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| goredai | Posted
on 02-Jan-03 09:40 AM
Anamika, First, let me tell you how nepali guys' mind work before you even think about leaving your man to look for another one(nepali). We care so much about what our friends and family think about our wives that we wouldn't dare marry a divorcee or a girl with prior relationship. If you have to marry a nepali guy then I think you are stuck with your b'frined, or if you don't have preference over race then run away from the relationship. I think everything in life can be worked out as long as people know how to compromise. I've seen too many nepali girls in their 30s(in west) trying to get into relationship with nepali guys. They aren't going to find one, trust me. Nepali men would obviousely look for younger girls with no history. Its a bitter fact but what can we do. We can certainly try to change it but the change wouldn't happen in your life time. May be your grand daughter can afford to leave a man after having a relationship for 4 years and find another nepali guy with balls to marry her. Good luck. |
| takura | Posted
on 02-Jan-03 01:21 PM
Goredai, You sure are a typical Nepali guy.....This is 2003....Things have changed...This is not an era where women are limited to do 'household stuffs'......That also doesn't mean they should not obey their husband and forget the culture they were grew up in but I think everyone is entitled to choose what is best for them.....Especially the once who are well educated, independent, and good looking.....There is nothing, I mean nothing wrong with having a relationship with anyone while you are young......Enjoy the life....You never know how long it will last.....So, you might as well get the best out of it...Don't make any mistakes though.... As far as we know from her posting, Anamika didn't seem to do anything that makes her look back and cry for the rest of her life.... As per Anamika, things happen....Expore the horizon..Shoot your goal....One day, you will find the guy you are looking for...you don't need to kiss any more frogs....Good Luck! Send me your comment on chanchale2002@yahoo.com |
| liya | Posted
on 08-Jan-03 12:25 AM
I agree with Takura.....as for Goredai....i think u really need to wake up...its ppl like u who make the world difficult to live on....i know many nepali guys who don't share ur point of view....what u got to know is everyone has a past.....both girls n guys. All i can say is that i feel sorry more for u(goredai) than i feel for anamika.......u seriously need to get some help.......i hope u do it preety soon too....good luck. |
| jack1 | Posted
on 08-Jan-03 12:51 AM
I am a nepali guy , my personal view on this subject matter us as follows: both men and women have equal righ to be slutty. I have been slutty (in a masculine sense, not gay). If my wife to be who loves me for who I am, and we both are in love...if she has a slutty past...I dont think I'd hold her again that. those men who care too much about a woman's past are loosers, they might justify their position by saying that they never have had a "past". well perhaps not that they didnt have a "past" by choice but because thye couldnt have a " past" by choice which would be another reason to classify them as loosesr. |
| liya | Posted
on 08-Jan-03 04:55 AM
Thank u jack..........this is what i meant....its an illusion that goredai is living....world has moved but he left himself back in stone ages....... Happy therapy goredai.....i hope u come out with a new BRAIN Peace |
| arch119 | Posted
on 08-Jan-03 05:37 AM
Hi Anamika (didi , i guess) lets deal with this problem stochastically. Scenario :- 1) You think u love this guy 2) this guy thinks he loves u (I am using the verb "think" here coz I dont know u (usually people dont even know themselves) or this guy . So I want to judge it absolutely from a 3rd persons point of view) Now only God knows if u truly love this guy or this guy truly loves u. There are 4 possibilities here a) "You really love him" and "He really loves u" In this case, lets say u dont marry him. By observational but untold laws, we can assume that this case is very co-incidental.i.e finding the person whom u really love and who loves u back the same amount occurs with a infinitesimal probability.So if u dont marry him,theoritically it will take u infinite number of years to find a second instance like him.So in this case u will regret if u dont marry him.so its wise to marry this guy. b) "You really love him" and "He doesnt loves u so truly" In this case, if u marry him , this guy will dump u some time later. u would be in Nepal in that time ,which makes the things even worse.So its better u dont