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| Catz |
Posted
on 09-Apr-02 09:22 PM
6 men who should be endangered species
Linda Rains
Sure, there are a lot of good men left out there, but let’s face it, ladies: There are quite a few we wish we’d never met! You know who you are, fellas, and your numbers are up as women name the top six men we’re ready to add to the endangered list.
1. Homo reptilicus
This guy’s poison for first dates. He either disregards or is completely clueless about the rules for displaying affection in public, slithering in for unwelcome kisses and squeezing you close like a boa constrictor. Keep this one at arm’s length, girls; otherwise, he’ll expect you to slink back with him into whatever hole he crawled out of.
2. Homo restricticus
Beware the boyfriends who won’t let you out of their sight — and for all the wrong reasons. If your Jack is way too jealous, be a judicious Jill and jilt that loser.
3. Homo immaturus
Can’t this guy take you out without drinking himself into a stupor? And would it hurt him to make plans for something other than Monday night football or a night of pool with his pals? This immature dude can be smart, cute and sweet, but unless you're prepared to go on a date and change his diapers during the same evening, tell him to call you when he grows up.
4. Homo reflecticus
Hello! Does this fella even know you’re there? He’s so into himself and talks so much that you can hardly fit a word in edgewise. He knows your first name but seems completely uninterested in learning more. Watch for highly reflective windows around this guy; he often becomes lost in his own gaze.
5. Homo intelligentus
You were looking for Mr. Right but instead found Mr. Always Right! He knows everything about everything and never fails to one-up anything you’ve ever done. Bounce this brainiac and let him pat his own back with someone else.
6. Homo sporadicus
This guy doesn’t even bother to schedule a date when he’s in the mood for love. Instead, you’ll likely hear from him at the midnight hour or later — usually after the clubs close. Unless you’re ready for an irregular Romeo, hang up the phone or slam the door ASAP.
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| doozie |
Posted
on 09-Apr-02 10:42 PM
Suckered into posting again,
But judging by this posting and the last one you seem to be a regular magnet for the cream of the crap.
Here's an alternate take on the same deal
1. Homo reptilicus
Don't tell me you do not appreciate the reptilian shapes (i.e. the one eyed snake monster variety) and the possibilities of unbounded carnal pleasures.
2. Homo restricticus
Another way of saying tighter the fit the better?!!!
3. Homo immaturus
Hey every one hates the lovey dovey cheesy shite, the dude does it because the chick loves it.
4. Homo reflecticus
Well beauty is skin deep until you get saddle bags and a paunch, wrinkles and menopause hon.
5. Homo intelligentus
Weren't you griping about the lack of intelligent men?
6. Homo sporadicus
Never then say that spontaneity is what you want. If it is day in and out, in and out, in and out, in and out you get it.
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| Pathetic |
Posted
on 10-Apr-02 10:55 AM
I have just discovered what kind of man i am
Homo- getting blooy tired of these moaning women who apparently are looking for mr right but always end up with mr. wrong and then go on to generalise and blame the whole male population for their OWN inabilty to make the right chioce.
Complaining of a lack of good men? Well I have news for you ladies out there...men have realised long ago that there is a pronounced SCARCITY of good women, accepted that and just got on with things, trying to make the best out of the "not so best" alternatives available. Complain, complain, complain...that is the only thing I hear coming out of women these days. He doesn't do this....he doesn't say this....he doesn't have this.....he forgot this.......JEEEEZ. No wonder these women never find Mr. Right....it is only when you look past someones defficiencies (spelling?) that you begin to see the true beauty of that person....
Want to treated equally? Want men to show you respect...well then I suggest ..YOU GROWN UP (QUIT COMPLAINING AND GET ON WITH IT), BECOME A "REAL" MAN. Ever heard of the saying "you reap what you sow", if you treat men with respect then maybe you will get it back in return.....JESUS (does it always need a man to point the obvious out)
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| Paschim |
Posted
on 10-Apr-02 08:48 PM
haina, hamra sammananiya stri haru le khojya ke?
damned if you do, damned if your don't.
global population ma majority (slightly above 50%) chha bhandai ma yesari pelna painchha ra bhanya? hamro minority rights to be recognized and appreciated khai?!
