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| SimpleGal |
Posted
on 27-Sep-02 12:19 PM
Hello Everyone,
I had a very thought-provoking discussion with a colleague of mine some days ago. We are planning to collaborate on a small scale research venture in the near future. She posited an intriguing argument, which simply stated, is thus:
Men are bad at Giving clues, but good at Receiving them. Women are good at Giving clues, but bad at Receiving them.
The premise described above was the result of our deliberations on the differences between the sexes. The "clues" refer to the facets of interactions of men and women ranging from body language, to verbal and written words. We were approaching the topic from an evolutionary standpoint. Both the biological and psychological factors were considered as well. Needless to say, the sharp distinction between biology and psychology of yesteryears is increasingly being obliterated, with the two orientations now becoming inextricably interlinked. I do not wish to digress into the details of this. So, I will stick to the mainstay of the topic of this thread, which is the mode of exchange of "clues" between the sexes.
For instance, I noticed a thread concerning a woman's "hair flipping habits." I broached the topic during my discussion with this colleague. The following is what we collectively contrived as a *plausible* explanation, again, from a purely evolutionary perspective.
In prehistoric times, when the notion and practice of clothing were non-existent, women had long hair that covered her chest area, probably as a precurser to or substitute for the modern lingerie items. To secure a man's attention and also to invite him for processes of reproduction (to use an euphemism), she flipped her hair to reveal the chest area, which was and still is considered an erotic display. It serves an evolutionarily adaptive function since women's "verbal" declarations of her fancy or affections for a man were hugely circumscribed. Transmission of this sort of "clue" via body language enabled them to select their mate, and thereby be *active* agents in the mate selection process. The males, with their honed skills at detecting these signals, were able to consummate the process. Esp. since males often competed rigorously for a viable female. And if she was to win the man that she wanted as apposed to settling for the random victor, she had to be constructive.
Now of course, I do not wish to assert that this is the *only* interpretation. The woman may be trying to push back errant strands to concentrate on more important tasks. Or maybe she is merely playing with her hair!
I would like to hear what you sajhaites and fellow Nepalis have to offer by way of opinions, theories, research, and so forth. It would be helpful to a research venture that my colleague and I are contemplating! :)
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| SITARA |
Posted
on 27-Sep-02 12:33 PM
Simple gal....nice posting!!!
hmmmmmmmm............I have awfully looooooooooooooooooooong hair and I do wear very existent clothes, except when I am at the beach.... and my hair comes in handy at covering me from having a sun burn and ugly bikini- strap tan marks!!!!! :P
Also, In DC area, the winters are extremely cold...my hair keeps my body heat intact so my extremities don't get frozen up!!!! Very handy indeed, this hair ;)
so, I will dwell on it further and come up with a plausible reason why I grow my hair loooooooong; according to the "mating" theory you have put forth, other than the utilitarian purpose it serves!!!
Thank you though.:)
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| SimpleGal |
Posted
on 27-Sep-02 12:44 PM
Sitaraji,
Thanks for that personal information. But my main question was concerning the Giving and Receiving of "clues" as a function of gender. Not on the length of a woman's hair. :)
Will await your response.
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| Biruwa |
Posted
on 27-Sep-02 01:21 PM
Hi,
Did the prehistoric women have their hair cover their chest area? At the time when clothes were none existent there would be no need to Shy out and cover some specific area from the eyes of other humans!
I believe that hairs are supposed to grow towards the back and cover that area rather than the chest. So the prehistoric women in their still natural state would not see any need to cover her chest area with her hair at normal times.
Besides the "hair flipping habit" doesn't have to be as pre-historic as that. lol
Just my 2 cents from the other side of the window :)!
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| SimpleGal |
Posted
on 27-Sep-02 01:38 PM
Biruwaji,
You mistake the *intentionality* in the example I provide. I repeat: The hair flipping habit was only an *instance* of the exchange of clues. I don't know why people are dwelling on it so much! There is no evidence so far (will do more research on your argument) that women "purposefully" covered their chest area. But in the even that they Did cover it, the hair flipping served as communicating something. And the interpretation I offer in my example is one of many possibilities. So, everyone, let's Not focus on the length of hair or why/whether it covers the particular anatomic feature. Rather, I was inviting your contributions regarding the Exchange of clues. Pls. refer to the Premise I outlined in my first posting. I reiterate it:
Men are bad at Giving clues, but good at Receiving them. Women are good at Giving clues, but bad at Receiving them.
