I couldn't believe what I read about her. How could such
ever smiling bubbly loving person committee suicide? Her life story is
similar to movies beside that "happily ever after marriage" didn't
come to her at all.
After marriage, Nisha was completely transformed. No one,
not even her close friends, and family knew her transformation was due
to extreme mental and physical harassment by none other that her own
husband. Most shocking was that she never expressed it and chose to
become victim of harassment till her death.
Nimesh, her husband, was too suspicious and possessive
about everything. He chose the dress she wore, the friends-circle, and
activity she was supposed to do. He controlled all her life. For
love's sake she did every possible thing to impress and make him
happy. She lived her life in his philosophy and limitation imposed by
him. In fear of loosing him she sacrificed everything, peace,
desperately wanted possessions and ultimately herself.
He blamed her for every wrong thing that happened in their
life. She forgave him with a hope that he would improve. But that
never happened. Sometimes he apologized for his actions. However, next
day he repeated act the same. He wanted undivided attention so never
let her be friendly with others. Few people who knew about their
relation only suggested adjusting and compromising calling it as her
fate.
I wish something had been done to stop the ill-fate to
materialize. However, it's not only the case of one Nisha. The most
tragic part is that still countless women through out the world are
leading terrible life like Nisha's. Yet no serious actions have been
taken against it. Women are victimized of domestic violence, marital
rape and abuses of some kind or the other. Society shows sympathetic
towards victims in most cases but they hardly provide the support or
lead them towards the right path towards boldness and independence. On
the contrary, women are discouraged to come out and fight for their
rights.
Seminars, discussions on the issue take place every other day in the
five-star hotels with millions of rupees manipulated. However, the
level, reality and the number of domestic violence is increasing day
by day. Why only women are expected to adapt and compromise? How long
are women going to misunderstand the control over life to be care and
accept the discrimination in name of fate or misfortune? Women suffer
more because they lack power, are dependent completely, vulnerable and
are in an insecure position. Society expect them to suffer in silence,
her voice is suppressed inside the four walls of the house. Thus, we
need to educate, empower and give equity rights to women and make them
independent emotionally, physically, and economically. It's essential
that every woman becomes conscious of her rights not be victims of
ruthless life in the future. Isn't it high time we silence the
violence?