Paschim
very dukhi and chintit on behalf of all good and lonely men - allegedly an endangered species :(
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| NK |
Posted
on 12-Apr-02 06:24 AM
catz,
This article may be of some interest to you. Or, to all the alpha male out there and for that matter, all the alpha women too!
Here is the link:
http://www.nytimes.com/2002/04/10/opinion/10DOWD.html
The full article:
April 10, 2002
The Baby Bust
By MAUREEN DOWD
WASHINGTON — At the opening of "The Sweet Smell of Success" last month, a successful New York guy I know took me aside for a lecture that was anything but sweet.
He said he had wanted to ask me out on a date when he was between marriages, but nixed the idea because my job made me too intimidating.
Men, he told me, prefer women who seem malleable and overawed. He said I would never find a mate, because if there's one thing men fear, it's a woman who uses her critical faculties. Will she be critical of absolutely everything?
Now comes Time magazine with an equally distressing commentary. The cover story offers the scariest statistics for women since Newsweek declared in 1986 that a 40-year-old woman was more likely to be killed by a terrorist than to tie the knot.
Time chronicles the new baby bust — women who focus too much on their careers suddenly realizing they've squandered their fertility.
Sylvia Ann Hewlett, an economist, conducted a survey and found that 55 percent of 35-year-old career women are childless. Between a third and half of 40-year-old professional women are childless. The number of childless women age 40 to 44 has doubled in the past 20 years. And among corporate executives who earn $100,000 or more, she says, 49 percent of the women did not have children, compared with only 10 percent of the men.
Ms. Hewlett, the author of "Creating a Life: Professional Women and the Quest for Children," observes, yet again, that men have an unfair advantage.
"Nowadays," she says, "the rule of thumb seems to be that the more successful the woman, the less likely it is she will find a husband or bear a child. For men, the reverse is true."
On a "60 Minutes" report on the book Sunday, Lesley Stahl talked to two young women who go to Harvard Business School. They agreed that while they are the perfect age to start families, it was not so easy to find the right mates.
Men, apparently, learn early to protect their eggshell egos from high-achieving women.
The girls said they hid the fact that they go to Harvard from guys they meet, because it's the kiss of death. "The H-bomb," they call it.
"As soon as you say Harvard Business School . . . that's the end of the conversation," Ani Vartanian said. "As soon as the guys say, 'Oh, I go to Harvard Business School,' all the girls start falling into them."
So the moral of the story is, the more women accomplish, the more they have to sacrifice?
The problem here is not only that women are procrastinating too long; it is that men veer away from "challenging" women because they have an atavistic desire to be the superior force in a relationship.
In the immortal words of Cher: Snap out of it, guys.
Male logic on dating down is bollixed up: Women who seem in awe of you in the beginning won't stay in awe once they get to know you. Women who don't have demanding jobs are not less demanding in relationships; indeed, they may be more demanding. They're saving up all that competitive energy and critical faculty to lavish on you when you get home.
If men would only give up their silly desire for world dominance, the world would be a much finer place.
Look at the Taliban. Look at the Vatican. Now, look at the bonobo.
Bonobos, or pygmy chimpanzees, live in the equatorial rain forests of Congo, and have an extraordinarily happy existence.
And why? Because in bonobo society, the females are dominant. Just light dominance, so that it is more like a co-dominance, or equality between the sexes.
"They are less obsessed with power and status than their chimpanzee cousins, and more consumed with Eros," The Times's Natalie Angier has written. "Bonobos use sex to appease, to bond, to make up after a fight, to ease tensions, to cement alliances. . . . Humans generally wait until after a nice meal to make love; bonobos do it beforehand."
The males were happy to give up a little dominance once they realized the deal they were being offered: all those aggressive female primates, after a busy day of dominating their jungle, were primed for sex, not for the withholding of it.
