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| bideshi |
Posted
on 09-Oct-02 10:05 AM
Drop why u think so?
My significant other is the best mom because.................
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| SITARA |
Posted
on 09-Oct-02 11:01 AM
Bideshi ji...First I am female and second I don't have a significant other. However, i can continue your line:
...... Although she is not trained in motherhood, she does well with trail and error. She respects her children as much as she respects herself and her significant other!!!!
:)
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| SITARA |
Posted
on 09-Oct-02 11:03 AM
Also, very nice thread!!!!
The mother of your children is very fortunate indeed :)
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| najar |
Posted
on 09-Oct-02 11:27 AM
I am with Sitara in saying that i am a female, too. bideshi, hope this answers your yesterday's question :)
But a line to your thread
.....because she is the person with confidence,passion, intelligence, and has a quality to bestow unconditional love....
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| SimpleGal |
Posted
on 09-Oct-02 11:42 AM
Nice thread Bideshiji!!
My nick should speak for my gender :) however, am still trying to figure out if I'm a girl or a woman....having been called "young lady" too many times!!! :)
To complete rather than continue your line:
.....because she is a mother. Period. Anything further would only circumscribe her within those attributes.
In peace.
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| SITARA |
Posted
on 09-Oct-02 12:29 PM
Simple gal....Young lady..;)
Not necessarily! Too often being a mother has been "understood", "stereotyped" and "taken for granted". The abstraction has to end somewhere and concretized!!! Many new mothers don't know the role of motherhood because of such abstraction and are infact intimidated by the phrase..."Be a mother"!!!
Najar ji
I agree with you! Thanks for elaborating! :)
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| SimpleGal |
Posted
on 09-Oct-02 01:04 PM
Sitara, geez--you love rubbing it in don't you?? :) I mean the "young lady" part kya!!
I will meet you half way----being of dual minds with my interests in the inhabitants of the "abstract" camp and my vocation in what is gainining admission (letter of acceptance paisakyo, aba "physically" pugnu matra banki chha!!) in the "science" camp. Ki kaso?? ;)
But you are a mother already, so you would better understand. Me, I have miles to go before I'm a mother!!! :)
In peace.
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| SITARA |
Posted
on 09-Oct-02 01:44 PM
Simple Gal... JI
You do flatter me!!!!
Yes, I am a mother of 25 kids; one who is blind/braindamaged ; one with speech problem; 3 with ADHD, 10 are innercity kids and the rest are "Normal"!!!!
Also, I mother their parents!!! :)
Thank you I really appreciate your appreciation!!!
:)
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| Biruwa |
Posted
on 09-Oct-02 01:47 PM
Sitara ji,
trail and error...?
Looks like you have been paying up-front attention to the latest news about the trail of the fugitive involved in the shootings around your area :-)
Even though I don't have a significant other yet let me try and drop a few lines :
....she cares! She is passionate about her motherhood. No sleep, no outings, no ......
Even in time of fatigue, her strength matches that of a tigress :-)
Also she is a time management whiz: balancing her career with baby-care .....
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| bideshi |
Posted
on 09-Oct-02 01:57 PM
Thanx guys,
Infact even I'm a female.My cyber name makes everyone confused.I'm a new mother of a 4 months old .Infact I want to start this thread because I want to know what guys feel about their significant other once their spouse become the mother.I feel every mom is the best ,even then I want to know why people think so.ANyway,thanx all of u.
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| SITARA |
Posted
on 09-Oct-02 02:23 PM
Bideshi ji
You are fine!!! A mother also finds time for herself...and don't forget that sweety.
Congratulations!!! :)
I have worked with many mothers.... and respect and admire those who juggle so much.
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| Suna |
Posted
on 09-Oct-02 03:22 PM
Bideshi
Every guy's line should read....my significant other is a wonderful mother because SHE opted to stay home with the baby.
:)
Bideshi, it counts not what others think, YOU are wonderful because you are a mother and you will always do best for your child.
Best of Luck!
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| SimpleGal |
Posted
on 09-Oct-02 03:27 PM
Bideshi ji,
Hearty Congratulations on being a mother....or Aama, a beautiful and melifluous word.
