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| A Guy |
Posted
on 21-Mar-02 12:32 PM
Is it OK to fall in love with two girls at the same time ? I like to know your views on this. I like to know your personal view, not our society's. So, Please no more "OUR NEPALI SOCIETY" crap. Thanks
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| Munna |
Posted
on 21-Mar-02 12:44 PM
Hey Guy I'd be interested to know if you think it's okay with you if the girl you love, loves you and another guy.
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| A Guy |
Posted
on 21-Mar-02 01:10 PM
I think so Munaa. why not ? Honestly, I wouldn't mind at all. It's not like we are doing aything wrong. There is nothing wrong with sharing Love. To tell you the,
one of the girlfriend already has a steady boyfriend.
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| A Guy |
Posted
on 21-Mar-02 01:11 PM
I think so Munaa. why not ? Honestly, I wouldn't mind at all. It's not like we are doing aything wrong. There is nothing wrong with sharing Love. To tell you the truth, one of the girlfriend already has a steady boyfriend.
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| DivaShah2 |
Posted
on 21-Mar-02 02:20 PM
A Guy,
I think as far as you are not hurting anybody it is fine to fall in love with two people. For me it does not work. I am sensitive. One of my ex boyfriends cheated on me and it hurt so bad.
diva
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| sorryto |
Posted
on 21-Mar-02 02:51 PM
Sorry to hear that Diva.
hope you found honest man.
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| Bia! Bia! |
Posted
on 21-Mar-02 04:18 PM
hey guy,
I know what you're sayin buddy but thats not love u going through right now. Its all infactuation...! I used to have those kinda problems but now i am in love with this girl whom i love so much that I can't even look at any girls. I use to laugh while reading and watchin those novels and movies about guy or girl dying for each other. I thought it was all Bull Shit but then now i 'll die for my girl or do anything. Dude, u should look for the right girl or i'll say u dont even have to look, it 'll come to u and u'll get what i'm sayin' right now. Till then ... have fun man!
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| A Guy |
Posted
on 21-Mar-02 05:30 PM
Trust me guys, my intention is not to hurt anybody. I'm talking about Love here and as far as I know, hurting other people falls into a violent category. I don't think,I'm a violent person. Love is great but all these small rules suck the fun out, you know; don't do this!! don't do that. That is the reason, I don't watch Jerry Springer anymore. Bia Bia brother, you sound more like DON'T ASK, DON'T TELL kind of guy. I like that but how do I know, if she is the right girl or not. Can u give me a clue? I hope, my girlfriends don't read this posting.
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| Incanus_ |
Posted
on 21-Mar-02 10:12 PM
Dearest Diva,
You are partially right. What people consider LOVE does hurt when the other party does not reciprocate. But that is not real love. Love in its purest form does not hurt, no matter what. Passion, what most people mistaken love is, does hurt. So perhaps you were not really in love with your ex boyfriend but merely passionate about him.
Love I think multiplies exponentially when it is distributed among many people. For example, let’s say I love you. And let’s also say that I love someone else. That does not mean that I love you any less. It could mean that I love you even more. For further example, look at Rukmani - Krishna – Radha – Amal (I think that is who Radha was actually married to). Krishna and Radha were in love but they were married to different people. That does not mean Krishna did not love Rukmani. He was madly in love with her as well. And Radha also loved her husband.
So let’s not short changed love. Love is more infinite than people give it credit for. Diva, I am sorry you got heart … just think of it as his loss! I am sure you will find Love … don’t give up in love.
Incanus
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| DSharma |
Posted
on 21-Mar-02 10:31 PM
Was Radha married? 'Lagaan' says she was not. I do not know anything about it. Can anyone clear the confusion?
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| Krishna |
Posted
on 22-Mar-02 07:43 AM
Sharmaji,
Duh...Incanus_ was talking about Lord Krishna from Dwaapar Yug. Lagaan's story
is fictional and has nothing to do with Radha from Dwaapar Yug.
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| DSharma |
Posted
on 22-Mar-02 08:34 AM
I very much know that the person was talking about Lord Krishna and Radha. I know Lord Krishna was polygynist and had at least four wives. But, I never heard that Radha was married and I thought Lagaan said the same; giving an analogy to the memsa'ab's love for Bhuwan with Radha's love for Krishna. I was wondering if I missed an important part in Hindu mythology. If Radha married, could someone explain a little more.
