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| mack |
Posted
on 25-Jan-03 05:50 PM
I have to do a presentation infront of about 50 people...........I am very nervous....I get mental black out when i have present infront of large group of people......I cant have my thoughts collected. I dont know how to get ride of this problem...this is holding me back from progress. What can I do to get ride of this problem...any suggestion?
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| Montou |
Posted
on 25-Jan-03 07:44 PM
Mack bro,
Well I really dont know the real solution for it. But I can certainly tell you of my experience.
I also suffered from the same problem and maybe even worse. I just could not speak at all in front of people. It was a night mare to me when it came for presentation at school.
But it has changed a lot over the year. I now feel comfortale speaking in front of people. I think its comfortable to speak in front of people when you know the issue you are speaking very well. When you know what you are speaking not only you feel comfortable but excited about what you have to speak. You would not be concerned about the number of people in audience but will remain focused on what you have to say.
These days I know what I am speaking. The thing that I have to speak comes directly from God. Not only I am comfortable but excited about what I have to speak. The change in me was natural. I cannot believe how I have changed from a guy who could not speak at all now is able to speak in front of people regardless of number. I will have to thank God for that. Its all because of Him.
So mack bro, I will advise you to be very comfortable with the subject you are going to speak about. The more you know about it the better. Think to yoursef that you are doing good for the people by giving them inforamtion on whatever topic that is. Stay focused on what you have to say rather than people.
And last but not the least, Pray before you speak, IT HELPS.
I hope I did not confuse you more. Hope this little note helps you.
By His Grace,
Montou
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| vision |
Posted
on 25-Jan-03 08:14 PM
Fear less. hope more; eat less, chew more; whine less, breathe more; talk less, say more; hate less, love more....and all the good things are yours.
Fear is only as deep as your mind allows. If you take it too seriously, you run greater chance of making a fool out of yourself. So take it easy...face your fear..laugh at yourself ...and don't be a girl!
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| mack |
Posted
on 25-Jan-03 08:20 PM
I like the idea of talk less say more.....
not being a girl........ but seen girls who are very strong in public speaking
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| SITARA |
Posted
on 25-Jan-03 08:30 PM
Mack ji...
Here is what works for me:
-Take a deep breath,
-Scan the crowd, smile and introduce yourself.
-Crack a joke about where you come from (Nepal, a dot in the map!...RECENT notoriety for its lure for aspiring Everest climbers!...ya blame it on the mountains! NOt on the Royal massacre!:P)
-should break the ice!
-State your topic, and your reason for your choice or significance...
-Carry on.....
-End it... with a strong statement... (e.g. if you are in doubt, just call 911! :P....he he!! just kidding!!!)
RELAX!!!.... They are people, who want to hear your opinion!
GOOD LUCK!!! My positive energies to you! :)
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| SITARA |
Posted
on 25-Jan-03 08:34 PM
P.S.
Project your Voice...don't swallow your words!
If you repeat your self...it is ok!
Or you can confess " wow!...so many faces...makes me nervous!....Anyways..."
can also be an icebreaker...you'll have the sympathy of the crowd!
BUT, if it is a public speaking course from University, It will have to be organized according to allotted time! DON"T CONFESS YOU ARE NERVOUS!!!!
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| vision |
Posted
on 25-Jan-03 08:35 PM
Sitara Ji...come on! Are you trying to help him or scare him? Take a deep breath and scan the crowd? Oh phulease!!
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| SITARA |
Posted
on 25-Jan-03 08:36 PM
Vision ji...check your eyesight hajur!!!!
Note I said: WHAT WORKS FOR ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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| vision |
Posted
on 25-Jan-03 08:37 PM
Project your Voice...don't swallow your words!
Oh gosh...you are helping him alright!
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| vision |
Posted
on 25-Jan-03 08:39 PM
Well of course...when you say it works for you..you are implying, it might work for you too. Am I wrong?
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| vision |
Posted
on 25-Jan-03 08:43 PM
Well Sirata ji, My fear is ...you being a prominent member of Sajha, he'll take your advice seriously. Thats' all.
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| czar |
Posted
on 25-Jan-03 09:06 PM
N that's the whole idea too.