There's no battle of the sexes in bonoboland. And there's no baby bust.
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| Pathetic |
Posted
on 12-Apr-02 11:28 AM
Yet again another winging and whining female who complains that life (which is in womes' speak means MEN) is so unfair.....
Given the nature of how things work and their knowledge of it men and women make concious (spelling?) decisions about love, work, relationships, marriage, children etc....and they should accept the consequences of the choices they make. Life is all about compromises, give and take, scarificing of one desire for another (well at least that is what all the women I have ever had relationships with tell me), so when a female decides to have a career as her main focus in life she has to understand that it involves sacrificing someother things...and in some cases that means relationships and kids.....Think about it.......As woman gives her all to furthering her career she has little time to devote to her relationships so, it is very unlikely that she can keep a man once the initial carnal desires have been satisfied....Hey men want quality time with their women too, you know the long cuddles, spending hours just lazing around with their partners etc...So when they cannot get that from a career-focused woman they move on to someone who can spend more time with them. So relationships are hard to manage....at least she has her job and if she gives it the right effort and energy,it will go places....Now lets say after a few years once she has conquered the career "summit" she may decide she wants to settle down, but the thing is it will be hard for her to find a partner...why? Well, presumably it takes some time to get ahead in the career so by the time she may want to settle down she will be past her prime physically....and when they are competeing for a man against women 10-12 years her junior she really don't have a chance, now does she? It is not anyones fault, just the way it is......men prefer younger women, and there is nothing wrong with that but more importanly that WON'T change. When a man is considering having a family he will generally choose someone 4-6 years his junior and a 26 year old over a 36 year old any day. A fact of life.....
So my advice to you wingers and whiners out there...just accept it because YOU made the choice......knowing the facts of life...PATHETIC
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| jagatdogg |
Posted
on 12-Apr-02 01:25 PM
Poor Pathetic...your name really does suit your point of view. Does everything have to be so one-sided? An entire article was just quoted previously that alludes to the male ego being like an egg-shell. God forbid women get ahead in life, right? It's people like you that love to say, "la khais"-- that's what you get for getting an education, a job (probably a higher paying & more prestigious job than you will ever achieve) and a life? No wonder you have so much anger toward anyone that has moved beyond your small scope of what it is to be a woman in this day and age. Hey, if you want to generalize, let's play that game together. How about if I say it's a fact that most of the Nepali men that have to come to the US as students whine about not having a "community" that will support them because they're away from their families so they can't get good grades...boo hoo...or, how about that they can't get the jobs that will make them financially competitive so they're sad again...boo hoo...or, how about they come here and their visa has expired so now they're working for the proverbial "man", (for any Nepali that would be anyone from India) who has made something of themselves here so you're stuck working for the "evil dhoti" that won't pay you enough but, you wouldn't get paid anything if it weren't for those "dhotis", right? You need to get off your high horse and understand that we all take different paths in life. Okay, so women complain that they can't get a man worth writing home about...maybe it's because the majority of them out there are like you. You can probably get any Nepali woman you want that has barely passed her SLC exam because she doesn't know any better, or any American woman because you've convinced her that you have a big house in Nepal that belongs to your dad and since you're the oldest male its basically yours anyway...or wait, your a Prince of this small country called Nepal and you're exotic so certainly anyone will fall for you, right? Bechara Pathetic, that's exactly what you are...PATHETIC...sound familiar?
p.s. if you get upset, its understandable...the truth hurts, doesn't it?
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| kiran |
Posted
on 12-Apr-02 08:43 PM
You know Pathetic...you have articulated in words something that a lot of Nepali men feel and thank you for that because you've proved to me what i have always thought. Let me explain, why are there so many educated Nepali women that can't find a reasonable match in a Nepali man? I don't think women are necessarily being too picky nor "reaping what they sow" as you said. Rather, it seems that men like you would rather go back and find a fresh, young, lady who is impressionable and for the most part does not have opinions of her own. You are then able to feed your opinions to her and create and mold someone of your own beliefs and ideas. Frankly, I think Nepali men are intimidated by women who can think for themselves and have opinions of their own. It seems that the majority of Nepali men in the US do in fact go back to Nepal to find someone and marry women who are at least 5-10 years younger. YOu've clearly explained why...dont you think, Pathetic?
