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| destiny |
Posted
on 14-Aug-02 11:13 PM
Being slushy....I m tiding here and there.."Suddenly ..a thounder arouses me"..AH!! where am I? My eyes being sticky..a blurry vision..waiting to behold the upcoming desires.I could feel the warm sack,a bit spacious..I could adjust myself.Sometimes a sapid, sometimes a subacid taste through my oesophagus.I could perceive the odor of an unselfish loyal,benevolent concern...and taste the passion, admiration and endearment of motherhood.I am overwhelmed........
Wow!! My organs...my organs are in their progressive development..each day..I perceive the events occured to respond to emotional and spiritual stimuli..I can't express how pleaded i was when I realized later...i was in a warm " Womb".......The swirling releifs proceeding though my soul and viscus..My contentments continously floating with desires..
As the time elapses by , I am developing with the same rate..AH!!! I can hear.....my mom's voice .....she sounds tired and exhausted..."MOM!! what's going on?"Are you okay?"duhh! I wish i could talk to my mom..."mom! mom! can you hear me?"...I could hear my sisters(may be) mumblings...I am wondering where my father could be........
Slowly, slowly.......gently..i can move my feet.......shuffling.....OOPS! it tickles my mom..My expectations and desires...are steadily increasing to optimums...I m lost in the imaginations....the state of being vivacious.....enjoying with the world's beauty and splenders...........................how would it be?....
Goshh! my daa...d...his voice penetrationg my soul, i m endowed,dazzled....My dad with my mom....I m waiting for my dad to feel me with a warm touch on my mom's belly.......I m planning to give him a sharp kick..............OHHHHH! why my dad sounds so cranky...He's hazing my mom..i guess...By the time...i could feel a sharp jerk.....oops!! My mom being whipped...he banged my mom.."MOM!!! "" UUUU....gutless slouch!!!""".....I hate you daad...i hate you...My deferential regard towards my dad's gone in vain...How dare? how could he do that to my mom...I could still hear...my mom and my sisters sobbing....i m in a fret..i wish i could handle the situation..I m helpless..i cant figure it out since..i m trapped..in morass............
Fewdays later......i could hardly beleive my hairs on my bald head...I'll have my mom to dress my hair with the designed knots.....my kindled hopes...began striking me...I m dying to see my mom..and my sisters...OH!! again..........3 months..more...i cant wait any longer.......ohhh ..not again.......I cant bear it..my dad uttering with a hiss..i dont understand why he's making it worse again..my mom's hurt..............
I want to set myself free...and tranquil with the earths glories..I m yearning for the embracing hands...my mom's hand...how would it be..i cant imagine....oh! goodness!! .....but i later realizes..something weird's going to happen.some disturbances..i could hear.......AH!! it did..a reprieve was sent to me for 3 days suspension..after that..i was executed....The earth killed..me! a month before....i could open my eyes...this all because i was a girl....a penalty........for a sin....WAS IT???????/ how could this happen????????what was my fault........
whom should i accuse??? the privileged society or my parents dignity....
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| destiny |
Posted
on 14-Aug-02 11:18 PM
I've written this article..jus' my imagination...i m looking forward to see ur comments...plzz! do write to me...
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| felt it |
Posted
on 14-Aug-02 11:35 PM
best one ever on this forum !keep it up !
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| biruwa |
Posted
on 15-Aug-02 11:27 AM
Destiny,
The story mesmerized my conscience? The Drama takes you from one state of happiness to the emotion of dispair in a whiff.
I envy you for writing so eloquently. I might add that people reading this are already compassionate. It will titillate their conscience, but I suspect them to be soft already.
Hit the dirt track. AK's good(refering to another thread). We need this and that!
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| bideshi |
Posted
on 15-Aug-02 12:02 PM
Destiny,
A great article! It's such a heart touching, a very emotional and a true fact of today's society!Keep it up!
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| oys_chill |
Posted
on 15-Aug-02 12:38 PM
indeed a very good article....VERY LAUDABLE!!!!
But I wouldn't say its a capstone of just one kind of society...where the family is oriented in having a son...
What about any kind of abortion? the similar depiction can be drawn when the unborne goes through the same fate in every case.....JUS A THOUGHT!
so do we feel the same way for all the unborne? HARSH REALITY!!
oys
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| Diva_Starz |
Posted
on 15-Aug-02 07:16 PM
Destiny,
A nice one.. touching infact. I had heard of babies communicating with their mother through dreams or through intuitive thoughts about their condition in womb, or about emotional concerns of the mother. You have expressed them beautifully...can see those rare feminine integrity in your words.You certainly deserve an applaud.
Regarding the end, its a bitter truth, a frightening one. There is still this 'son preference' syndrome in many communities leading to female foeticide, and other domestic violence.
As long as menifestation of gender violence continues, this kind of tragic end is repeative...
peace
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| destiny |
Posted
on 15-Aug-02 10:50 PM
I m not a feminist..a great..one.fightig for the women's right..lol...but i'm trying to picturize the scenerio, the simple human fetus...with the overpowering desires being ruined...it has some facts..still encountered in so called society...
