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| Kanak |
Posted
on 19-Mar-02 03:10 PM
Hello People!
I just fall in the net relation with one nepali girl of USA.I have seen her
photo through mail and we used to talk more then one hr at the phone daily.I want our phone and chat relation to take a new relationship track I asked her about our realtionship but she always says it takes time but i want see and meet her as fast as much as i can.Does cyber relation really exits?
Give me your suggestion !
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| sdss |
Posted
on 19-Mar-02 03:20 PM
Let's put it this way.
How is she feeling about it? Do you think she thinks you really exist or not?
I am again curious about the so called alternative track. Which track are you
thinking about? To me it sounds puerile. See, if you are thinking about conjugal
bliss with her, then it is very curious to know how people can become so desparate
as to think of conjugal relation with someone whose identity, even whose self,
hasn't yet been established?
Fictional matter, ok. You got a mail.. was a good movie. But, yes, you can be
friend in cyberworld. I have such friends. But it is just that. OK. Take it easy my friend, go down to the street, find a girl you would really like to talk with, and give it a try. It might work.
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| aviyentaa |
Posted
on 19-Mar-02 05:41 PM
Hello Kanak,
I have a mixed response to your question....it may work it may not. You will have to wait and find out more about her. You have seen her only on picture(s),But when you really happen to meet her in person, she might not be the sameone you have imagined about or she will find you in a different way. Best thing would be to meet her first promising nothing that whether you want to marry her or asking from her to marry you. After your first meet, if you decide that she is the one made for you, ask her how she felt about you. If she feels the same way as you do, then you will enter a different phase of your relationship, otherwise just stay friend to her.You can still be her friend and wishing her the best and respecting her in future the way you do now will dramatically increase your potential of getting her. Girls are feelers, so let her have ample amount of time to develop the real feelings for you.
Next thing- always try to be open and as expressive to her as possible. Since you are in a long distance tele-love, you have to work four times harder to impress her than you would do to impress someone close by you. It also depends on what kind of a girl she is. Try to know what she expects in her life, and what she would expect from her partner. Different expectations tend to ruin your relationship in future, better be sue of what you really want of her and what she really wants out of your friendship. Don't rush up your decisions.........let her decide first.
Hope you the Best!!
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| Kanak |
Posted
on 19-Mar-02 06:20 PM
Aveeyenta
Thank you so much for a good advice.I am agree with you in some point.Who knows she might be different in real life but the things is i am in love with her and she also sounds same as me.And this is our 4 months net and phone relations.There is not a singel day which we didn;t talk at phone.I know everything about her which she used to express in the phone and hope all the things are true.And we love each other so much ,she has already offer me to come at her place to see her but i just feel unconscious.It will be like a blind date for me isn;t it?So what i have to do ? Shall i go for the blind date or hanging in the phone ?
What are the steps for blind date or cyber date ?If you guys have some kind of experience yaar!!
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| Nepali/American |
Posted
on 19-Mar-02 06:25 PM
Hi Kanak,
Regarding cyber relationship between a boy and a girl or a man and a woman, on the basis of my own personal experience, is so much hard to persive in reality. Writing an email daily and talking on phone once a month do not make sense at all. It turns most of time for the sake of happiness for time being. If you are really fall in love with her, then try to look at her provisional aspects. It may be the cause of ruin of your relationship later. I found that any provisional aspects might be the main cause of ruin of relationship. My openion is that there must not be any provisional aspects between a boy and a girl. If you say "I love you.", you must get retured "I love you too.", otherwise, there must be some sort of provisional aspects. You never know what that is.
Anyway, good luck.
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| Nepaligal |
Posted
on 19-Mar-02 10:26 PM
Hi Kanak,
I understand your problem. and I can give u my suggestion...if u love her and she aslo do the same and u need to meet a gal first then talk about it...I mean about marriage stuff. Then things going to be work out...If u haven't met a gal and just talking in the phone and e-mail eachother is hard to solve your problem. That's why my advice is meet the gal first and show your love for her....
By the way Kanak where r u right now? I mean u r in Nepal or other countries? I mean u r telling us gal is in USA......
...and Kanak this is just my opinion.
---nepaligal---
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| Nepaligal |
Posted
on 19-Mar-02 10:27 PM
Hi Kanak,
I understand your problem. and I can give u my suggestion...if u love her and she aslo do the same and u need to meet a gal first then talk about it...I mean about marriage stuff. Then things going to be work out...If u haven't met a gal and just talking in the phone and e-mail eachother is hard to solve your problem. That's why my advice is meet the gal first and show your love for her....
By the way Kanak where r u right now? I mean u r in Nepal or other countries? I mean u r telling us gal is in USA......
...and Kanak this is just my opinion.
---nepaligal---
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| Nepaligal |
Posted
on 19-Mar-02 10:29 PM
Hi Kanak,
I understand your problem. and I can give u my suggestion...if u love her and she aslo do the same and u need to meet a gal first then talk about it...I mean about marriage stuff. Then things going to be work out...If u haven't met a gal and just talking in the phone and e-mail eachother is hard to solve your problem. That's why my advice is meet the gal first and show your love for her....
By the way Kanak where r u right now? I mean u r in Nepal or other countries? I mean u r telling us gal is in USA......
...and Kanak this is just my opinion.
---nepaligal---
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| Nepaligal |
Posted
on 19-Mar-02 10:34 PM
Sorry , sometime when i submit messages it doesn't work and I went to back and have to click again and now it works and shows same message three times. Sorry about that.
---nepaligal---
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| nepali/SA |
Posted
on 20-Mar-02 05:11 AM
hey kanak...we have somethin in common ....i cant beleive this man...nywys i do believe in cyber relationship.....i'm talkin from experience too ..i have a guy who lives in US and i live in SA so i havent met him but just seen his pic and i speak to him everyday for hrs and hrs......and i know i love him......and he loves me to..hopefully we'll meet each other soon.nywys the point being yes cyber relation does and can work out......if that's what u want then i'd say u should go for the girl..........if she loves u and u love her then what more do u need man......what u waitin for.........so when's the weddin???? nywys goodluck with her and i hope mine works out as well!!!!!!!!!!!! best wishes for the 2 of u!!!!!!!!
Nepali / SA
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| INTUITIVE PERCEPTIONS |
Posted
on 20-Mar-02 11:03 AM
Hi Guys:
Life is more than what we think and dream. We never know what comes in the days to come.
Let me put this way. there is long way to go guys....
Just do what you think good.....Never give up anything unless you do/or think you are in wrong track.....you will not be disappointed then. You will over come in different odds and happiness. I am preety sure you won't regreat for your action afterward whatever the outcome be.
GOOD LUCK AND HAVE FUN ALL
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| thule |
Posted
on 20-Mar-02 11:02 PM
Kanak and Nepali/SA,
Try to be real. You have not even met this other person, and you are already in love? Don't waste your time. Find someone who is closer (distance wise) and someone you can relate to in person. It is hard to tell fromt talking on the phone or via email how the other person is. No one is going to tell negative points about himself/herself on the phone or email. so, everyone seems the most interesting person in the world. Don't live in the fantasy world. I have seen many cases that this type of relationship not working out. Life is already painful; don't try to walk on the path with thorns when you don't have to. Just a tip from my side.
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