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| Saajan555 |
Posted
on 25-Jan-03 09:06 PM
Mack bro,
I would suggest u a glass of wine(apple/grape) before ur presentation that will just make ur throat smooth and clear. Ahem.... give it a try. And also, try to make eye contact with the people in the back rows rather than those sitting right infront of u. As Sitarajyu said, a long and deep breath definitely relieves u; but don't just keep pulling breath, throw some words as well. eheheheh....... Now, I would like to hear you say.....
Yo ppl, I made all the audience spellbound for a complete hhhhhhhhou..r.
cheers
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| isolated freak |
Posted
on 27-Jan-03 12:15 AM
how to speak effectively? well, you have to go prepared. don't think that you are a neta who can just speak, so take your notes with you.. structure yoiur presentation.. ok, introduction 2 mins and this is what i am going to say, body.. this much then finally conclusion and also i'll give certain amount of time to the audience to ask questions.make it more interactive..what i hacve found is that if you start your speech with a question.. then the audience loves it.. beccause it more engaging..interactive and k k ho thaha chaina..also learn some hand gestures.. ah, one thing.. eye contact is a must..speak slowly, clearly and you end up getting an A.
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| tick |
Posted
on 27-Jan-03 08:51 AM
This is what I do.
1. Write the entire presentation, main points.
2. Practice in front of mirror
3. Invite friends and ask them to be the audiance.
4. Start presentation with a joke that related to the topic.
5. End with a sstrong statement
6. Always leave room for questions.
7. If you find that you are losing the audiance during the presentation, crack a joke again. Be prepared with a copule of relevant jokes if possible.
8. Best of all imaging that you are speaking with your best friend.
Good luck.
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| M.P. |
Posted
on 27-Jan-03 09:08 AM
I think wine is a good idea, as Sajaanji says. Don't get too drunk though :).
I think another way to get rid of nervousness is to think of your audience as a bunch of fools who know nothing about what you are talking. That way:
1) You won't worry too much about impressing them.
2) You will explain things that are obvious to you but may not be obvious to them.
About cracking jokes during your speech, you probably can not do so if you are very nervous. If you crack a joke and people either do not understand or do not laugh (as happens often with my poor 'jokes'), you will get embarrassed, which will only spoil your speech thereafter.
People lose patience either because they do not understand you or because you are too monotonous (which is more likely if you are making a presentation for the first time). Speak slowly. If you are a Nepali, they might have problem understanding everything you say. Cracking jokes is one of the ways to make your speech less monotonous. If that's hard for you, there are other ways, one of which is to switch between your speech and slide/documentary often (make sure that it does not waste too much time, though).
Just my two cents. Good luck!
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| bill_pusateri |
Posted
on 27-Jan-03 10:10 AM
Go to the place where you will deliver the speech. Stand on the stage or in front. Imagine everyone is there. Deliver the speech and listen to yourself. Are you loud enough? Will you use a microphone. If yes, try speaking into the microphone and try not to listen to yourself. Be confident. Tell a joke but do not put yourself down. Ask a friend to sit in the front row to provide you some support the first time. If you know what you are talking about you should be confident speaking about it in front of others. On the other hand you may find out that you are a phony. This is also a learning experience. Relax, breathe, joke. You are probably as intelligent as anyone in your audience. Forgive yourself. Don't go too heavily on self pity, the audience will perceive this immediately.
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| bill_pusateri |
Posted
on 27-Jan-03 10:15 AM
I think taking a drink is a bad idea. You will slur your speech. It is a good idea to look over the heads of the people you are speaking to, do not look anyone in the eye. If you tell a joke, give the people time to laugh or applaud. Dont talk over the laughter.
Be confident, you can do it, look at Kiran Chetry she is on national TV and she glows with confidence. Good luck. After the speech please let us all know how it went.
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| Sadabichar |
Posted
on 27-Jan-03 10:37 AM
1. Eat sweet stuffs like Jeri, Halwa, Laddu, Gundhpaakh, Pustakari, Chini etc. about half an hour prior to your presentation.
2. Fear... what for? You are what you are, you are not what you were, and you will not be what you are. Life is Impermanence. After half an hour your presentation willbe over... after 1 hour half of the listeners will forget what you have done, after one day perhaps all the listners will forget your mistakes/nervousness etc., and after one year there will be ahrdly a single person who will remember your presentation.
3. Always think that after half an hour (or duration of presentation) you won;t have to talk to the people, your turn of speaking would be over!!!!