marry him. c) "You dont really love him" but "this guy really loves u" In this case, u may not really keep Canada off ur mind when u are in Nepal and since u dont love this guy too, chances are of frustration and regret.So its better u dont marry him. d) "you really dont like him" and "neither does he" There is no question of marrying each other in this case. So out of 4 cases that can suggest, u gain by marrying this guy in just one of them.So, u shud choose not to marry him. Now the million dollar question "Why shud any sane person use stochastic processes to deal with one's personal affair?" ---> The fact here is that U really seem to be in dilemma right now.So much in dilemma that U are leaving this question to be answered by public(most of whom u dont know, of course) for u.This means that u are in a somewhat neutral state (as opposed to a biased state ,in which case u can decide your own ideas to solve ur problem) and thus stochastic processes are not a bad idea at all. Lastly, I was just giving my idea and wont be responsible for any consequences if u happen to follow it. Personally, I would like both of u to get married, have a couple of children ,serve our country and blah..blah... but using logic in a decision making process is very important too.... Anyway , have fun .Sorry for messing up ur mind even more..if i did so |
| Zubin | Posted
on 08-Jan-03 07:11 AM
Anamika, The core answer is, you can not have best of both worlds. The world that your boy probably wants for you is best for you and your would be children in long term. The world you want to explore dumping your guy now is best for you in short tem :lots of independence, no one to answer to, lots of sex with lots of guys. No matter what, to make a good marriage, there is a code of descipline necessary to be followed. After that, its give and take. Desciplined sacrifices are ethos that help you live happily after 30s. Undesciplined selfishness is what keeps you happy before 30. |
| takura | Posted
on 08-Jan-03 11:48 AM
Ach119, Seems like you are doing a lot of statistics problem. Were you trying to solve her problem or confuse everyone? hehehehehhe |
| Free Thinker | Posted
on 08-Jan-03 12:12 PM
Anamika - I don’t have the right educational and professional credentials to give you advise. I can however share with you a real life experience that you may find interesting and leave you to draw your own conclusions. A and B had met in Nepal before they came to the States. The guy arrived before the girl and when she came a few months later, it was only natural that the two found themselves living together. They lived together for 3 or 4 years by which time the girl found she had certain ambitions in life which she was not sure she could achieve if she continued with the guy. The guy too was beginning to develop similar thoughts. The girl found the guy boring, unsocial, self-centered, and uncaring. The guy found the girl too egoistic, mean spirited and far too demanding. Most friends of the couple would say the couple were both smart, generally good natured and pretty successful in what they were currently doing. They both wanted to leave each other at times but found they were unable to because the love between them, although bruised and battered, was still existent. The story took an interesting twist when one of their frequent quarrels turned into a mutual counseling and therapy session. The conversation started on a quarrelsome note but progressed into a open exchange of complaints about the other person. The deepest and darkest thoughts in each of them came out as part of the discussion. Both were surprised by what the other thought about them but both felt a heavy burden had been lifted after speaking their minds freely. So much so that both were guilty that they offended the other person too much. The rest of the conversation was not one of tears, anger or emotion but rather a rational discussion of what was best for each of them. The most interesting part of the story is, after deep thought, both felt that perhaps there were bigger things waiting for them in the world beyond their relationship but were unable to convince themselves that they would be happy without each other. Sure the guy was brash, arrogant and insensitive at times and the girl's ego could sometimes make Everest look like an ant hill, but knowing themselves both realized that a bird in hand is worth five in the sky. If you took out arrogance, insensitivity, anti-socialism from the guy and egoism, nagging and some meanness from the girl, they both had all the qualities the other was looking for. So instead of breaking up and finding the right person who would anyway be just like their previous lover