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| Pathetic |
Posted
on 13-Apr-02 11:36 AM
Let me clarify something here.....I am not against women going out , getting jobs and doing well for themselves.......In todays world (in the west) women being achievers is as common as men doing the same, so much so, that I wouldn't demean their achievements by congratulating them for being a woman, I would congratulate them for being successful....As more and more equality is attained between the sexes I feel the world will be a better place. For too long society and its valuse have been shaped by males and we all will benefit by influences that women can bring to bear on them. I have always been a supporter of womens' rights and an admirer of many great women who have been in the forefront of this battle, starting from pioneers as Susan B. Anhony to modern day icons as Germaine Greer and Maddona....So please do not classifiy me as a women hater..I am not, infact I am a LOVER of women. Rereading what I had written above I can see how I may have given off the wrong impression....
What I merely wanted to say was that women should know that what actions they choose will have an effect on their future......
1) Concentrating on a career will mean not being able to devote as much time as one would have liked to relationships and so it will be hard to hang on to someone (this applies to men as well)
2)Men prefer younger women to older ones..I am not making value judgements on whether it is right or wrong..just stating a general observation I have learned after 29 years of being a man.(My currently girlfriend is 34 b the way) Not all men but most.
So it just seems to me that women are complaining too much about the unfairness of life........
Plus this fallacy that women have thatmen are intimidated by successfull women is false and don't kow where this comes from....I ( and all of my males friends agree) am extremely attracted to strong women. I would much rather spend time with a PERSON of strong character than a weak one anyway. That men are not attracted to strong women is simply false and women should get over that hangup..It is not OUR egos that are at fault but womens' perception of men..we are the victims here and I am sick and tired of women complaining of women who make their own conclusions about men....
if anything were to be said on this, men don't like ANYONE who seems more powerful than them, not just women......
I am advocating a return to the stone ages quite the contrary, women must realise they can't take mens opinions for granted and blame us for all the problems that go wrong in their life and career...
This one especially to women...
MEN PREFER YOUNGER FEMALES.....not out of any need for domination and control but because younger women are less bitter about life.....
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| Supporter of Pathetic |
Posted
on 14-Apr-02 07:31 AM
This "poem" by The legend himself Bob Dylan goes out to all those NARIS' who complain too much and cannot accept men for who they are ( with their good qualities and faults)..
Go 'way from my window,
Leave at your own chosen speed.
I'm not the one you want, babe,
I'm not the one you need.
You say you're lookin' for someone
Never weak but always strong,
To protect you an' defend you
Whether you are right or wrong,
Someone to open each and every door,
But it ain't me, babe,
No, no, no, it ain't me, babe,
It ain't me you're lookin' for, babe.
Go lightly from the ledge, babe,
Go lightly on the ground.
I'm not the one you want, babe,
I will only let you down.
You say you're lookin' for someone
Who will promise never to part,
Someone to close his eyes for you,
Someone to close his heart,
Someone who will die for you an' more,
But it ain't me, babe,
No, no, no, it ain't me, babe,
It ain't me you're lookin' for, babe.
Go melt back into the night, babe,
Everything inside is made of stone.
There's nothing in here moving
An' anyway I'm not alone.
You say you're looking for someone
Who'll pick you up each time you fall,
To gather flowers constantly
An' to come each time you call,
A lover for your life an' nothing more,
But it ain't me, babe,
No, no, no, it ain't me, babe,
It ain't me you're lookin' for, babe.
Moral....if we ain't good enough..then hit the road....we will someone more compatible...don't need your c...
