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| Logical Sense's Column |
Posted
on 25-Mar-03 10:19 AM
This is for comments on Biha Ta Garne Ho Tara Ko Sanga Ra Kasari?
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| MainBatti |
Posted
on 25-Mar-03 12:13 PM
Great piece, Logical Sense.
Last line is the catch: "if your spouse turn out to be the one you really liked then you will enjoy a merrier life, if not then you will become a Philosopher".
I had heard a saying by a Senator, "You have nothing to lose as a politician. If you win, you win. If you lose, you can always write a book." Same thing applies for marriage, I guess.
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| Gurl_Interrupted |
Posted
on 25-Mar-03 12:19 PM
Hey Logical sense,
NIce one! It was an easy ride, sometimes I laughed while at other times, I focused to get the message! "I dont even want to see the girl, but I want whole of my family to put their signatures on the back of her photograph attesting her for me (really warning them of the consequences later, ha ha!), starting with the grandpa and grandma to my little nephews and nieces ." I couldn't stop lauging when I read those lines. :-D. That was funny! It was good all the way!
Hope to read more from u.
Take care,
G_I
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| PREMPUJARI |
Posted
on 25-Mar-03 12:19 PM
LOL Logical!!!
Kura ma "dum" cha. haha!!!
Arti budhdhi chai tannai dyaa ho BRO le, but I believe in the notion of "you learn from your mistakes". 2-3 choti "favourite mistakes" garyo, without losing control, ani when you finally learn from your mistakes and you get used to it, ani balla feri "mistake" garyo... kaso???
:D
M confused!!!
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| najar |
Posted
on 25-Mar-03 02:59 PM
Logical Sense jyu le kura saarai logical garnu bho! hehe, good one! :)
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| Paschim |
Posted
on 25-Mar-03 05:31 PM
Timely tips from a logical man of sense and experience!
I think I am already in an "adjust-kar-lenge" mode :)
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| SITARA |
Posted
on 25-Mar-03 06:26 PM
LS ji
Nice writing! :) Encore! Encore!
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| bella |
Posted
on 25-Mar-03 06:39 PM
Logical sense jyu... nice one.......
Mriga Mrigai sanga manu brajanti...
Gavascha gobhis turagas turangai....
murkhascha murkhai, sudhaya sudhivee....
samaana sheela besaneshu pumshaam!!!!!
Matlab:~~~~
Mriga haru mriga sang sangai jaanchan.... gai haru gai sangai jaanchan.. godha ko ghoda sangai.. murkha ko murkha sangai.. bidwaan ko bidwaan sangai ...... pesha/bebashaye, baudik star bamojim samaan lenden huncha !!!!!
Just a thought!!!!!! :)
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| bella |
Posted
on 25-Mar-03 06:50 PM
maathi bhane justai... aafulai jo man parcha/jo sanga milna sakincha, jo sanga kura milcha, beechaar milcha... tei sanga biha garney ni hoina? :p
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| YoUnGblOOdz |
Posted
on 25-Mar-03 09:59 PM
nice piece.. there logical ji...
maan mai chattak gadyo gathe.. khoi afno pani umer bhaicha ki kya ho :P
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| bewakoof |
Posted
on 26-Mar-03 11:14 AM
It was an interesting piece to read but at the same time totally useless. It starts out with nice observations but ends up the same lame advices: don't rush but don't wait too long either, there is give and take, you have to adjust, blah blah blah ........ we all know these canned and useless advices.
So boys and girls and in betweens here is my concrete implementable advice: If you think too much, look too much, try too much you will only build up expectations and get disappointed. So go to Vegas, get drunk off your ass, then marry the first one you find. If this marriage works out, great! If not, it was a Vegas marriage anyway so no big deal.
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| SimpleGal |
Posted
on 03-Apr-03 07:46 AM
Logical Senseji,
I thoroughly enjoyed your column. It grabbed my attention instantly as I browsed through Sajha this morning.
