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| conscience |
Posted
on 09-Aug-02 09:10 PM
i have decided to live my life in seclusion...living just for myself n my aims....not for relationships{i mean personal..not familial}...that's the reason why i haven't started for any realitionship yet.....coz i m fed up of what i have seen and am seeing around......i haven't regretted yet.....but...now some of my relatives r bringing up some proposals ..n my parents have been rejecting them so far....but how long can i convince my folks?? i m wondering.....whether my decision is rational or is it............?? ppl do help me out...............
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| nuts |
Posted
on 09-Aug-02 09:33 PM
hey conscience, whoever you are, instead ofgiving you an answer, I will just say that I feel the same way when it comes to marriage and relationship.Not that i am not involved with someone, but i serioulsy don't believe that marriage will ever make me happy. I just wanna spend my life the way I am. Some one here in the US( one of my far relatives) desparately wants me to marry their kin in nepal just for the sake of (getting her )a green card! and the more they want me to consider about it, the more i get offended. I don't know why one's (or is it just me?) perspective of settling down with someone changes with a change in environment. I just love my seclusion these days( when it comes to marriage).
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| Junkie |
Posted
on 10-Aug-02 04:34 PM
Seclusion is a bliss, I do agree ...... often times I go on a self imposed exhile from my frens but not from my duties (family not here, so that doesn't factor in). BOttom line is you gotta do what makes you happy.
But then there's a longing to get together and scream out LOUD. Then you venture into seekin the long lost and not so lost frens and relive & make up for the lost time.
Seclusion, consociation ..... bleakness, happiness, ...... US, nepal ...... Yin Yang
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| id |
Posted
on 10-Aug-02 08:24 PM
I am yet another guy who just loooooooooooves to be alone. I just feel happy when I am left alone to myself. I love whistling alone in the wilderness. I love to sing to myself. I love to dance around and laugh at myself. Its osmething I do all the time. I even talk to myself. Its as if I have a wonderworld in my mind and I am the hero. I am lost in my own world. SO much so that I hate it when I cannot find enough time to myself. It just makes me miserable when I constantly have to put up with people. I am like " What the f**k"!
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| TRUE NEPALI |
Posted
on 10-Aug-02 11:39 PM
FIRST YOU GUYS ARE LOOSERRRRRRRRRR CAN'T FIND SOME ONE TO LOVE OR BE LOVE BY. YOUR PARENTS HELP U GUYS TO FIND ONE FOR STILL DON'T WANT TO MARRY, WHAT IS UP WITH THAT??
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| conscience |
Posted
on 11-Aug-02 04:58 AM
hey true nepali or whosoever u are..
just because we want to live our life the way we want to...without any compromises..any negotiations...u can't call us losers...it's not that i can't get a boy for myself of my kind or something...it's just that i don't like to be with someone..n i think i m happy with it..no troubles n no nothing...just u n ur life..besides u r forgetting something , in this century...if u want.. u can get anything ..anytime.. anywhere....n here a guy is no exception......i hope u get this clear in ur neurones....
peaceeeeeeeee
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| Junkie |
Posted
on 11-Aug-02 10:33 PM
hehe ...... Mahabharat ..... the visionary "secluders" versus the hordes of so called sociables ..... to one his own me say
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| ebony_firefly |
Posted
on 13-Aug-02 02:56 AM
hey! conscience,
well, it seems as if this is the common problem..i am perplexed...seeing you and other people getting vexed ...
i really think people need to understand the meaning of personal space in this stuffy environment.that we live in..hey! sometimes you might feel as if you are the only one who has that kinda notion of life and living...but, hey! ..there are few more...like you around here.