Again, let's not lose the forest for the trees, as the saying goes! :)
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| Biruwa |
Posted
on 27-Sep-02 02:26 PM
SimpleGal,
It was not my genius that came up with women "purposefully" covered their chest area.
SO it is not my argument at all. As for body language and clues I believe in individuality rather than the difference of sexes. Some men r good at giving while others at receiving such clues. Some girls have stone face while others are very expressive!
Just my 2 cents from the other side of the window :)!
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| Logical Sense |
Posted
on 27-Sep-02 02:36 PM
SimpleGal, Not so simple after all, hunh? Very thought provoking thread, indeed...
Yes, your point is well taken. 'Hair' is just an example, your thought is about overall traits of giving and receiving clues. Not very sure if you are inclining towards biological only or overall traits?
If you leave primates, especially humans, then you see that other species (animals, birds, fish etc.) have distinct male and female bodies (most of them). Like male Mayoor is made so beautiful, and females are really almost ugly (I may dare use that word). Look at male Lion. Is not it majestic? So, in these cases nature plays a role to give clues to the females for attraction. Some do dancing,singing etc (like birds). You know what I mean.
Other examples are like when a female Chituwa goes on 'heat' then she will leave scent in the ground/tree and climb on the tree and wait. When the male Chituwa passes by and realizes someone is giving him the 'clues' will look around and once the female realizes the male is harmless, she will come down slowly and they mate for next 3/4 days ....
And, coming back to Humans, I think there has always been some kind of clue giving and taking since stoneage, but, it is not so apparant as other animals. Yes, there were/are very mascular men etc to attract females, but really in this age the physical looks and tantrums do not matter to communicate that much. If it does then hardly lasts longer...
See, how much females are attracted with 'Paschim' and 'Ashu'? Nobody has seen Paschim, some might have seen Ashu, but, people are attracted not for them just being single (oh well, that may be 10% factor, but, there are others who are single....), but mostly how they express themselves and how they 'care' about the Sajhaites community seems to be the factor.... (well, you can call it giving a clue, but, it is not a physical clue then....)
Humans have better vocabulary clue... SITARA has made a splash in Sajha because of her witty verbal capacity.....
So, my point is the clue from male/female humans are really their 'verbal' communication and as our communication capacity has grown (as we evolved) the physical clues are taking a back seat.
My other point about why females seems to be good in giving clues and male are bad in giving clue might be because of few scientific factors.
a) Male brains usually work 'serially' while female brains work 'parallelally'. (Mom has eyes behind her back?).
b) Females traditionally have higher vocabulary. Why though? No clue...
c) Females are emotional? Why though? No clue...
(Could be that they give birth? They are attached with other humans because it is part of their 'body'?)
Well, well, well. I am going way off the topic, so let us keep focus on 'clues'......
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| SimpleGal |
Posted
on 27-Sep-02 08:13 PM
Logical Senseji,
Thanks for your biologically based input!! Greatly appreciated. But let's stick to primates for now, and even more specifically Homo Sapiens. The modern ones at that!! I am looking for people's experiences, opinions, beliefs, etc. But tangents will be graciously toleratated. :)
The "clues" offered by Paschim and Ashu, as well as the verbal ones of Ms. Sitara, are a clever and witty observation on your part, but sadly do not lend much to the topic. Thanks all the same. :)
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| SITARA |
Posted
on 27-Sep-02 10:18 PM
Simple Gal:
Does "pheromone" make any sense by way of decoding body language...that is ofcourse not to say that all body language is stimulated by pheromone...ni!