Your points are very "logical," and practical. Indeed, marriage between two individuals is a marriage of two cultures. Is similarity in that regard a necessary prerequisite, though? I was wondering about this since you claim that ultimately, marriage receives its strength and longevity through the open-mindedness of the two people entering into its sanctity. Perhaps "sanctity" is an overly idealistic and moralistic approach to envisioning and more importantly, "living" marriage. As you point out in your highly realistic examples, compromises of a very human nature, rather than doctrinal images of what marriage ought to be, which unnecessarily raise people's expectations and endanger them to various pitfalls, should guide a marriage.
A very satisfying read. Thank you, Logical Sense ji.
In peace.
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| Arnico |
Posted
on 03-Apr-03 08:40 AM
Enjoyed reading the first half of the column. Lots of funny realistic anecdotes.
There is a lot in the second half that I don't agree with. I think the author has too narrow a view of what works and what does not work in a marriage.... perhaps for a bride to join an extended family, cultural similarities in upbringing can get rid of a lot of friction. BUT, when the married couple lives alone navigating a challenging modernizing world of ever changing value systems that their parents did not face... then similarity in cultural upbringing does NOT matter as much. What matters is a commitment by both to stick together and make things work. I think the first half of the column hinted at something more universal: that ultimately, after the "hype" dies down, one's spouse turns out the be just another human... with strengths and weaknesses, traits one loves, and traits one can't stand... and one just has to find ways to work together navigating the challenges of life... something that is possible as long as both have commitment and trust...
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| dangggg |
Posted
on 03-Apr-03 09:18 AM
Where's the column? khoi! I didnt' see the posting with that title.
kaha cha?
mo pani sikum na kasslai biha garne ho bhanera
dangggg
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| SimpleGal |
Posted
on 03-Apr-03 02:43 PM
Arnico ji,
I couldn't agree more! After all, complementarity is pivotal to dynamism. And the latter gives momentum and meaning to marriage.
In peace.
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| Poonte |
Posted
on 03-Apr-03 02:58 PM
Uthyo uthyo uthyo...SimpleGal uthyo...dherai pachhi bihe ko kuro sunne bittikai jaagyo....
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| Arnico |
Posted
on 03-Apr-03 08:10 PM
SimpleGal, nice to see you back!!! Are you coming to the GBNC New Year's party?
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| najar |
Posted
on 03-Apr-03 08:15 PM
Ma ni S-gal lai Hi bhanna aako, narisaunus hai Logical Sense jyu!
S-gal, long time no hear, kataa ho?
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| freak of nature |
Posted
on 05-Apr-03 06:13 AM
superb. base on reality.
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| SimpleGal |
Posted
on 05-Apr-03 08:51 AM
Poonte ji,
You make my day as always. :) Had a good laugh reading your comment. Seriously, hadn't noticed that Bihe ko kura drew me back from my hibernation (hinted at by the words "uthyo" :) )
Arnicoji,
Ke chha haal chaal? Unfortunately, I won't be able to attend the GBNC party. For obvious reasons. Looks like you're back from Ktm. Hope things went well there.
Hi Najar,
Yeah, I have been out for quite some time. Ke garney, life has its weird ways. Take it from the wise one (i.e., Me) hehehe ;)
New Year's Greetings to all!!
In peace.
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| rajunpl |
Posted
on 08-Apr-03 08:49 AM
I wouldn't surprise hearing that in day to day life.It's always easy to suggest in better way and critisize in a felt-like-happen way.The things tke a real views when you are the VICTIM OF THE CIRCUMSTANCE.
Well, MARRIAGE in a western point of views is as sams as we do.After all living the rest of the life bracing each other whether or not seen ever earlier.Like there is no doubt things may/not change in the any given period of time.It is also depend on the character of any individuals.Some clumsy boy stick with lazy girl,some energitic girl stick with puffy old boy.There are some rule-of-attraction which could not apply same to the each human.
