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on 15-Aug-02 10:41 PM
Two-thirds of us believe office romances wreak havoc on the morale of coworkers. At the same time, two-thirds of us grow indignant when employers attempt to regulate their employees' intimate relationships. Yes, the Employment Law Alliance's 2002 Valentine's Day Poll confirms what we all suspected: Love is complicated.When Cupid's arrow pierces flimsy cubicle walls, the integrity of careers and private lives can be punctured as well. But with professionals spending more time in the office than they did 20 or even 10 years ago, love and the paycheck are inseparable. Who has time to seek a partner for life -- or lust -- anywhere else?
"Work life has taken over normal life, yet it's been stripped of humor, joy and pleasure," says Julianne Balmain, author of Office Kama Sutra. Balmain sees romance as a way to restore humanity in our career-dominated existence.For their part, most employers take a practical approach to love in the workplace. "Managers have come to realize that you can't outlaw office romance any more than you can outlaw competition," writes lawyer Randall Kleinman in Rough Notes magazine, an insurance trade publication. This realization has led many employers to offer guidance to the randy rank-and-file, and to take decisive action when required by their own ethics or the law of sexual harassment.
Computer Sciences Corp. doesn't have a policy specifically addressing personal relationships between employees, according to Robyn Burke, a director of human resources at the 68,000-employee IT services provider's Somerset, New Jersey, office. "Often there's been informal counseling for people who get involved," says Burke. "We tell them it's fine to have a relationship, but you must remain professional. "But like many corporations, CSC draws the line where office romance introduces the strong possibility of a lawsuit. "If you're involved with someone who reports to you, that's dangerous ground," says Burke. "We have zero tolerance for sexual harassment," and the potential for harassment exists in any intimate relationship between boss and subordinate, she adds.The potential for conflict of interest is greatest with boss-subordinate relationships, where favoritism can sow the seeds of resentment in coworkers.
When dealing with liaisons between peers, employers must strike a balance. "Forbidding these relationships just drives them underground," says Agonito. "But employers can require disclosure of relationships." Such a disclosure might lead to the transfer of one of the employees involved in a boss-subordinate relationship, or to the signing of a "dating waiver," in which both employees agree they've entered the relationship willingly. Although all employers should ban boss-subordinate relationships, "their policies should vary according to company culture," Agonito says. "Here in San Francisco, at the dotcoms, relationships are almost encouraged as a bonding technique," says Balmain. But such a policy might not play in Peoria, Illinois; local standards help determine whether tolerance of peer-to-peer relationships will raise or lower coworkers' morale.
What about the final frontier in office romance, the dalliance that is consummated on company premises? Beyond embarrassment, lovers who sneak off to the server room risk termination, according to Balmain. "But no pain, no gain," she adds.
by John Rossheim
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