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| SimpleGal |
Posted
on 28-Sep-02 08:57 AM
Sitaraji,
I suppose "pheromone" does make sense in body language, but as far (which is not very far, unfortunately) as my knowledge goes, it is a biological phenomenon of the non-human primates and animals. In the domain of human beings (a.k.a. People) it can best be spoken of metaphorically! But I may be wrong and perhaps humans do have pheromones similar to those of the non-human kind. But I'm not too well-versed in that area to comment much. But by clues, I was referring to those that can be intellectually detected rather than those based on instincts. Let me furnish yet another, and hopefully (!) more straightforward example: the human gaze. Imagine this: a crowded party. A woman looks across the room to find her gaze settling on a particular man. Her gaze is intent, though she may or may not be cognizant of it. Some time elapses. His eyes meet hers. She is still staring, while he averts his eyes within a few seconds, but with a smile. The translation, again One among the Many plausibilities: The woman was a good clue giver and the man an equal at receiving it. But it may not be the case. In the instance of the prehistoric people, the woman may flip her hair and reveal the intended area, but her chosen man may Not be adept at decoding this act and run the risk of relinquishing his claim on her!
Thanks for your note, though, Sitaraji. Will look into it!
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| anepalikt |
Posted
on 28-Sep-02 09:13 AM
There she goes talking about "pheromones" again! hehe
I guess we should be glad its not harpic!!
SimpleGal: I don't know much about human evolution other than supposedly we came from apes (did we?). But the idea that men and women receive and give "clues" differently is interesting. Politically I am inclined to resist the idea. Because would this hypothesis if proved again be used to justify how men are "superior" vesus just that men and women have evolved differently. Yet observing my chora, who despite my attempts to socialize him differently not only exhibits by exemplifies the typical alpha male behaviour, I have had to admit, that there is something to the adage that boys and girls ARE different and it is not mere socialization that determines character and inclination. Lot probably has to do with how the sexes learned to adapt in the changing world.
Anyhow, I am wondering though what kind of "clues" we are talking about here... besides the hair flicking stuff... when you say clues are you talking merely about clues that facilitate the very basic exchange between the sexes - reproduction? or also about stuff like territory and primacy as well? Can't think of anything else now... what kind of exchanges do men and women have anyhooo... and are these clues gestures only, or are we talking about looks, use of language, and yes even pheromones:)
A thought... men might be able to read women better, but they have been socialized or should I say they have "evolved" to often times ignore clues given by women to prove their primacy... so things like domestic violence and rape?
Going back to the idea of socialization versus evolution, it is interesting to consider how modern humans negotiate those two differnt things... the impulses versus say the rational. And what about individual accountability? After all like you said we are talking about humans, right? What about free will and logic.
Sorry to go on a tangent. Can't offer you any scientific explanations, but interesting though...
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| bhedo |
Posted
on 28-Sep-02 09:24 AM
No anepalikt, we didn't come from apes. Chimps and humans just share common ancestry, that's all. It's wrong to say we came from apes.
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| anepalikt |
Posted
on 28-Sep-02 09:44 AM
Okay then. We are apes! :)
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| SITARA |
Posted
on 28-Sep-02 10:51 AM
Simple Gal...
Also, if you delve into Freud, you might unlock a whole host of Freudian thories, of dream, body language, complexes.....human behaviour...mating or otherwise!
Freud might be someone you want to explore! I have read a lot on him and do not agree with a lot of things ....I'm more of Jung's follower who talk s more about the subconscious. Just as a suggestion if you are serious about this research.
Also, you might want to look up linguists and development of language... I don't know...you are looking at a very broad field which covers many disciplines. So, a multi-relativistic approach to your research might spread your findings too thin. Unless you have a specific purpose for your research, you might want to decide if you want to stick to rationalist or relativist approach.
Just a thought! Great work though!:)
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| bhedo |
Posted
on 28-Sep-02 11:12 AM
anepalikt, you're married? You have chora re? Now that's new to me....
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| SimpleGal |
Posted
on 28-Sep-02 11:18 AM
Thanks Sitaraji. Appreciate it.
I am very familiar with Freud's theories and those of Jung's in equal measure. You may have guessed my field of study. :)
The topic of this thread is Not my area of research--it's just a topic that a colleague of mine broached over lunch, which greatly piqued my interest. I just wanted to throw it out on the table, so to speak, for general discussion. But am grateful to you for your insights!