minus a few bad qualities they decided to keep the ball rolling and instead work on changing those bad qualities. That's not to say they have a laila-majnu relationship right now but there still is love in the relationship, nagging exists although it has decreases significantly, the occasional fight that is needed in every relationship is present in this one too and some sparks having to do with ego hassles and arrogance still fly around. However both feel they are headed for bigger things and want to realize their dreams together. You may or may not be able to relate to the story because some things in the plot might be different from your own, but the reason I wanted to share this was in the hope that you and others would know that there are many others with similar stories out there and just like the body can get sick sometimes so can relationships -curably or incurably. It is for each to decide( maybe with help) what the ailment is and how it should be cured, if it can be cured. |
| forget-me-not | Posted
on 08-Jan-03 04:33 PM
Good one free thinker...true to your name... |
| goredai | Posted
on 08-Jan-03 08:06 PM
Hey liya girl, How old are you.....19. I was just trying to help Anamika before she ends up before one of those girls good enough only for weekends. I used to think the way you do but the world is different. You have to make compromises in life otherwise nothing would work out. Too bad our society is so anti-women. I was just trying to tell Anamika the reality about our society. If its bitter and hard to swallow, its your problem. Don't call me names and try to send me for therapy. You'd be better off trying to do something about it. And you Jack, if you think you have balls to marry a girl with history why not try bombay-return prostitute. I bet you don't have stomache big enough to talk to them in public, forget about marrying. |
| jack1 | Posted
on 08-Jan-03 10:15 PM
I wont mind goredai...provided they are not infected.....i am way above those puny minded people with puny values and norms.....wake up goredai....there is one life and its too short to live with a narrow mind like that |
| liya | Posted
on 08-Jan-03 11:31 PM
Goredai age has nothig to do with what i wrote....i saw ur comment and i didn't like it and i bet half the ppl here didn't like it either......and about doin something about the whole issue.....i think i have taken a first step by acknowledging the fact that ppl like u with stone ages mentality need to wake up......i believe in what i wrote....and i believe when i say that...if u continue with ur atittude then u will find urself alone....time for change goredai |
| goredai | Posted
on 09-Jan-03 12:45 AM
Both of you, jack and liya probably are in liberal state of mind. You know when you are young you tend to be liberal. As you grow old, mature and see exactly how the world works then your liberal view disappears. To be realist start thinking as if you are 10 years older than your real age. No matter how liberal nepali guy acts he he can never talk about his girl's past. I've never met any nepali girl who admit having sex before marriage fearing her future and nepali guy who can talk about his wife's ex-b'friend. These girls in Sajha like Sitara, SimpleGal and few other who talk alot, ask them if they had sex or not. Even if they had they would never admit. They seem to be quite educated but the fear is always there. |
| sweetie | Posted
on 09-Jan-03 07:59 AM
Fear is not only with girls GoreyDai, It's with guys too..........There is nothing wrong in these pple to try to hide their personal things from public. Anyways, it's not nice to go in public and talk about ur sex life..........if anyone does.... that's their choice, but that doesnot mean that whatever u say and believe is what we all think....?? Wake up.........we have independant views........! donot speak for us! Everyone has past and present......if the guy has past...........definitely the girl who was in his past does have the same.................!It doesnot mean that if the guy can find a decent woman then a girl cannot...........? Liya, However, it doesnot mean that if there are compromisable situations...then you should let it just go and run after things which are unseen. I am not sure how old your are.........but I see a little immaturity on your side aswell. Marriage is meant to start a family.............otherwise you can be BF and GF forever......! In my openion there is nothing wrong in your guy wanting to have his own kids, It might make the relationship even stronger. As far as your guy is wanting you to be old fashioned.........I think most nepali guys have such views in their mind .......they tend to believe that their mother