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on 13-Jun-02 11:36 AM
Here is a interesting article for surviving nasty break up.(match.com)
The key to bouncing back from a bad breakup is to believe that you will recover despite the incredible pain, sadness, and devastation you are feeling. The worst part about getting dumped is that it profoundly affects your self-esteem. You feel a tidal wave of rejection, which causes your life to come to a screeching halt with little hope that things will ever be normal again and that your dreams have been destroyed forever.
Bouncing back is up to you, and you have to start now so you'll be ready when you find your soul mate. Here are 7 ways to get on with your life:
1. Don't blame yourself
Don't get caught up in the questions, "Why? What did I do wrong? What could I have done differently?" It's good to re-evaluate the relationship, but blaming yourself only prolongs the breakup blues. Stop feeling sorry for yourself. If it was your fault, admit to it and vow to learn from the experience.
2. Have a good cry
It is okay to feel lousy, lonely, lethargic and overwhelmed — for a few days. Your heart is hurting and needs time to heal. Healing occurs only after you acknowledge your emotions, without letting your anger and rage fester. So vent and cry as much as you need to — but set a date to end the moping. Writing it down gives you a goal to work toward.
3. Check your relationship inventory
This is a great time to evaluate the pros and cons of your past relationship. Analyzing your past will help you build a better relationship in the future. What must you have in your next relationship? What is something you will never do again? Identify your assets and your limitations — and keep them in mind when the next relationship starts.
4. Get out of the house
Do not let your television, computer, or couch become your best friend. Accept the invitation to the summer barbecue; go out for a drink after work; ask a friend to go to a movie. Although it may feel awkward and strange socializing without your ex, putting it off only makes it more difficult as time goes on.
5. Start dating again
The best way to start dating again is to do a an online dating site It is fun, easy, safe, available 24-hours-a-day, and an ideal way for you to start meeting potential matches. It will give you hope and optimism — especially when people start contacting you.
6. Start to heal
We have all had broken hearts that never seem to stop breaking. The ones who recover quickly are those who are resilient and persevere — and are able to speed up the process of letting go of the past and moving on.
7. Make lemonade
When life gives you lemons, try making lemonade. Being optimistic really helps. Not only does it make you feel better, it gives you the confidence and attitude to go out and meet someone new.
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