Btw, you said you are a Zennist. I took some classes in Zen Buddhism as an Undergrad, and found the religion very rewarding and meaningful. The koans of Zen monks were particularly helpful in illuminating what Zen is all about. I also read a very good book called The Tibetan Book of the Dead. My prof., a little Japanese guy, summed up the religion as "Zen is about living."
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| anepalikt |
Posted
on 28-Sep-02 11:20 AM
I guess I am an exception... in giving clues:) or is it that men are not that good at recieving clues after all?! haha
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| SimpleGal |
Posted
on 28-Sep-02 11:41 AM
Anepalikt,
I see your points! Well thought out. I do not wish to circumscribe the denotations and connotations of "clues" to my personal and preconceived categories. Centrally because clues could range from anything to everything and more. But if I sound too vague, then I would clarify saying I was zooming in on interactions on the social frontier. For instance, the example of the human gaze. Reproductive functions would, if we were talking in Freudian terms (the idea that every behavior is a function of "drives"), perhaps be an underlying impetus. But I do not wish to delve into that area as it would be too controversial as always. :) This is meant to be a light hearted discussion on, to put it bluntly, the art of *flirtation* among men and women. :) One could even bring in episodes from the Austenian novels (again, just an example from my side) on courtship (in that particular sector of society, of course) and the like, or Greek mythology for that matter, to reflect on this theme.
Thanks for your input though. No, you are not going on tangents. Comments and insights greatly appreciated!!
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| SITARA |
Posted
on 28-Sep-02 03:03 PM
Simple Gal...
hehe! Great minds think alike Or fools seldom differ!!! :)
But I am not only talking about the psychological aspects of anything; the sociological/anthropological aspects also shed light on the human behaviour of "flirting" or courting behavior which does not necssarily have to culminate into the actual act of mating as originally reffered to by evolution theorists.... anyways, too vast a topic ....for me to delve into.
Zen...wow that is great! I am a Zen pusher... :) The Koans are the little riddles of life that we complicate further by trying to find difficult solutions to "simple" difficulties.
Yes, Zen is my way of life...my philosophy...
Thanks for your comments.
Anepalikt:
Your observations are great. I agree with you completely...this subject is too vast and too vague to actually "zoom" into. The various interpretations are more subjective than anything else. The reasons and the purpose of the act of "flirtation" can also translate into "power" theory...depending on the the person's leanings. One can flirt "just for the heck of it"; which translates into the ego and id...which may never have anything to do with a mind to "court" or consummate into the act itself. So...you are right to ask about what "clues"...I think. I have a habit of looking into a person's eyes for the slightest change or shift in vibes...(comes with counselling and/ or teaching I suppose)...but the intensity of my eyes maybe interpreted as something else...through no fault of mine...
so, those clues I maygive out maybe misinterpreted... regardles of gender!
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| SITARA |
Posted
on 28-Sep-02 08:04 PM
On " flirtation" and verbal clues...I can speak from my experience....
What I see as verbal sparring and/or social banter maybe perceived as "flirting" which I, and only I can interprete...as such, or not. So, there again the definition of "flirting" verbal or visual, merges dangerously into a gray area... which will leave all and sundry trying to figure out where the white ends and the black begins and/or vice versa. So, the giving and receiving of clues depend dually on the giver and the receiver. If either of the medium rejects the information, there is no communication. PERIOD. Does not mean that the message was NOT transmitted...It could mean that the message was ignored and/ or rejected. This is applicable to both the sexes.....! I could/have ignored "flirtatious" behaviour from male friends, just because I did not wish to prolong a meaningless tug-of-war (and vice versa).... I also, know many females who do that. This, brings us back to your original hypothesis of "Men are bad at giving clues but good at receiving them; women are good at giving clues and bad at receiving them".....If you note that, purpose and intent is a major variable in the transmission of messages... Then you/your colleague's hypothesis falls short.....for a research purpose.
