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| Jules |
Posted
on 14-Oct-02 07:58 PM
Questions for the Guys
I was just wondering about this.....do you like it better when the girl goes ahead and asks YOU out or would you prefer to ask her out (or make the first move or whatever). If a girl DOES ask you out, is it a turnoff? Or a turn on? And why? I need to pick the male brain.
Thanks!
Jules
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| Harvard_Dropout |
Posted
on 14-Oct-02 08:58 PM
Jules:
I just could not help stop myself from replying to your posting although I am only a "Silent Observer" most of the time.
As a part of the "rites of passage" ritual, after I moved from Godavari School to Jawalakhel when I was about 12 or so I believe, my mother had a "heart to heart" talk with me. One of the things she metioned was that by default girls almost always get "it" if they want it badly. But she never ever mentioned what that "it" was and I have never been able to figure that out this far. So, the point that I am trying to make is that I personally think that girls should lead as they and only they know what that "it" is.
This is only based on my life experience and nothing sexist or anti-feminist.
Happy Holiday Seasons.....
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| jame bonds |
Posted
on 14-Oct-02 09:32 PM
Jules,
I personally think it depends on the guy involved.
If the guy is shy then he might welcome your move and be happy with you ever after.
If the guy is a player, then he might consider your advances as a come on sign for one of his one night stands.
Then there are some other guys, who will take things as they come and not make any judgements on you, if you ask them out.
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| MmmBop |
Posted
on 14-Oct-02 09:52 PM
Good Question Jules.
I think it is okay if a girl asks a guy out, atleast for me; but if I had to advise you, I would rather suggest this:
Instead of being bold and asking the guy out straight, hit him. I mean give him some signs. The guy, if he is good enough for you and likes you, will also start hitting you back.
If the guy seems interested but doesn't ask you out, then lead your conversation to things that will make him meet you somewhere, some other day. He should get the sign, or else he is not good enough for you.
This will also filter out those guys who don't want to ask you out. Us, guys are very simple in thought processing. If we get signals and we like you, we will respond well. We will also give signs if we don't wanna get involved.
If your quest is for sexual purpose, which I don't assume here is the case, then go ahead and ask him out. He shouldn't say no. Otherwise, be prudent and conservative..but do give some signs. There are guys who don't need no signs and bulge in anyway, but I wouldn't. I might persue the girl, but will wait for the sign to ask her out.
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| anepalikt |
Posted
on 14-Oct-02 10:28 PM
Did you donate to Sajha yet?
Thats the best way to score points.
:)
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| SOULFREE |
Posted
on 15-Oct-02 04:22 AM
Yeah, whatever MmmBop and Jame bonds (what the heck is wrong with this "s"?) said.
My man harvard_dropout, how could you dropout before you find the meaning of 'IT'? You could have done Phd on the meaning of 'it'. dyaaamn!! ;)
For all the girls out there, If Britney can say "Hit me baby one more time", why can't you? (oops I did it again... )!!
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