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| mack |
Posted
on 27-Jan-03 05:47 PM
Bill, I will definately go to the presentation hall and do a mock presentation infront of people. Definately, some sugar 30 min before....but i hope it doesnt give me sugar rush tho and make me more nervous. SAdabichar....yes thats a way to intellectualize......but I want people to remember me (in a positive way) because of this presentation.
Anyone...anymore advice?
Thanks your your time and valuable advice.
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| prempujari |
Posted
on 27-Jan-03 06:19 PM
Presentation Sucks yaar!!
My USA ma first experience,
School gaako introduction re, class ma gayera 5 mins bolnu parne. Boldi maile ta, Ke ke boli thaha chaina, Nervous bhayera dimag le sochya mukh ma aa hoina, Ghati sukera, khutta kaapera khattam. By the end of the 5 mins, everyone was starin' at me, tryin' to figure out my Nepangreji!!
I failed that class :) shaan ka saath.
But I learned a lot ke,
It's all about how much you know about the things you are talkin' about.
If you know your stuff, you get confident. Once you are confident, you will remember jokes, you will understand how to amuse your audience, you will learn how to improvise the stuff you are talking about right there, right then. If you don't know what you are talking about, you lose confidence, and the consequence is shaky leg, sweaty palm, heavy head, self consciousness (I think self consciousness is the worst thing, otherwise you give a damn about what others are thinking about you -- you won't care about any confused faces, or those you feel, are humilating you.)
katti arti budhdhi aaucha yaar, hyaaa!!! But thats the truth.
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| mack |
Posted
on 27-Jan-03 07:54 PM
Ha ha ha ha ha Prempujari....man u made my day.......
anyone else wanna share personal his/her exotic public speaking experience?
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| khimberly |
Posted
on 27-Jan-03 09:54 PM
Hey Bill Pusateri i agreee with your opinon , great idea.i am also just like prempujari yaar i mean you know, i can,t talk pfront of people mero hat khutta kapna thalchha.but if i am talking with my friend i didn,t feel nothing i can talk easly. But with other people in huge crowd its make me so nervous and uncomfortable myself. I don,t know why damn i am the shit?Mero bichar ma , do not mention about whatever people think bout you, just let it go, just care bout what you are doing and saying. Don,t care what people think about you? Do you guys think i am right!
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| marooned |
Posted
on 27-Jan-03 10:11 PM
About presentation...all it takes is a good preparation n confidence{sounds easy hagi tara......}.Once i was in the same situation .As i had prepared well n the participating members were all my class mates so i was a bit confident.I began up drawing ..n outlining the main points...till then i was ok....But as the seniors entered the class n filled the seats at the back..i suddenly shivered...khutta ta kharara kampyo...n my voice ta jhan sano jhan sano bho...but luckily i was scribblin everything that i said in the board ...so inspite of my voice....one could perceive what i wanted to relay. After the break....some seniors left...but there were still some..who were curious to review {with whom i was well acquainted with} then my confidence rose.....i ended up giving the details....n replying the answers of some who questioned me.After everything was over,the seniors{didis} ended up saying WELLDONE...so did my frens....except for one{my roommate...who was like...kotha ma ta khub karauthis aaja ke bho...bharkar suru hunda ta mailey kehi pani sunina tara pani taile lekheko sare......}Anyway..that experience was great...it's given me more confidence...SO ppl don't fear....u can't run away from what u GOTTA do...so face it n do it well.Outlining the main points n explainin them till we can make ourselves clear is a MUST....
peaceeee
marooned
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| Zen_kundan |
Posted
on 27-Jan-03 10:27 PM
Mack,
If you have to do the Presntation, unless you have build your confidence no body can help you. So be confident yourself. you just need to think:
You are the smartest person among all.
You are within .20 % of nepali population who has oppertunity to come and study in US. you are going to be richest person of poor country in terms of education. If you can not build up your confidense then who will ? Parbat ko luinche gharti ?
Do you know one tukka : Ghoda lai khola samma lagna sakincha tara paani pilaauna sakinna...
Tyasai le jasle je vane pani if you have to have confidence.
I had the same problem like yours. My major was education. Being a Stanford student,I had to give lecture for 1-2 hours. Cause my major was Education.
Good Luck
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