is the perfect figure to worship and follow........and would like their woman to be like them..........But they also appreciate when you do things like modern woman...........earn...... , get the highest education, cook......and clean and other than that ....be independant......and so on...........they love it..don't they? I think you need to try to work things out if it is compromisable and if he loves you aswell..........that's the main imp thing you need to compromise for...........! True love is hard to find............but it's not hard to find another Nep man in your life! U need to understand that.............What's the use finding another Nep man if he doesnot love you........as this one? If you guys are just used to each other and there is no such thing called LOVE .......then donot believe in what Gorey Dai says..........I have seen a lot of succesful pple whose one relationship didnot work out , but the second one flourished.....I am talking about Nep Couples..............not american....GoreDai!!!! But you need to be confident that what you are doing is right! Goredai, tapai jasto Nep kta ley nai garda............nep kt haru lai life ma nachahiney thauma ni compromise gareyra life living hell banauna badya banaucha............! Goreydai.............would you still say that "Liya needs to compromise with whatever......." if she is perfect, educated........thinks perfectly like every independent woman should think and you know her personally to say that she is the perfect woman......., whereas the guy is a drunkard, does nothing other than hitting..........., is mean and selfish?? As per what you wrote................It explains to me that "NO NEPALI WOMAN HAS ANY CHOICE........OTHER THAN THEIR FIRST AFFAIR..........NOMATTER WHO IS WRONG IN THE RELATIONSHIP.......AS THERE IS NOT GOING TO BE ANY OTHER NEPALI MAN IN HER LIFE AGAIN" I like Free Thinkers Idea ........Well Written!!!! |
| thepeacekeeper | Posted
on 09-Jan-03 08:59 AM
wouldn't................it................be.............nice..............if...............we.............could.............write................without............using................dotted...........lines?........ho ho ho! By the way, Gorebhai, beware - you might become the one "good enough only for weekends" with your outdated thinking. Your reasoning that a past relationship could subject a woman to that status is pathetic to say the least. Your feelings are probably shaped by your association with the likes of your own. Go out and see the world. Broaden your horizons. Wake up and smell the chiya. Its the 21st century for Bhagwan's sake. |
| thepeacekeeper | Posted
on 09-Jan-03 09:01 AM
My little joke screwed up the thread. My apologies. |
| thepeacekeeper | Posted
on 09-Jan-03 09:06 AM
Gorebhai, beware - you might become the one "good enough only for weekends" if you persist with your outdated thinking. Your reasoning that a past relationship could subject a woman to that status is pathetic. Your feelings have probably been shaped by your association with the likes of your own. Get out of your little circle. See the world. Broaden your horizons. Wake up and smell the chiya. You might learn something new. |
| sadabichar | Posted
on 09-Jan-03 01:00 PM
Why you all guys are wasting your time replying in this thread? Does anyone know if a girl by the name Anamika25 really exists? It could be hoax? Has she bothered writing again in the thread after all those replies being posted by the readers? If you are real person, Anamika, you should ask your so called living partner to read all the efforts put the ppl here in the thread, Then it will be he who will decide about you guys fate, not you!!! |
| liya | Posted
on 09-Jan-03 08:02 PM
Sweetie.....if u read what i wrote before goredai....then u would see that i am not telling anamika to just run and leave what she might have in her relationship.....the whole poin t here is that her man does not want to compromise....according to what anamika has wrote.....it just what he wants...i believe that every story has two sides and like sadaibichar has written, i think anamika should come n make things clear. As for Goredai.......i got nothing to say to him...coz its a total waste of my time |
| goredai | Posted
on 09-Jan-03 11:39 PM
