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| nabina |
Posted
on 21-Jul-02 08:17 PM
dear frens:
i need help. my husband i cheating on me. i found out last week when i picked up the phone and he was talking to another woman and they were making plans to meet in secret. since then i have searched my husband's stuff and found that he has cheated on me before. i married my husband two years ago afte having gone out with him for three years, my parents objected as he is from a different caste.
i am not sure what to do anymore. i had heard from other friends about their husband cheating on him and i never thought my husband would ever do such a thing. i had seen aunts and cousins whose husbands have cheated on them too and i never thought my husband woudl do that.
i don't know what to do. how can i tell my parents back in nepal? they will blame me and will be of no support. i have a one year old and did not finish college because i got married to my husband. my husband's family hate me for being from a differnt caste. my brother in law made a pass at me last year at dashain.
please advise. what should i do. is this the fate of nepali women? is this what all nepali men are like?
help!!
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| MadMax |
Posted
on 21-Jul-02 08:21 PM
HAHHAHAHAA HAHAHAH YOU ARE FUNNY
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| ??? |
Posted
on 21-Jul-02 08:30 PM
Where exactly is this hapenning?
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| your wellwisher |
Posted
on 21-Jul-02 09:16 PM
To you missy
No!! not many nepali mans does this okay......
If I was you I would kick his A$$ out and move on with life.
Well, yeah! I certainly understand that your parents are going to be very disappointed; however you didn’t think of any of these consequences before. Therefore you have to learn to face it.
Like we all know people always says “love is everything” “I’m in love with so and so I can live without so and so” that is the most stupid mistake you can ever do.
We can fall in love again and again and again.
I sure hope you’ve saved lots of money.
In every marriage these three things are very important:
1) education
2) money
3) love
Without these three things life is going to be pretty tuff.
I wish you all the best.
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| alp |
Posted
on 21-Jul-02 09:37 PM
hi nabina,
i don't know if you are telling this thing truth or just trying to make this thread interesting. but as far as your problem is concerned, if you are a daring women, you should get divorced with that guy after knowing everthing bad about him. if i were you , i would that. and life doesn't end here. live to earn money, you'll have better life.
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| Bhenda |
Posted
on 22-Jul-02 06:47 AM
Nabina,
I am so sorry for what is going on with your life. Pls try to get some education when you are here in this country, if you are here in the US. If your husband has Greencard, stick to him till you get one too. If you already have one then divorce his ass, he has to pay you child support and has to support you also till you become independent.
I am not sure what to advice you if you are in Nepal, pls try to find a job. Try to finish your education.
PLS stop being scared of your family, society and so on. My mom divorced my dad when I was still 4 years old, she was not educated, she had no money and with two kids. She survived and here we are, I am very proud of my mom. PLS BE STRONG. GOOD LUCK.
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| Bhenda |
Posted
on 22-Jul-02 07:00 AM
Madmax Ji,
How could you even laugh at somebody who is in distress??? What sort of human being are you??
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| Y'all bhenda played again |
Posted
on 22-Jul-02 01:01 PM
please, everyone, help me. i need your advice. i don't know whether to laugh or cry when y'all keep falling for this nakkali "please help, i need your advice" jive. "nabina" was just playin' y'all after it was pointed out that *sabina* was a fake. btw, i sleep with "nabina's" husband every night. go figger.
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| loverboy |
Posted
on 22-Jul-02 01:51 PM
dunno if you r telling the real truth...regardless here are my 2 cents..
Divorce and moving on is naturally the first exit of your frustrations and anger. But you need to evaluate some options. Sometimes in realtionship SEX is not the only thing. If you did not have one yr old then it would have been a different story but since you do, now you have to think for all 3 of the people involved.
Questions:
1. divorce. Could that be the best solution for 3 of you?
2. chemistry. do you have an ounce of chemistry that is left from how you two had started.
3. cheating. Cheating is certainly not justifiable at any cost; however sometimes men and women both have bad experimentation desires. But does that necessarily should leave to separation? If that were to be the case then the foundation of your presentation was entirely built on SEX alone and from my experience that necessarily is a foundation of a faulty relatioship.
If I were you I would hav a direct communication with your husband and let him know how you are feeling. No talk of Divorce, no talk of guilt, not talk of victim...just a solid mature conversation on how you feel "RIGHT NOW" as a result of his action. If he is a bloke with ounce of integrity he will apologize and grow up . If he throws tantrums, lies and dodges the questions. Then do what is best for you.
Good luck.
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| bahula |
Posted
on 22-Jul-02 01:57 PM
Threesome. that's it. that's the answer. you, your husband and another beauty.
dhanyabaad
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