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| Interested |
Posted
on 15-Apr-02 03:59 PM
I am interested to meet smart, strong, confident career mined Nepali women but don't know where to go..Any sugesstions
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| leviathan. |
Posted
on 15-Apr-02 04:53 PM
this is how oscar wilde once described women: "sphinxes without secrets."
i tend to think that any man can be blissfully happy with a woman as long as he is not in love with her. love is not all that it is cranked up to be. between shakespeare and yeats, it has been thoroughly exhausted and cleverly trivialized. now people are more in love with the idea of love than with love itself. and this suits me just fine..
... it suits me just fine as long as the woman is witty and knows how to flirt. a woman who is neither can be exceedingly tiresome. a woman who cannot flirt is almost as unforgivable as a femme with bad perfume, and let me assure you, there are few things in this world that are as bad.
however, women still remain the most charming creatures.. one would be a fool not to fall for the devlishly clever traps they set up for us. the least we can do is be gentlemen about it and play on.
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| jagatdogg |
Posted
on 16-Apr-02 03:42 PM
Pathetic...I was pleasantly surprised to see your rebuttal and found it quite refreshing. I must apologize for exploding at what I thought was a jab at women who have tried to make themselves worthy competitors in our global economy. I certainly agree that it's very difficult to have "chi chi and pa-pa" but, wouldn't it be great if we all could try to achieve that state of balance of chi chi and pa pa? Well, this battle of the sexes has been around since the beginning of time and will continue to rage on far after the next millennium. I think generalities exist for both men and women. Its definitely not one sided. Just as women generalize about men -- men certainly generalize about women. I was curious in your last message where you said that "younger women are less bitter about life..." How do you define "younger women" ? Who are the older women? Is there any age cut off that you think is justified in women having this title of younger vs. older woman? I've always found it interesting in our culture, particularly here in the US, that women are expected to go to college and perhaps even pursue graduate education then suddenly are "of age" to begin looking for a suitable match...but, where are all the equally qualified men when women are supposed to "be ready"? Does the time in between graduation from college to graduate school make a woman too old and bitter? It's interesting because I know a lot well-educated, intelligent, beautiful, well-intentioned women that are stuck in this very same mess that you and I began debating. They seemed to have "done the right thing" and were "good Nepali girls" that became "good Nepali" women...yet, they are not so good anymore because they remain single. Hmmm...I guess that's just the way it is...no sense in getting all crazy about a situation that is just what it is...it's life and we must all deal with it. Thanks for your clarification in the last msg you posted, Pathetic...sorry for the harsh words...I was just advocating on behalf of the women out in the group.
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| jagatdogg |
Posted
on 16-Apr-02 03:43 PM
By the way, Interested...there are plenty of "smart, strong, confident career mined Nepali women" you just need to look outside of the box...
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| hmmm.... |
Posted
on 16-Apr-02 03:47 PM
We have been looking so much outside the box, maybe its time we look inside the box.
hmmm....
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| deepa j |
Posted
on 16-Apr-02 04:39 PM
Hi. I found this discussion interesting because I know plenty of educated Nepali women feeling discouraged because they are unable to find a match. I have seen so many men go back home and find a mate and I have thought to myself that I would do the same (since my "time" is coming too). I am pursuing higher education right now -something that I have always dreamt of doing. Now I feel caught because I think that some Nepali men (I'm careful not to generalize) would rather settle down with a Nepali woman that would make a good housemaker. I put myself in their shoes and see exactly why - I too would probably want to settle down with someone who would look after me, just as my mother did for our family. I don't think that I am the type of woman to neglect family upon getting married and starting that lifestyle, but I think that men are afraid of that. I know that you all are sick of the complaints but frankly, I have (as have my Nepali girlfriends) had a difficult time meeting Nepali men who are seriously interested in settling down with someone who has tasted this Amrikan Haawaa. I'm not saying that they don't exist but there is a limited outlet to meet them and to make matters worse, most decide to go back to Nepal and find someone there. I'll probably end up marrying "outside the box" not necessarily because I want to but because I feel like I have no other choice. Just a few thoughts from me....
