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Posted
on 29-May-01 08:28 AM
By:-Gopal Chandra Bhattrai
Nepalese girls and the concept of virginity
The importance of sex in life cannot be over
emphasized. Sex is a desire, that human beings, or
rather any living being on this earth, requires. It is a
natural phenomenon. Since it is a natural urge, no
artificial restrictions or taboos or any moral means
can control it. Whether one is married or not is not its
concern. The main concern is whether one is
physically or mentally prepared for it. Only when one
is ready from these aspects, does one attempt to
indulge in it. If this goal is easily achievable, no
problem, but if not, the real struggle begins between
this natural urge and the artificial barriers.
Notwithstanding any artificial barriers are too feeble to
check the natural urge, yet they can create a considerable
tension in our society. It's a society that is orthodox and
hypocritical, and so it tries to restrict or create
unnecessary blockades. The society does not entertain
even the slightest symptoms of a relation between a boy
and a girl, before marriage. Pre-marital sex is the most
unforgivable sin. And therefore the liberal idea about
premarital sex is scorned, condemned and seen as a
destructive evil, liable to bring complete disorder in a
society leading towards decay. This sort of false
propaganda against an individual's freedom for sexual
behavior, as the root cause for social evils, has made our
minds sexually obsessed.
Our society is basically male dominated. Therefore, while
forming every moral principle, it has treated females with
complete partiality and injustice; as if they are not fellow
humans but an inferior race. And on the topic of sex, they
have been suppressed and exploited by the rotten beliefs
of our so-called moralists. The suppression and
exploitation of women on grounds of sexual behavior has
been extreme. To create a balance, western women
sought sexual freedom and independence. As a result, a
highly gender-balanced society emerged in the west where
men and women realized their full potential in
interdependent relations. Here the scenario is different.
Women are confined, contracted and squeezed. A man
having infinite affairs is honored a stud but a women doing
the same is dubbed a whore. Women just indulging in
sexual fantasies are also repulsed and are obliged to bear
the mockeries of man. So women are treated like
prisoners while men are free birds.
The concept of virginity is the biggest conspiracy hatched
by our society to restrict a woman's freedom. Traditionally,
it is thought that virginity is the most prized possession of
womanhood, and so it must be pure, chaste and
unbroken, till matrimony, when only the groom of the
woman is privileged to be presented with it. However,
"virginity is nothing more than a concept brought forth by
males to assert their superiority against females. It is the
way of dominating or suppressing females, mentally, by
enforcing an undeclared law. It is obviously so because
there is no counter-concept or law for males. They can
contaminate their chastity by poking into hundreds of filthy
gutters and yet bossily demand for untouched virginity
from their brides", says Puspa Thapa, an unmarried lass of
24, studying MBA in Shankar Dev Campus.
Unfortunately, most of the women in our society having a
so called 'good girl attitude' differs in opinion and
advocates the same traditional belief. They overrate it as
being the only precious thing they ever had. They think
that if they lose their virginity before marriage, the very
dignity and glory of womanhood falls to the dust and they
are transfigured into an abominable pile of rubbish.
However, one must not misunderstand that it is their idea.
They are tradition-laden, never skeptical. So they repeat
what others say, society preaches and males teach
without analyzing it from their own point of view.
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