Anamika, you don't need to come out and justify or take sides. You can just sit back relax and read all the obnoxious things written by all these so called "liberal ass". I can tell for sure these people are the one who would say "I'm liberal but not with my sister". I bet that jack guy and peacekeeper don't have guts to see their sisters go out on a date. Sweetie, I know for sure the days when women would cook, take care of kids and do house hold chores are gone. My mother is the last women to do it in my family and I bet I won't let my wife cook dinner for me while I sit around. But, we are talking about different issue here. The issue is " can a nepali women afford to have long sexual relationship and still be able to dump a guy to find another nepali guy who would marry her". I was just trying to interpret how nepali society is. You don't like it, its your problem. But don't tell Anamika that you've seen so many nepali women dump their b'friend and still be able to find another nepali guy. I haven't seen even one. Don't give Anamika wrong information and make her pay for it. What if she does and end up being the weekend type just because you told her that its possible. Anamika, don't do it. Try to work it out if you want to stay with nepali guy. If you don't care about race then dump the guy and run away with kuhire. |
| dilmaya | Posted
on 10-Jan-03 03:23 AM
i agree with gore dai, actually truth always hurts. i am also victim girl as gore dai said.i am in usa now. i had a someone in my past. after we break up, i tried to find a another man to get marry and live happily but i could n't succeed. i am educated , independent and i never do any bad things. . i just wanna marry & settled down my life as other women. lots of people like me i found some man but they just wanna come in my life to have a fun. they don't want to marry me cause they know i had a bf in my past. we all r from conservative culture & still we r same, no matter where we r. that is why we r still far behind than other country.man can do anything but woman can not. if The nepalese guy who r educated, who r in usa couldn't change their mind then how can we aspect to change people of our country. there may be just 2% nepalese men who have a great heart. |
| Ryan | Posted
on 10-Jan-03 09:16 AM
Yuppers! I agree with Goredai and Dilmaya...These people are telling the truth. Getting a second man for a Nepali girl can be extremely tough. People on this thread, who are advising anamika saying " leave the guy get another man", they are trying to become "LIBERAL ASS" as Goredai mentioned. Things might be easier to say but in reality it is not very easy. Guys might be willing to accept a girls with past only if they themsleves had a past. And most cases that number could be just 2% like dilmaya said. So, Anamika think about it before you leave this guy. God bless U. Ryan. |
| sadabichar | Posted
on 10-Jan-03 11:31 AM
Accept it or not, the fact is: 1. A Nepali girl comes to Amrika, lives with a Nepali or other guy for couple of years, breaks up with that guy for family pressure/ personal reasons/ difference in opinions or otherwise, then lallygags for sometime feeling lonely. Then she aspires to be with someone.. to lead a stable life.. to settle down with someone... And at this juncture, she thinks Oh! how nice it would be to trap some Nepali guy by fluke. The hard fact is that very few nepali girls succeed in this pursuits. That's the way wind still blows for a Nepali guy wether he lives in Amrika or in Nepal!!! Girls, you cannot change the direction of the wind, but surely you may try to campaign in order to have these guys walk the other direction. We know that women like J. Lo and Liz Taylor (list goes on) became serial brides. It's OK to dream of becoming one of them and doing what they did, but first become like them, and then only you tried to be serial bride. Otherwise for ordinary people becoming serial bride or bridegroom associates with high cost in every aspects of your life. 2. A nepali guy comes to Amrika, fools around with a nepali girl or other colors, then time comes to settle down, goes back to Nepal, and it's awesome to find that he can choose one from the parade of girls, marries, and comes back to Amrika if visa arrangements permits. Darn it! the visa process has become so compicated these days isn't it if you are not living in US legally or with proper status. So time has changed, and these days it's hard for even a Nepali guy to find a girl in Nepal. 3. There is a chance for a relationship between 1. and 2 as mentioned above. So Anamika, decide yourself if you want to be one of the people mentioned in 1? And there are so many possibilities for living alone or as a single mom or like J. Lo or if you are lucky stable life!!!! |
| goredai | Posted
on 13-Jan-03 12:05 AM