Folks! Thanks for ur comments..that made me feel much better...
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| czar |
Posted
on 16-Aug-02 09:45 AM
The social implications are only now just being acknowledged in the one country that systematially encouraged gender selection with their 'one child' policy.
China now has a skewed population with approximately 30 million young men who have no hope of finding a wife. What kind of social backlash might this engender ?
The pathos you words engender rivals the Greeks of yore.
Destiny, thou art woman, mother divine.
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| oys_chill |
Posted
on 16-Aug-02 10:22 AM
mmm destiny.....on second thoughts!!!!
someone said it right "Imagination is the only weapon in my war against reality" ;)
KEEP WRITING!!!!!!
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| Junkie |
Posted
on 17-Aug-02 12:27 AM
I am gratefulto this unborn kid for maintaining her weight ..... atlast her mom was tickled ........ cuz when I moved I heard my mom scream "mora gadha motaye, kati chale raheke ..... dui-char pound ko keta bhaye tah hunthiyo nee .... tara .... ." that was then ..... now ....still fat but highly immobile ........
who let the fat man out .......
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| Nepe |
Posted
on 17-Aug-02 10:33 PM
A decent dramatization as a preface to pose a serious ethical question. And eloquent writing.
But ethical questions are often polymorphous as exemplified for the current one by Oys_chill.
Czar pointed out to the real problem appearing in China caused by the gender selection. I might also add that this problematic of skewed population has skewed people’s fixation on gender preference too. Some times a problem is actually the solution of another problem. People call it irony.
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| SITARA |
Posted
on 17-Aug-02 11:32 PM
Very eloquent, Destiny:
I agree with you OYS...But here is something we all might want to consider:
Ethics and Morality are double-edged swords ......circumstancial factors play a major role in how they are wielded.
Has anyone read a sociological-based books called "Children having children"? It is about teenage pregnancies and their repercussions......
Then there are pregnancies stemming out of rapes, incest and pedophilia...... How do we differentiate between the pain of the living versus the pain of the unborn?????????
Abortions kills......but it can also save the lives/and chances of the already born. Is this
too harsh a statement??? perhaps, but having worked with inner-city kids-parents (as young as 14 yrs old!!) slogging, pimping, prostituting and drug dealing trying to make ends meet to for their own survival is as heart-breaking.!!!!! So, when living hurts for those already born.......what can one say about those unborn?????
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| czar |
Posted
on 18-Aug-02 12:14 AM
Sitara,
A very valid point: how does one compare the needs of the mother-to-be vis a vis the as yet unborn ? The impact on the quality of life of the woman is often a consideration that be it as it may, leads to termination of the pregnancy.
How about passion overcoming judgement, that often finds an unwed female with an unwanted pregnancy. What then ?
I overheard a conversation at an adjoining table between a courting couple that went like this:
He: I want a daughter.
She: I want a son.
Assuming that they eventually proceed to connubial bliss, what do you think is going to happen if their financial/professional situation eventually leads them to conclude that they can only afford to have one child ? What do you think is going to happen once the woman concieves, and its a girl child ? Who is going to prevail in that situation ? The husband or the wife ? And what of its repercussions on the pregnancy continuing to term ?
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| Diva_Starz |
Posted
on 18-Aug-02 04:12 AM
For all situations such as rape victims, teen pregnancies, woman struggling through college, or school, too old a mother, worrying about raising a child, unwanted unplanned pregnancy through one night stands or any other reason for that matter, the only time, I feel abortion to be carried out is when the mother’s life is in danger. Period. The problem in the western society is that the abortion is made the choice of the mother in any circumstances. Let me give a tragic scenario of the abortion rates worldwide:
Each year, about 46 million women have abortions, 20 million of which are illegal in countries where they are performed.
In developed countries, 28 million pregnancies occur each year, half are unplanned so 36% end in abortion.
In developing countries, 182 million pregnancies each year, an estimated 36% unplanned, 20% are aborted. (Statistical report, UN 2000)
For a while, let’s ignore the abortion rates and the post abortion mortality rates in developing countries, where premarital sex is a taboo and bearing child before marriage socially unacceptable, what does the rate in the developed countries indicate? Are these abortions just because one is a victim of pedophile, rapist or poverty? Definitely not. One can’t blindly support the result of sheer negligence and low ethical values among women who are taught about safe sex and the related consequences as a primary education.
Though abortion isn’t an easy choice either. Heard of post abortion syndrome and other psychological problems being common among one who went through it. But, what I feel is, once a child is conceived, it has all the rights an adult human being has and he shouldn’t be the victim of their parent's preference, family planning affairs, poor economic condition or corporate dreams or government legislation. One should go for the safety measures prior to that. Besides there are so many people who want to adopt and prolific groups to help one out, so abortion should not be the ultimate end….
peace
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| SITARA |
Posted
on 18-Aug-02 09:15 AM
Diva_Starz:
Pretty impressive stats on abortion there...I don't know if you know the "facts " about stats tho; It can be put out to prove or disaprove a point....Taken out of context it can be used to slant a judgment (.....not to say that your stats are not correct).