...Just a thought. :)
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| SimpleGal |
Posted
on 28-Sep-02 09:15 PM
Sitaraji,
I thought it was an established fact that purpose/ intent are *central * to the process of communication! Otherwise, we'd be living insulated and isolated lives, would we not? ;)
But thanks for highlighting it.
Both Sitaraji and Anepaliktji,
Yes, undoubtedly, we run the risk of being misinterpreted. Hence the breakup of most relationships (even blood relations!), which is on the increase cross-culturally. An important issue to counterbalance interpretation of clues is introduced here: that of Mistinterpretation. Let me provide an instance to address this aspect.
I was on the phone w/ a friend of mine this afternoon. He described an incident where an underaged girl had recently been physically assualted and abused by a group of footballers from a certain college. The girl, according to my friend, was sweet, friendly, and extremely innocent. She had undergone severe child abuse from both parents, despite which she cared much for them, esp. her father. She apparently never flirted with the guys. However, she had rejected many of them who were romantically inclined to her. These guys comprised the assailants. Her rejection, in this case, was Misinterpreted by the attackers, *possibly* as an incursion on their "male ego," to use the colloquial term. It can be also be argued alternatively, and in light of Sitaraji's and Anepalikt's brilliant observations on the *kind* of clue communicated, that it is imperative for the MODE of clue giving (verbal, written, eye-contact or lack thereof, punch on the face, or the infamous "thappard" generously granted by Hindi movie actresses to unwanted suitors) to be known for robust (as opposed to "vague") interpretation. UNFORTUNATELY, the friend did not have access to the aforementioned info. The bottom line of this particular posting of mine is that Intentionality is of paramount importance as it regulates the transmission (whether correctly, or Misinterpreted) of clues. Gender is, for now, excluded. But if anyone wants to address the role of gender, please bring in your insights!
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| SITARA |
Posted
on 29-Sep-02 07:28 AM
Simple Gal;
With respect to your research project...I hope it allows for assumed "established" variables. Further, I also, hope it allows for flexibility in the hypothesis you had placed in the beginning of your original posting. I revisited the original hypothesis on "clue-giving and clue-receiving" and nowhere did I find any indication of such flexibility. As you have invited the readers to give their two cents worth, you have also managed to meticulously express that theirs was a digression from the topic (..ofcourse my first posting was said tongue-in-cheek;). Your last post may have a remote parallel to your first posting, but I seem to lack any ability to identify it.
My suggestions would be:
Find a research question
Identify (not assume) the variables; esp. the constants.
Find a model and/or a theory that works for you.
Set up a hypothesis that is workable...and go from there.
Such an organization will remove too many time wasting digressions as well as any misinterpretations in your research.
I wish you luck!:)
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| SimpleGal |
Posted
on 29-Sep-02 07:59 AM
Sitaraji,
Thanks for your suggestions. But this is not going to translate into any research work after all. I mentioned that before!! Nevertheless, I thought that we could still have some fun presenting our "two cents worth" on thls subject. Hope this will be a brain-teaser for the readers, esp. in light of all the harmless flirtation that is evident here at sajha itself.
And let me clarify things to readers: I will not consider anything that is posted here to be a digression henceforth. :) And I also remove any heavy and overbearing academic tone to this light-hearted subject of "flirtation."
In peace.....
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| SimpleGal |
Posted
on 29-Sep-02 08:05 AM
Sitaraji,
Had this project been pursued with more rigor, I would approach the topic rather as a *Phenomenon* than *Variables* with *Constants.* Then I would have to eat my own words (which I will graciously do) of forbidding ppl from digressions. Because a phenomenon, as opposed to experimental variables, is free to take its own course.
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| SITARA |
Posted
on 29-Sep-02 08:41 AM
SimpleGal ji....
Sorry, that was the school marm in me...I took your queries very seriously.... and was suggesting suggestions after suggestions!!! :)
he!he!he! little did I know you were "teasing" ....talk about females not taking in clues!!!
I think I misread your cues!!!!!!!!!!
Does that make me a clueless female? just kidding!