Thanks
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| DivaShah2 |
Posted
on 22-Mar-02 11:05 AM
I thought Lord Krishna had hundreds of wives.
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| Janardan |
Posted
on 22-Mar-02 11:11 AM
Diva JI,
For you information, Lord Krishna had hundreds of lovers, not wives...
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| rebelious sevendust |
Posted
on 22-Mar-02 11:49 AM
hey dude (or guy whatever you are)
personally, I don't think that you can fall in love with two people at the same time. you can like more than one person more than as a friend but its not really love. especially since you said that one of the girl has a steady relationship. obviously she not happy in her relationship. My guess is that you like one girl more than the other but you are physically more attracted to the second one. so quit worrying about it and have fun when you can. AND TO YOU DIVA ,quit whining about your failed relationship. We're not interested on it.
rebelious sevendust
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| Sacri |
Posted
on 22-Mar-02 02:16 PM
I would say it depends on you and your partner. But I would have to say, if you are actually talking about the "Love" as in real love then think twice, its not easy to give up your loved one to someone else.
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| A Guy |
Posted
on 22-Mar-02 02:45 PM
Guys, Please leave Diva alone. She has already gone through a failed relationship and now she is getting lots of blackheads and pimples on her face. What could be worst ? Please try to be nice with her. Anyway after reading your postings, you guys made it sound like I don't truly love both of them ( Jethi & Kaanchi ) equally but that is not true. I think both of them have got my equal share of Love.
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| Incanus_ |
Posted
on 22-Mar-02 03:49 PM
I don’t know too much of Krishna Charitra, but I don’t think Krishna was married to more than one woman. Although some literatures do state that he had over 20000 wives, but I think he was only officially married to Rukmani. However, he did engage in escapades of flirting with gopis, most if not all were married. He even fell in love with at least one of them, Radha, who was a daughter of his foster parents. However there are other examples in Hindu history that speak of being able to love more than one person. Look at the case of Dropadi. She loved all the Pandavs equally, well maybe she loved Arjun a little bit more, but the point is you can love more than one person without diminishing the love that you feel for your soul mate that I assume you would marry, most of the time.
In the purest form you should love but never expect to be loved. As soon as you bring in the concept of expectation in love, then you would be watering down the concept of selfless true love. Love without any expectation is the true love.
Passion on the other hand is entirely different. If I am “passionately in love” with a girl than I have been take over and overwhelmed by the god Kama. In this case I expect the girl also to be passionate with me. Passion in most cases deals with pure physical love, which entails a person’s physical and sexual needs and wants. It is based entirely on expectations of the other person. Passion is defined by the state your mind and body at a particular moment in time, therefore it changes over time.
However love is eternal and infinite that you can love the entire populations equally and still love someone fully. As far as love is concerned you cannot cheat in love. It’s just not possible. However, passion is a different story. If you feel passionately about someone and that someone seems to be passionate about someone else, well than you feel cheated because that person is not meeting your expectation.
I think this is what happened to Diva. Although she thought she was in love with her ex-boyfriend, she was not really in love. She was actually passionate about him. And I am sure she feels hurt because that’s what you feel when your expectation isn’t met. I am almost certain that everyone finds his or her soul mate, the one that you love selflessly. And Diva will too one day. Just got to be patient.
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| A Guy |
Posted
on 23-Mar-02 06:07 AM
Ahahaha, bahut sundar !! Dhanya ho Pravu Incanu_ timro. Sunyaa ho guys, I think I'm a true lover man. Expections and conditons are not healthy for any relationship.
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| selfish |
Posted
on 26-Mar-02 01:08 PM
I think its ok as long as the three of you take it lightly and not too seriously. Its healthy to go out and have some fun so do it. Guy you will fall in love one day (I mean really 'in love') and then u will realise that u don't want to share her with any one.
I know love is about sharing and all that crap but really my experience is that love has made me selfish, I don't think of any one else but the the needs of the two of us.
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| Nep |
Posted
on 26-Mar-02 01:40 PM
I'm confused
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