For instace, You can find sometime nepali boy living life together with white girl for 12 years.You cannot include the small happenings (ups and down) in the long run life.It is just simple as leaves of the tree touching each other when wind blows or the leafs come to the ground.
Yes,There are something which makes you crazy and that craziness can change your life for ever.You would live the rest of your life regretting with that.What would you do...?? simple is you could say "this is life".But you will think it different when you go further thinking.You cannot simply compare your love/marrige life with PALLA GHAR KA DAMPATTI,THUL DAI RA BHAUJU or the FRIENDS MARRIED LIFE.
I read in novel novelist saying " OH ..!! Why don't i understand that the ugliest man in the earth happens to be marry with the beautiful women and the vice-versa..?"I believe that tyhis is hios point of view that carry the idea of the story.You may think different.
These days in marriage and love HEIGHT/WEALTH/LOOKS/ACTION matters that could go wrong in long term partnership.I believe if it would have been matter in INTEREST/CARING-ATTITUDE/HABIT/TRUSTWORTHY and could certeinly last longer whatsoever and whosoever.
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| Aliciaa |
Posted
on 08-Apr-03 10:20 AM
I agree with what you had to say.
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| yOunGbloodz |
Posted
on 08-Apr-03 12:01 PM
ahem ahem.. alicia.. ko umer bhaye jast cha.. yesto yesto kura haru ma agreee garna lagyo hehehe
YB
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| Aliciaa |
Posted
on 09-Apr-03 08:05 AM
young mero ta euta sanga bihe bhayera ni divorce bhai sakyo.Aba arko bihe ma bolaula ni.
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| PremPujari |
Posted
on 09-Apr-03 08:42 AM
Alicia Phuchhuuu!!
Timile baal-bibaha gareko ho? Considering the fact that you are just 10 years old???
Arko bihe ma malai pani bolau hai, Dollar store bata Daijo kinera lyaaidinchu!!!
ehh.. Or would you prefer 'Salvation Army'??
Are you done with your 'Online Chat Quiz' yet? sodhyaa ni Phuchchi!!! :D
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| Aliciaa |
Posted
on 09-Apr-03 09:52 AM
pujari ji mero server nai ban bhayeko cha.I don't know why. tara anyways , my 11th birthday will be coming in near future so you better wrap up some gifts for me.CHat Quiz tyo chai atti nai bho ( may be I am not that addicted as you are 24/7). my server is banned.you know what the last answer that you guys told me was wrong.hehe.bal biha is legal nowadays no matter what
anyways
thanks
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| PremPujari |
Posted
on 09-Apr-03 10:06 AM
Bal bibaha is legal re??? Since when??
BTW, I didn't answer to your chat quiz hai... that wasn't me. So don't blame me if it was wrong. Thikka paryo!! phuchchi lai!!
So, how old are you turning in your 11th b'day?? just curious ke. Should i buy a clothes for toddlers, ki alikati thulo kinum bhanera ni!!
:D
phuchchhiiii, chuchchiii!! BTW, Server banned re, and yet you are always there...!! Kasari ni??? (thikka paryo :P)
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| Aliciaa |
Posted
on 09-Apr-03 10:23 AM
mahile ke bhaneko bujhnu bho lata. I am just banned from one uni not both. I am turning 11 still I bame saring. I made "A" so no point of you saying khcukjhinggggggs. DO you have any idea how to be unbanned. this chat addiction is making me sick. anyways thanks for treating me like a child.Don't try to pull my legs every now and then.keep it up.my goodness.jeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeez
lol@you
take care
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| PremPujari |
Posted
on 09-Apr-03 10:38 AM
Phuchchhi!!
Come again!!
Bujhina!!! :(
Congratulation on getting "A" on chatting. Way to go Aliciaa phuchchi!!!