WELL ITS YOUR LIFE...PEOPLE SHOULD RESPECT YOUR PERSONAL DECISION ON YOUR LIFE... AS AN HUMAN BEING EVERYONE HAS RIGHT TO CHOOSE THEIR OWN COURSE OF LIVING ...HEY! WHO HAS SEEN AFTER DEATH...THIS LIFE IS PRECIOUS...
hats off to you ...you have all the rights on your life and no one can ethically and legally force you to do things...best of luck...
blac_
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| nuts |
Posted
on 13-Aug-02 08:51 PM
some lady in nepal named sushmita is seeking divorce from a supposedly big time actor called Bhuvan KC. This dude had sushmita as his second wife. After 10 years, the wife wakes up and realizes that she is not *married* with the rite man.
Another instance of peoples growing disbelief in the institution of marriage. Why do people need to be married?, why not just stay together like partners so that if they, someday, realize that the relationship is not working out, they can separate without much hassle?
I know it sounds the heights of stupidity to talk about this thing. But hey, its just the way I feel. !
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| mista |
Posted
on 13-Aug-02 09:09 PM
I love to have mind arguments with myself...one thought tells me something, and then another thought pops out to counter the original thought....my mind is pretty much like a spider's web... intricately woven thoughts, yet random.. pure original thoughts.. yesterday morning, on my way to my work, I dreamt of becoming tall....6'5" or so....in a week or so, I will have bulging muscles, my mind went....tall and big...then I'll show them who the real man is....girls won't be able to reject me...men will be jealous of my rugged looks...then suddenly i realize that I'm a 5'6" munchikin and I go bonkers....is there any synthetic hormone that's gonna make me tall in a day, I wonder....
is this the mind of a man suffering from ADD, I sometimes ask myself....my thoughts are jumbled.... thoughts that can never be disentangled...
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| confused |
Posted
on 14-Aug-02 01:13 PM
u are rite nuts...
"Why do people need to be married?, why not just stay together like partners so that if they, someday, realize that the relationship is not working out, they can separate without much hassle? "
it sounds much more simpler. after all who wants more complications in their already complicated lives???? but then, people still think that it is WRONG to stay together and not get married. its difficult especially if you have family back home. marriage is over-rated in nepal!!! sux..big tyme
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| conscience |
Posted
on 16-Aug-02 08:15 AM
hey confused n nuts....
if u guys r that much scared of responsibilites....why do u even dare to start a relationship??....just live ur life alone ..this way u wouldn't have to forbear anything....u guys sound something like....wanting to taste honey...without a sting....com'mon..is it really possible?? unless u try some blondes ...i don't see any rays around.............love,sex,fun..i don't think they come under one holiday package..do they??
peaceeeeeeeeeeeee
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| SITARA |
Posted
on 16-Aug-02 08:53 AM
Hi Conscience,
It is fine to want to live the way you choose to live. There is no need to justify it. We have been brought up with a cultural mental conditioning which is accompanied by emotional blackmail and so vassilate between the "rights" and "wrongs" of societal pressures. Now that we have all found solace in solitude from the neverending vicious circle of melodrama, we do not want to give up our peace of mind so easily. And there are only a handful few who acknowledge desiring a non-confirmist way of life.
As for marriage, it does not solve any lonliness...(....if you carry lonliness within yourself). In the final analysis, it is compatibility in the realtionship that survives the upheavels of twosome. Living together or not...is not the issue (refering to other postings), after the novelty fades, there has to be a deeper level of emotional/mental commitment and friendship that lasts "being in love".
So...go ahead be a critical thinker and align yourself with your inner harmony and not someone else's impositions (institutional and/or otherwise).
so......Kudos to all of you guys who are aware of your choices and the implications of choosing them! we are born alone and die alone; inbetween we should choose the quality of life we want to live and with whom.
SITARA
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| Keti@DC |
Posted
on 16-Aug-02 09:08 AM
hey mista....that was funny...but love urself for who u r!
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| well-wisher |
Posted
on 19-Aug-02 01:04 AM
may be we should start doing those reality TV shows like in india for marriage. It may help our yuwa pusta for arranged marriage( at least marriage) ;)
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