Make sure you pamper yourself with things you love....and now it will be your new born...and other children if you have more....Children are such joy!! Was rather OLD myself when my little sister was born....I would not let go of her for the world!!! Hung tenaciously to her ALWAYS....well, except for when I had to go to school and help out in the kitchen...:P
Sitara,
Whether braindamaged or affected with ADHD, blind or with speech problem, they are children---the loveliest of God's creations!!! You are lucky to be a "mother" to them all.
Being a psychologist, I can't help but be cynical to the dichotomy "Normal" vs. "Abnormal". I'm sure you know what I mean--we seem to share the same fence (not just acquaintances!) in terms of our "vocation" kya. And my vehemence is enhanced further, of course, by being a lover (real one, la!!) since childhood, of Georgy darling (Lord Byron kya!) who suffered from Manic-Depressive Illness. Yet:
[He] walks in beauty like the night
Of cloudless climes and starry skies
And all that's best of dark and bright
Meet in [his] aspect and [his] eyes.
I would replace "aspect" with "poems".....:) But Georgy is SO perfect, I don't want to ruin him....hehehe....
Maafi paun Bideshi ji...for this digression....:)....couldn't help it!
In peace. La ta kaam ma lagnu paryo aba...Hadai bho! :)
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| Soleil |
Posted
on 09-Oct-02 05:44 PM
Hahaha..kuro ra kulo jata lage ni hunchha..utai bagchha bhanthe bau baje..saanchai rahechha.....
Kohi kohi manchhe haru agra kura garda gagra bujhne rahechhan. Ramro kura pani padhen. I WOULD SAY ALL MOTHERS OF THE WORLD ARE THE BEST. It indeed is about mothers and motherhood.
Its not about rubbing it in all the way or out..it is not about being a gal, or a girl,or a miss, or a virgin or an infiltrated one, or a woman and blah blah blah.....but it is about a Mother. Then again, this nincompoop me, thought for a while, and posed me this question. How would a woman become a mother?
I guess someone here is right. Indeed a male rubs all the way into a female, impregnates her with his sperm, bores a child and she becomes a mother. And, someone seems to enjoy the rubbing while lost, as to find out whether being a gal or a woman? Happy rubbing!!!!
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| Soleil |
Posted
on 09-Oct-02 05:47 PM
My mom is the best bhanne ta lekhnai bhulechhu....thuikka ...Hey Cetamol....khalti ko ghau....
peace all bros and sis and Moms.:):):)
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| Soleil |
Posted
on 09-Oct-02 05:54 PM
thuikka aaja mero buddhi suddhi kata gayechha?....Bideshi ji lai badhai bhanna ta bhulechhu hai.
Bideshi ji, even though I am a male, but I know there is not a greater feeling for a woman to be a new mom. CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!
P/S: and I thank you for reading my story.:)
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| SITARA |
Posted
on 09-Oct-02 07:27 PM
Simple Gal:
Oh how you do digress!!!!
I could dig up a whole list of symptoms on digression!!!! :)
Soliel:
I understand your point:
and then there are those who don't take responsibility for their actions!!!
:)
Your mother is lucky to have you as her son!!!!
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| Logical Sense |
Posted
on 09-Oct-02 09:13 PM
...because, she knows three 'L's
Loves - lots of them and unconditional to me and my child
Listens - Always - has eyes even on back of her head, and
Limits - Knows how to tell 'who is the boss' and I don't mind that.
- iti
Congratulations Bideshi baini - don't forget these three Ls.....
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| Logical Sense |
Posted
on 09-Oct-02 09:15 PM
Sorry, OOPS! Sachayera Padhanu Hai?
Listens - Always!
- Eyes are not used for Listening -- LOL!
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| Biruwa |
Posted
on 09-Oct-02 09:26 PM
Bideshi ji,
Badhai cha aama bayeko ma
Paasni ma hami lai pani bolaunu parcha ni :-)
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| bideshi |
Posted
on 10-Oct-02 11:18 AM
Hey guys,I appreciate ur coments on this.ANd thanx a lot.
Infact every woman once they become a mother knows what a mother is,how much she has done to raise her baby and how much sacrifice she has to do if she wants her baby to be a good citizen.And Dad will know too and specially here in US since dad also has a full responsibility of the baby just like a mom.
