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| tango |
Posted
on 25-Apr-02 02:12 PM
How do you guys look towards the interacial relationship? I have seen that most of us don't have any objection on having gfs or bfs from differnt societiies or cultures or religions or even from differnt countries. But when it comes to a point where we have to show a real committment(marriage), we kinda hesitate. We start thinking about pros and cons of the aftermath, get scared of our parents upcoming reactions(we don't wanna hurt them), and marry the ones they want us to get married with(Just to Keep them happy and to keep our status high in a society).Should we marry the ones we want to get married with no matter what our parents reactions would be? Should we sacrifice our loves just to keep our parents happy? OR is it possible to keep our parents happy and marry the ones we want to get married with at the same time?
a Confused Nepalese!!
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| MARRIED TO NEPALI |
Posted
on 25-Apr-02 06:35 PM
Hi
I am an indian girl married to a nepali man and my parents were always cooperative to help me out with the relationship although they were against a little bit.
I have educated parents and hence they are more understanding. I am not sure how educated are your parents and if they think broadly.
Cheers
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| Gorbachov |
Posted
on 25-Apr-02 06:47 PM
Well, I would say if you love someone, you should marrry her. It's both of you who is gonna spend rest of your life not your parents. Common, you guys came all the way to learn things here, let's not to go back to our "Ijjat"," " Dhong"..and social "rawaf".
By the way, I am glad this indian gal's life is going well with her nepali husband. The world is globalized. That doeesn't mean we can forget our values though. If you genuinly love some african chic or malasyan or american chic or whoever, Your parents would be able to understand. If you can't convince them, may be you should work on that rather than blaming them.
Final note: being educated doesn't necessarily means "broader" mind. Look at the dowry system which ultimately leads to abuse and even death in india and Nepal. It mostly happends with rich and educated ones...
Take care
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| fren |
Posted
on 25-Apr-02 07:40 PM
I feel that we have certain obligation to our country, race, and ethnicity. I feel that we have to supress all our emotion when it comes to commitments such as marriage and make a judgement call. If we started marrying people from other countries, what will have to our country? In two-three hundred years we as a country and people will not exist anymore. I have nothing against interracial marriage but I just feel that it is important for us to keep our distinct culture alive. I don't believe in falling in love, I believe in loving the person that i will spend my life with.
I also wonder sometimes if I will be missing out. But I guess you have to lose some thing to gain something. You know what's ironic though. My grandma tells me that in my chinah(don't know how to translate that in English) it says that i will marry a foreign guy. Anyways, I would love to hear from other Nepali girls on this issue.
Thanks
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| Gorbachov |
Posted
on 25-Apr-02 09:09 PM
Fren, How many people are outside of our country?.. About 20 million is still there. So let's not worry about our existence yet!..
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| fren |
Posted
on 25-Apr-02 09:18 PM
That is not my point Mr Gorbachov. It was just my opinion
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| lust-one |
Posted
on 26-Apr-02 08:35 AM
Interacial MARRIGE???????? Oh ! God please Don't even try....... been there , done that......this was the worst experience of my life.No matter how much you love that person, it will never be the same, you will be always missing something deep inside,you will not know untill its too late to realize.
My suggestion...please retire with your own cultural bride.
bye,
Foreigner
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| support |
Posted
on 26-Apr-02 10:35 AM
yea! i agree with lust-one.
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| VODKA |
Posted
on 26-Apr-02 03:00 PM
HELL NO ------- INTERACIAL-RELATIONSHIP
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| VODKA |
Posted
on 26-Apr-02 03:00 PM
SUPPORT -VODKA
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