To cite an example:
"The Bell Curve" is a book statistically "filled to the brim" to "prove" that "African Americans are intellectually low than whites! (This, cited without historical context).
And along the same lines: "Colonization proves that Europeans are smarter than Asians, S. American and Native Americans"!!!...I wonder how many do find this palattable!
You missed my point here...... I did not say that all abortions reflect victims of rape, incest and/or poverty. Also, to quote you "one can't blindly support the result of 'sheer negligence' and 'low ethical values'" Such sweeping generalizations of the people invoved in this painful choice does not help your argument. Deductive reasonings cannot be applied in every situation...they fall short of logic.
To cite another example (from which we all suffer ):
"Since most Nepalis succumb to the institution of arranged marriage, all Nepalis can't think for themselves!"...can you think who can pass such a comment; those who are ignorant of historical and cultural factors involved in the arranged marriage system.
Who is to say who has the right to make such value judgements?????
And in this case, "ethical values" and "ignorance" are all relative...
Sorry, I may have digressed from the main topic but I am hoping that if we can read statistic, we can also be informed consumers of statistics!!!
And as for "Many people wanting to adopt and prolific groups"...I don't know if you have been involved in Foster parenting and children......NOt EVERYONE wants a "crack baby", down-syndromed children, autistic and dyslexic children.......
My point is..... Along with Gender Selection and Foeticide, EXISTS SELECTIVE ADOPTION!!!!
From your slanted generalizations, I understand you are pro-life.....Hey that's great! All the more power to you. But, I hesitate to crucify each and everybody based on stats put out there!
Note that the OPERATIVE phrase is "each and everybody"; hence, my previous posting to this thread.....
Destiny: Kudos on bringing out this thread.....
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| destiny12 |
Posted
on 19-Aug-02 12:20 AM
it was so nice to go thru the comments...a little deviation frm the topic is obvious...carry on buddies!..remember onething....sometimes what happens is that we just try to avoid the facts we see around.its done so deliberately that ...atlast! we've to face it,..it is quite inevitable..but the solution doesnt come by spurring ..without knowing whts likely to happen..there are lots of people killing their desires..just because they are aware of the society........
destiny
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| Diva_Starz |
Posted
on 19-Aug-02 05:14 AM
Sitara:
Thanks for enlightening me with your outrageous views. Let me make my things clear too, I wasn’t either juxtaposing a childless couple to adopt a “crack baby” being no sympathetic to a teen victim nor proving myself a pro-life. Just being a sympathetic human, what I put forward were plain simple queries:
If every woman starts taking feticides as ultimate answer, what is birth control measures for?
What does increase in abortion rates world wide indicate in spite of million of dollars being invested in researches associated in developing safer control measures and sex education?
Regarding selective adoption, just out of curiosity, a non-obligatory question …would you kill your baby, if after giving birth did you realize it to suffer from terminal ailments?
Anyway, knowing your view was great:):)Thanks…
peace
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| Junkie |
Posted
on 19-Aug-02 07:07 PM
I agree with the live and let live ..... damn this used to be a lot easier in the 70s. ..... Long live the fading hippie culture
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| oys_chill |
Posted
on 19-Aug-02 07:52 PM
mmm carry on..
finally destiny is getting the respect and attention she deserves ;)
all the best for one of the best articles in sajha :)
same ol OYS
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| Junkie |
Posted
on 19-Aug-02 08:12 PM
Just for the eloquent Oys:
On one of the postings, I got battered. Taken out of context. Hope you didn't take my "khuchhing" personally ..... I just couldn't resist .... :-0
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| suna |
Posted
on 20-Aug-02 08:45 AM
Diva
With all due respect to your views on abortion - I have a few comments. What should a woman do if she finds out that she has become pregnant and doesn't have a supportive partner, or has been the victim of a traumatic incident?
She should have the baby because it is the right thing to do and SOMEHOW, she will go through life with a baby (whom she did not want in the first place) in tow?
Can you imagine what the life of that baby will be like>
Do you think a woman should be tied to a family life even though she may not have wanted to have a baby?
You talk about killing babies who are born with brain damage etc. PLEASE! being a woman who may not have had children of your own and MOREOVER, BEING A WOMAN, do not make light of this issue. A parent who has to choose to abort a baby because of medical reasons is not a light issue. Have you ever thought what it may be like to have a child with acute medical conditions? Should a parent choose to raise a child born with brain damage, so be it and all the more power to them. But should a parent decide to not have the baby, can you imagine how difficult that decision would be??
I may have digressed from the original idea of the thread but being a mother myself, I could not let go of such an ignorant fleeting comment.
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| Diva_Starz |
Posted
on 20-Aug-02 07:02 PM
Suna:
To be frank, I'm too young to wear a mother's shoe so might have sounded biased. But, believe me it was not my deliberate intention to provoke a norturing mother's feelings.
What i intended was something satirical...trying to eschew mimesis. My bad, you got me wrong.
Anyway, i respect your kinda feelings.
peace
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