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| Enigma |
Posted
on 07-Dec-02 01:17 AM
Duhh!!!!!
I was everyone’s blue eyed girl in the advertising agency, I worked for since 2000.Deservedly - I was their best copy writer. Till a girl who used to be my colleague too,walked in. See the irony, the girl managed to grab the job on my recommendation. Initially, we both worked well together, but it wasn’t long before our shrewd boss started pitting one against the other. I see her to land all the prime assignments and do them well too. But I’m increasingly left with the left over and the feeling that I have become useless. Despondency has set in me and even the simplest of assignments seems to me like an effort. My feelings of in adequacy has now threatened to cripple me professionally :((((
Folks, what would you have done were you or had you to face or had faced my kind of situation? Please show me thy noble ways…a glimmer of hope to me.
In anticipation
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| starry night |
Posted
on 07-Dec-02 01:58 AM
hmmm....
William yeats says,
I made my song a coat
Covered with Embroideries
Out of old mythologies
from heel to throat;
but the fools caught it,
Wore it in the worlds eyes
As though they'd wrought it.
Song, Let them take it,
For there's more enterprise
In walking naked.
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| Biruwa |
Posted
on 07-Dec-02 08:43 AM
Enigma ,
Where art thou? In Western countries blue eyes are nothing enigmatic. Are you writing your true story? or did u get you cue from udas?
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| bhedo |
Posted
on 07-Dec-02 08:47 AM
Well, if she is Nepali, then blue eyes ***ARE*** enigmatic. Remember that Afghan gal who made the cover of national geographic?
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| starry night |
Posted
on 09-Dec-02 01:47 AM
i thoguth it was just a expression she was using.
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| czar |
Posted
on 09-Dec-02 08:21 PM
The first whiff of competition and you're ready to fold ? Tch, tch. N tis the green monster that bedevils yon damsel I see.
The doc prescribes : one minute a week to feel sorry for yourself. Then get off your derriere and show em what you're made of. Lets see some spine, woman !
If your boss wants to play witchy woman, thats her perogative. You now have the measure of her.
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| czar |
Posted
on 09-Dec-02 08:22 PM
Twas the 'green eyed monster' I meant.
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| SITARA |
Posted
on 10-Dec-02 07:50 AM
Czar;
Hear! Hear!
Enigma...heed Czar's words!
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| Suna |
Posted
on 10-Dec-02 08:13 AM
Enigma
Just yesterday I found out my little daughter is no more the blue-eyed gal in her class anymore and she was miserable, the poor thing! This is what I told her and hope you will find it helpful too.
There is always going to be competition in life and if it starts now, she is just going to have to take in stride and try and be on top of things. Nothing can surpass hard work and if, even then, the teacher gives her a hard time, we will just have to have a little talk with her teacher but NOT UNTIL we have proven that SHE (my lil un) has proven herself!
So instead of being the blue-eyed gal you may just want to be bright hard-working one and that may just be a challenge for your counterpart.
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| dirk |
Posted
on 10-Dec-02 08:20 AM
"A riddle wrapped in a mystery inside an enigma."
Hard to decipher!!!
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| starry night |
Posted
on 10-Dec-02 10:08 AM
i reccomend a wonderful novel. sometimes.when you lose sight..and sink deep into the choas of the uncertainty...."The Alchemist" by Paulo Cohero is a classic to regain our strengths!
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| Melody |
Posted
on 10-Dec-02 11:17 AM
Enigma:
Without taking humor on stride, please permit me to say something. Feeling of inadequacy can be crippling and set a pattern if not checked right on the onset. Like Czar and Suna dijju have mentioned, shrinking into the wall paper will only show you up as weak and lacking in confidence.
No one is born with self esteem. It is learnt day by day, every day of our life. Our sense of worth begins from the very first day we are held as an infant. And, while many of us grow up naturally feeling good about ourselves, there are quite a few among us who face problems because of a discrepancy in our self image. The reasons are two folds- firstly, the conceptions formed regarding the self may be unrealistic; and secondly, the need for achievement could be very high. In the former case, the problem is that we tend to evaluate our experiences, not on a realistic basis, but on the basis of what it should be. In the latter, when the need to achieve is very great, we tend to set very high personal standards for ourselves, with the result we fall short of meeting our own expectations. This leads us being liable to feel inadequate in most situations.
In your case, it sounds like it’s a colleague at the work place who is making you feel inadequate, take a long and honest look at yourself and your career. Is it time to move on? Do you need a break from it all? Are you really being short changed? Sometimes going away from the situation helps because it lends a fresh perspective and gives you the opportunity to clear out the cobwebs. Away from the action, remembering your achievements and gloating over ‘em really helps. Air your feelings with the person who is making you feel insecure if she’s really trying to undermine your position. This will show that you are not scared to confront a situation head-on and you’re in control…don’t be too hard on yourself. At all times, have faith in yourself and your abilities.
"The Alchemist", bursts with optimism; it is the kind of book that tells us everything is possible as long as we really want it to happen. That may sound like an oversimplified version of new-age philosophy and mysticism, but as Coelho states "simple things are the most valuable and only wise people appreciate them". Thanks Starry night for reminding it.
all in jest and earnest!
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