Once I thought that I was living in a stone age before dilmaya, Ryan and Sadabichar came to a rescue. Some people in this thread tried to corner me and almost made me admit that time has changed in nepal. Well, it has not. We still have strong male dominating society. But the irony is educated nepali women aren't bothered about it. These women(educated one) come to West and feel that they are free from misery that they used to face back home. No, they are not free yet. They use their freedom to go to club, smoke cigarrettes and drink alcohol. No one has raised her voice for actual freedom and free their sisters back home. They can talk about their hair and nail endlessly but don't have time to read current affair. We men won't give you your right easily. Fight for it then we'll give you. Actually nepali women got voting rights too easily. We should have let them fight for it so that they would be used to fighting for other rights too. There is no such thing as feminist movement in nepal or abroad in nepali society. You think american women got freedom easily. The feminist movement in the 60s was so strong that it didn't take them long to enjoy the freedom. Good luck straightening your hair for two hours |
| czar | Posted
on 13-Jan-03 07:19 PM
To think Nepali women got the vote too easily, that they are all clueless creatures mostly absorbed in doing their nails. That school of thought ought to have gone the way of the dodo, but, all too sadly, is alive and well it seems. That smacks of extreme arrogance and condescension. To start with, in another thread, I had wondered if some, and I repeat SOME, Nepali men practice double standards and possibly needed to update their attitudes towards Nepali women. That a male can have any number relationships in his past but his slate is rubbed clean come marriage time. How convenient. Whereas women aren’t supposed to even glance at another male, let alone have a relationship. By gum, they may even have sex ! Heaven forbid they should smoke and even imbibe of the spirits on occasion. Surely, their moral fiber is ..what morals..eh ? What a bunch of shameless hussies. Huh, how dare they even study huh? Aren’t they taking up space in colleges that Nepali men could do with? The rotters ..right Goredai ? All they are good for is providing business for hair and nail salons, correct? What’s wrong with a woman who wants to look her best? Or be fashionable? Just think, Bangladesh’s economy, along with tens of other poor countries’, would collapse otherwise if weren’t for Express, Gap or Neiman Marcus operating. And, would you prefer to sidle up to one who reeks of.. er..or would you prefer to have Chanel no 5 waft on the sultry afternoon breeze ? Take your pick. I vote Chanel any day. Perhaps the females you know are avid nail polishing air heads, if so, then you are invited to widen your circle of acquaintances. Take a look around you. All women here are articulate, hard working, intelligent achievers. Even if do their nails on occasion, I am constantly impressed and educated by their erudite and thoughtful discussions. Each one without exception would do any nation and man proud. Er..I am starting to believe in the existence of a time machine..the evidence is surely getting stronger .. |
| sweetie | Posted
on 14-Jan-03 07:34 AM
U know Czari Dai, I didnot want to reply to Goredai............coz I remembered one proverb mom used to say " Veer bata khasna lagya vaisi lai Ram Ram vanna sakincha...........Kaandh halna sakinnnnna..........!! Educated in a sense.... as they went to school but totally ignorant as they didnot learn anything in school.............vanya goredai jasto manchey haru nai ho! |
| Suna | Posted
on 14-Jan-03 07:53 AM
Goredai and the likes of him: Do you guys live under HUGE boulders? Do you need some help getting out of that rut? |
| goredai | Posted
on 15-Jan-03 12:18 AM
Czar, you need to slam the brake on that machine to face reality rather than tell me to step on my viper. Sweetie, have you heard this proverb "chor lai chor bhanda risaucha". I think you fall in nail and hair category too. Otherwise you would have ignored it and moved on rather than defend yourself. Suna, I wish I live under a boulder but I don't. I have to live among ignorant nepali girls who always complain about equality and don't do anything about it. Case study(real one, name has been changed for identity purpose). 1. Sunil, 37 years old, successful, lives in skyscraper in Manhattan gets ready to settle down. He goes back to Nepal and finds a beautiful young women. The first thing he asked the girl after they were engaged was whether she had a man in her life or not. The bastard slept with more than hundred women in NYC and he was ready to break his engagment if she had boyfriend. 2. Sunita, 32, lives in East Village, very successful thinks about getting married to Nepai guy. She had few past relationship with Americans but nothing serious. When she broke the news about looking for a nepali guy to marry, every one laughed their belly off. Looking at these two cases, what nepali girls are doing till now is no more that coloring their nail and straightening their hair. |
