, my knowledge of English was shaky and the stamina and what not you are required to have to finish such a monstrously huge book but I just kept at it.
Never refer a dictionary after every sentence. Try to get the meaning from the context. Otherwise it would be very disruptive therefore dicouraging like what happened to you. Don't start your reading career by jumping to say - Foucault. Read lighter stuff for enjoyment first and you can move on to Great Literature stuff. Just remember reading for enjoyment does not have to be mindless,bogus, trashy books.
Amen! :)
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| what's up! |
Posted
on 15-Mar-02 10:38 PM
NK,
Your advice is great but it is just for those who are in united states. How we socialize and spend free time back here in Nepal espically in lower mid class family. Do you have any idea?
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| KHATEY |
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on 16-Mar-02 01:23 AM
NK..your suggestions are great. Hopefully, I'll find it to be of great help to put the advice into being.
And WHAT'S UP got a great point too. To add to that, doesn't your advice revolve around the fact that money matters? Going to bar, inviting friends over for dinner, renting movies, and all that, though doesn't appear to be expensive, it's not always easy for the students and moreover for those newly arrived US students to spend that amount. You always tend to convert to nepali currency. As for finding books to read, you can get in libraries and that's not heavy on pocket at all. I'm not trying to be a criticizer, but just seeking ways to be sociable without spending money or spending very little money.
If you say I'm a KHATEY (as nepali would put it), yes I am. So, is there no way for a KHATEY to get a life? I know you're not obliged to answer all my questions, but your input on these questions would prove to be of profound help to this KHATEY and hopefully to countless other KHATEYS living in states or anywhere around the world.
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| stranger |
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on 16-Mar-02 04:21 AM
hello ...i totally understand ur point of view.....i know its expensive and all but u have to learn to adapt to it........nywys i wanted some input as to how u spend ur free time and the relationship u guys have at ur college.......plz put some input..... what do u do in ur leisure time?? com on guys this is an open question so plllllllzzzzzz answer it.............
it will be highly appreciated!!!!!!!!!!!
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| stranger |
Posted
on 16-Mar-02 04:30 AM
hey NK ....u gave me quite an advise!!!!!! u guessed my age as well but no i'm not btw 20-25 yrs.........i just needed some input from u guys as to how u spend ur leisure time? so if u hav time to answer then plz feel free to put ur thoughts.....stranger
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| NK |
Posted
on 16-Mar-02 10:07 PM
Whta's up, you are right. When I posted my message I was specifically thinking about people who are in the US. I thought which was turned out was a correct assumption, that Stranger was in the States and wanted some tips. Maybe I should have guessed his age betweein 18-50, eh? Then what were the chances I was going to be wrong? :)
I have no idea what is the disposable income of a lower middle class family in Nepal. But I am sure you play football with your friends. A lot of friends to hang out with. Family members around you. I don't think you face what newly arrived faces here: isolation, strangeness of a foreign country, loneliness etc. Anyhow if you are wondering how to use your time constructively, you can give some time for charity work? Go work in Maitighar for instance. There must be so many ways you can help disenfranchised people. In return it makes you a better person and you get to fill your time with worthy causes. Do u read? What kind of books? Do you help out your mother? Do you ever take you parents for some recreational activity? Have you been to Godawari’s botanical garden? Do these and see how much fulfilling are these. You don’t’ need to go to Galaxy or whatever the heck they are called to fit in, to prove you are cool or hang out infront of Nirula’s eating that pasticy pizza. They are expensive, I am sure for a family of limited means. Here, I would like to emphasize once again to learn to cook. There is nothing sexier at least to me, in a man who knows how to cook and cook well. Eating is primal. It is in us. Everybody enjoys eating so why not go a step further and learn how to cook. Surprise your family! Play with your little brother if you have one. Or take your cousins for a day trip. Pack a lunch and hop in the bus. Really, there must be so many things you can do spending no money or very little money. Look around you and see what is attainable. And go for it, my man!
And Khatey ( Honestly, I had never heard of that word), what I have suggested does not cost that much money. Do you know your town library has free passes for museums, aquarium and so on. Have you thought of being a member of a library? Some socializing do cost money. Living costs money. Otherwise we did not have to work. So, one just has to set a priority. Which activity is important and within his/her budget. Do you know, if you are interested that is, on Thursdays students can purchase ticked for symphony for a mere 11 dollars. These tickets cost 40 onward if you were paying the full price. Have you been to Tanglewood? It is one of the greatest thing our state has to offer. In summer Boston Symphony performs in Tanglewood. Beautiful place. Lawn tickets cost 7-10 bucks. It is a bit of a drive so you can make a day long plan. You don’t need to be a classical music lover. You can listen while lying down and eating cheese and bread in a candle light. The whole atmosphere is magical. Try it. Take your love interest and show her. ;) If you don’t then, go with your friends. Believe me you won’t regret it. … Really I am thinking maybe I should have a ‘Dear Abby’ kind of column…. Never mind…..
and thanks 'Great Advice' for thinking my advice was great. At least somebody thinks it is worth it........
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| 13-thum |
Posted
on 16-Mar-02 10:51 PM
NK
Thanks for your advice. As you said i guess i have to start with simple books like SS novel.
Dear Abby type of column is a great idea. Can we have "Dear NK" in sajha where you will help the people with variety of problems. It will definitely be useful as you will be able to understand the problem from Nepalese perspective and advice accrodingly. Last few advices you have posted shows that you have what it takes to become a great "advisor".
13-thum
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| stranger |
Posted
on 16-Mar-02 11:40 PM
hey NK.......thanks for ur advise......again a wrong guess.......... i'm a girl and i dont live in US .....i'm from south africa...........but nywys thanks a lot for ur help.........i had to do some stupid project and so i needed some help and i got it.............nywys....it was very intriguing to read ur thoughts.............
Stranger
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