:P
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| anepalikt |
Posted
on 29-Sep-02 09:27 AM
Okay. So this was supposed to be about flirting and the exchange of those kinda clues!! Took me a while to figure out:) Maybe it was the academe speak. Or maybe your original hypothesis has some merit, seeing that both Sitara and I seem to be slow on the uptake:)
But I say what about banter between women? You see that aplenty here. It is a really interesting phenomenon! Sometimes lot more interesting than the giving and receiving between men and women, because is pretty straight forward. But the exchanges between peopel of the same sexes when in the presence of the opposite sex is often subtle yet charged and persistent.
Any thought?
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| SITARA |
Posted
on 29-Sep-02 09:36 AM
Anepalikt....
I love bantering with you as well as the other females...and the males (Ofcourse!!!) Hmm would that translated into swinging on both sides of the fence??????????????.............. :P
Myan...I am doomed to go to a hypothetical hell for harboring such "flirtatious" thoughts!!!!!!!!
See, I might become a "fallen" star if I am not careful...consumed by my own penchant for verbal flirting!!! :P
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| SimpleGal |
Posted
on 29-Sep-02 10:07 AM
Sitaraji,
So kind of you to offer your intelligent, perceptive, and helpful suggestions. Really appreciate them. But yes, I did at some point decide that the topic was indeed too vague for focused research. At this moment, time (the ever evasive, eluding, fleeting, floating TIME) is not on my side to pursue this topic with the kind of diligence I would have hoped to give it. So, yes, Anepalikt, I thought to transform this "academic" subject to a more casual one. Now we are more relieved are we not? Btw, have you two noticed that the male sajhaites have held their peace (and their tongue!) re: this thread?? I don't think they're being adept at getting the clues in this thread!!! Does that address your observation, Aneplikt???
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| anepalikt |
Posted
on 29-Sep-02 10:38 AM
Sitara: You and me both. :)
Simplegal: I did notice that the men have kept away:) Too bad! It is always more fun then, haina ra? As for being relieved that this thread does not have to bea "academic"... I don't know. It doesn't make much of a difference personally. Casual is fine also. And coquettery is fun enough, but in the long run even casual exchange becomes a burden if it is void of some intellectual merit. Kaso? :)
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| SITARA |
Posted
on 29-Sep-02 10:41 AM
* Grammatical typo.... please edit while reading! ;) thoughts faster than my fingers!!!!!!!
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| SimpleGal |
Posted
on 29-Sep-02 10:57 AM
Anepliktji, I agree with you wholeheartedly! I will have to revise my hypothesis since the men don't seem to be getting the "clues" to contribute! Maybe the omnipresent West Wind (aka Paschim) will save his lot?! ;)
Sitaraji, will do so! And no, you're not a "fallen" star with your penchant for verbal wizardry, rather than flirtation. In fact, you are the ever and increasingly the "rising" star!! ;)
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| SITARA |
Posted
on 29-Sep-02 11:09 AM
Simple Gal..
Thanks!!!!!!!!!!!!! you have saved my reputation from disrepute!!!!!!!! :)
Paschim, Paschim where art thou??????????????....er, is this the remarkable man you have been conversing with ..... (from Trikal's thread).........????????
Paschim ji, take a hint, sire....thou knowest not...the lady beckons you with hints, clues and threads!!!!!!!!!
Simple Gal...If I am wrong..forgive me!
One more try.......
Will the remarkable one, please take a hint and raise her standard (banner) ?
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| SimpleGal |
Posted
on 29-Sep-02 12:33 PM
Sitaraji,
Regarding the trikal thread, the remarkable person mentioned therein is of private concern! :) Wow, so you've been spying on me, haven't you?? ;) Am flattered, really.
Regarding your conjecture "hinting" it as Paschim, I have only one thing to say: I am merely joining the bandwagon! Nice try, though! Shows you'll be a friend in need when the real situation arises!
In response to starting this thread, to do which I had to step out of the bandwagon(!), I have mentioned at the outset the place whence this idea took root. I need not say more, or less for that matter.
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| anepalikt |
Posted
on 29-Sep-02 02:39 PM
Okay Simplegal! Spit it out! Admit it that this whoel thread was a pretext to drawout someone e-special... who though? Hmmm...