| liya | Posted
on 15-Jan-03 03:07 AM
goredai u seem to have surrounded urself with ppl like u.....no wonder u come up with all the examples..........u n ur frens need to look around u. There all lots of nepali guys who don't think like u too.......and i thank god for that.......nepali guys like u will never let a nepali girl progress. And if a girl thinks that she is going to be rejected because of her past then all i gotta say is that.......that guy whoever he may be is not worth the time or the effort........ |
| Suna | Posted
on 15-Jan-03 09:08 AM
GOREDAI I see you're still under that boulder! oh well! the burden of the stone will crush you and you will die an imbecile! |
| sweetie | Posted
on 15-Jan-03 10:50 AM
Well said, Suna, These pple are ignorant.............jatti padey ni they are ignorant........ Well Goru ko buddi vako dai.......I have seen a lot of Nepali girls not succesful in their first relation ship and then married to another nep and setteled. One of a sis (Nep) left this nep guy coz he was ignorant like you and was hitting her and now she is happily married and has a baby , with a loving nepali husband who is not ignorant like you , both husband & wife are in IT field , last yr both went to nepal and got their green card. U know goru dai.............she is intelligent,...............does her nails and hairs to be attractive................but is better than ignorant nep guys like who probably doesnot have any achievements so far. U need to change the eye power probably ur house has only one window so u are looking from one direction only! Well.................on the other hand the ignorant guy who was with that nep didi earlier is now like pagal.............is married to white woman for status............has a baby also (by mistake I guess).......last time I visited his house..........his white wife was shouting him for throwing the cotton used while his nose was beeding not exactly on the trash..(missed by a little! This is real...............and will be real to those who believe in themselves...........but not to a person like you! U sound like a looser anyways! Probably, |
| sweetie | Posted
on 15-Jan-03 10:55 AM
Sorry! Probably was typed incorrectly! |
| czar | Posted
on 15-Jan-03 12:23 PM
Gore, There was no need to specify locations for people in your examples. That is disrepectful to them to a very great degree, and could possibly be used by someone with mal intent. |
| goredai | Posted
on 16-Jan-03 09:37 PM
Sweetie, don't be so nasty and call me names. It reminded of those illiterate women in Nepal who lift their sari to show their nastiness in the middle of a fight. Your name is sweetie but you sound so bitterey. Liya is acting more matured than you are at this time. Even though she does not agree with me atleast she is arguing with me as a normal matured person. Lets get to the point. So this women in IT field got her life back with this guy. Great, I'm very happy for her. But she doesn't represent what reality is. She is lucky that she found 1 in a million guy who was ready to challege the society. 13 million other nepali women don't have that choice. Their only destiny is to serve their husband even if their husbands are abusive. Just because you managed to escape reality does not mean Nepal has changed. You know how Ostrich think. They hide their head and think they are safe. Just because you managed to save your butt does not mean all nepali women have choice to leave their husband to find another one. No matter how free you are in your relationship, your identity as a nepali women, whose life is to be a shadow of her man is always there. If you want to change something, change that. Don't be happy to change your house rules and make your husband do all the dishes and think you changed nepali society. |
| Ryan | Posted
on 17-Jan-03 08:25 AM
Gore, U D Man! Did ur woman show nastiness by lifting her sari in the middle of the night? ( jus joking gore dai). Any way realitiy is what Goredai is saying on this thread. Truth hurts but we got to accept it. I bet a true nepali girl cannot go out and date severl guys like a white girl does. If swettie or liya want to become/think like a white girl, then this thread is not for them. Goredai is just giving advise to a typical nepali girl who is in relationship dilemma. By the way, where the hell is anamika? Do we know what did she decide to do with her man? |
| Suna | Posted
on 17-Jan-03 10:11 AM
Goredai! half the men in Nepal are not educated or have views which are similiar to yours! ARE YOU DOING SOMETHING ABOUT IT? |