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sangita Posted on 26-Jan-01 12:55 PM

Hi,
This artical is about the Nepalese women in America and leaving their Nepali husbands. Worth at least reading and comment.
Sangita
Biswo Posted on 26-Jan-01 01:16 PM

A few stupid boys here don't treat their wife equally.For a lot
of ladies here, the situation is worse than in Nepal, at least
in Nepal,they have their Maiti to turn to.

What's wrong if she thinks the situation is unbearable and decides
to elope with somebody else.Get your freedome ladies, do what
you can do for yourself and to develop your personality!
sangita Posted on 26-Jan-01 02:54 PM

when I opend the window, I did not realize the Artical was there.
I could see only the Download box.
Please discard my previous message.
Sangita
SJP Posted on 03-Feb-01 10:33 AM

Very nice and honest article. I think Nepalese guys and men are to blame 100% for the situation. I don't know why, but I have foundnepali guys very comfortable going out with other American girlsthan going out with Nepali girls. Some of the guys are proud justbecause they have an American girlfriend. How many of you have seen Nepali guys going out or married with well established, good looking and educated American girls ? The answer is, almost none. Most of the girls are either very fat, bad looking or addicts. I have even seen a Nepali guy going out with an American girl with mustache and beard. What was he thinking ? SEX ? Is that it ? I believe because of all these activities, nepali guys have put nepali girls in a very difficult situation. So, Y'all Nepali boys out there, you better clean your act now otherwise you know that old saying " what goes around, comes around ".