But soleil-ji, this thread is not about how one becomes a mom.It's about why someone thinks his spouse is the best mom?Or even we can write like why we think our mom is the best mom?Being a mom is not an easy job especially when there is no elder to guide as in Nepal and when there is something else for u to do besides taking care of the baby and moreover being a new mom(unexperienced) is the toughest job!!
But I don't consider myself just as good as my mom.She did her best and because of her and my dad's hard work,their kids r in a good position today.And my mom became mom so young,she was just 20 when my bro was born.But when I became mom ,i was 5,6 yrs older than her but still I doubt my capabilities.Anyway, I hope to be a great mom,and want everyone to respect and love their mom.
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| Soleil |
Posted
on 10-Oct-02 08:33 PM
Bideshi ji..sorry, you missed the whole point. I wasn't diverting your thread from the original sense, nor did I say anything like it. Hence, I will copy paste my above statement once again:
Kohi kohi manchhe haru agra kura garda gagra bujhne rahechhan. Ramro kura pani padhen. I WOULD SAY ALL MOTHERS OF THE WORLD ARE THE BEST. It indeed is about mothers and motherhood.
Am I talking about how one becomes a mother here? Bideshi ji, the rest of the part I used it as a lampoon, I should say so, being sarcastic (to whom I won't disclose:). Not at any point I tried to disgrace you or the motherhood. I know you've been reading my story, liking it. From that you might have gotten a glimpse of me, if not, then I would suggest you re-read the whole comments on your posting, re-read mine, prolly you will get the idea. Then again, if it doesn't satisfy you. I do not hesitate asking for your forgiveness, nor would it humiliate me to apologize.
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| bideshi |
Posted
on 11-Oct-02 10:07 AM
Peace Peace Soleil-ji
It's not that I am complaining But I want mom all around the world to be respected, there might be exception,anyway,yea I've been reading ur stories,but u never completed it.I liked the way u posted but why didn't u ever complete ?WHat hapened?Pls complete ur story.Anyway,no offence .
Peace!
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| Soleil |
Posted
on 11-Oct-02 03:43 PM
Bideshi ji, thanks for making the truce. I, once again, want to make sure I do not disrespect any mother. I never have and never will, maybe just a bad posting with my wicked and parched sense of humor. Anyway, as far as completing my story, I will finish it soon, eventually. I've been quite busy and lethargic at the same time. You know Amrikan life hoina? Kehi garna nai dindaina:) Till then, I do have another posting:) I hope you would appreciate it.
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| Deep |
Posted
on 11-Oct-02 03:50 PM
Congratulation Bideshi!
JANANI Janmabhumischa SWARGADAPI GARIYASHI.
Happy Dashain!
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| sally |
Posted
on 11-Oct-02 04:33 PM
Hey Bideshi,
Welcome to the club!!! It's a fun one. There's a lot of work, and a lifetime of 24-hour-a-day obligations, but the rewards are incredible.
If you haven't yet, do pick up a book by Annie Lamott (sp?) called "Operating Instructions: A Journal of my Son's First Year." It's a month-by-month diary of the first year of mommyhood. Lamott's a single mom, and a very funny, observant, and insightful writer.
No, they DON'T come with operating instructions, do they??? I remember being in the delivery room, and the first moment I saw my son, I had the most bizarre thought: "Who brought the real baby in here?" It was as if there was still some part of my brain that thought there'd just been a soccer ball in my stomach.
Anyway, congrats!!! I'm sure you'll be a great mom--because you so clearly care about being one!
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| bhedo |
Posted
on 11-Oct-02 06:13 PM
Personally, I don't think it's in OUR best interest to be influenced by Westerners when it comes to pregnancy and child-rearing. They just know how to scare the sh*t out of you. It's a well known fact that Westerners are far far more intimidated by physiological aspects of pregnancy than, say, a Chinese or a Hindu or an Arab or an Inca. A Chinese can have five or six babies without even wincing in pain once. On the other hand, a Westerner would have to be put on drugs. On top of that, some doctors will be slitting the woman's private parts to make babies pop out without causing any "pain" to the mother. Ever wonder why some women prefer midwives? Don't.
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