(when did I say KHUCHHHING??? I just said THIKKA PARYO)
What did you do to get banned?? Halla garyo hola chatroom ma!! Ask Neo ni, P'ly he can remove the ban!! :D
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| Aliciaa |
Posted
on 09-Apr-03 11:43 AM
pujari baje tapaiko path puja kasto chaldai cha ta.tyo brodle le mero server ban gardiyo.malai tha thiyo. I did nothing wrong. anyways it's not a big deal I can chat from other places.tara still I am trying to manage my anger( anger management).ya I am planning to get degree on chatology from chat univeristy of texas.still three more years to go.hhehe
take care
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| Bhinaju |
Posted
on 15-Apr-03 05:30 AM
Bihe garne kurama manual banauna khojne murkhata nagara keta ho.
Mero bihema yasto bhayo ki maile jindagima nasocheko anubhab bhayo.
Lamile bhanyo hajoorlai lyaidinu lyaidinu bhaneko chha pohorai dekhi ho. Didiko paladekhi nai ho bhanyo.
Ma gaye.
Ktko Gharma pugiyo. "Ahile bahini chahi Nadine re. Tara ketoko boli matrai bhayepani sunera chitta bujhaunchhu." Bhanin re hune wala sasule.
Mathi gaiyo baithak kothama. Kura gardai janda Hunewala sasule bhanin "Thuli chhorile pani Bahini ta dini haina eng. lai, malai ta dukha bhayo bhayo uslai nahos, bhaneki chhin. Hami ta dinnam. Khoi kahako Dr, ketole pani mageko chha diiyena... ..."
Ma ta akka na bakka.
Maile manmanai soche "Haina Dr. Engineerlai nadine re, tyaski chhori. Kati padheki rahichha ta ni? Kaslai dine rahichha? Khalasilai?"
"Lamile bhanyo Inter ta sakiyeko hunuparne."
Baulai sodhem.
"Kati ho padhai, Naniko?"
"Khai hajoor Nurse ho ki Commerce malai ta thaha chhaina."
...
Pachhi bujhda IA mai back lagera ladeki rahichhan.
J hos malai hunewala sasule chhori diinan. Hami farkiyo.
... ... ...
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| Bhinaju |
Posted
on 15-Apr-03 05:30 AM
Bihe garne kurama manual banauna khojne murkhata nagara keta ho.
Mero bihema yasto bhayo ki maile jindagima nasocheko anubhab bhayo.
Lamile bhanyo hajoorlai lyaidinu lyaidinu bhaneko chha pohorai dekhi ho. Didiko paladekhi nai ho bhanyo.
Ma gaye.
Ktko Gharma pugiyo. "Ahile bahini chahi Nadine re. Tara ketoko boli matrai bhayepani sunera chitta bujhaunchhu." Bhanin re hune wala sasule.
Mathi gaiyo baithak kothama. Kura gardai janda Hunewala sasule bhanin "Thuli chhorile pani Bahini ta dini haina eng. lai, malai ta dukha bhayo bhayo uslai nahos, bhaneki chhin. Hami ta dinnam. Khoi kahako Dr, ketole pani mageko chha diiyena... ..."
Ma ta akka na bakka.
Maile manmanai soche "Haina Dr. Engineerlai nadine re, tyaski chhori. Kati padheki rahichha ta ni? Kaslai dine rahichha? Khalasilai?"
"Lamile bhanyo Inter ta sakiyeko hunuparne."
Baulai sodhem.
"Kati ho padhai, Naniko?"
"Khai hajoor Nurse ho ki Commerce malai ta thaha chhaina."
...
Pachhi bujhda IA mai back lagera ladeki rahichhan.
J hos malai hunewala sasule chhori diinan. Hami farkiyo.
... ... ...
Tara lekheko tardaina kyare mero bihe tyahi kt sita bhayo.
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| Bhinaju |
Posted
on 15-Apr-03 05:38 AM
Lekheko tardaina tara mero bihe tyahi ktsita bhayo.
Kina bhayo? Malai pani thaha chhaina. Maile kasaiko badhyatale gareko pani haina.
Lagan ayeko thiyo hola ni.
Tyasaile lagan ayepachhi bihe hunchha timra manualharu advice haruko kamai chhaina.
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