Thanx- Deepa
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| jagatdogg |
Posted
on 16-Apr-02 05:16 PM
Deepa, you're absolutely correct! Your sentiments are exactly the same as all of my female south asian friends. Damned if you do...damned if you don't. It seems that all of the women who decide to pursue an education to further themselves get left behind. How ironic. How does one find the balance of educated woman, wife, mother, etc. ? I agree, who wouldn't want a woman that embodies all of the qualities of the ideal mother? And, it's not to say that educated women cannot embody those characteristics. I believe women who have made a concious decision to be ready to step into marriage would be much more ready to fulfill the role of a honest, caring and compassionate wife and mother much more so than a young child-like woman that hasn't even experienced life.
However, I must clarify myself regarding the "look outside of the box" statement. What I meant was that there are plenty of educated, intelligent, beautiful Nepali women who have either a) grown up in the US or b) have been educated in the US but and the standard ways of meeting such women are not working for men who are interested in meeting them. Therefore, looking to other ways other than the usual avenues must be used...thus, "look outside the box". But, if you think looking outside of the Nepali community may be suitable then I guess that would be an option too.
I too am looking for someone that would be compatible with me and I am "of age" however, it's been pretty damn hard.
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| makuro |
Posted
on 16-Apr-02 08:28 PM
Ladies !
I don't think Nepali girl in US have any problem finding Nepali guy as a mate. Look at the ratio of Nepali girls and guys. To say one is to fifteen is the ratio won't be an exaggeration. In my view, guys go to Nepal to find mate because they don't find Nepali girls here. Last year, my cousin went to Nepal to get married. He was at first eying for Nepali girl in US but he couldn't find anyone. Then he went Nepal and got married. I don't think , these days, guys want girls who are passive, docile and do whatever guys tell them to do as if it is the words of Parmeshor. They want someone who has brain, who can think and who can challenge them and thus in turn inspire them.
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| here's the doozie |
Posted
on 16-Apr-02 10:17 PM
So are you women saying that you come to it with a chip on your shoulder? That is without even talking or making an effort to know Nepali men you have a presumption that any particular Nepali guy you meet fits your convenient profile?
Focus less on telling what's going on just be. You know you cannot condescend, its gonna bounce right back up and hit you on the face. The problem is that you all think about marrying too mucch. Put aside the stress of marriage and just live the moment, we all could probably communicate better.
As far as those ones outside the box, your white knights. I think you all should do a little soul searching. Because going outside the box= if it implies dating guys who are non nepali, you all probably get into it without thinking right away that you are going to get married. As a result so much of the pressure is out of the way and as a result you have a good time.
Contrary to that, you go out with a nepali dude, you may, and quite naturally so think that this is the one. Pressure on you pressure on us. And pressure does funny things. Makes you say things and see things that is completely not you.
I am all up for emancipated independent woman. Hell I will even be a stay home dad if it comes down to it. But when I see you across the room and walk over to talk to you, just be the woman that you are and let me be the man I am. Don't tell me what it is supposed to be and where it is supposed to be at.
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| jagatdogg |
Posted
on 17-Apr-02 11:40 AM
Whoa! Hang on everyone...you're completely misunderstanding my comment concerning "look outside the box"! I clarified myself in a previous msg and none of you are paying attention! READ THE MSG BEFORE YOU PUT WORDS IN MY MOUTH! Is it so hard to read 3 lines before you begin a barrage of comments that aren't even related to my statement?
Listen men...I completely understand what you're saying about the pressures of marriage and all--You're right--our pressure does become your pressure...but, I did not advocate for looking outside of the culture/race/identity/ethnicity/creed/religion...or whatever you want to call it. I was merely pointing out that there is frustration on both sides for equally educated, intelligent, well-meaning men AND women therefore, we must find other CREATIVE ways other than the standard ways of meeting (eg. through parents, other family members, etc.) because it limits the scope of people one can meet. For those living in the US, it's an immense place and Nepali people are scattered in each one of the 50 states...that's over 3000 miles of land. It's difficult to look outside of our own little Nepal that we've created in our home towns and cities just by virtue of the size of this country. I hope I have made it clear this time. If we must look to the outside world of men to fulfill our needs, then so be it. Why judge someone for doing so? But, if it is a Nepali man or woman your heart desires then go for it...however, how will we know if Mr. Right or Miss Right is out there in such a big country? That is what I meant by looking outside the box...find new and creative ways to find eachother rather get frustrated.