Whoever it is... I withraw respectfully from the discussiong and speculation lest the ketos in this site start blaming me again for "misleading" them! :)
Enjoy!
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| SITARA |
Posted
on 29-Sep-02 02:47 PM
Simple Gal...
"Spying"????????? Your clues are HIDDEN in PLAIN VIEW!!!! :)
And I suffer from a photographic memory!!! ;)
Anepalikt...
Those who want to be led will be led!!! REGARDLESS! :)
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| madmax |
Posted
on 29-Sep-02 06:58 PM
I live both giving and receiving with girls - sexually though :)
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| SITARA |
Posted
on 29-Sep-02 07:39 PM
Hey Simple Gal...
Welcome to Sajha....although I am a newcomer too (started in mid Aug.) I will take the opportunity to welcome you. The thread is great and you write well...be prepared for a lot of leg-pulling though!!! I almost ran for my life when I came to the threads!!!!! But people are wonderful here. Don't worry we will get to know eachother through our posts! :) It was a nice excercise though! :)
Madmax... Congratulations!...you beat us all to the ultimate culmination/s of "flirting" clues and cues.... Your mating ritual and behaviour speaks for itself!
:)
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| SimpleGal |
Posted
on 29-Sep-02 10:24 PM
Sitaraji,
Just came back from the library. Pleasant way to spend sunday nights, no?? :P
And Baap re Baap!!! Ke ho yesto??? There's quite a storm raging here, what with Anepaliktji coercing me (gently, though, gently!) to "spit" out the identity of that "e-special" one---only, it's in a teapot!!!
Anepliktji, Sooooo sorry that you've decided to desert us....The fun was just beginning. Nothing satisfies a curious scientist like myself more than to see her theories IN ACTION. And I would be remiss to neglect mentioning Sitaraji's jaasoosi ko natija as being quite a feat! Hats off to you, madam.
I don't mind all the leg-pulling as long as I'm left with enough to walk! I don't think I can afford a health-aide with the meager salary of a grad student....
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| SITARA |
Posted
on 30-Sep-02 07:47 AM
Hi SimpleGal...
"Jasoosi", "Spying" ....You do thrive on those words don't you.... I suppose if you are a paranoid "scientist" (as you call yourself) you would be thinking people are reading your "clues" and "following" you too and guess what they are, if they are posting all over the place! It does not take a rocket scientist to figure out how to tie up all the threads into a nice knot...my lady :). Well, whatever it is ...I hope you have fun while putting out the baits on whoever it is!!! :P goodluck!
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| anepalikt |
Posted
on 30-Sep-02 08:58 AM
Okay, I am back. So did we figure out yet who all this was for? I feel used!!
(hand on forhead)
:)
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| SimpleGal |
Posted
on 30-Sep-02 09:08 AM
Sitaraji and Anepliktji,
My humble apologies if anyone is getting too "used" or upset!! :( But seriously, this was NOT meant as a bait to lure anyone in!!! :) It was just for fun and banter.
What to do, Sitaraji, I am not as verbally gifted as you are---hence am thriving on a few words in my repertoire!!!! ;)) Am hoping to learn much from interacting with you here...what say you?? :)
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| anepalikt |
Posted
on 30-Sep-02 09:51 AM
I was kidding, SimpleGal:) Drop the ji though. That would make me feel much better!!
Have a good day!
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| SITARA |
Posted
on 30-Sep-02 12:53 PM
Aree koi hai???????????????????........ to bite???????????..... ;)
hehe!...could not resist that Sorry! :P
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| Nepe |
Posted
on 30-Sep-02 06:21 PM
Just in honor of the thread. Not to be mistaken as taking the bait.
Nepe
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Chulu bulu chulu bulu timro aankhaamaa
Lagchha sandhai sandhai dulun timro aankhaamaa
Lolayekaa pareliley bolayeko ho ki
Herdai chhu ma tulu tulu timro aankhaamaa
Feri aaune chhaina malaai merai yaad pani
Maatra eka palta bhulun timro aankhaamaa
Tirkha, Udaashi, sapanaa, tripti, nashaa
Ke ke chhadun ke batulun timro aankhaamaa
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