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| doozie |
Posted
on 17-Apr-02 04:00 PM
Jagat:
The world does not revolve around you. What you say is a door to a discussion, the discussion does not have to revolve around every point that you raise and specifically be limited in it. So what if you implied something else? Just because a post raised takes another another interesting diversion, doesn't mean that it has lesser value because it does not address what you think is right. And YOU read it right to, most of the posts have enough disclaimers. That probably is the root of all the problem.
Stop freaking out and go with the flow. Sorry to burst your bubble but this had to be done.
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| jagatdogg |
Posted
on 17-Apr-02 05:35 PM
The problem comes from miscommunication, Doozie. If what I said gets misinterpreted then it results in confusion which then leads to erroneous implications about an idea that was not intended. What makes you think that I would imply the world revolves around me? It was my comment and it got taken out of context and I felt I needed to clarify. Sorry to burst your bubble by pointing out what my original intention was. I was merely clarifying myself-- Besides, I agree with you and think my comment did turn to another interesting point...but, for you to come off as the judge and jury on how I can and can't clarify my own statements sounds like the world revolves around you.
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| Lizard |
Posted
on 17-Apr-02 09:05 PM
Makuro,
I completely agree with ur opinion.I feel thats the same case with most nepalis living outside Boston.Most of Nepali girls live in and around Boston.You dont find any nepali females living in the mid-west.. coz i am from mid-west.
Lizard
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| Catz |
Posted
on 20-Apr-02 02:12 PM
>haina, hamra sammananiya stri haru le khojya
>ke?
>
>damned if you do, damned if your don't.
>
>global population ma majority (slightly
>above 50%) chha bhandai ma yesari pelna
>painchha ra bhanya? hamro minority rights to
>be recognized and appreciated khai?!
>
>Paschim
>very dukhi and chintit on behalf of all good
>and lonely men - allegedly an endangered
>species :(
What's missing in your relationship?
It's possible that you're not spending enough time with your girlfriend to begin with, which is why her emotions are triggered by a man who goes all out for his woman at the drop of a hat.
What can you do?
While it's important to spend time apart and have your own life, it's also crucial that you set aside "bonding" time with your girlfriend. If you find it hard to coordinate each other's social circles and still spend time with each other, make Friday or Saturday night "boyfriend/girlfriend night." She can't expect you to drop your friends and everything else that is important to you, but you can show her that she is high on your list of priorities by skipping one week of "boy's night out" and showing her a good time.
3- The "player" that changes his ways
One of the reasons why women are attracted to jerks, stems from their need to change the men they are with. Women get satisfaction from the ability to turn the player they meet into a one-woman man; and knowing she's the one who did it makes her feel like she achieved the ultimate, as accomplished in the Eddie Murphy comedy, Boomerang. Okay, the woman in question was Halle Berry, so it wasn't all that hard.
What's missing in your relationship?
You may not realize it, but perhaps you give other women a lot of attention when you're out with your sweetheart, or maybe you simply don't give her enough attention.
What can you do?
Don't be afraid to publicly display your affection while you're out with your honey, and if you're not an exclusive couple yet but want to be, show her how you feel with words and actions.
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| amilo |
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on 21-Apr-02 10:40 AM
Seems like it goes on a circle. Intelligient men cannot find smart women, and vice versa. how about having local singles' night out? i am sure there are plenty of single men/women around. set a date and a venue, and people in the neigborhood will get together. I think it was in Boston where they tried to have singles night out. by the way, how did it work out? and smart men and smart women can judge for themselves whether the opposite sex with a smilar level of intellegience can be a match or not.
amilo
ps. let me know if there is going to be such evet in midwest..:)
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